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writes:ok im 18 and ive been seeing this boy named ronnie for 7 months may11th to november 11th and i thought he was the one and him and his siter and her 4 kids live with his ex and i trust him so it wasent a big deal it woulod have been way better then them staying in a shelter right so my grandma was in the hospital around november 12th so his ex called me and we started talking and he snatched the phone from her and she kept screaming when are you going to tell her ronie just tell her and i asked him what was the women talking about so he finally told me he cheated with her and i asked him did he use protection and he said yes so about a week later she calls me and tells me shes pregnet and i told her there has to be a mistake because he said he used a condom so i asked him about it and he admitted he dident use one i just had a fraking brake down i wake up everymorning just in tears he was blowing my phone up like 20 times every hour and then we finally talked and i for gave him and i got another phone call from his ex telling me he she just found out about two other girls hes been sleeping with now im pregnet with his baby i dont know what to do please i need advice on this big time!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): Do not get back together with this slime ball. If you decide to keep the baby then he has a right to see the child but that's it. This guy is scum.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (28 November 2010):
 You should have left him the first time you found out he cheated. For you to take him back, you are telling him that you love him so much and you will put up with anything. Sometimes when we are in a relationship our head is clouded with what is right from wrong. You're boyfriend is a cheater and always will be. He's not a good guy. If you stay with this guy expect many lonely nights alone caring for your baby while he goes behind you back and sleeps with other women. He is very selfish, you cannot and will not change him.
What you need to do is forget about him and focus on yourself and the baby. If you choose to keep the baby, you are tied to your boyfriend for life so he has every right to see the child. You just have to make sure that he has no relationship with you. If you choose an alternate route for your baby, whether it's adoption or abortion. You just have to make sure it's the right decision for you and live with it. We cannot tell you what to do with your body, that is your decision to make. However, you have to look at how you want your life to turn out. Look at your future, your values, morals, standards and expectations you have for a man. Then make the right decisons to get there.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Leave him and stop contacting him. No good can come from anything with this man. What you choose to do with this child, I do wish you the best of luck. If you are financially stable, if you are confident about this, you can still take care of the baby, otherwise, if you are absolutely sure that you are not ready, I suggest you consider giving the baby up for adoption.
Whatever you do, remove this man from your life completely. If you need to, seek help from your friends or family. If you feel comfortable with it, you can maintain a good friendship with his ex because you are both going through similar things and you can be there to comfort each other, after all, you were betrayed and affected by the same person for the same reasons. It is just an idea.
I hope that helps.
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