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The other guy wants me to choose. What should I do?
Q. I have been dating a guy (Guy A) for about 8 months and I do think I love him. About 4 months ago I met someone else (Guy B). He is very good to me and I do enjoy spending time with him but feel guilty doing so. Guy A says he is not in a "hurry" ...
A. 30 January 2008: have you heard of monogomy?? why did you even get involved with guy b if you were happy and in love with guy a?? in my book that constitutes as cheating. you may have to end up with guy b because after guy a finds out wat you have been doing to him ... (read in full...)
We split up, but she says she still loves me, is there any point in being hopeful we could get back ?
Q. Recently, my ex and I called it quits. She decided that after 2 1/2 years of dating that she needed time to herself and that over the past 6 years she's only had a few months of time where she wasn't dating. However, she says she stills loves me ...
A. 30 January 2008: ok so she is sending you very mixed signals, and before you get false hope - or give up, you need to get her to set the record straight with you. talk to her and explain to her that some of her comments have confused you and led you to think that ... (read in full...)
I told her that the morning after pill is abortion, she hates me now, what should I do?
Q. Dear friends, I have been crying for a day now because of my best friend. I have known her for over 9 years now, and we've helped eachother so much. I moved in with her and her son from another state and lived with her for about 5 months and then...
A. 30 January 2008: well while i see how she took you out of your comfort zone, i also see why she would be upset. the wording that you used to say no to her were not the best, and she probably felt quite judged and condoned by you. while they may be your beliefs, they ... (read in full...)
I feel bullied in my relationship.I want to leave, but I love him.
Q. For the past two years, I have fell head over heels for a man that just seems to not have the same emotional function as i do. Lately I have felt the pain and agony, of what it is really like, to have someone who you really care about just shove ...
A. 30 January 2008: well i think that you are very young - too young to be going through something as heavy as this. as far as i can see you are not being treated right, and he is taking advantage of the fact that you love him and take his bullying. the only way to get ... (read in full...)
What is a good diet to loose weight?
Q. Hey My Boyfriend And I Have An 'Intimate' Relationship... However I Feel Self Consious About My Tummy. I Am Not OverWeight Like Loads But I Am Not A Szie 6 Either :( I Have Been Thinking About Going On A Diet Of Rice Crackers (( You Know The...
A. 30 January 2008: well the best thing to do is eat everything in moderation. have a healthy brekkie ie special k, home made smoothie, something like a salad for lunch and whatever for dinner. if you fry alot of your food, try grilling or poaching it instead. also, ... (read in full...)
My friend grassed me up to my boyfriend. Do I become mates with him again?
Q. rite this is complicated ..... very complicated. where do i start - well ive lived next door to this lad 4 about 12 yrs and he was best mates with my brother, when my brother went to university me n him became very close n he was my bestest friend ...
A. 30 January 2008: well first of all if you miss him and feel that you are ready to let him back into your life, then maybe you should try and get together and talk to him, see why he did it, see how he feels about you etc. many ppl have been betrayed in one way or ... (read in full...)
I am jealous of my boyfriends best friend that happens to be a female. Am I overreacting?
Q. I think i'm starting to get jealous of my boyfriends bestfriend. We are in a long distance relationship and have been together for almost 2 years. He has known his friend, which is a girl, for a long time he says and I get sad because they go to ...
A. 30 January 2008: i can see where you are coming from as a long distance girlfriend, but the thing you need to remind yourself is that if they were ever gonna get together dont you think they would have done it already?! there are best friends, and as much as ppl ... (read in full...)
My teacher said he wouldn't say no?
Q. Well there are loads of questions about teachers n students but hey here goes! Well on friday nyt just gone i was out with my best friend and we was in this pub and all the teachers were out drunk! There was this one that i really liked and he wa...
A. 28 January 2008: well i agree with the other answer. you say your in uni?? things are different in college, things are more casual and not as restricted by regulations as school. so as long as your 18 and he's not your teacher then i say go for it!! i would have ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's past involved threesomes, 2x rape, or was this just 2 big mistakes? What am I to believe?
Q. Hello there!! I have this little problem with my girlfriend. Only recently after her many lies she told me that she had two times on two different ocassions sex with 2 guys. But it gets much more complicated than this. The first time it happened...
A. 28 January 2008: wow thats a really tough situation for you to be in. yes she was silly to fall for it twice - fool me once...etc etc etc. however, if you love her, and want to be with her, then maybe you should believe her and let her know that you are there to ... (read in full...)
How do I get over the stupid things I did when I was depressed?
Q. A year ago I sunk into depression and had to take 6 months off college to recover. I'm sure other people who have suffered from depression would be able to relate when I say 'I wasn't myself'. During this time I did some incredibly stupid things, ...
A. 28 January 2008: well first of all, at least you have matured by this and you regret it and know it was wrong. second of all, not letting anyone else know about it like a counsellor may prove to be a bit of a bad decision. i know you may thing that they will judge ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and worried..that I may be having a miscarriage! Help!
Q. I'm just over 8 weeks pregnant. I've had alot of dischargey stuff since finding out I'm pregnant and read alot of women do. But today I noticed it's going a beige colour and I don't think this is normal and it's starting to worry me, could I be h...
A. 28 January 2008: well as far as i know a miscarriage results in blood spots and pain. but thats as far as i know, my advice is to go and get thoroughly checked out by your gp, just incase you have some sort of infection or anything, and it will put you at ease too ... (read in full...)
Meeting my partner's parents.
Q. If I guy tells a girl who hasn't met his parents that the parents said "Don't bring a random girl home, to bring home someone then break up with them after a week is something we dont want. Bring someone long-term". He told me I wasn't a random ...
A. 25 January 2008: he is letting you know that you are not a random girl and he sees you as someone he would like to take home to his parents, and that he also sees wat you have as a serious relationship. he feels comfortable enough to want to take you home to meet ... (read in full...)
She does not want me to be a reason of her break up but we have slept together behind her boyfriend's back. What next? I love her...
Q. I have fallen in love with a girl I've known for a year now the problem is she has a boyfriend almost the same amount of time. we have discussed the issue and her excuse is she doesnt want me to be the reason they break up but we have slept ...
A. 25 January 2008: well the fact that she is spending her time and sleeping with someone who is not her boyfriend is an obvious problem sign in their relationship. however, loads of ppl do go through this, they are attracted to 2 ppl, each offering different ... (read in full...)
I want him to love me more! So much so that he's be scared to leave me...
Q. i want to make my boyfriend love me so much so that he gets scared to leave me, but i dont know how....
A. 22 January 2008: i think you should think about wat your asking here. the question you are posing is not healthy, you cant make someone love you, let alone like that. if he loves you he loves you, should that not be enough? it seems as if you are very insecure and ... (read in full...)
Baby's names! who gets the last word?
Q. A while ago, I wrote in about wanting to be preggie all the time, even though a baby is still out of the question for some particular reasons which I will not discuss at this time because, well, they're irrelevant to the question, and the question ...
A. 21 January 2008: well anyone that is ready to have a baby would not be writing in with these hypothetical problems, and two ppl in a mature relationship would be able to come to a compromise with this issue. your obviously nowhere near ready so i would stop worrying ... (read in full...)
Advice on sex in hot tub please!
Q. Hiya abit of an awkward question but me and my wife are going to my sisters soon and she has a hottub thats normally outdorrs but it can be brought indoors which is what they have done in the winter. They have onverted one of the garages into a room ...
A. 20 January 2008: its safe ad everything but think of the other ppl!! the more things will be climbing into a pool of your cum and other fluids!! id advise against it...buy your own tub... (read in full...)
What to wear for VERY posh dinner??
Q. My boyfriend is taking me to a very expensive hotel in a couple of weeks. I know it's costing in excess of £200 a night, so my reason for panic is what do I wear? We're eating at the restaurant there, and I don't really have any knowledge of what ...
A. 20 January 2008: nothing says class like a LBD. you can never go wrong with one and everyone can look good in one. you could go for a halter neck, v neck, or even strapless with a cute cardigan or shrug. they are so elegant and wearable to any 'posh' do. make sure ... (read in full...)
Tony or Adrien - which do I choose?
Q. Hey I need help. I have two guys I really like ones name is tony and the other is adrien and tony lives here and adrien lives in new york. I've met tony and he's nice but he's very hyper he can't sit still for very long he's very goofy and isn't ...
A. 19 January 2008: well only you can really know who to choose, your already leaning towards adrien so choose adrien!!my guess is that the reason why your so attracted to tony is because he is the bad boy that so many of us think we like but we end up never choosing - ... (read in full...)
Do most women go through this?
Q. I know im only 20, but has anyone ever just thought that they were going to end up alone? Is this normal cause every since jr. high i have always been a little more mature than the girls my age. Im thinking this could be a factor, but do most women ...
A. 19 January 2008: yes this is normal i think everyone goes throught these worries. i would enjoy being single and relish in the fact that you havent dived into anything too serious so early!! alot of ppl i know havent met anyone and gotten into their relationships ... (read in full...)
What should I get my good friend...for her birthday?
Q. What should i get my friend for her birthday? We are not in a relationship,but i do have feelings for her. She got me something for my birthday so i feel that i need to get her something. Unfortunately i have no idea what to get her. I asked advice ...
A. 19 January 2008: id definitely go for getting her something that shows her you listen, but not something too personal. cd's, vouchers for her fave shops, etc are a really good idea. jewellery is defo too personal and is only something that a boyf would buy. but ... (read in full...)
I keep stressing out at my boyfriend... HELP!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year now and things were great between us. But recently something happened between us but we managed to get through it. But now everything he does makes me either angry with him or upset. I never ...
A. 19 January 2008: well hun u cant really help you until you tell me wat happened between the 2 of you that made this change. please email me and ill be happy to help you all i can, sorry!! but until i know wat happened, then i can have an idea of why this is ... (read in full...)
Does it hurt a guy when he loses his virginity?
Q. ok something has been bothering me or annoying me for some time now my friend was asking me when guys loose the viginity does it hurt please tell me ...
A. 17 January 2008: as far as i know, it doesnt hurt at all. if it does, then i would advise him to go and see his doctor. it doesnt hurt for men because there is no barrier or anything that they have to 'break' ie for girls the hymen. i hope this clears things up ... (read in full...)
What colour is cum - clear or white?
Q. I was giving my boyfriend a blow job and then finished the job with a hand job. He came but the cum was clear but i thought that is was white. Am i wrong?? This was my first time i had seen come so i might be wrong. Please help. ...
A. 17 January 2008: well the first repy by dyson is wrong. cum can be either clear and watery or thicker and whiter. either or, it also can sometimes depends on how much semen has been excreted before he comes, this can make the cum looker paler. hope this helps, and i ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of this spot?
Q. I am thinking of mayb takin it further with my boyfriend. I am ready to have sex but there is one thing that is pulling me back and that is i have a stubble down below. Is there anyway i can get a clean shave with out waxing as i am allergic to the ...
A. 17 January 2008: i wouldnt worry too much sounds like you have just got an ingrown hair, which is completely normal when you shave. my advice is to leave it alone, but whenever you have a shower, exfoliate around your bikini line, and moisturise after with an aloe ... (read in full...)
He spent mone at a strip club, I dumped his butt, now he wont speak to me, what is going on with him?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years after finding out he spent a large amount of money at a strip club without telling me. I told him not to call me until he wanted to be honest about how he spent the money. He didn't call me for five ...
A. 17 January 2008: i dont mean to sound harsh but it sounds to me like this guy has moved on pretty quickly and in his eyes its over. talk to him again, letting him know that not only do you love him, but that you are really confused. the least he could do is give you ... (read in full...)
I'm having multiple orgasms, but not in the bedroom?? how can I control this its driving me crazy?
Q. i have quite an embarassing problem,recently, almost every day, i have been having uncontrollable orgasms and i can have upto 5 a day without even doing anything and they last what seems like forever, this might be all well and good if i was ...
A. 17 January 2008: i have heard about this and read about it.its called persistent sexual arousal syndrome (PSAS) i just came across this site, i dunno exactly how helpful it will be but it will give you some insight. ... (read in full...)
My friend just told me his loves me, should I reciprocate?
Q. A coursemate of mine who has been a close friend for sometime now, just told me he is in love with me. Am so confused that i dont know what to tell him.Should i accept his proposal or not?...
A. 17 January 2008: well that all depends on how you feel about him?? if you dont feel the same then dont do anything about it-this will only give him false hope and he will end up getting his heart broken. but if you do think that there may be something there, then go ... (read in full...)
My man is a fratboy who treats me like dirt, is there any hope?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a year and a half. He stopped hanging out with his Fraternity friends for a long time because they were bad influences and he was so nice to me. Now, he has started again and is emotionally abusing me!! He says he wants ...
A. 17 January 2008: before i even read this, the title of the question told me to tell you to get out. after reading it, my opinion is the same. under NO circumstances is it ever ok for someone to abuse a partner - be it emotional or physical. you dont deserve to be ... (read in full...)
I'm having no luck with guys, should I give this guy who comes into my workplace my number?
Q. Hey guys. I just have a quick question. I havent had a boyfriend in over a year and i havent been asked for my number from any guy in that space of time either. I think my probalem is that i feel kind of lonely and i just would love to meet a really ...
A. 17 January 2008: well i think that before you were to give him your number, i would be sure that there is some attraction from him. if you feel confident, start by talking to him and flirting with him to establish something. as for the lack of male contact, this ... (read in full...)
He's really wild, me not so much, but I'm willing to try anything, any ideas on something I can do to spice up our sex life?
Q. I have been seeing someone for awhile and we have experimented a little in the bedroom. I enjoy it, but he is a little more experienced (and wilder) than I am. He always talks about surprising him sometime when I come over. I know he is talking ...
A. 17 January 2008: ok well i have recommended this site to loads of ppl cos i have found it quite helpful and fun sexinfo101.com has info on pleasing him and her, reviews of toys, techniques etc. why not call over to his, wen you know that he will be alone, in a ... (read in full...)
Will girls be attracted to me only because they know I've got a large penis?
Q. Alright this problem arised about a year ago, i first noticed that i was quite large when i found an article on the internet about average sizes of an adult penis. Well i immediately measured myself out of curiosity because i didnt really care until ...
A. 17 January 2008: well it is a possibility that some girls will just want to see it!!but to be honest, size is not a huge issue with us, esp wen its on the larger side. wen i like a guy, its not because ive heard about their size, or because i think they are going to ... (read in full...)
My sister is ill and I help her a lot...but now, I'm terrified of losing my bf, due to all this baggage!
Q. Hi, I am a 31yr old with a younger sis aged 29 who is HIV positive. She has 3 kids and i have none and we dont have parents.meaning I parent everyone. I am in a very seriuos and committed relationship. My problem is I have become so reliant on him ...
A. 17 January 2008: wow, first of all im so sorry for you and your sister, you 2 must be so strong and i admire you for that. second of all, have you voiced these concerns to him? has he told you that he feels like this or are these just your fears? sit down and talk ... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused--I feel sometimes not matter what I do for this man its never good enough!
Q. I and my ex recently got back together and I feel like I am alive again. I’ve smiled more and every morning was like a brand new day because of the happiness he put back into my life. Last night however was a nightmare with him. A good friend of ...
A. 17 January 2008: well it sounds to me like this guy is walking all over you!!he lies back while telling you to make all the effort. there are 2 of you in this relationship and he doesnt seem to grasp that. you need to put your foot down and stand up for yourself, ... (read in full...)
Am I being a bitch by saying mean things about her?
Q. ok i am 14 and i really like this boy but he claims too love another girl. we have meet once and he said i was good looking and i am a nice girl. i thought i would go on the girl "he claims love" myspace to see what she looks like shes not ugly bu...
A. 17 January 2008: he's got a girlfriend and its not you - sorry to sound so harsh but its true. and you shouldnt say bad things about her to make you feel better, its not fair on her, she has done nothing to target you and is happy with him, so dont come between ... (read in full...)
I work at a school and am having feelings for this young male student. Advice is needed.
Q. I work in a school, and have been working with a 18 year old male student for a number of years. About five months ago I realized that I have strong feelings for him and what an awesome person he is. I have never told him how I felt (its my ...
A. 17 January 2008: wait until he graduates!!then there are no obstacles, and no problems with it. if you both like eachother enough then waiting will seem like nothing for wat you'll have!!go for it with him, after all you only live once... (read in full...)
So should I trust what he is saying..or just blow him off?
Q. There is this guy that I dated for a little bit a couple of months ago......But, after we broke up we quit talking to one another.....But after he read my message that I sent him before we got together and it was just saying how much love and life I ...
A. 17 January 2008: sounds to me like this guy is genuinely set on having a proper relationship with you and that he loves you. unless you have ever been given any reasons not to trust him - which i dont think you have, trust him... (read in full...)
I am afraid of being alone!
Q. I think this is a very normal problem but I am trying to work at keeping it all in perspective and any advice would be gratefully received! I am a 33 year old man who has been married (for 7 years) from age 21 and that finished 5 years back and then...
A. 17 January 2008: yes you are pretty young!! dont worry about it too much you are nowhere near the shelf, so dont fall into another relationship just for the sake of it, the right one will come along for you so dont look too hard for it!i know it must be hard to go ... (read in full...)
He doesn't trust me! What should I do?
Q. My Boyfriend and i been together for a year and a half he cheated on me a couple of times when i was pregnant with his child and he lied we broke up then we got back together 3 months ago i told him i was gonna go somewhere but i didn't i came to my ...
A. 16 January 2008: god he cheats on you, you lie to him, where is the trust in this relationship??and you brought a child into this?? get out while you can, or my guess is the lies and mistrust is just going to spiral out of control. neither of you can trust ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and I can't forget it it! Help!
Q. Hey, My boyfriend and I are both happy and have been going out for 7months. Everything has been perfect for one thing.. Earlier in our relationship, when things were still a bit awkward, he went out one night, got drunk and kissed another girl. He ...
A. 16 January 2008: well i was in the same situation and ended up having to meet the girl, which believe me is worse than not knowing anything. you were only seeing him barely a month and he only kissed the girl drunkenly, easy mistake and he was genuinely sorry and ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with working beside the man my wife cheated on me with?
Q. How do I cope with working beside the man my wife cheated on me with? Just found out my co-worker is the person my wife cheated with the first time, she never coped with my finding out so how do I cope with this now?...
A. 16 January 2008: ignore him....just because you work next to him doesnt mean you need to develop any relationship with him. you have every right not to want to talk to him and he needs to realise that and keep appropriate distance. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is moving in with a guy (and 5 others) that she has kissed, in the past. I am concerned! Advice?
Q. hi, my girlfriend of a year has recently moved to uni after a few months she kissed a guy who lives next to her in her halls, i let this go and forgave her but it happened again however she said she pulled away that time but i broke of our rel...
A. 16 January 2008: well you are not being unreasonable, fair enough if she scored him before you were together but she cheated on you with him twice so this is inappropriate. she should understand this and respect why you would be feeling this way. chances are she ... (read in full...)
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