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When you masterbate, why does your penis hurt afterwards?
Q. When you masturbate, why does your penis hurt afterwards?...
A. 13 July 2007: sometimes your penis will hurt after sex if you have been going too vigourously and do not have enough lubricant as this will cause 'chafing'. there may also be something wrong with her eg she may have thrush, this can cause a stinging redness for ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to make our relationship public. Is this normal?
Q. Hello, I have recently started dating a guy whom I have met a year ago. We share the same friendship circle. He doesn't want to make our relationship public. Is this normal? And why should he want to do this?...
A. 13 July 2007: ask him why he wants to do this i dont think this is fair to you at all cos you cant comfortably be with him the way you want to be in public. its not healthy to keep this in private there is no reason to! talk to him and see wat is going on and ... (read in full...)
When I start to have sex, I feel like I really have to pee, really badly.
Q. Hi everyone. In the past few weeks, my girlfriend and I started having sex. She is my first, and I'm a little confused about something. When I start to have sex, I feel like I really have to pee, really badly. The sex is good, but I feel like I have ...
A. 13 July 2007: this is normal its just a sensation you get before you climax!! you will get used to it dont worry its so normal, its just cos its your first time that you are so aware of it, dont worry you will not pee if you keep going so take your time and enjoy ... (read in full...)
How do you make love? How do you make it pleasurable?
Q. I have a really basic question. How do you make love? I'm a virgin, and I've learned from health classes and such in schools about sex. I understand biologically what is supposed to happen, but that's not quite what I want to know. How do you make ...
A. 13 July 2007: first of all you need to be in love with the person and this will make sex so much better for you! if you are a virgin then the most comfortable position for you would be the missionary (him on top). this is really enjoyable and is the easiest for ... (read in full...)
Is she running from something? if so, is she running from something in herself to where she occasionally runs into me and is reminded that we are a rock together?
Q. A THREE PART LOVE(?)STORY. I. I met her about four years ago, she was 19, I was 23. We began spending a lot of time together and within a few months we were living together happily. that lasted about 15 months. After about a year (give or ta...
A. 13 July 2007: she could be afraid of relationships as she may have had some bad experiences. talk to her and explain to her that you love her and only want to make her happy and would never hurt her. on the other hand she may have met someone else and could just ... (read in full...)
I keep having sexual thoughts about a picture I saw on the internet
Q. I don't know why I think like this. I keep on thinking about this guy I saw on the internet(picture). I think about him sexually. Is this normal?...
A. 13 July 2007: this is perfectly healthy!! as long as it doesnt affect your personal life with other men then it is fine!... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with her when I am but when we're apart, I want her back
Q. When i'm with my girlfriend, i'm always looking for ways to break up with her. When we've split up I can't help stop thinking about her and wanting her back. Why is this?...
A. 13 July 2007: we always want wat we cant have!! it sounds to me that you arent in love with your girlfriend and wen you broke up with her it wasnt her that you missed but the whole idea of having a girlfriend. you obviously just dont like not being with someone ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to reach my target weight with my diet plan?
Q. I plan to go on a peach and orange fruit diet for 7 days. And just going for brisk walks in the morning (no other excercise). Right now I am a size 7-8. I want to get down to a size at least 5. Is it possible for me to reach my goal?...
A. 13 July 2007: it sounds as if you are a perfect size and you want to go down to the likes of nicole richie?!!!plus i dont think the plan that you have is healthy if you wanna lose weight then excercise and eat right and in moderation. i do think you are mad to ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to have asked for the expensive ring back?
Q. I just bought a $3K ring for my girlfriend and then she announces she is moving out after 10 months. I asked for the ring back and that offended her? Am I wrong to have asked?...
A. 13 July 2007: i think that you are completely in your own right to ask for the ring back. you spent your money on that and she threw it back in your face wen she moved out. it is rightfully yours and since she wont be using it for its purpose i think she should ... (read in full...)
He's spending up to an hour, sometimes 3 times a day, looking at porn... !
Q. ok, porn and sex question folks. my husband of 9 months and i generally have a decent sex life. we're pretty experimental and i'm the vocal, very enthusiastic type who actually REALLY likes having "porn" type sex. i'm fairly kinky, and he DOES ...
A. 13 July 2007: why not suggest that he cut it down a bit and try and bring it into your sex life??my boyfriend is renound for having porn (he went to a boarding school!!!) and to be honest i find it pretty funny and its good cos he always has new moves!! try ... (read in full...)
What makes a woman physically attractive?
Q. I am just curious. This one is for the men. What do you like to see in women based on physical appearance on how they look?...
A. 13 July 2007: hey chicken i know this one was directed at the men but i want you to know that there is no particular type that is attractive to men! different men different types you know?? but wat i do know is that they love a confident woman who smiles brightly ... (read in full...)
Are penises supposed to point up when erect?
Q. When I was younger and dated younger men their penises would always point straight up when erect. The last two guys I dated (one was 44, the other, 40) had penises that when erect, pointed down and even to the side! Is this an age/health thing or ...
A. 13 July 2007: to be honest i think the penis is meant to point upwards or straight outwards - down or to the side does not sound very normal to me!... (read in full...)
My parents dont like my tattooed boyfriend
Q. I am only 14 years old and I really like this 16 year old. He has two tattoos and my parents don't like the fact that he has them. I like making out with him but it feels like i want more and don't know how to tell him and plus I want him to know i ...
A. 13 July 2007: your parents are only concerned about you and your safety. listen to wat they have to say and you will probably be able to comprimise - assure them that you only want to date this guy. wen you said you want more do you mean sex? you are only 14 and ... (read in full...)
Am I ill or pregnant?
Q. okay i have been really tired the past 4 days and havnt wanted to eat anything. i have felt like i wanted to throw up and my stomach hurts. these are some signs of being pregnant. im kindof scared im pregnant but i have never had sex. i fool around ...
A. 13 July 2007: ok its not true that you cant get pregnant unless you have sex!!!if you have been fooling around with your bf and his come get near your vagina then there is a slim chance that it could have gotten in. is your period late?? i think the best thing to ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to reject someone because I think they are wrong or because they cant help me out?
Q. do you reject someone just because you think that you are right and they are not, or you think them to be wrong in some way.. is it the fear of unknown and paranoa in general about life and hopelessness / desparity about their own future leads on...
A. 13 July 2007: i agree with eyeswideopen - this question is really confusing and you will not get good answers as the question is not clear. wat do you mean by rejecting???and if they are wrong and you are right???you need to make it clearer.... (read in full...)
She has had too many sex partners and it bothers me!
Q. How many partners is ok for a woman to have before it is considered promiscuos? My GF is 23 and has been with 19 guys including myself, it's the fact that she racked up about 15 within 2 years that bothers me the most, all in one night stands.She ...
A. 13 July 2007: ok first of all size doesnt matter!!!im happy with my boyfriend and i think he has the perfect penis even though ive been with bigger!!second of all i know wat your gf is saying wen she says the one night stands have something to do with a previous ... (read in full...)
I need THE most safe birth control
Q. Hey I've been going out with my present boyfriend for nearly a half year and hes mad for me and I'm mad for him. Well 2 things really he wants me to squirt and I think im broken...because I cant. Also I need to find THE most safest things to...
A. 13 July 2007: if you want to be extremely safe then i would advise going on the pill and using a condom - this way you are protected from STI's and have two contraceptives. there are also other forms of contraception such as the injection, the tab and the coil. ... (read in full...)
He is a great boyfriend, but completely clueless as to the little things
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now, and I have gotten to the point where the "little things" just seem to agitate me more. He is generally a great boyfriend- loyal, treats me well, keeps me involved in his life, tries to keep me ...
A. 13 July 2007: it sounds to me like you are with a completely NORMAL guy!!!they dont think the same way we do and he is doing absolutely nothing wrong. instead of you expecting him to do the little romantic things why dont you try and organise something romantic ... (read in full...)
Can you get STDs without intercourse?
Q. A quick question can you get any diseases from REAL passionate wet kissing with tongue and mutual masturbation, or dry humping? I had my undies on the whole time, while he wanked and I tried not to come into contact with it....
A. 13 July 2007: like the others say you cant get an STI without his penis coming into contact with you vagina or your mouth and vice versa. so you have nothing to worry about ... (read in full...)
How can a person marry someone they dont even love?
Q. How could a person marry someone that their not even sure if they like or love them? ...
A. 13 July 2007: there are so many answers to this question - some people do it for payment or for their children. others do it if they have been in abusive relationships and need to feel safe but are not in love, alot of ppl do it for security and some ppl may be ... (read in full...)
When you masterbate, why does your penis hurt afterwards?
Q. When you masturbate, why does your penis hurt afterwards?...
A. 13 July 2007: i dont think it should really hurt maybe just a little discomfort. just use some more lubricant if you feel the need and try not to overdo it!! but i really dont think it should be very painful, if it is maybe you should go see your gp to make sure ... (read in full...)
Does he love me or not?
Q. i'm in love with ag guy a year older than me. i love him with all my heart, but the problem now is i don't know how he feels about me. we once had communication breakdown and i sugested we part ways thinking that maybe he will realise that i'm ...
A. 13 July 2007: hey there hun i agree with laura - he has given you no reason to doubt his feelings - if anything he should be feeling like this. it seems to me that he does care and love you and there is no reason you should feel otherwise. if you really are in ... (read in full...)
He is mad about a one night stand that happened 7 years ago!
Q. 10 Years ago I went out with this lad for 3 years, we had a very volatile relationship, we were always finishing, but was strange as we did really love each other and the sex was always great, 1 of the times we split up for 3 months a during that ...
A. 13 July 2007: well what i have got from reading this email is that you had a one night stand wen u were broken up and he was seeing someone else?he is being irrational and selfish - obviously his ego has been bruised. this happened such a long time ago and it ... (read in full...)
Did she have revenge sex?
Q. Revenge Sex? My girlfriend and i were out with another couple. I knew the other girl for years, and we were all drinking. The other girl kissed me, open mouth style and I let her. My girlfriend saw this and was devistated. Two weeks late...
A. 13 July 2007: dont jump to conclusions until you know the truth cos it will just eat away at you. it may or may not have happened and you just need to sit her down and explain why you are having this conversation - ie the marks and the sex instructions.....you ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with us fat girls?
Q. Whats wrong with fat gals? Im a fat gal. I take good care of myself. Better than a lot of skinny gals. Why dont i get noticed? My best friend is skinny and she smells ,always have dog hair all over her cloths ,her handr are dirty ,whx do guys like ...
A. 13 July 2007: hey hun im a believer that guys find curvier girls more attractive and i think its sexier to have a womanly figure!!u sound like u have alot of self confidence and wen the right guys come along they in turn will notice this and love you!!!obviously ... (read in full...)
Why do some people have to be so rude on DearCupid?
Q. i have a question. why do some people have to be so rude on here. whats the point in asking for help when your just going to get ridiculed half the time and not taken seriously. i believe if they need help, help the person if your just going to ...
A. 13 July 2007: i agree with you!people come on this site to get help and find a shoulder to cry on and it makes everything worse wen u get ridiculed for it! ... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to do when I sometimes get depressed without any reason and like to sit alone without even talking to any one?
Q. What am I supposed to do when I sometimes get depressed without any reason and like to sit alone without even talking to any one? Well it's not like I can find someone who would actually listen to me but the thing is I've been so moody the previous ...
A. 13 July 2007: do you not have friends or family that you can confide in??you may think that you have no one who will listen but thats not true!the worst thing you can do wen your feeling like that is be alone - i know you may not be in the mood for company but it ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me just before summer break and I miss her terribly
Q. Hey all, I was with my ex for about 3 months but have known her since the start of uni (we have now both just graduated). She broke up with me before the summer holidays out of the blue, its been almost 3 weeks since the day she left and I still mi...
A. 13 July 2007: i know its hard now but you will get past it. i think its better for you that you have no contact with her cos that would just remind you of wat you had. the best thing you can do is spend time with your friends and family and enjoy wat you do have ... (read in full...)
We talk, we cuddle, we have sex. But he says we are just friends!
Q. I met this guy online. We met, had a couple of dates then he said it wouldn't work. A few weeks later he contacted me again to see how I was and to apologize for hurting me. We now get together and see each other. He says we are just friends and ...
A. 13 July 2007: you need to get out before you get seriously hurt. this guy is taking you for a ride and getting wat he wants from you in the process. if you completely sever ties with him then he will either realise wat he wants or else you can move on and meet ... (read in full...)
I need some new flirting ideas
Q. There's this one guy in particular who I like and I try to flirt with him the best way I know how, eye contact, touching, making him laugh and just generally trying to be a good friend. He responds well to it all and even flirts back, but I'm tired ...
A. 13 July 2007: the key to playing the singles game is all about oozing self confidence! there is also nothing sexier to a guy wen a girl makes the first move or suggestive comments!as for the conversation - this is normal wen there is an attraction between two ... (read in full...)
I am attracted to other girls. Does that mean I am not comitted to my girl?
Q. I am a 26 year old male. I have been with my girlfriend (who is the same age) for two years now, we rent a place together and it has got to the stage where we are looking to buy somewhere. Obviously this means more commitment. I am worried becau...
A. 13 July 2007: ok well in my opinion i think it is normal to find other people attractive its just a question of boundries. try and picture yourself not being with your girlfriend and wat your life would be like without her. you also need to decide whether you are ... (read in full...)
I want my girlfriend to suck me off but she won't.
Q. I want my girlfriend to suck me off but she won't. How can I persuade her otherwise? I go down on her but she won't repay the offer....
A. 13 July 2007: your both quite young and you need to respect the fact that she may not be comfortable enough to do it yet. just because you are fine with doing it to her should not make her obliged to repay you!! persuading her to do something she doesnt want to ... (read in full...)
My mates told me I should masturbate an hour before I have sex.
Q. My mates told me I should masturbate an hour before I have sex. Is this true anyone out there done that? I'm a virgin and they also told me that I could get sexually transmitted disease from my girlfreind even though she's a virgin 2. Can anyone ...
A. 13 July 2007: about the masturbating situation - it would help as it helps the sex last longer. but it is not necessary! as for the STD thing im not really sure about wat you can and cannot get - if she has thrush than you can get it. you should both get tested ... (read in full...)
Do you think im being selfish towards him doing what I did?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been on/off together for 8 years. We have a 3 year old boy which I really don't think he is bothered about. He never buys him clothes or toys it always me who does. He doesn't live with us, he's 40 and still lives with ...
A. 13 July 2007: you are NOT being selfish at all!!this guy is completely taking advantage of the perks of being with you and is in a great situation living with his mum and coming to you wen he wants someone to be with. stand your ground and walk away from this guy ... (read in full...)
I didn't used to like him but since my friend started to like him then I like him too.
Q. help help help!!! my boyfriend doesn't like me talking to his mates especially this one paticular mate. I tell my boyfriend over and over again I do not find him actractive which was true, then an old mate of mine started seeing him. The thing is I ...
A. 13 July 2007: u might just be getting a bit confused now that your friend is seeing this guy. its not him you like its their relationship,how long have you been with your boyfriend?if she is telling all these stories about their sex life then you may just be ... (read in full...)
I have been married 2 years, but I am still a virgin!
Q. I am in need of urgent help. I am almost 28 years old and married since last two years now. it was a love marriage and we both love each other a lot. But i am still a virgin. I am just so scared of the pain even before we start kissing that i do not ...
A. 12 July 2007: you are with someone who loves and clearly respects you and that is such a precious thing to find. first times are different for everyone - unfortunately for me i didnt feel a thing!!u love him and trust him and there should always be that present ... (read in full...)
I got my period but could I still be pregnant?
Q. basicly i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend the day before my period. he came earlier so i guess there was sperm in the pre cum but i was really drunk and i didnt think much about that. ... anyway we had unprotected sex, he didnt actually cum ...
A. 12 July 2007: i think you will be ok - excess bleeding is normal and your period is not always going to be exactly on the clock. if you are very concerned then get tested and put your mind at ease i know how much of a weight a situation like this can put on your ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a 53 year old. How do I tell my Mum?
Q. im seeing a guy that is 30years more that that he 53yo male im a girl we ad sex for 4 years now he in love with me and he give me anything i want all i have to do is ti ask and ive got it and i love him alotbut the age i dont know how to tell me mom ...
A. 16 June 2007: first of all age doesnt matter wen ur in love and im happy that ur so happy with the guy ur with.if its been goin on for 4 yrs i think u should tell ur mum sooner rather than later.she will probably be more hurt and angry knowing that u have kept it ... (read in full...)
Went on a break with my girlfriend, now there's another girl involved.
Q. a few of months ago my ex girlfriends mum past away and she told she needs a break from this relationship so i said it was ok but after 2 months i thought we weren't gonna get back together so i got another girlfriend and ive started to love her but ...
A. 16 June 2007: i think that u should take some time for yourself and try and figure out who means more to you.try and imagine losing them forever - which scenario is worse?!u may need to talk to your 'ex' and let her know how u were in a difficult situation.to be ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is sending emails that sound like she's sleeping with other blokes! She tells me it's nothing to worry about. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 20 years old and have been seeing my girlfriend of the same age for about 9 months now. We met each other at our 'home' town but we study at different universities so it is effectively a 'long-distance relationship' most of the time. Over ...
A. 16 June 2007: wen ur in a relationship with someone u dont cheat and if by any chance u do u should tell your partner.if u do wanna stay with her then u should talk to her as this isnt gonna pass until u know the full story.i think u should talk to her before u ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is very loud when we have sex.
Q. My girlfriend is very loud when we have sex. I actually find it very embarrassing as my walls are very thin and my bedroom is right next to the neigbours. I know they can hear her as I can hear very slight movement in their room like someone opening ...
A. 16 June 2007: at least your neighbours can tell how good you are!!listen she is just trying to enjoy sex and if u tell her about it over and over it may make her very celf concious and she might find it hard to enjoy sex cos she is concentrating too much on her ... (read in full...)
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