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How can I get over my Christmas grief??
Q. Hiya, I'll understand when you read this is you just tell me to grow up and get over it but i really need some help. Around November my dog that i'd had since i was 6 got quite ill and we didn't know what was wrong with her and in December she wen...
A. 22 December 2007: i completely understand wat your goin through hun, this only happened a year ago and losing pets can sometimes have a heavier impact on the owner than other bereavements. but dont worry, as time goes on things will get easier for you. just remember ... (read in full...)
I cheated and everytime we are apart I think about how horrible I have been to him.
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend when we first started going out 9 months ago. I told him though and he's forgiven me. Everythings perfect and i couldnt ask for anything more. But i often get upset and wonder why he's still going out with me. He assures me ...
A. 22 December 2007: i think he's right, he's moved on and still loves you and you should respect and cherish that. dont dwell on the past - he doesnt, and thats wat matters. dont let the guilt eat away at you as it may jeopardise wat you still have. its healthy to ... (read in full...)
When I have sex with a man will I not enjoy it?
Q. Loads of my mates talk about masturbation and I tried it but it is really painful and uncomfortable when I fingered myself, is this odd and does this mean that when I have sex (with a man!) will I not enjoy it?...
A. 25 November 2007: hey hun, you were obviously not in the mood should we say!! the other thing is were you very dry? the thing about masturbation is that you really just need to practice and explore, finding out wat you like etc. but if you are not fully comfortable ... (read in full...)
Suggestions on stimulating your partner's breasts?
Q. What are some fun things I can do with my woman's breasts? They are beautiful. What kind of touching and kissing would she like? Any advice for giving her a pear neckless? Thanks...
A. 25 November 2007: i presume you mean pearl necklace, which in my opinion is horrible. but then thats just me and she might like that. ask her wat she thinks but be prepared for the horror reaction you might get, cos this is seriously gross!! if you like her breasts ... (read in full...)
I want to mess with both of these players...
Q. Ok so things are really messed up right now and these two guys(ones an ex and the other is kind of a friends with benefits but not exactly) are trying to see which one i will fall for..the sad thing is my ex has a gf and the other guy is such a ...
A. 25 November 2007: if you do 'punish' either of them, you will be just lowering yourself to their level. stay away from them, make them see that they are not all they think they are! dont acknowledge them at all and they will see that they cant have any girl they ... (read in full...)
In love with my soon to be husband, but can't push away the feelings of lust for other men...
Q. normally i am the one giving the advice but the tables have turned. i love my man and we are getting married next year and i cant wait but i am lusting after other men. i have 2 really close friends who have said that they love me and if anything ...
A. 28 September 2007: I dont think that you should get married any time soon as it just wouldnt be fair to either of you. if you can bring yourself to actually sleep with another man then i would definitely define your 'love' for this man, as i dont think that you could ... (read in full...)
Can you check for STD's with a simple blood test?
Q. my girlfriend has had a past relationship and is wondering.. can you check for STI's with a simple blood test? thank you...
A. 27 September 2007: is this for your girlfriend or for yourself? my advice is that both of you go for a proper chack up i.e her take a smear test and yourself the male equivalent. for women, they are not at all painful but a little incomfortable, but they test for all ... (read in full...)
I started feeling weak, I was trembling, my legs felt like jelly, my head feeling really heavy and I felt as though I was going to faint...
Q. Hi There! I don't know quite how to explain this! But within the last hour, for at least 10 minutes I started feeling weak; I was trembling, my legs felt like jelly, my head feeling really heavy and I felt as though I was going to faint! I'm stil...
A. 27 September 2007: hey sweetheart like i said email me and id be happy to help you and give you advice on how to stay healthy, eat properly AND not make yourself ill. you just need a bit of friendly advice and ill be more than happy to talk to ya hun, talk soon?! xx... (read in full...)
He prefers to watch other couples on cam than be with me!
Q. hi please help my boyfriend of 19 years would rather watch a pretty couple make love on cam on the internet site he has joined (couples show on cam everything from blow jobs to full on sex) he hasnt touched me for 2 weeks yet he gets excited to ...
A. 27 September 2007: you need to break up with this guy and realise that this is not how anyone should be treated! i didnt realise that he was actually interacting with these women - this is in my mind a form of cheating and it must make you feel awful. i really do ... (read in full...)
My bf says he wants to rekindle our relationship, but only wants to see me twice a week!
Q. after dating someone steady for almost 3 years, breaking up two times, can this relationship be rekindled? once a relationship has gotten very intimate can you really start over like it was when you first started dating the person? my bf says that ...
A. 26 September 2007: he is either in or out. why does he want to see you only 2 times a week? are you sure he is not just looking for the sex from you? think about this and ask him why he wants it this way. personally i dont think this is fair to you and you deserve to ... (read in full...)
Do you think what I did was cheating?
Q. I have been married for 14 years and a year ago my best friend and I had too much to drink and we kissed for less then 2 minutes(female). I told my husband yesterday and he said I cheated so it's over. Do you think that is cheating?...
A. 26 September 2007: to be honest ive dont the same thing and my bf thinks nothing of it - kissing your girl friends for the laugh is fine - but he may see it as cheating as it was just the 2 of you and you did it behind his back. talk to him and tell him you were just ... (read in full...)
I started feeling weak, I was trembling, my legs felt like jelly, my head feeling really heavy and I felt as though I was going to faint...
Q. Hi There! I don't know quite how to explain this! But within the last hour, for at least 10 minutes I started feeling weak; I was trembling, my legs felt like jelly, my head feeling really heavy and I felt as though I was going to faint! I'm stil...
A. 26 September 2007: honey you are only 15 and already starting down a rocky road. a size 10 is a beautiful size to be at 15 and its unhealthy to be overly concious about your figure. just remember that eating 3 meals a day is wat you need and instead of sugary snacks ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between an older man and my fiance, what do I do?
Q. ive been with my fiance for 5 years but over the last few months ive been seeing a man that is 11 years older than me, he is single but im falling for him or should i say i already have and i dont know what to do. i dont wanna hurt any one but...
A. 26 September 2007: your heart is aching? what about you fiancee who obviously loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you? its very selfish for you to be treating someone like this. relationships are based on trust, loyalty, honesty and love - all of ... (read in full...)
He prefers to watch other couples on cam than be with me!
Q. hi please help my boyfriend of 19 years would rather watch a pretty couple make love on cam on the internet site he has joined (couples show on cam everything from blow jobs to full on sex) he hasnt touched me for 2 weeks yet he gets excited to ...
A. 26 September 2007: i think that you should sit down and discuss how you feel about this whole situation. fair enough if you 2 are still having a sex life but if he hasnt touched you in this long then i do think there may be something going on. tell him that it is ... (read in full...)
I'm 40 something, can I successfully date two men?
Q. Is it possible for a forty something year old women to successfully date two different men?...
A. 26 September 2007: it is if you have not made either of these relationships exclusive. if you have then no its not ok. in a situation like this one person is always going to get hurt and it could be you so you need to think about wat you want and try not to string ... (read in full...)
Do I marry my fiance or go off with my lover?
Q. I'm a 46-year-old Mother of 8 (3 by my first husband, 5 by my current partner) and I've had many affairs. Most of which my partner has known about. But now I've started a relationship with a man who myself and my Fiance both work with. All of the ...
A. 26 September 2007: you said yourself that you have had many affairs yet you are in love with this man? if you were in love with him you wouldnt even think of having a relationship with another man. i dont mean to sound offensive but wat you have done and wat you are ... (read in full...)
My husband is addicted to porn.
Q. I find that my husband watches porn every day even though he knows I don't like it. It makes me jealous because I now feel that he is looking for someone with bigger tits and better looking. It hurts my feelings but he says I am just a crazy ...
A. 24 September 2007: This seems to be a problem that many people have. While it may seem like he is looking for something better he is not. Many men like watching porn - not for the women but just for the sex, the hard core sex. Alot of them dont actually find the women ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to keep it smooth.
Q. Hey, im thinking about shaving my pubic hair for the first time i have sex with my long term boyfriend... the thing is, i dont want its to go all prickly n cause a rash on us, so can anyone tell me the best methods to keep 'smooth' thanks in...
A. 24 September 2007: i wouldnt advise shaving as this can cause a rash and itchiness which makes the skin worse. You also may have sensitive skin which reacts differently to shaving and cream. I would advise you to go to a good, recommended salon with an experienced ... (read in full...)
More information about bj.
Q. How do you give a blowjob? People say "suck me off" but then it's called a "blow job". What excatly do you do!? Suck or blow? And do most people use a condom when giving one? Does this turn a guy off? Does it taste bad doing it without a con...
A. 22 September 2007: well first of all do check that the guy is safe,as it is better if you dont use a condom. you dont blow at all you suck, and dont use your teeth!!!dont stress about putting the whole penis in your mouth as this can be uncomfortable.the balls are ... (read in full...)
What are the first steps to an abortion, once you discover pregnancy?
Q. I was just wondering if anyone could help me, once you find out you are pregnant, what are the first steps to getting an abortion? Do you HAVE to go via a GP in the UK? Also, do you have to persuade the doctor to let you have the termination or do ...
A. 22 September 2007: first of all i would talk to someone ie family, and not make this decision alone.are you sure this is wat you want?this is a very hard decision to make and you need help with something like this.i would advise you to visit your GP as abortions can ... (read in full...)
I want to apologize but I feel like he owes me one as well...
Q. i accidently insulted the guy i'm crushing on about his looks. i was only joking around and i didnt think it was really hurtful. but apparently he did. he now acts coldly toward me and even told a friend of mine that i joke around a lot but someti...
A. 22 September 2007: well first of all you need to realise that you have just known this guy for about a week so you dont know him fully and you arent really at the stage to joke about things like that yet. he could be insecure about his looks and really take it to ... (read in full...)
My brother had an operation that left him disfigured. What can I do/say to help him?
Q. My brother had an operation on his nose to remove a small tumour from one side. It has left him disfigured. In order to patch up the hole the Surgeon not only took a bit of skin from his ear, but stretched the skin over from the other side of the ...
A. 22 September 2007: well first of all,not everybody that he comes across is going to react or 'gross out'.if your brother keeps bringing up the fact that he has this disfigurement and constantly comments about it,he is going to bring himself down even more and remind ... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling guilty for cheating on my girlfriend?
Q. I have cheated on my girlfriend after 3years of being together, i kissed another girl. Can anyone help me get rid of the guilt that continuosly pesters me every second and every hour. Im struggling to forgive myself and it is affecting my ...
A. 12 September 2007: i agree with brooke,if there is no chance of her finding out then dont tell her.at least you only kissed the girl not slept with her,and you are feeling regret and guilt which means you know you made a mistake and you wouldnt do it again.because of ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps contacting me and blaming me for our breakup
Q. I split with my girlfriend 4 months ago. I'm 36, she's 40. I still have strong feelings for her and during these 4 moths I have not contacted her once. Although she wants to believe the decision was mutual, it was more her doing. She wanted to ...
A. 12 September 2007: i think you're right to cut all contact with her,otherwise she is only going to hold you back from getting on with your life. it sounds to me like this woman is very immature and needs to take a long hard look at how she handles her life. if you are ... (read in full...)
I stopped at my uncles and erased some stuff off his pc. Do you think he is still mad at me?
Q. I recently went to an all expense paid vacation at my uncle's. He paid for the airplane ticket, and everything. It was a great vacation and I was very happy. The most important thing is that this was his idea. He wanted to do this to help me because ...
A. 31 August 2007: fair enough if he is still mad at you,some things kept on a pc can be important or personal and can not be gotten back. i dont think you should email him again i think that you should call him and try to resolve the situation apologising for the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he was a virgin, But he's not! Its really upset me that he's been with someone before me. Is this normal?
Q. *sigh* I've just found out that my BF, who I thought was a virgin, isn't a virgin at all. Turns out that one time when he was drunk, he had sex with a girl he didn't, and still doesn't, know. He can't remember it, but TWO different people...
A. 31 August 2007: its understandable that you are hating the fact that he has slept with someone,but you need to see that everyone has a first time and many times it doesnt mean anything.i totally understand where he is coming from saying that he wants to experience ... (read in full...)
A girl I like said I was 'nice' What does 'nice' actually mean?
Q. There is this girl that i have met, she is very pretty and has a great personallity. After a couple days of knowing her i asked her what she thought of me, and all she could say was that i was "nice". my question is what does she mean by "nice"?...
A. 31 August 2007: dont worry its not code for anything bad!this girl has only known you for a few days and she may be shy and just want to get to know you more.are you looking to take things further?if so then give it a little time - get to know her more as a friend ... (read in full...)
Things started to go bad after he found out I was working as a prostitute...
Q. Hi.. I was in a relationship with this guy for 2 years and we were also engaged....He found out that i was working as a prostitute and he was so angry and after some time he said he forgave me..Everything seemed like it was fine and we even went awa...
A. 31 August 2007: are you still working as a prostitute? the thing is that unless you stop this lifestyle,he will never feel comfortable knowing that you are sleeping with other men,this would make him feel insecure and jealous.this could be the reason why he is ... (read in full...)
We've been together a year and I'm too shy to talk about sex, any tips ?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for over a year, our relationship is great but when we talk about our sex life i get shy. this is a bit of a problem because i would like us to try sumthing different altho i dont know what. can anyone help me? ...
A. 27 July 2007: ok well the thing is you have been together for a year and you should be completely comfortably with him. sex is sex and everyone has it so dont feel shy to talk about it - you will both appreciate it and it will make your sex life so much better. ... (read in full...)
Im falling for my best friend, but feel I'm too young for these feeling, what should I do ?
Q. I'm Falling For My Bestfriend and i know she has fellings for me....Last friday we had a pillow fight (like normal) she was dead hyper and so was i she kept pushing me on top of her...I felt strange and she keeps telling me she loves me...I think im ...
A. 27 July 2007: hey chicken dont worry about it!! its a crush - boy or girl its normal! have you thought about any other girls in the same way or do you find your just attracted to her? if you like her then go for it! you think she likes you back and thats great! ... (read in full...)
Whats supposed to happen and how will it feel when I orgasm ?
Q. Helloo.. well this is a bit of an embarrassing question. Ive been seeing my boyfriend for a couple of months now and we have recently started sleeping together. I can make him "come" but I dont seem to myself..this is the embarrassing bit i dont ...
A. 27 July 2007: its completely normal that you havent come from him - it takes alot to make women orgasm from intercourse and some women never do! so dont worry, you have only started sleeping together. why not try and do it yourself? this will help you learn about ... (read in full...)
She believed I was having an affair and we split.. I am devastated! Any advice?
Q. We were together and in love for 5 years and had decided to get married. We arranged everything including the airline tickets for her family to fly in from Brazil. However in the last year of our relationship she gradually became more suspicious of ...
A. 27 July 2007: i think that wat she has done is awful and completely out of line! to be honest maybe this woman was having doubts and convinced herself that you were having an affair to get out of it easy you know? i think that you should call over to her and ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how I can be better at sex on top!!?
Q. The guy am with and I enjoy sex and we try a lot of different things and it is really good, but he wants me to be on top. I have no problem with this and I have tried, but I am doing something wrong. I feel like I don't have good rhythm, and he k...
A. 27 July 2007: have you tried leaning back and putting you hands on his legs behind you? this usually increases penetration and he will stay in easier. another thing is wen u are on top dont go up and down try moving your hips and pelvis around and sliding up and ... (read in full...)
I cheated once years ago, but I am afraid my ex mother in law will tell him now
Q. i have been with my partner for 5 years i have a 4 year old daughter with him. i love him to bits but 2 years ago i cheated on him with my ex husband. my ex mother in law knows this. last week we fell out. i am scared that she will tell my partner ...
A. 26 July 2007: i think that you need to be honest with him and tell him yourself - if he is going to find out its best he finds out from you. if your mother in law tells him it will no doubt look and sound worse than it was. i know you are scared to tell him but ... (read in full...)
I am 25 and really scared of sex due to a painful past
Q. Im 25 and i am really scared of sex, i was abused when i was a teenager by a family member and physically and mentally abused by an ex boyfriend. it has always affected my relationships with men past and presant. I ve recently meet a lovely guy and ...
A. 26 July 2007: firstly im sorry about wat has happened to you - no one deserves that and i admire you for being so brave. i dont think that you should break up with this new guy because of wat has happened to you. first of all i think that you should tell this guy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going out with my best friend as revenge on me
Q. i have found out that my boyfriend is going out with my best friend and they have now two weeks.i asked him why. he said he want to revenge because i once go out with his best friend first but he was the first one to ask me out. i realize it later ...
A. 26 July 2007: wat he is doing to her and to you is very cruel and immature. you need to tell him this as she also needs to know - she may be falling for him not knowing that her relationship with him is practiaclly a sham. talk to him and tell him that you were ... (read in full...)
I am getting such mixed signals! Does he like me or not?
Q. Hi all I am a in a true predicament, I am a lawyer and about a year ago i met this guy who was a client of mine, after his legal matters were sorted, we became really close telling each other our secrets etc. WE SPOKE EVERYDAY THEN ALL OF A SU...
A. 26 July 2007: first of all while i see why you told him about an engagement rather then the truth i dont think it was the best thing to do! i think you need to come clean with him and explain why you told him that - that you were feeling embarrassed and a bit ... (read in full...)
All my friends make fun of me for being a virgin!
Q. i have just turned sixteen in june. all my friends are a few months older than me but all lost their virginity when they just turned 15. so i have now turned into their virgin friend. when were are all out together and the subject of sex turns into ...
A. 26 July 2007: first of all your friends are NOT better than you!!you cant get up to their level because they are not above you - they are below you.i think it is very admirable to know that you are not ready to sleep with guys and have respect for yourself. dont ... (read in full...)
I really like my older cousin and dont know what to do!
Q. i have a crush on my 2nd cousin. he is 20 and i am 13. the problem is i really try to forget about him, but i'm constantly thinking about him. and even when i have a crush on other guys i still think about him. it's driving me mad , but on the oth...
A. 26 July 2007: i think that you may be just confused as to wat you are feeling - you are 13 and just coming into being sexually attracted to others. this can sometimes result in attraction towards same sex or relatives. he is your cousin and it would be wrong for ... (read in full...)
I have no idea how to give my boyfriend oral, please help!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 6 months now and we're talking about doing more not as far as sex yet but he does want me to give him a blow job. im fine with that i totally love him and trust him so i'm fine with it...im just ...
A. 25 July 2007: hey id love to help you out but honestly i dont think its appropriate here!!email me and ill try and give you come pointers!xxx... (read in full...)
Why are so many children having sex?
Q. Hi. This is a general question, rather than help really, and for all the young people to think about perhaps. Ok, here it is..... Why are so many very young people having sex under 16 years old? For a start the legal age for it is no...
A. 24 July 2007: i know exactly wat your talking about - it is so worrying! im 21 and had my first wen i was 18 and regret even having it then! the thing is that the pressure these days is unreal! and especially for girls sex is basically all over these days and it ... (read in full...)
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