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How do you deal with a member of a group who won't give?
Q. Hi, I'm studying events management, and a group of girls in my class are manageing a large event for our final semester of studies. We need to come up with a name for the group and we are deciding between Zap Events or Vibrant Events. The majo...
A. 24 July 2008: i think you made the right choice with vibrant events. i study event management myself, and zap events sounds harsh, impersonal and aggressive. it sounds like there is no personal touch to the event itself and that its quick and then you're out of ... (read in full...)
I wish life had a reset button! I would have chosen another guy...
Q. I wish life had a reset button...why? I know 3 guys 2 my friends both 15, 1 my boyfriend 14, all 3 love me. If life had a reset button i would of taken my chance with the guy that asked me out, i didnt take it so i messed up there. my 2nd friend, he ...
A. 24 July 2008: you say you love your bf sooo much when just before that you say you wish you had chosen someone else? you need to sort your head out!! you say you wish you had a reset button to change guys so stop lying to yourself that you love your bf!
you and ... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant and I'm only 15!
Q. i think i might be pregnant and im only 15! i am with the person whos it will be and have been 4 9 months now. tests r 2 expensive and they dont do them 4 free any where now. what am i suspose to do? and do u think my life will be over if i have a ...
A. 24 July 2008: it never fails to shock me how many girls your age come on this site with this problem - when will you learn to be more careful and not be so silly? your already too young to be having sex and this just proves it!!
you can go to your local NHS clin... (read in full...)
My husband told me he is attracted to her but they are only friends, do I have reasons to worry?
Q. my husband of 19 years met a 23 year old waitress in our local cafe. She has sinced moved to another state but they talk to each other 3-4 times a day. He seems to get upset when i ask if he has talked to her and what they talked about. he has ...
A. 23 July 2008: yes you do have reason to worry. he is being totally disrespectful and unfair to you and this behaviour is completely inappropriate. and the fact that you know he is attracted to her just makes it all the more obvious that this should not be going ... (read in full...)
My lover is seeing someone else. Should I be worried? Am I being silly giving him grief over this?
Q. My husband has alzheimers. I love him deeply, and I love and care for him. The illness has changed my life forever. I am a young 55 so in the end I met another man and we are lovers. I know it is wrong but I have some happiness here this way. I ...
A. 23 July 2008: well in all fairness, he's the single one here - and you cant really say anything anyway since you are married and wont leave your husband. wat else is this guy supposed to do? there is no future in it with you because you will always be married, ... (read in full...)
Has anyone got pregnant while on their period?
Q. can i ask if anyone has gotten pregnant whilst on their period? me and my boyfriend had sex and he had cum on his finger and then fingered me it was all in the moment and then the day after we had sex and he came in me. only alil bit though do...
A. 23 July 2008: get some protection, some sense and a PG test. ... (read in full...)
I think he was recording us when we had sex. What can I do?
Q. i been with my bf for a long time and im not sure but i think he was recording us while was were having sex. and i reali dnt knw wat 2 do. whether to ask him why he done that, or tell my sister about it and if i do i reali dnt knw wat she will do to ...
A. 23 July 2008: so your obviously uncomfortable with this idea. talk to him and ask him if he did record you, and if he did tell him that your not comfortable with that and that you want the tape.
some couples like doing that, but trust is a big issue with some... (read in full...)
My husband is acting suspiciously again. Any sound advice?
Q. I have been married for 18 years, and dated this same man for almost 10 years. He has always been a player and I have always been played somehow. He can control me, manipulate me, and belittle me. At the same time, he can sweet talk me, great in...
A. 23 July 2008: you say you dont want to get a divorce because of your kids. would you rather them stay in a home where their mother is unhappy and cant trust her husband - and their father is playing away? do you not think it would be better for them to grow up in ... (read in full...)
I'm really worried about my girlfriend RIGHT NOW.
Q. I'm really worried about my GF, She doesnt live near mine and she stayed over night and I have to go to work today and I gave her money to go town so she wouldnt get bored at my house, now that she's in town and im at work it worries me, she has not ...
A. 23 July 2008: wow you need to calm down!! she will be fine, she's a big girl - not a toddler. im sure she knows how to ask for directions. and your meeting her later - she's probably enjoying herself so RELAX. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I have other girls - and all because of a silly game. Is this normal behaviour? How do I put the trust back?
Q. Hello All. To get straight to the point. I have been living with my girlfriend for about 2 months. We've been seeing each other for just over 3 years on and off. She went away for work last month and as a surprise i bought her the game s...
A. 23 July 2008: was your friend joking when he said that? not cool!! wat about the name on the game? were you having girls around? you didnt really let us know that part of things. you need to be honest with her and tell her exactly wat happened when she was away. ... (read in full...)
How can you beat a "player" at his own game?
Q. if you know a guy who claims is and honest but is a player when it comes to women how can the woman beat him at his own game and him not even know he is being played back?...
A. 23 July 2008: why bother? your only stooping as low as him then, i think your old enough to be above playing games with men. ... (read in full...)
Weightloss pills... do they work? Which ones are good?
Q. so I've been looking to lose weight and I'm exercising and what not. but I've really been considering using dietary supplements but idk how old you have to be to purchase them from a drugstore. do you have to be 18 or can you buy them at age 15...
A. 23 July 2008: well maybe its the diet that you have been on? there are all sorts of diets out there and certain ones are tailored for you. have you tried weightwatchers? anyone i have ever met has lost loads doing that. curves is another great way to excercise ... (read in full...)
He's been so good to me that I don't feel I can dump him, even though I no longer love him.
Q. I'm 14, and I've been dating this guy for almost 9 months. He's helped me through some of the hardest times in my life such as when my sister died, helping build up my confidence, and being so sweet too me. I love him alot, but now that I'm ent...
A. 23 July 2008: well hun, i know that you love him, but your obviously just not in love with him anymore. its not right to be embarrassed by him, not be attracted to him etc. it would be more selfish to stay with him then to give him the chance to meet someone who ... (read in full...)
I have a feeling something is wrong, do you think I could be pregnant?
Q. So, I am on birth control and I have never had an issue with it, I have been on it for about a year now. I went to visit my boyfriend this past Thursday, and I had taken the pill that day as usual. Friday I forgot to take it, we had sex twice. ...
A. 23 July 2008: well first of all you should look at the instructions for your pill and see wat is said about a pill missed more than 12hours. next - to make yourself feel better, i would take a test just to put your mind at ease. im sure you will get your period ... (read in full...)
Is my cousin trying to get sexual with me?
Q. My cousin is staying with the family and I, but what should I do about his adittude when he is around me? When he pisses off he will think its okay to poke or tickle me i dont like that at all, i mean its nothing sexal but last night he was looking ...
A. 23 July 2008: its very hard to tell if he is being sexual or not. to be honest i dont think so, but i could be wrong. next time he pokes or tickles you ask him to stop - you dont like it and it makes you uncomfortable. he is not really doing anything ... (read in full...)
Weightloss pills... do they work? Which ones are good?
Q. so I've been looking to lose weight and I'm exercising and what not. but I've really been considering using dietary supplements but idk how old you have to be to purchase them from a drugstore. do you have to be 18 or can you buy them at age 15...
A. 23 July 2008: i wouldnt recommend any weightloss pills - they can be very dangerous and have some side effects. if you are looking to lose weight, excercise and eating very well is the best and healthiest way. if you want. you could go to a dietician or GP and ... (read in full...)
What is the etiquette of oral sex?
Q. This is probably a question that will get vastly different answers, but I have been curious to know the answer to the following question: What is the etiquette of oral sex? When you go down on a person, do you expect to kiss them after or do ...
A. 23 July 2008: well when i give oral, or receive. i never kiss after - my boyf doesnt either. i guess its a hygiene thing for us. some ppl do though. after, we usually cuddle for a while and then i brush my teeth. just because you love kissing you shouldnt pass up ... (read in full...)
Is this oral sex or not?
Q. If a girl kisses the shaft of the penis and not the tip, is that considered as oral sex or not....
A. 23 July 2008: does it matter?... (read in full...)
Can you masturbate if your hymen hasn't been broken
Q. can you masturbate if your hymen hasnt been broken...
A. 22 July 2008: you hymen may have already been broken - this can happen through physical excerices, horseriding, gymnastics and other active things. and yes its fine. its not dangerous. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about getting cervical cancer by having sex.
Q. I am afraid of having sex again because of thinking about cerival cancer what can i do? ...
A. 22 July 2008: well wait would be the first thing id say. your too young to be having sex anyway. and secondly, i think that there is a vaccine you can get nowadays at your age. look into it. ... (read in full...)
I really like her, but I don't want a good friendship to be ruined.
Q. I'm a 12 yr old male. I have a VERY good infact shes my BEST friend and shes almost 11 I really like her and im not sure but i think she likes me. She comes over to my house to play games watch movies ETC. She calls me almost every other day ...
A. 22 July 2008: hey there hun. well it sounds like you 2 are really good mates. im just a little confused - you said in the original post that you want her to kow how you feel but then in the update you dont wanna be her boyfriend - do you just want her to know how ... (read in full...)
How do I stop him accusing me of something I've never done?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and we have lived together during the entire relationship.for the past 6 months he has accused me of cheating,left me for days at a time then had me come and get him,ive gotten him out of jail,stopped ...
A. 22 July 2008: why would you give up your life to please a man who doesnt trust you? you have lost your friends and your social life and wat have you got in return? a bum who you have to bust out of jail? not a fair trade if you ask me. this guy sounds like a ... (read in full...)
A big thank you, to all the aunts and uncles, for your great work, helping people.
Q. Not a question! Just a THANK YOU! Wish you could be here! Hey all you dear "Uncles" and "Aunts"; I am very busy preparing for lots of friends and family for Dinner tomorrow night; yeah, like it or not old age creeping closer (LO...
A. 21 July 2008: smiles a big happy birthday to ya!!! have a GREAT night... (read in full...)
I want to have sex, my boyfriend only wants, to have blow jobs, how do I tell him, that I want more sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now and a couple of weeks ago we had sex for the first time. It was my first time ever but not his. But now it seems like all he wants to do is get blowjobs! how do i tell him without being ...
A. 21 July 2008: this isnt fair that he expects only blow jobs from you and gives nothing back. you need to tell him that while you are happy to give him blow jobs, its not a one way street and you enjoy sex and want it from him. its not fair for him to not have sex ... (read in full...)
I am attracted to my sister and want to have a sexual relationship, how do I seduce my sister?
Q. Me and my sister are really close and only a year apart. but i am atracted to her more than most girls. does anyone have any idea as to how i can seduce my sister to have a sexual relationship?...
A. 21 July 2008: you cannot seduce your sister, this is wrong and very very strange - and as she probably knows this i would guess that trouble lies ahead if you try anything. this is just a fantasy so leave it at that. you do know how wrong it is to have a sexual ... (read in full...)
Do I ask her or just go for it?
Q. If I want to kiss my girlfriend for the first time do I ask her if its okay or do I just go for it? (Mod Note: Age shown may be wrong)...
A. 21 July 2008: your (im assuming) over 40 and your asking us if you need to ask your girlfriend for permission to kiss her? she is your girlfriend...that would make me think that yes it is ok to kiss your girlfriend - its kind of wat you do in relationships? and ... (read in full...)
Was he serious when he asked me to marry him? Is this moving too fast?
Q. Hey im 13 and my boyfriend is 14, he says he wants to marry me....a few weeks ago he sent me text 'marry me' i didnt know how to respond i did tell him how i felt thoug. What if asks me and means it so that i can understand if he is being serious, ...
A. 21 July 2008: he's 14? honey i dont think he is being 100% serious when he says this - and if he is then i would be a little freaked out! he could have said that meaning that you're the woman he wants to marry in the future...or maybe he wants an understanding. ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this annoying, cheap, and obsessive kid?
Q. This kid in my class is a total bitch lets call him "joe". He thinks this girl who dosen't like him belongs to him and he won't let anyone talk to her, lets call her "jane". So jane and one of her friends were walking around town and decided ...
A. 21 July 2008: can i just ask how old you are? it says you're in the 10-12 age group but i somehow find it hard to believe that someone that age is this mature and pulls 'political strings'? just a question... (read in full...)
What should I do about this annoying, cheap, and obsessive kid?
Q. This kid in my class is a total bitch lets call him "joe". He thinks this girl who dosen't like him belongs to him and he won't let anyone talk to her, lets call her "jane". So jane and one of her friends were walking around town and decided ...
A. 21 July 2008: i dont think that should be playing pranks on him - its not fair on him, no matter how annoying or mean he is - doing that to him is stooping just as low as him. if he still believes that the 2 are going out let him know the truth and leave it at ... (read in full...)
How do I build confidence in the bedroom?
Q. Hi everyone, just wanted to know do the majority of guys like gettin blowjobs?? Ive been with my boyfriend 10months and we have sex and everthing else but i have never given him a blowjob although he has given me oral, hes never said anythin about ...
A. 20 July 2008: well first of all - this guy is with you and obviously enjoys having sex with you - so he already loves your body, dont feel concious in front of him hun, he obviously thinks your gorgeous!! as for the blow job thing, its actually very easy to do. ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this annoying, cheap, and obsessive kid?
Q. This kid in my class is a total bitch lets call him "joe". He thinks this girl who dosen't like him belongs to him and he won't let anyone talk to her, lets call her "jane". So jane and one of her friends were walking around town and decided ...
A. 20 July 2008: ignore him. and next time those girls come over to your house - dont let them use you as fuel to anger this kid. he's obviously got issues and just because he is annoying and weird, he doesnt deserve that kind of treatment - it just makes you guys ... (read in full...)
If he is too scared to propose to me, should I propose to him? What do you think?
Q. I've been with my partner for quite some time now and we're beginning to talk wedding and family wise. Thing is, I think he's too scared to propose to me. He's given himself so many opportunities, but then backs out and says something else. I wa...
A. 20 July 2008: em...wait? you're so young - slow down!! its ridivulous to start thinking of marriage and a family at your age, slow down and live your life before you bring another one into it. ... (read in full...)
Is not bleeding after your first time normal?
Q. hi i am worried, if you do not bleed after having sex for the first time normal? so many of my friends said that after their first time they bled.. but i didnt and i havent used tampons either.. is this normal? ...
A. 20 July 2008: yes it is. not everyone experiences pain or bleeding during their first time - i didnt experience any of the above. for everyone its different. so dont worry. ... (read in full...)
All the guys I like are way out of my league. What do I do?
Q. I dont understand life anymore... i often feel so ugly because i dont have a boyfriend...all my friends do,and when they leave me (or shud i say ditch...) for their other half i feel like im a sad waste for a teenager.. its like all the guys ...
A. 18 July 2008: well if you are low in confidence - then this shines through and other ppl can see it. one of the things that guys find really attractive is confidence in girls. so no matter how low you are feeling, smack a smile on your face and walk into every ... (read in full...)
Can going to the gym ONCE on a serious work out make ANY visible difference?
Q. Exactly what the title says really, my friend has a free pass for the gym and told me to go with her to give it a try, I am allowed to stay as long as I want for the day at the gym, and I know this is a stupid question but I just wanted to double...
A. 18 July 2008: no. you cant expect to go into the gym for a few hours and come out a different person.
in order to see a difference physically you need to excercise regularly and eat well. swimming, walking, dancing, surfing and tennis are great ways to work on y... (read in full...)
I worry about shaving my pubic area... how can my friends do it?
Q. Basically, 1. I am 16 and a 32D. All my friends are sizes 30F or 32F etc. I am scared i don't get any bigger because i haven't changed in a year. I am really worried. 2. Recently my friends have been speaking about shaving their pubic hair and o...
A. 18 July 2008: hey hun first of all - everyone has different shapes and bodies - dont compare yourself with your friends. you are actually quite big breasted for your age and it is a lovely size to be, so dont feel worried. (your friends must have HUGE boobs!!!). ... (read in full...)
How do you know breaking up was the right thing to do?
Q. How do you know if you have done the right thing in breaking up with a long term partner? Ive been unhappy with our relationship for a while, (the things he does and doesnt do etc) but i have also been unhappy with myself for a while too. im no...
A. 18 July 2008: the other poster is right - this is a good question.
it is normal to feel like this after a break up - esp if it was long term or love was involved. its normal to feel sad and think that you wanna get back together - after all you have been thro... (read in full...)
My partners 16 year old daughter has stripped in front of me on two occasions. Do I tell her mother?
Q. My partners 16 year old daughter has stripped naked in front of me on two occassions and i am confused as to tell her mother or not....
A. 18 July 2008: you need to say something to her daughter first and let her know that this is not appropriate behaviour. is she doing it in a sexual way do you think?
if she did, then you do need to talk to her mother. but if you think that she was just gett... (read in full...)
How do I show this guy I like him?
Q. There is this guy who I really really really like! I'm not in any of his classes..but we sometimes talk at school and smile at each other (we text more then we speak, - but we don't text everyday....) Should I text him sayng I like him? or not...
A. 18 July 2008: texting is a great invention as it is a great way to naughtily flirt and stuff. has he showed any signs of liking you? wat are you texts like?
maybe you could text him and ask him wat he is doing at the weekend. see wat he says back and maybe sugg... (read in full...)
How do I show this guy I like him?
Q. There is this guy who I really really really like! I'm not in any of his classes..but we sometimes talk at school and smile at each other (we text more then we speak, - but we don't text everyday....) Should I text him sayng I like him? or not...
A. 18 July 2008: texting is a great invention as it is a great way to naughtily flirt and stuff. has he showed any signs of liking you? wat are you texts like?
maybe you could text him and ask him wat he is doing at the weekend. see wat he says back and maybe sugg... (read in full...)
I foolishly told him I love him because I thought he needed some love; what can I do to mend my mistake?
Q. I recently told a man I loved him becasue he had been through some bad stages in his life and thought he needed some love. I meant well but of course naturally he doesnt like it,which I can understand, so now I have lost him as a friend. I KNOW it ...
A. 18 July 2008: well how did you tell him you loved him? i mean you could say that you meant it just as friends - ie that you love him as a friend and nothing more? im sure you could say that and he would understand.
if not, then maybe wait for the dust to sett... (read in full...)
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