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Me and my cousin are flirting a lot. I want to have sex with her...
Q. okay i am 15 and my cousin is 14 and every time we're together i can't stop thinking about her and we always flirt every time we're together like at our family cottage me her and my sister slept in the top floor of our bunkhouse and me and her were ...
A. 9 July 2008: im sorry but has ANYONE read wat LordFreak said??? oh my god im grossed out to the core....sex with mum, aunt, cousins both male and female. oh god...
poster please dont take the advice of this person.
your still really young and its normal t... (read in full...)
I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and we haven't kissed, how do I make a move?
Q. i am 14 and i need help. my gf is 13 and we have been going out for 1 year. and i want her to kiss me but i dont know how to. plz help....
A. 9 July 2008: kiss her. simple as - im sure she wont push you away since she is meant to be your girlfriend??... (read in full...)
Where do I "go" when I have to pull out?
Q. This is kind of a strange question but here goes. When having sex with an unfamiliar partner, where do you "cum" when you need to pull out? Is there some kind of ettiquette with this kind of thing? Seriously I never know what to do when that moment ...
A. 9 July 2008: a guy posted a very similar question here a while ago. the link is:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/one-night-stand--is-there-a-general.html
to get more answers.
ill say wat i said to him, and what you said yourself but seem to be looking fo... (read in full...)
Do some girls object to receiving oral sex
Q. is it true that some girls dont like being eaten out?...
A. 9 July 2008: well i have no problem with it!! but i was never comfortable with it until my current boyf, and thats cos were together so long and he's my first love so i guess im myself with him.
some girls dont like it though, so i guess everyone is diff... (read in full...)
Trying again with my ex, how should I behave?
Q. hi,me and my girlfriend split up the start of febuary,she wanted a break as she was depressed and want to sort her issues out,we have stayed in touch mainly through txt,i saw her in april but it was to hard for me just going out as friends so i ...
A. 9 July 2008: well she wont be looking for it to be as it was wen you finished, so take things slower this time. start by seeing eacthother casually and let it grow into a relationship again. you say your trying to start afresh so act as you would on any other ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my cousin, and now my period is three weeks late.
Q. I have a HUGE problem. I have a great steady boyfriend of almost 4 months, and I'm pretty sure I love him. The problem is, one night i got really, really drunk (my first time drinking). I've always had a thing for my cousin who is a few years older ...
A. 8 July 2008: why would your boyf support you when it wouldnt even be his..and you cheated on him....with your COUSIN (incest). first things first, you have got to take a PG test - 3 weeks is a long time to be late.
and im sorry but you should be ashamed, your... (read in full...)
I am small chested, and concerned with my image, any advice for me?
Q. Well this is going to sound akward, but anyways, we were on a school trip a while ago and everyone was wearing vest tops and obvoiusly you could see the shape of there breasts and stuff - okay so that sounded totally strange! but I dont have much of ...
A. 8 July 2008: your still growing hun, no need to worry!! your body will keep growing til your 18, and that includes your breasts, so im sure they will get bigger! i used to be an A, now im 22 and a DD!! if you are really conscious, then a padded bra is always a ... (read in full...)
Can you lose your virginity, due to a broken hymen, without having intercourse, and is sex painful?
Q. 1. hi, ive been taking intense gymnastics and ballet training for the past 8 years is it possible that my hymen could have been torn already? 2. when u do have sex do u bleed? is the pain unbearable? 3. how many times do u have sex before u fee...
A. 8 July 2008: i agree with the other poster, i hope your not planning to have sex any time soon, your so young so please wait!
there is a chance that your hymen could be broken already, alot of sports such as horseriding, gym etc can cause it to break.
exper... (read in full...)
I'm having problems with my boyfriend and ended up cheating on him
Q. im seventeen. my boyfriend has been having mood swings toward me , and he takes his anger for his family out on me, not only do i feel distant from him but i feel he is not the same person i fell in love with a year ago. we haven't had sex in two ...
A. 8 July 2008: i think that when you cheated...you knew you were putting an end to a relationship that was already over. this is going nowhere, you said yourself you dont even talk anymore - where is the relationship?
you need to break up with him. tell him the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I keep arguing about his ex, need help!
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend now for 9 months and we have had a series of aarguments, all about the same thing, HIS EX. They were together on and off for 5 years and i feel completely beneath her. At the beggining of our relationship her ...
A. 8 July 2008: smile, hold your head high and be indifferent with her. dont let wat she does or says bother you again. act as if wat she does and says to him or you doesnt bother you in the least. be nice to her if she is nice to you and come out laughing. it will ... (read in full...)
I Won't Give Up on an Older Guy, Even Though He's Engaged
Q. the man i love recently (as in a few days back) got engaged to his girlfriend of about 3 years. i can't explain it how intensely i feel this, but i KNOW we are meant to be together. i feel it strongly enough to CONFIDENTLY say that we are MEANT to...
A. 8 July 2008: oh sweetheart dillusional doesnt begin to cover it. im sorry to sound harsh but you should really reread your question and tell me how many red flags you see.
you say you have been trying for 2 yrs to get this guy to like you - results?? he's enga... (read in full...)
My Parents Are Getting Abusive About Our Relationship
Q. we are james and alvina. we were so happy together. but unfortunately, my(james)parents hated alvina so much. they smashed my phone, called alvina's college, put me on home detention, and even worst, bang me on the wall and threatened me to delete ...
A. 8 July 2008: im guessing that you are both 18 or over - so technically you are adults. unless its different in your country. james' parents are stepping over boundaries, and i would advise you to keep all the proof you can of any action they take and report them ... (read in full...)
Do I let my bf suck my breasts??
Q. my boyfriend wants to suck my breasts.do advice me.he is after my breasts....
A. 8 July 2008: he is after your breasts??... (read in full...)
Any advice on going to festivals??
Q. Hiya.. I have got my first ever festival on Friday :D T IN THE PARK lol and I was just wondering if any of you had any advice on festivals? And also do you have any tips on how to deal woth the rain and mud because apparently it is meant 2 be rather ...
A. 8 July 2008: i would buy a cool pair of wellies in office or something - dont go wearing flip flops or anything!! also take extra clothes/underwear/socks in a plastic bag in your bag. so that if anything gets wet you have dry stuff to change into.
I'd also brin... (read in full...)
I'm really self conscious about my black facial hair, what can I do about it?
Q. I'm 15 and I have quite abit of facial hair, and it is pretty obvious from up close because my hair is black, I jus recently got a boyfriend and I never get close enough incase he sees it, I'm really self-conscious about this, what can i do?...
A. 8 July 2008: there are 2 options that you can take -
1. bleach - its wat alot of ppl do in your situation and there is a bleach that is specially made for facial hair and other sensitive areas. i used it when i was younger and it works really well. its call... (read in full...)
My morals don't want to deal with my girlfriend wanting to cheat. Plus...she denies it!
Q. I recently caught my girlfriend sending a text message to a guy asking him to have sex with her... Upon me catching her (like 30 seconds after sending the text) she completely appoligized for being stupid and didn't know what she was thinking (she ...
A. 8 July 2008: it doesnt matter whether she was drinking or not - she still wanted to cheat on you. she says the never would have acted on it if you didnt catch her - she still asked someone else for sex!! you can sugarcoat it all you like but thats a black and ... (read in full...)
Given my sentence, can I expect my girlfriend to wait for me (she is pregnant)?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for just over a year now - I'm 20 and she's 19. We have been good together over the past year and I want things to continue. I am going to court and am due to be sentenced for assault. I have a record so have been tol...
A. 7 July 2008: 'just happened' - assault doesnt 'just happen', so stop trying to make excuses for wat you have done, did your past actions that have given you a record 'just happen' too? im sorry but you need to step up to the plate first and realise that things ... (read in full...)
I received a mysterious phone call to say that a collegue who I have never spoken to doesn't like me...!
Q. This is not a love question but are needing advice. I travel 3 days a week on a train to my job, some times i see the same employee called simon may be twice in 2 weeks i have never spoken to him and he has never spoken to me,the other day i rece...
A. 7 July 2008: wow...im suddenly taken back to the days of passing notes in the back of class, or waiting for a friend to ask a guy if he likes me.
my guess is simon may not know anything about this, may not even feel this way about you. of maybe he likes you ... (read in full...)
Bruising after sex, why?
Q. Hey :) Great site you have here... Okay well basically me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday... all went well and we were fine (i wasnt a virgin, he was) and all was fine until today when i showered and found bruising...anyone have any ideas on...
A. 7 July 2008: sounds like it could have been a little rough i.e he was thrusting harder than your used to, and he could be bonier than others. ... (read in full...)
What is the best way for a single person to create a sex life?
Q. The last time I had sex was while I was in a committed relationship. I have been single for some time and want to get in the sex scene again. What is the best way for a single person to create a sex life?...
A. 7 July 2008: without dating, seeing or casually having fun with one person the only other options are one night stands, f*** buddies, or part taking in group sex!! none of the above are fulfilling or satisfying as enjoying a sex life with someone you are seeing. ... (read in full...)
He's been emailing a girl on his Bebo, should I be mad?
Q. Ok my boyfriend has a bebo account, myspace,facebook accounts etc... he gave me the password he uses for all dem before to change stuff for him ages ago and doesnt mind me goin on his page. so i logged on 2night to change stuff and went into his ...
A. 7 July 2008: the fact that he gave you all his passwords just goes to show that he has nothing to hide or anything. i wouldnt worry - you said yourself that there was nothing suggestive or flirty to these emails so why worry? as for the smiley faces...everyone ... (read in full...)
How can I prevent from getting a rash after shaving my bikini line?
Q. Just a quick question, when I shave my bikini line I always seem to get a rash which is not very attractive. What can I do to prevent this from happening? Is it even normal? Thanks :) x x x...
A. 7 July 2008: this is going to sound really strange but i read that deodarant with aloe vera helps!! weird i know but its been tried and tested by me!! just spray it lightly and far enough away from your body. anything with aloe vera is great for soothing skin ... (read in full...)
What will people think if they find out we're having sex?
Q. Me and my boyfriend wanna have sex, but we both are afraid of what people will think if they find out. Please, i need help....
A. 7 July 2008: well how old are you? since your in the 13-15 age group, i think that you both are too young to be stepping into something like this. wat you need to realise is sex is a very emotional act, and it has its consequences. you are still growing and ... (read in full...)
I was abused by my older brother when I was younger and I can't move on
Q. When I was young I was abused by my older brother, he told me that it was all ok and it's a game that older men play. This happend on many different occasions. Im a male, 20 years of age and ashamed and scared of life. I cant get a girl friend and ...
A. 6 July 2008: oh sweetheart im so sorry for wat he put you through, i cant imagine how difficult it is for you to deal with. my advice is to go to counselling and seek professional help. you need to talk about this and deal with it and hopefully move on. i think ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity but don't know where...
Q. I have found someone that i really like and want to lose my virginity to, but i dont where i should lose my virginty. I love the idea of doing it in a bed and then falling asleep and waking up together but im only 13 and live my parents and 2 ...
A. 6 July 2008: your 13? my god slow down!! please wait a while, you are nowhere near old enough to consider having sex. your still a child! sex is very complicated and has its consequences, and until you're older, your not mature enough to handle wat those ... (read in full...)
I have fallen for a guy at work, he's married, now I'm being transferred, should I tell him how I feel?
Q. a few months ago i started falling for a guy at work.i haven't stopped thinking bout him since. when i was around him it felt like the whole world melted away, leaving just us.i knw i'm only young but no guy has ever made me feel as special. but ...
A. 6 July 2008: well hun you have to think about the woman he married - how would she feel if she knew that you were willing to break up their marriage? i know its hard to keep it to yourself but you have to also think that your not the only one that could ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't kiss with tongues or go down on me, and won't explain why (but he's quite happy for me to go down on him!)
Q. How come my boyfriend does not want to french kiss nor do oral sex on me? I have tried t kiss him using my tongue and he won't let me and he won't go down on me but he loves when I do oral sex on him. I have asked him but he doesn't want to answer ...
A. 6 July 2008: oh my god how selfish!! he is a grown man and he wont kiss you properly? weird....talk to him for one last time and tell him how you feel and how hurt you are, and how immature it is that a grown man changes the subject with something as simple as ... (read in full...)
I suffer very badly from anxiety and my boyfriend doesn't help!
Q. hey everyone. I have terrible anxiety. to the point where I cant do anything until I feel not so worried anymore. I havent hardly eaten because I cant keep food down because my stomach goes into knotts. I get the shakes real bad. Its just a mess for...
A. 6 July 2008: hunny you need to sit both your parents down and tell them seriously that you are suffering mentally and need all the support you can get. tell them how serious it is to you, and how you think you need help. as for the natural remedies, im sure if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not want me to attend karate class, if there are only men in the class, I want to go, should I abide by his wishes?
Q. Today my bf and I went to a class of karate. We had never practiced any kind of martial art, and we were invited and thought we would give it a try. Another friend of his went, and he had invited his gf, but she was sick so she couldn't go. So it ...
A. 6 July 2008: he's jealous of you going to a male karate class? bit OTT if you ask me. your not going there to have an orgy, as is no one else. your going there to learn something that in all fairness is very valuable for a woman to have these days. wat does he ... (read in full...)
Hi, big problem maybe! Could I be possibly be pregnant, please help?
Q. Hello ppl well i need help i need to kno if i am really pregnant well i had my period 2 weeks ago during the third night of my period i had sex ok everything was fine up to about 2 days ago i had been havin slight cramps at nite wen i was goin 2 ...
A. 6 July 2008: can i just ask why your not doing a test until the end of the month? to be honest, your not gonna get any concrete answers here hun, were not docs we can just advise you on wat we think.
if your really that worried about it, i dont see why your... (read in full...)
We said we'd wait to have sex, but I'm confused and thinking of going all the way, what do I do?
Q. Okay, so here it goes.....I really don't know if it's a problem, persay, or just me being a worry wart. Do NOT judge me okay? Well....I went to my boyfriend's house, well his Paw Paw's house, for the 4th of July, and everything went swell. Unt...
A. 6 July 2008: ok, so your afraid that if you did sleep with him right now, he would have got wat he wanted and take off? and your also asking us whether or not you should have sex? first worry - this guy sounds pretty decent and didnt pressure or ask you to go ... (read in full...)
Are there other ways of getting an STD, besides intercourse?
Q. This will seem like stupid question but, can you get an STD just by giving your bf a handjob???...
A. 6 July 2008: hey hunny no, you cant get one from giving hand jobs. std's can be transmitted through vaginal intercourse, oral sex, or anal sex. so dont worry you are running no risk of getting any infection from wat you are doing. ... (read in full...)
Fooling around with my older cousin...is it bad??
Q. Well, first started 2yrs ago i think. i was trying to sleep at my cousin's house, Kristen, but then he came along and went in bed with me and started to sqyeeze my breast. It's hard to explain because it was long ago. One month ago we went to ...
A. 5 July 2008: i cant figure out whether you like wat he is doing to you or whether you want it all to stop. if its the latter, well then it is a family member sexually abusing you, and you need to tell someone, this is not right and he should never have gone that ... (read in full...)
Is he just in it for the sex? Or does he like me?
Q. i met this guy at a party three weeks ago and we talked all night, we ended up snoggin, we exchanged numbers and he phoned me on the 23rd june and we met up, he ws really full on, we went back to mine and there was no one in so we sat downstairs for ...
A. 3 July 2008: you were like awww thats so cute? no offence or anything but that is in no way cute or sweet. he shouldnt be talking to you like that. to be honest i would take wat he says with a pinch of salt. it sounds like he may be just in it for the sex and in ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend rape me? I told him I was ready but during the act I realised it wasn't so.
Q. im really confused!! i really dont know what to do, did my boyfriend rape me?! or is it down to me, ive been with him for just three months, not long i know, but i thought i loved him, i thought i was ready for sex, hes 17 and im 16. last friday, i ...
A. 3 July 2008: he was way out of order hunny, rape is forced unwanted sexual intercourse, and the minute you asked him to stop he should have. i think that you need to tell your parents what happened - even if you are scared they need to know. this guy may do this ... (read in full...)
I fell asleep with another guy (no sex), and now I'm afraid of what my boyfriend will think. Help?
Q. my boyfriend of a 1 1\2 is out of town for a month for training. the first night alone i went to a party and got a little drunk. my guy friend was thier and i know he has feelings for me even though we have disscussed that i am very much in love ...
A. 3 July 2008: its a tough situation to be in cos if someone did say anything to him well then you have lied, and you look worse - in his eyes. if you do tell him, he may wonder why you felt the need to say anything if nothing happened and he may not trust that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't talk to me and he cheats because he is unhappy...
Q. Iv been wiv my bf 3 years hes 19 im 27. Because of our age gap the relationship has been quite secretive and i think this has lead 2 a lot of problems. Now he cheats all the time. Hes never had sex because ive always caught him 1st but i dont wanna ...
A. 3 July 2008: i hate to sound harsh but you need him like a hole in the head he is immature, selfish, disrespectful and a downright disgusting person. it anything this person being in your life will only make you feel worse about yourself - and also, how could ... (read in full...)
I just found out that he cheated on me...do we still have a chance of being together?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 14month now and we have set a date to get married wich is next year but i recently found out he cheated on me with my best friends little sister i feel so disapointed and let down do you think we still have a chance ...
A. 1 July 2008: your asking us if you still ahve a chance of being together, well the only person with the real answer to that is yourself. but the red flag to me here among others, is the fact that this wasnt just a one night stand with some random girl on a ... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of a sunburn really quickly?
Q. Sorry, this isn't a relationship question BUT basically I got really sun burn at Glastonbury Festival and its SO SORE and RED and painful!!! im slapping on the after sun like there's no tomorrow but the problem is im supposed to be getting a t...
A. 1 July 2008: well you probably will be advised by the tat artist not to get the tat until your skin fully heals - your skin is meant to be free from anything so sunburn is of course out of the question. as for how to get rid of it, a great way to soothe it and ... (read in full...)
I cheated, but now I'm married and I will never cheat again. Should I tell him?
Q. 15 months ago I cheated (i gave a friend a hand job) on my at the time boyfriend (we got engaged 3 months after it happened) now we are getting married in 1 and a half weeks and I am wondering if I should tell him? In all actuality we were in a ...
A. 1 July 2008: i dont think you should tell him - unless of course there is any risk of him finding out! im presuming it was a once off thing that happened and obviously it made you realise wat you have with the man your going to marry. telling him will only break ... (read in full...)
I cheated, but now I'm married and I will never cheat again. Should I tell him?
Q. 15 months ago I cheated (i gave a friend a hand job) on my at the time boyfriend (we got engaged 3 months after it happened) now we are getting married in 1 and a half weeks and I am wondering if I should tell him? In all actuality we were in a ...
A. 1 July 2008: i dont think you should tell him - unless of course there is any risk of him finding out! im presuming it was a once off thing that happened and obviously it made you realise wat you have with the man your going to marry. telling him will only break ... (read in full...)
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