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After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 17 February 2008: yeah i see what you mean, well to me and to probably every other girl, these signs would indicate that you were his gf at the time. but like i said wait a while, you dont want to try and put pressure on something that may not be there yet. just ... (read in full...)
Have you ever told someone you loved them, but you didnt? why?
Q. Here is a question i asked early this morning, i'm putting back on as i wasnt as many answers as i can. How many of you out there have told a girlfriend, boyfriend, fiance, wife, husband you loved them but really you didn't? Just curiosity,...
A. 16 February 2008: yes i have, years ago though. i guess some people think they should say it because its the right thing to do, others may think that they do actually love this person. other people simply say it because they are expecting something magical to happen ... (read in full...)
Should I cry out when I orgasm?
Q. I've recently started to orgasm during intercourse and sometimes feel like calling out with the pleasure.I'm a bit shy though and wonder if the people in the bedroom next door might hear-especially when it's so quiet at night.My man says if ...
A. 16 February 2008: if you feel like making noise than make it!! so what if the neighbours hear you, its a natural thing to make noise when you feel pleasure and it can make your partner feel very excited!! but dont force something you dont want to, sex should be ... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 16 February 2008: why do you feel the need to label wat you are? if you feel like a couple, act like a couple and do things couples do, then its safe to say you probably are a couple. ive had a few relationships and it never once occured to me to ask whether or not ... (read in full...)
I have a small penis,,how can I satisfy a female?
Q. Hi im a guy in my late teens and im really embarrassed ive got a very small penis just on 2 inches fully erect ive never had a girlfriend im to embarrassed what can i do can i even satisfy a girl?...
A. 16 February 2008: well first of all just to let you know, that the size of the penis isn't the most important thing in sex and relationships. there are alot of other things that you can do to satisfy a girl, and just because you think that you have a smaller than ... (read in full...)
My partner has more issues and concerns over my parent's money, than I do?
Q. Hi there. I've noticed there are some good aunts and uncles on this site who can throw light onto baffling behaviour! So I've come to you with a question if I may? My partner constantly criticises my parents (to me) on a daily basis for not ...
A. 16 February 2008: well from what i have gathered from this question, your partner is more bitter over the fact that he will not be benefiting from inheritance, and not your welfare. so what if your parents were never in the situation to by property? that is ... (read in full...)
What do people think of this age gap??
Q. ... Hi. I am a forty (40) year old male and I am seeing a 52 year old woman for companionship. I am a partially sighted male and she has cp. "Cerabal Palsy".... We met for a meeting on Friday. What I would like to know is, what do you thin...
A. 12 February 2008: the age gap is nothing to worry about. if you are both happy together then dont worry wat other ppl think!! but that age gap is completely normal. i hope you will be very happy together!!... (read in full...)
Have I ever had an orgasm?
Q. This is gonna sound weird but im not sure if ever had an orgasm... does this lack of certainty mean that ive actually never had it...?It feels great when we make love and sometimes I feel like thats almost it and im sooo close but there is sth ...
A. 12 February 2008: well first of all you will know wen you have one, so the fact that your asking is a no to that question. as to how to have one, alot of women dont orgasm during actual intercourse, there are different spots that can be stimulated to make you come, ... (read in full...)
My ex won't leave us alone and now I feel bad and can't snog my bf.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months nearly and my ex wont leave me alone even though it was 3 years ago i last went with him. He made me feel really bad, tonight my boyfriend tried to snog me but i can't, what can i do, i am nervous?...
A. 12 February 2008: your going to have to be cruel to him to get your point across. but you also need to ask yourself why you couldnt kiss you bf, was it cos you still have feelings for this other guy? cos i dont understand why the ex would prevent you from kissing ... (read in full...)
Could you enlighten me a bit more about oral sex please?
Q. Okay, I know this is probably a weird question but I'm sure there are some people on here who would like to know. When a guy gives a girl oral sex how does he do it? Does he suck on her vagina or lick it or what? Do they even do anything to the ...
A. 12 February 2008: well from what i have experienced it is the clitoris that they pay the most attention to!! there are different movements that they make with their tongue but it is mostly localised around the clitoris. if you want more advice on it and info, check ... (read in full...)
Deep throat... why do they make a fuss over it?
Q. Is deep throat really so difficult? Am I getting it wrong here, when I think it's just taking a man's penis a little further into your mouth? I don't understand why people make such a huge deal of it, is there something I'm missing?...
A. 9 February 2008: it depends on your ability to relax your throat. alot of ppl find that deep trhoat can cause them to gag and find it uncomfortable. if you want to do it, then work up to it, going deeper every time and getting used to the feeling of something that ... (read in full...)
Is marrying my bf the right thing to do??
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years... he's Turkish... I'm going to his country to marry him in March... am i doing the right thing?...
A. 8 February 2008: if you have to ask the question then i would guess no. you are having doubts about this and it doesnt seem like you are ready for marriage yet. you need to figure out why you are having second thoughts and find out how you really feel about this man... (read in full...)
This seems so right but we both know it is so wrong but can't end it.
Q. I need some help.I have a friend, a dear friend who has always been there for me and I have fallen in love with him. We are both married although my marriage is abusive and generally unhappy. He and his wife work away alot and she isnt always t...
A. 8 February 2008: if you are in an abusive relationship - physical or otherwise, you should get out. no one deserves to be put through that. and this could affect your children more than you know, if they were to see your husband abusing you, they could be influenced ... (read in full...)
I feel insecure without a bf and am not over my ex. Please help.
Q. I feel really insecure without a boyfriend and recently i found out i have 5 admirers the thing is i dont like a single 1 of them yet im still not over my ex. He went out with me for a day dumped me then went out with me again for a day then dum...
A. 8 February 2008: you dont have to feel insecure about being single, its completely normal for ppl your age to be single. if you only went out with the guy for 2 days, then it is probably the idea of a relationship that you miss and not him. try and enjoy the fact ... (read in full...)
I'm on the pill but my period has showed no signs of stopping...is this normal??
Q. Hey Aunts, Ive been put on the pill and started it on the first day of my periods last month, ive been on the pill for 3 weeks and my period still hasnt stopped and shows no signs of stopping. Is this normal?...
A. 8 February 2008: to be honest i would say it is nothing - just your body getting used to the hormonal change, but just to be sure i would call your doctor, maybe you could be put on a lighter pill such as microlite or yasmin. ... (read in full...)
We live apart, but have been meeting up for 18 months now, I want to get more of a commitment but not risk losing him, how?
Q. I'm 22 and have been occasionally sleeping with a man (my age) who I met in a club 18 months ago. We're both single and behave affectionately towards eachother when we're together but he rarely makes an effort to see me and I'm unsure how he feels. ...
A. 7 February 2008: wen you say that you are sleeping together, does this mean you are dating or is it just a very casual thing? is it exclusive? if you want more from him, then just tell him that you would like to see more of him if he is comfortable with that. if you ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or does he secretly like me?
Q. Me and this guy have been friends for a while and I'm very attracted to him. I used to try and get it across that I like him. I asked him on a date, and thought it went well, but he never asked me to go on a date after that and I stopped pursuing ...
A. 7 February 2008: i think this guy is leading you on, maybe he does like you but he doesnt seem to want to pursue it any further. i think that you should move on, after all the girl he's with has feelings too and she would get hurt also. he may just get caught up in ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband, I think he is gay
Q. I have been married for 16 years, and have on a number of occasions found my husband looking at or signing upto gay porn. Recently I have found through looking at his mobile that he has even been calling and texting men he has found on a dating ...
A. 2 February 2008: well it does sound to me like he is gay, and you need to talk to him, he says he wants a second chance, but you have found evidence that he is cheating on you with other men that he has met on a dating site! you really need to sit down and talk to ... (read in full...)
He wants to have a 3-some!!!
Q. My boy wants to have a threesome, but I was just wondering, what if the other woman keeps interfering? That's what I'm worried about when we do do this. Any advice???...
A. 2 February 2008: ok well first of all you need to be sure that you are 100% ok with this, if your not then dont go through with it. if you are going to go ahead with it, then just make sure you set down some ground rules, these could be no kissing her, no ... (read in full...)
Why am I always putting myself down?
Q. Im always saying sorry for everything that i do just in case i've hurt someone for saying the wrong thing. I'm always putting myself down and when I know that someone else feels bad or is having a bad time, i generally break down in tears!! whats ...
A. 2 February 2008: hey hun, well you are young and wen you are this age, trying to please everyone and not hurting others is important wen your surrounded by peers. the truth is you cant always put your feelings after other people's. if you have hurt someone they will ... (read in full...)
How can I have sex with other girls without hurting my girlfriend?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been dateing for 7 mounths now and the frist couple day of our relationship she took my virginity and for the past 4 or 5 mounths i wanted to experience it with other girls but with out hurting her can sombody please help ...
A. 1 February 2008: there is no way to have sex with other girls and still be with your girlriend, unless of course she is open to that. why do you feel like you need to go out and have sex with other ppl? chance are its not going to be as rosy as you think it will be ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my sister
Q. Hi I have a problem. I'm 16, and I'm in love with my 14 year old sister. At first I thought it was just hormones, but it's been 4 years and I still feel the same way. Also I think she already knows, but I can't be sure. Help! ...
A. 1 February 2008: i think you're confused and have imbalances in your body, its not right to have these feelings and you need to go out with other girls your own age who are not related to you!... (read in full...)
Should I dump my boyfriend for this other guy?
Q. hi im a 14 yr old girl and atm i hav a bf who i still like, but there is another guy that loves me so much more than my bf and he seems really nice and i think im starting to have feelings for him. the only problem is my bf and i hav been together ...
A. 31 January 2008: well you are both so young to have been in such a long relationship and you should both have some time to be by yourselves before committing to another person for so long. i know breaking up with someone is hard, but staying with your bf is unfair ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want to be with my ex. How can I do this without causing damage to my kids?
Q. Here's the situation. I love my ex. I always have and know I always will. Always felt he is the love of my life. We recently acknowledge our true feelings. Problem is I'm married. Miscommunications and a broken heart lead me to my husband to ...
A. 31 January 2008: to be honest, you staying with your husband who you dont love, and your marriage is based on his need, will surely affect your girls more in the future than you going your separate ways and still maintaining respect and civil behaviour between you ... (read in full...)
He is avoiding me after I talked about getting married...
Q. I just want some 3rd party opinions on this. I recently informed my boyfriend of 5 years that I need to know where this is actually going because discussing marriage but then counterbalancing it with what seems like sarcastic comments isn't cutting ...
A. 31 January 2008: ah i see, my apologies...maybe he's still just not ready ... (read in full...)
He invited me to functions and I had other plans. Now he won't call.
Q. I just met this guy three weeks ago. He is 6yrs younger than me. I love him but the age gap gives me problems. I'm a single mother of a 15yr old son while he has 11yr old son and 8yr old daughter from his previous relationship which he chose to ...
A. 30 January 2008: he just sees this unavailability as rejection from you, give him some time to cool down. he is slightly younger so his reactions to different things may not be wat your used to you know? give him time he is just feeling a little stood up, next time ... (read in full...)
A love triangle, how can I get my ex to forgive my betrayal?
Q. I have a complicated problem that I need some help with. me and girl #1 dated when I was in college and she broke my heart and ended up having a child. after this, I fell in love with girl #2,we dated for a year and a half and she broke my heart as ...
A. 30 January 2008: well hun you have to be prepared to face the fact that it may not happen, you breached the trust that you had, and that is an important element of a healthy relationship. give her some time to ease the anger and then go visit her and apologise, ... (read in full...)
Should I give blow jobs at parties because all my friends do it?
Q. i am 16 and go to quite a lot of parties with people my age (house parties) whenever i go all my friends go and give head (blow jobs) and seem to think nothing of it. and some of then often have the favour returned. i am th eonly one who doesn't ...
A. 30 January 2008: wat??? NO?? you are so smart and obviously more mature than your peers, keep it that way hun, fair play to you. never do anything you dont want to do esp something like that. wen it comes to sexual acts, they should be kept behind closed doors, and ... (read in full...)
He is avoiding me after I talked about getting married...
Q. I just want some 3rd party opinions on this. I recently informed my boyfriend of 5 years that I need to know where this is actually going because discussing marriage but then counterbalancing it with what seems like sarcastic comments isn't cutting ...
A. 30 January 2008: you are in the 18-21 age group and are talking about marriage to your boyfriend? wow thats pretty heavy to hear from your partner, no wonder he got a bit freaked out. you are both very young and he probably wont be thinking about marriage and kids ... (read in full...)
Why won't he stop texting other women?
Q. Like other posts I have read on here, my fiance and father of my two year old has been texting other women for quite a while. There have been occasions where he has gone out at night and ignored my texts for hours, saying he didn't text me back cos ...
A. 30 January 2008: what kind of txts has he been sending?? are they inappropriate? if so you know wat to do, if not then at least you know he is not cheating. however, it is still unfair wat he is doing to you, and he should respect the fact that it hurts you and is ... (read in full...)
My ex wanted me back but wont give up her new guy. I feel like I'm being manipulated, what should I do?
Q. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. It was mostly because I wasn't attentive enough. She started seeing someone else. I stayed away from her. I didn't call her at all. She called me after a month and told me she missed me. She told me she thinks ...
A. 30 January 2008: so she says that she is in love with you but is comfortable being with someone else? she is having her cake and eating it too. what she is doing is unfair to you and this other guy. if she really does care for you, she would be prepared to have a ... (read in full...)
Am I right in thinking my husband might be having an affair with a co-worker?
Q. My husband has been a bit distant from me and he's been more into his job lately. I have this gut feeling that is starting some relationship with a female co-worker of his since he used to just call on a break to say hi and that has stopped and says ...
A. 30 January 2008: well in my opinion, when someone is confronted about this there are 2 ways they will react. the first is they take it gently, be hurt and annoyed by this but assure you that there is nothing going on. the other is that they get all defensive and ... (read in full...)
Should I break a promise I made after a break up?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of four years for a number of reasons. Over the past few weeks we have been unravelling our relationship, while she prepares to leave the country for up to 2 years in a month or two. I own the car, but she used...
A. 30 January 2008: you are not together anymore, you own the car, she is leaving in a few months. why should you feel obliged to let her use your car and jeopardise your career? if she cares for you she should understand that you need this for your career, she doesnt ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep calling me and wanting to hang out with me?
Q. I dated this guy for almost 2 years, and he was acting distant and always ditching me for his friends so i broke up with him, hoping it would bring back the guy he used to be. He didnt come back, we spent the next 10 months together but ...
A. 30 January 2008: you need to tell him that while you do love him, you are not prepared to wait around and play these games with him. he needs to grow up and realise that this is not the way adults live. he may just need time and space but he needs to clarify this ... (read in full...)
How will I know that she loves me more than the other guys?
Q. Hi there I m in love with a lady I really loves her a lot, but the problem is she end-up receiving many calls as she has other guys. I reall don't want to lose her how will I know that she loves me the same? is it an easy thing to find out if dated ...
A. 30 January 2008: well i think you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel, but be prepared, she may not be ready for a commited relationship yet. but then again, she may be only friends with these other men and nothing more. tell her that while you dont mind ... (read in full...)
I want more, how do I tell him without scaring him?
Q. I have been in an on and off (mainly on) relationship for 9 years with a guy I truly adore. He makes me laugh, we know each other inside out, we have the same goals etc. But I am 25 now, and I am ready for our relationship to be a lot more serious - ...
A. 30 January 2008: just because you want more commitment, doesnt mean he has to give up his life. is that wat you would want? he is still young, so its normal that he wants to go out and enjoy himself. if you think that he does really love you and wants to be with ... (read in full...)
He bores me, I want to break up. How can I do it gently?
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of two years. He is a very sweet, but dull person. Sounds harsh, but there's no spark there. I can't chat with him like with my friends. I don't love him or fancy him anymore. I really want to be single because I ...
A. 30 January 2008: ok well a letter is no way to do it....we are all grown ups here, and a letter will only hurt him more, you have to do this face to face, and he deserves that after so many years. sit him down and talk to him, explain that you do deeply care for ... (read in full...)
He abuses me emotionally, But I can't leave him!
Q. Please help me. I'm desperate. I am so in love with my bf, I mean I have never been in love like I am now, but things have happened, I should leave him. Things have turned so nasty between us, but I am so in love, I can't actually tell the diff...
A. 30 January 2008: oh my god!! this man spits at you, laughs at you, and makes you feel like you are doing something wrong??? honey, this man is as good as hitting you...possibly worse. loving him is your excuse to justify staying with him. you do realise that this is ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm losing him. What can I do?
Q. Hey, i really need advice, I met a guy online last february, met him and started dating, fell in love with him and all that, got engaged in july just gone, however he lost his job a couple of weeks ago and since then he's been stressed out abo...
A. 30 January 2008: well in losing his job he has lost confidence and taken a blow to his ego - what with men feeling the need to be the breadwinner and that. just give him the emotional support he needs without making him feel like less of a success. he feels like he ... (read in full...)
Why am I attracted physically to the guy I'm not really close to?
Q. I think i have a crush on a boy,but when i am with him i feel like i am with my best friend,and i never think of us kissing or anything. But then there's another boy that i don't have a crush on (i think) and i don't know him extremely well,but i am ...
A. 30 January 2008: well its an easy enough situation - one is your friend, the other is the mysterious crush. not all crushes sprout from knowing someone, alot of them stem from physical attraction. and alot of the attraction has something to do with the fact that you ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if he said it only because of a dare?
Q. I'm 13 years old. I just found out something. The boy in my class who said he loved me, he was dared to say it. what do u think?...
A. 30 January 2008: he's 13 and a boy-love is a word he probably doesnt even know yet. i wouldnt really dwell on it, no offence but he is too young to be in love and if ppl say it was a dare, well..... now thats not to say that he mightnt like you, but love is an ... (read in full...)
The other guy wants me to choose. What should I do?
Q. I have been dating a guy (Guy A) for about 8 months and I do think I love him. About 4 months ago I met someone else (Guy B). He is very good to me and I do enjoy spending time with him but feel guilty doing so. Guy A says he is not in a "hurry" ...
A. 30 January 2008: have you heard of monogomy?? why did you even get involved with guy b if you were happy and in love with guy a?? in my book that constitutes as cheating. you may have to end up with guy b because after guy a finds out wat you have been doing to him ... (read in full...)
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