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writes:i met this guy at a party a week ago and we just clicked and hes so kind and nice and appeciates me for me but in november hes going in to the army and so i dont know what to do because i want to get to know him but im worried that if i get to know him more it will be even worse when he goes and i dont want him to know me better if hes leaving so should i just stop it now or go on and risk getting 2 know him and liking him more if something happens?? please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (25 October 2007):
 You're too young to become involved with anyone seriously, much less someone who is not going to be there to have a relationship with you. You can remain friends with this guy, but I wouldn't get too close at this point. Consider him to be just a good friend. Write him letters while he's away if you want. Military people get so homesick for family and friends when they are away. Just keep your letters light-hearted and not overly romantic or flirtations. In the meantime, focus on school and having a normal social life. See other boys and don't allow yourself to become entangled with anyone until you are much older. A few years down the road, when he's completed his term with the military, and you're done with college, who knows, you may still hook up and have a wonderful relationship. But for now, just enjoy being young and un-attached. There will be plenty of time for that later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): I was in a relationship for 3 years when I left for the army and the time away from eachother tore my relationship apart. If he's leaving soon and you just met then leave it alone because you'll only find heartache in the end. Being married and having a strong relationship is one thing but getting involved with someone new just for you to sit around and wait for them to return is just going to hurt you. Feelings can change when you leave for the military and you meet alot of new people. I'm sorry if you fell for him so quick but don't set yourself up to fail. I see your young so you have all the time in the world to find that special person.
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