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I feel like the relationship isnt fun anymore
Q. Hi. Ive been with my girlfriend for 6months, it started off well, but im not so sure now. She has just turned 17 and i am 20. There are qualities i like about her that are different to my ex, but other qualities im not so keen on. I feel l...
A. 10 April 2008: ok so you have only been together 6 months and already the novelty has worn off? strange as that may be to me, its not my relationship so i dont know what your going through. however, if you find that you have slumped into a routine that doesnt ... (read in full...)
A part of my stomach near the belly button is swollen...this started since dieting.
Q. Dear Cupid I would like to know what does this mean, a part of my stomach near the belly button is swollen like bloated appearance and the other is sort of in. Will this go away later or should i go doctor's to get it checked out? All these prob...
A. 9 April 2008: hey hun, this could be a sign of your body adjusting to the new diet, but just to be on the safe side i would go and see your GP. if you have started eating alot of new foods, your body could be reacting to them. this could be a sign of IBS or ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating to masterbate over pictures of your wife's sisters?
Q. Is it cheating because I masturbate over pictures of my wife's two sisters?...
A. 4 April 2008: cheating - no. but pervy, cruel and just plain weird - yeah. why are you doing this? are you not attracted to your wife anymore? you need to think about why you are doing this and why you arent masturbating over pics of YOUR wife - not her family. ... (read in full...)
My uncle is sex-pesting me, I don't want to say anything to my family, but what can I do?
Q. Hi, While I was camping a couple of years ago I slept in another camper tent. There are three double beds. My Cousin in one my other cousin in another and next to one of the beds is another one that my aunty and uncle sleep. I slept next to my...
A. 4 April 2008: what this man is doing is WRONG!!! you need to tell him that what he is doing is making you really uncomfortable, he knows he is wrong and that if he doesnt stop you WILL tell someone. you dont have to tell your family, you can tell the authorities ... (read in full...)
Does child abuse make you question your sexuality in later life ?
Q. I think,reading between the lines and small things mentioned,that my boyfriend may have been abused in his past,possibly as a child.As a result of this he is unable to have sex and has called an end to the realtionship stating he is not in love with ...
A. 4 April 2008: do you know if he has actually been abused or are you just guessing this? it is true that ppl who have been sexually abused in the past can find it difficult to trust another person and feel comfortable with sex. it is something that ppl may never ... (read in full...)
I have no problem erecting but I can't "finish"-Help!
Q. I am 21 and when i have intercourse i cant get off. I dont know what is wrong with me but when i have sex i have no problem getting it hard and ready but once i start i just cant orgasum. The girls that I am with usually have to stop before i even ...
A. 4 April 2008: ok so you have problems achieving orgasm through sex - what about other forms eg oral sex and masturbation? i think you need to spend time doing foreplay before sex instead of just going straight into sex. also, try different positions and ... (read in full...)
Currently in a long distance relationship, but I find myself asking other women out, is there cause for concern?
Q. Hello, I've been in a relationship for 4 years now. We're currently apart (since last August) because of work reasons. Since being apart I have been looking at other women having the urge to ask them out on dates. In some cases I have asked. I...
A. 28 March 2008: hey - well i think you need to sit down and and think about whether or not you really do want to be with her. long distance relationships are difficult and the ppl involved need to be completely committed to eachother. if you are not ready to have ... (read in full...)
I have a love bite at the top of my neck - how to make the bruise disappear faster?
Q. i got a love bite last night, the redness seems to have disappeared as i put ice in it to reliease the capillaries, but it's still a huge bruise and it looks horrible. i'm going away tomorow, can i get rid of my bruise by then as i'll be wering ...
A. 23 March 2008: sudacream or toothpaste... (read in full...)
15 and taking erotic pictures for my BF - is that bad?
Q. I'm 15 and I take pornagraphic pictures of myself for my boyfriend(16) and he loves them . I'm glad he likes them but somtimes I feel like it's worng for me to do it . Could you give me your opinion. I don't mind taking the pictures and I love ...
A. 23 March 2008: well when it come to doing something like that you do have to be careful. there is always the risk of these pics getting out and being passed into the wrong hands. once you feel comfortable and happy with yourself, then i think its ok and healthy - ... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's a lesbian? I like her...
Q. Okay so I have this friend. We have been friends for about two years now and we're really good friends. For a really long time I have had the worker biggest crush on her. I am a girl! I find myself thinking about her a lot and I touch her when we're ...
A. 22 March 2008: hey hun, well you guys are already very close, so im guessing you talk about private things alot etc. why not say to her that ppl have said to you that she may be a lesbian and you just wanted to know the truth - and assure her that it doesnt bother ... (read in full...)
We were just laying together! My mum thinks we had sex and now doesn't trust me! What can I do?
Q. hey people out there I NEED HELP! Well i'm 14 and i have a boyfriend that I've been with for 1 year and 4 months. And today he came over to my apartment and we were in my bed just laying down! NOTHING HAPPENED! And my mom came home and saw us laying ...
A. 22 March 2008: well right now your mum is just a little shocked and she just needs a bit of time to cool down so just give her a bit of space for now. then sit her down and explain to her that you werent having sex and arent having sex yet, and that she has got to ... (read in full...)
Do my symptoms mean I'm pregnant?
Q. Okay so i think im pregnant, i had sex with my bf about a month and a half ago and the past month i have been getting morning sickness four days a week roughly, and i missed my period twice does this mean im pregnant?? please help me i dont want t...
A. 21 March 2008: why dont you want to take a pregnancy test - despite the fact that you may be pregnant? we are not doctors hunny, you need to go to a doctor AND take a pregnancy test. no offence, but not wanting to take one is not the smartest move. you cant keep ... (read in full...)
How can a man be in a relationship with one woman and have another one on the side?
Q. why do men act as if they are god? how can a man be in a relationship with one woman then have a nother on side as cutt buddie explain? ...
A. 19 March 2008: well alot of men, sex can be nothing more - and they don't see any emotional attachments when they have it. with women it's different - when we have sex with someone we become emotionally attached to this person. while a man can be in love with a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex. How do I stop this?
Q. hi my name is michele and i am 15 years old. well i have been with my boyfrined for 7 months and he is rushing me into things that i dont want to do. how can i stop this from happening. thanks michele P.s please help...
A. 18 March 2008: why are you letting him pressurise you into these things? you are too young to be doing this, and you should refuse to be forced into something so quickly. if this guy really did care for you and respect you, then he would wait until you're ready. ... (read in full...)
Why is it that we are having more sex than ever and we are supposed to have split up?
Q. Why is it that we are having more sex than ever and we are supposed to have split up?...
A. 10 March 2008: this can happen with alot of couples who have 'broken up'. it may have something to do with the fact that you both know you are not 'emotionally' attached to eachother anymore and are just both focusing on the passion that still exists between you. ... (read in full...)
She knows that I like her but told me that it was going to be hard for me because of her attachment to her ex.
Q. I recently met somebody (three months ago) and started becoming attracted to her about a month ago. I found out that she just got out of a relationship (very short) but she's told me that they put closure to it but it's still hard to let go, because ...
A. 10 March 2008: i think that you should respect the fact that she stlll has feelings for her ex, and that she was honest with you about how hard it would be for her to move on right now. i think that you should give her some time to get over this guy. after all it ... (read in full...)
What is BAD sex to you?
Q. What, to you, constitutes "lackluster" sex?...
A. 10 March 2008: no passion, too quiet, no foreplay!!... (read in full...)
I feel like he’s disrespected me and I don’t know how to deal with it. Any thoughts?
Q. I dated a guy for 2 months before he left to work at a ski resort in Colorado for the winter (he made these plans months before we met, because 1) he’s in debt and the US pays more and 2) his ex broke his heart so he wanted to leave). Three weeks ...
A. 7 March 2008: "the love was too strong to let it go".....after 5 months??? hmmm...i dunno about that. love takes a long time to grow in strength, and the fact that he was still talking to his ex like that makes me think that the love was not a strong as he said. ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity on Sunday... could I be pregnant?
Q. After having sex for the first time, I've noticed I'm very damp below and also since yesterday having diarrhoea my mate said I could possibly be pregnant? I'm not sure but we did not use protection and he didn't cum inside me he pulled out before, ...
A. 7 March 2008: while its very unlikely that you are pregnant - there is a possibility. why didnt you use protection? the dampness down there is normal after having sex, but im not sure if its normal to happen for this long! also the diarrhea could just be a sign ... (read in full...)
I worry about breaking up with my boyfriend
Q. Hello ! Me and my boyfriend are really happy together .. but i worry losing him as i have done before.. we get along realy well just laods of rumors go around but we still stay strong. i cant bare losing him . if we split what is the best i ca...
A. 7 March 2008: hey hun, im a little confused - are you afraid that these rumours will break the 2 of you up? rumours are rumours - and most of the time they come out of thin air - so just ignore them. dont let other petty ppl and wat they say affect how happy you ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend troubles
Q. hi!! i am going out with thhis girl z for about 1 month and we both like each other but when ether we are are youth club and we go of to be alone and have a walk and talk hug and snog. this lad who z has been out with before folows us and it is ...
A. 7 March 2008: eh first of all dont listen to the anonymous poster!! telling someone you will beat them up is stupid, immature and potentially dangerous. has she said anything to him? maybe she should talk to him rather than you - she can give him closure and make ... (read in full...)
I keep breaking up with my boyfriend, getting back together, breaking up. It is a merry go round!
Q. i keep getting back with my ex and after a few days i either get bored,or find something in his behaviour that annoys me,and i tell him to break up..and later,i regret it and do the same!how can i stop this???...
A. 7 March 2008: you cant keep doing this to this guy - you say you get bored or annoyed by him after just a few days? well to me it doesnt sound like you want to be with this guy. it sounds more like you just miss the idea of having a boyf and thats why you go back ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for middle aged guys to masterbate?
Q. O.k i don't know whether its me just being naive but i need to know whether this is normal? I have caught my dad a couple of times masturbating in his bedroom...believe me that was traumatising enough but what i want to know is, is it normal for a ...
A. 7 March 2008: hey well yeah of course this is normal! men of all ages masturbate, and sometimes it can also be to relieve tension and stress as well as for sexual pleasure. of course it is going to be traumatic for you to see, but it is normal. next time, maybe ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to contract HIV by getting a tattoo?
Q. my boy friend wants to get a tattoo. is it possible for him to get infected with HIV? ...
A. 7 March 2008: unless he gets it done on the side of a road - no! once the tattoo artist is very professional, hygenic, and uses the right utensils - it is fine. they never use the same needle twice so the risk is non existent. just research the place he goes to ... (read in full...)
He's having an affair with another woman, and we are all sharing the same house. Does he love me?
Q. hello dear cupid, i just want to know whether my partner loves me or not because he's divorced and 20 years older than me, i'm just 22 he's also having an affair with another woman, keeping both of us in the same house, i just want to know whether ...
A. 7 March 2008: oh my god WHAT? you mean to tell me that the 3 of you are all living in the same house and he is sleeping with both of you? wow - how long have you let this go on? this is sick if you ask me. of course he doesnt love you!!! what on earth makes you ... (read in full...)
He says their just friends and I need to trust him, but can I?
Q. split with my ex of 15 years 18 months ago.last summer he wanted to be back with me,i said i needed a couple of weeks to think about it,by that time he turns round and says to late he had found someone else. things didnt workout with this women an...
A. 7 March 2008: well the first red light here is that he was only happy to get back with you when he was rejected by the woman he bumped you for - this is a bit selfish of him to just come running to you when he has nothing else. i wouldn't be happy about this ... (read in full...)
Who's spreading these vicious rumors?
Q. I'm confused! i met this girl and we have a lot of things in common. but ever since i started hanging out with her, vicious rumours have started going around about me! and my friends say she spreads them. who should i believe? ...
A. 7 March 2008: well this girl is new on the scene and you have just met her right? and your other friends - im presuming - have been with you alot longer? if it were me, i would be a bit suspicious - very coincidental that the rumours only start when you start ... (read in full...)
It's my first relationship, how do I know if he's the one?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months. We are 22 and it is my first relationship. For the last two months I have been continuously questioning whether or not he is "the one for me." It often leads me to believe that he is not. Then I ...
A. 7 March 2008: well when you know your happy with someone - you just know, you dont question it and start weighing up the bad and the good - and you dont usually come up with more bad. what is so wrong with him that you dont think this is working for you? you said ... (read in full...)
Quiz - who want's sex more often?
Q. This is more like a quiz for you guys ... I spoke to my BF and we kinda disagree on: "WHO WANT'S SEX MORE OFTEN IN A RELATIONSHIP .. GIRLS OR GUYS?" So guys and girls ... hit me w some fun answers :) Lierin ...
A. 7 March 2008: hmmm...well there is no easy way to answer that really. it all depends on the relationship, the people in it, their sex life, and wat they like etc. in my relationship its kinda equal. sometimes he wants it wen i dont though - which is not a ... (read in full...)
The fact I have not conceived just yet is taking over my life!
Q. Hi, i said i wasn't going to get stressed regarding baby making but i feel like its taking over my life, i came off the contraceptive pill in september 2007 after i had been on it for 8 years, im 22 almost 23, me and my partner decided to try for a ...
A. 6 March 2008: well these symptoms are all part of the menstrual cycle too so you may probably arent pregnant. but if you still feel unsure i would go to your GP and get tested - these tests are different as they are blood tests, not urine tests. but also, i ... (read in full...)
My letter to him was opened by the WIFE he "forgot" to mention!!!!!
Q. I'm in a pickle. I'm married, but have been texting and seeing this bloke for 20 months, the relationship was slowing down, so I sent him a letter, unfortunately it was opened by the wife he had "forgotten" to mention, and all hell broke loose! Wife ...
A. 6 March 2008: you feel let down? well in all fairness - you were having an affair! if you are married then wats to say he wasnt you know? you have to admit that wat you did was wrong and hurtful to your husband. this other man has only done wat you have done, so ... (read in full...)
I'm insanely jealous and annoyed to see him with someone else, although we never dated! How to forget him?
Q. Question.. How do you get over someone? This is someone I could only be 'friends' with due to that individual's circumstances, however now he's moved on and we don't have contact and never see eachother out or anything. At the time I really li...
A. 6 March 2008: hey hun - well i agree with the last post, i think the reason why you are still having these feelings for him is becuase you never got any real closure or reaction from him, and so there is probably the slight hope left that he will come around. ... (read in full...)
Would I get over her if she had left me alone after I broke up with her, or is she using psychology to keep me in her life by not letting go?
Q. It's been over a year since we started going out. Within that time, I broke up and made up with her, 3 or 4 times. She could never stop calling me or wanting to be with me and I would give in, and return. We knew each other for 10 years prior to ...
A. 6 March 2008: i think that if you have broken up with this woman so many times - then you dont really want to be with her. it doesnt really sound like you are happy about getting roped back into a relationship every time you do. take a break from her, and dont ... (read in full...)
I'm male and wear women's panties. Do you out there think I'm an effeminate wimp?
Q. I've already sent this in but no reply. My problem is I've been wearing womens panties since I was 14, I wear a full brief panty mostly nylon plain no lace. I'm 5ft-7ins and small framed, I weigh 10st-7lb my chest is 34ins my waist is 28ins but my ...
A. 6 March 2008: i think that your 'lady friend' is an absolute bitch - excuse the harsh language - but how dare she put you down like that wen you are naked and vulnerable? wat makes her think that pointing out the size of your penis is in any way appropriate? im ... (read in full...)
Why won't my girlfriend satisfy me anymore? Please help!
Q. My gf and I have been together for almost a year now. When we first met we didn't leave the bed for 6 weeks unless it was to eat or go to work. She very sexually open. We would try different positions, give each other oral, 69, etc. She once ...
A. 6 March 2008: maybe the two of you just did too much too fast? i think that she should respect wat is going on and be able to sit down and talk to you about it - tell her that. you NEED to figure out wat is going on with her - she may be having problems, she may ... (read in full...)
I got myself in a bit of a tangle. I have got 2-3 boyfriends and a fiance!!!
Q. please help, I got myself in a bit of a tangle. I have got 2/3 boyfriends and a fiance, my fiance lives abroad, my first boyfriend I have been with him for 4 years but it has been a rocky relationship on and off and my fiance I don't even know him ...
A. 6 March 2008: how many guys are you seeing? i got a bit confused there, what i gathered is that you're seeing 3 guys and engaged to a 4th? hun. come on - does any of this sound smart? and you dont even seem to be involved in any of these 'relationships' - i use ... (read in full...)
Am I gay or is it just my hormones?
Q. Ok, I'm sorry for the length of my question... I'm really confused and don't know what to do, I sometimes think I'm gay/bi but I just don't know! I've previously liked girls from school and at the moment I like one girl an awful lot! I also know ...
A. 5 March 2008: ah hun this is normal for a girl your age - and yeah it is just hormones. when your going through puberty your hormones are raging and you feel confused. so dont worry your just growing up!... (read in full...)
It really bothers me that he wasn't honest with me...
Q. Last week the guy that I have been talking to asked me to be his girl friend. Before we started dating he mentioned to me that he was not a virgin but that he has only had sex with 2 and they were both his girlfriends. Over some time I have heard ...
A. 5 March 2008: talk to him and ask him what the truth is and why he lied to you. he may have just said that to make you feel more comfortable with you lack of experience - and there is nothing wrong with that - we all tell a white lie about our sex life now and ... (read in full...)
Am I Nuts?
Q. My wife and I have a male friend (Mark) who's been very close to us for about 4 years. The 3 of us spend a lot of time together, going to the movies, dinner, weekend trips, etc and my wife and I enjoy his company, respect him and appreciate his ...
A. 5 March 2008: i completely disagree with hello1 - you are not crazy!! you have found what alot of us spend a lifetime looking for - a loving, secure, trusting relationship. i think its amazing that you guys are so secure and in love with eachother that you are ... (read in full...)
He's asked me to have "nasal sex!!!" What the hell's that???
Q. Hi, I know this is going to sound pretty weird but please help me with my relationship because everything was great until my boyfriend asked if we could have nasal sex. I don't even now what that is or if he's for real but one time he asked for it ...
A. 5 March 2008: nasal sex is when the male penetrates the nasal passage with his penis. i know it sounds awful - the first question that pops to mind is - is that even possible? apparently so. if you are not ok with doing this - and my guess and hope is that you ... (read in full...)
He used a condom but I'm panicking in case I'm pregnant!!!
Q. Hi. I'm seventeen, nearly eighteen and my boyfriend and I just started having sex about three weeks ago (it was my first time). I am not on the pill, but he has been using condoms (100% properly). I was worried about pregnancy so on February 29th I ...
A. 5 March 2008: relax hun!!! you are not pregnant! you mentioned that you have had irregular and late periods before due to stress - and what are you doing now? you are causing yourself unecessary stress here, so your period is late! and yes, it is possible that ... (read in full...)
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