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My girlfriend is moving in with a guy (and 5 others) that she has kissed, in the past. I am concerned! Advice?
Q. hi, my girlfriend of a year has recently moved to uni after a few months she kissed a guy who lives next to her in her halls, i let this go and forgave her but it happened again however she said she pulled away that time but i broke of our rel...
A. 16 January 2008: well you are not being unreasonable, fair enough if she scored him before you were together but she cheated on you with him twice so this is inappropriate. she should understand this and respect why you would be feeling this way. chances are she ... (read in full...)
I want to be friends with her again...how do I go about getting her to talk to me again?
Q. My friend and I have been friends since kindergarten and although we dont hang around the same group of friends, we'd still always talk and hang out together throughout highschool. We've entered our first year and halfway through the first semester ...
A. 16 January 2008: well first of all she is probably hurting that she was considered to be your bf and you didnt even tell her about your new bf - that is a bit weird. so you are goin to have to be prepared to admit that you went about certain things in the wrong way. ... (read in full...)
I want him back but not sure how to get him back,..any help is appreciated!
Q. Recently ive been thinking of my ex bf ive not spoke or seen him since we split at the start of december last year,we where not together that long and he called it off,he was also my first bf.The thing is its getting worse like thinking of him more ...
A. 16 January 2008: well maybe the reason why you are thinkin about him in this way is because he was your first boyf and you really liked the thought of being in a relationship.because he was your only bf you only have him to think of in that way and that might be it. ... (read in full...)
I want to ask this girl at work out, but we've never talked, how do I approach her?
Q. How do you go about asking someone out you like but have never really talked to before? Im a kind of shy/quiet guy and theres a girl a really like that i work with, only problem is she works on a different department and iv never had the chance to ...
A. 16 January 2008: why dont you come up with a situation that makes you too bump into eachother 'accidently on purpose'?? i.e sharing the elevator, even walking past her etc. start by saying how you have seen her and introduce yourself, ask her about her work - but ... (read in full...)
How do I ask this girl out?
Q. This is my issue: When I go to the gym, I run across this girl whom I find attractive. She looks me in the eyes really strongly (or at least thats the impression I have) and I know I'm a decent looking dude, so I don't think its in my im...
A. 16 January 2008: does she have any english?? well if you really wanna impress her learn some spanish, and ask her, then ask her if she could help you with your spanish. if you take her for dinner, take her to a really authentic romantic spanish place to make her see ... (read in full...)
Who do I believe---him or his pregnant ex gf?
Q. I have a tricky situation and I could do with some advice. I've been seeing a guy for around a month now, and we've got on so great, he's the best thing thats happened to me in ages and he feels the same way. Everything was going perfectly...
A. 16 January 2008: that is a tricky situation that your in. only you can make the decision whether or not you believe him or her, and if this really was his child, would it make a huge difference to you? he's not with her anymore, and he is happy with you. my guess ... (read in full...)
I have a porn addiction and I need help getting through this.
Q. I am 20 and although I am single, I think I have a porn addiction. I have got the K9 web protection program seeing as that I couldn't reach a target of 1 week without porn (which lasted 1 day). Is there anything else I should to beat the ...
A. 16 January 2008: well other than seeking help if you think that this could be very serious, i suggest you get out more - not trying to sound mean!! do you have an active social life?? you need to get out and meet real women that offer real excitment and fun. how ... (read in full...)
He harrassed me at school, I reported him and he got suspended. Was I wrong to do this?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. I really need advice. This boy who is in my class has been flirting with me for a while now since school started. and then he does gross, inapropriate stuff around me with words or physical contact. Ive held this in for 4 ...
A. 16 January 2008: well i dont think you were wrong, if this guy was making you feel uncomfortable and unsafe then you were right to say something. as for him liking you, there are more appropraite ways to go about that!! dont mind wat others say to you, you felt ... (read in full...)
Just want to tell everyone and the whole world....I'M IN LOVE!!
Q. im in love wooooooo! im aware this isnt a question but i wanted to tell the world =]...
A. 16 January 2008: haha!! congrats good luck, love is FABULOUS!!! xx... (read in full...)
What makes a guy a virgin?
Q. In the thread, "What makes you are Virgin?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-makes-you-are-virgin.html , a girl asked how "virgin" was defined for women. How about a FOLLOW-UP QUESTION: Girls, how do you define a virgin guy? Does h...
A. 16 January 2008: why does this matter to you? a virgin is someone who has not had penetrative sex - entering a woman's vagina. these days, some ppl who have had anal sex are considered to be still a virgin, while others consider them not to be. i would say that if ... (read in full...)
I told him I slept with a guy while we were on a break and he flipped! He doesn't want me now! Advice?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs on and off. I love him with all my heart and he means alot to me. The longest we've ever been apart has been one month, within that month I was dating another guy. The reason for our b...
A. 16 January 2008: your relationship is over - the 2 of you are lying to eachother, being with other ppl and using it as fuel for a fight!! he's an ass for reacting like that, leave him and move on, he's not worth it.... (read in full...)
Is it fair to make her choose?
Q. Hi! I have a girlfriend of 2 years and I deeply love her. Recently we had a bit of a relationship breakdown and she went to a male friend of her and he used her weakness and kissed her and tried to have sex with her but she stopped him. Things are ...
A. 16 January 2008: well i think that you should talk to her and voice your concerns, you have every right to feel like this, considering wat they did and wat he tried to do, he is just waiting for the next breakdown to happen, and he is doin a good job. tell her how ... (read in full...)
Am I just a friend with benefits??
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been seeing this girl for the past 3 months. We have had sex numerous times, she stays over my house, we go to dinners, movies etc Yet she says she only sees me as a friend. I really like her, what should I do?...
A. 16 January 2008: well to be honest, in my eyes, a friend with benefits is someone that you solely have sex with, nothing else - not dinner, cinema etc. however, she may just want to be friends with you and just enjoy your company. my advice is to tell her how you ... (read in full...)
How do you come to terms with the decisions you've made in life?
Q. How do you come to terms with the decisions you've made in life? I got married at 19 because my mother died suddenly and I had no direction in my life. By age 23, I realized I had made a mistake. My husband and I had nothing in common. He was moody ...
A. 16 January 2008: there is no curse, there is no karma to wat you've done...you have made mistakes, you have learned from them. wat you did does not make you an awful person or any less deserving of love, happiness and forgivness. this man that you were married to ... (read in full...)
Will a butt plug damage me?
Q. hi there, i would like to know what damage can be done to the anus if a butt plug is inserted and is kept there for 4-5 hrs a day every day...
A. 16 January 2008: why would you put a butt plug in for that long?... (read in full...)
My ex is engaged but I think I want him back
Q. i am a 26 year old female, when i was 17 years old i started dating a boy, we were together almost two years, became *engaged*, but then at one point broke up....we have since moved to diffrent states and our lives have gone on, i got married and ...
A. 16 January 2008: well first of all you need to consider the possibilty that he may really love this woman and want to marry her, but there also may be a chance that he is lying to himself. has there been any sign or anything that he may still have feeling for you?if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 6 years has stopped taking my calls
Q. Hi can someone help me, i am in desperate need of an answer. My boyfriend of nearly six years has for the past week stopped answering my calls and wont give me a reason why! ive text him, phoned him and left voice messages but no reply. I know not...
A. 16 January 2008: i know this is such a hard place to be in, but constantly calling him and chasing him is only going to make him feel smothered. leave him be for a few days, and if there is still no word, call over to him, and just tell him that you want a straight ... (read in full...)
Is he too young for me? Will he let me down too?
Q. A friend I've had for 5 months has told me he likes me. We kissed the other night and I really like him - I got that lovely crazy lustful feeling :o) The only problem is, my last ex (who I lived with) was a few years younger than me. He turned o...
A. 16 January 2008: thats completely normal that you have had your trust dented a bit, but you have to try to not compare the past with the present. this guy has had more life experiences than others, and that will have matured him somewhat. he sounds like a great guy, ... (read in full...)
My ex best friend fancies my ex
Q. ive known this lad since i was about 4 years old. weve been close all the time. even dated at one point. i do fancy him. and i used too love him. but that faded when we fell out for 6 months. the problem is one of my exbestmates fancies him ...
A. 16 January 2008: ok it sounds to me that the relationship you both once had is over - in both of your eyes, you both are still finding it hard to hear of other ppl entering your life and that is completely normal - you have known eachother for so long, and been ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and seeing a 22 year old guy, my Mum's gone mental
Q. hi i need a lot of help i've been going out this 22 year old he says he really like me and i like him my mum found out yesterday and is punishing me by the way i'm 13. I need a way to convince her i haven't had sex yet please help!!!!...
A. 16 January 2008: ok first of all your mum is just looking out for you - wen this happens, it can often end up with the younger girl getting hurt and taken advantage of - not that this will happen to you. she is just doin wat is best for you. it doesnt seem like she ... (read in full...)
Been single a while, advice on dating this guy please!
Q. I've been out of the dating scene a while, I work at a pub and have developed a friendship with one of the locals who is a regular (same age as me). We've been very chatty and friendly for about 5 months, we swapped numbers a while back and h...
A. 16 January 2008: he likes you, you like him - first step over with!! dating is like riding a bike - once you have done it you never lose the touch!! just let him know that while you really like him, you wanna take things a little slow as you havent done this in a ... (read in full...)
My best friend is always out with my ex
Q. hi id like some advice from some1 who doesnt know me.i have a daughter who is nearly two years old and have recently had to stop her father seeing her due to him always letting her down and some other stuff. the problem is that my best friend goes...
A. 16 January 2008: ok first of all i think that if you want this girl back in your life, you are gonna need to contact her and invite her up to talk about this properly - no arguments. you both probably got your wires crossed and left even more confused then before. ... (read in full...)
Was it an orgasm or not?
Q. Well, I lost my virginity 6 months ago and I've always masturbated me. The first time I had sex I felt a big pressure, like an orgasm, but not the regular one I always got every time I masturbate, however I'd like to know if that was really an ...
A. 16 January 2008: an orgasm is an orgasm, if you had one you would know. all orgasms feel more or less the same. but i wouldnt worry, with your first time it would be very uncommon for you to experience an orgasm - some women may never achieve on through ... (read in full...)
Did she really love me or was I a fool?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend, we were together for nearly a year and i moved half way accross the country bringing my children with me to live with her. She became very low in confidence and wouldnt trust me at all and this led to arguments. I love ...
A. 16 January 2008: with these situations you just never know - she may be trying to get out of this easily, or she may be just very irrational and insecure. the other possibilty is that maybe she just felt overwhelmed - one second she is living alone, the next she is ... (read in full...)
What should we do, as my date's live-in partner is very violent and she feels threatened to stay with him?
Q. hi i have recently started seeing a girl who has a baby, but still lives with the babies dad,even though they are not going out anmore he wont leave (her house) and is controlling and very possessive of her, she told me today that she is afraid that ...
A. 16 January 2008: for both of your safety you need to act fast, this guy seems unstable and is just a n attack waiting to happen. she needs to move out and cut him from her life, and possibly get a restraining order from him. why dont you let her move in with you? ... (read in full...)
Guys, what sort of ideas spring to mind when you think of your fantasy oral?
Q. I need your opinion guys, what's you're dream blow job? It can be anything, literally. Just, what sort of ideas spring to mind when you think of your fantasy blow job?...
A. 16 January 2008: hey hun, sexinfo101.com - great tips for everything!! my boyf is forever begging since i checked it out!! xxx... (read in full...)
What do guys look for in girls?
Q. What do guys look in girls? ive never had a boyfriend as im not very pretty. Also how do you know if a guy does fancy you?...
A. 16 January 2008: hey, look hun you dont need to be the prettiest girl in the world to be attractive to guys. be confident, friendly and walk with your head held high!!guys love a girl who is confident in herself and is fun! guys that fancy you show it in different ... (read in full...)
She's demanding too much from me...I need more "me' time. Advice?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months now. I would say its a serious relationship, not a casual one. We see each other after work 4 out of 5 weekdays, and most of the day on Saturdays. I usually don’t see her on Sundays. She lives ...
A. 16 January 2008: i have been in the exact same situation - my boyf suggested it and i was slightly upset at the start but agreed. the reason why i was upset was because i didnt understand enough about why he wanted it, but i learned that 'me' time is completely fine ... (read in full...)
After sex, she dumped me! What can I do?
Q. This is so crazy!!Sorry its so long I started at a new school about 3/4 months ago and instantly became really good friends with a girl Anyways, she told me she was Bi, And i told her i was too It was great, on new years she had a part...
A. 16 January 2008: sounds to me like she was just loving the moment and wanted casual, new exciting sex, you dont want to be with her, so why are you so worked up?you had really good sex, with a friend, and you both enjoyed it. leave it at that, sure you are ... (read in full...)
How can someone say they love you, and want to spend their life with you, but they are annoyed by almost everything you do??
Q. How can someone say they love you, and want to spend their life with you, but they are annoyed by almost everything you do?....I don't really think I'm an annoying person in general. I have great friends, and in previous romantic relationships, this ...
A. 16 January 2008: your right...you have to be yourself and not comprimise your feelings to please him, your in a relationship and you should never feel like you have to be stepping on egg shells around him. if this was me i would have been out of there 3 years ago, ... (read in full...)
I find older men really sexy...is this normal?
Q. I'm 15 and I'm almost quite worried about myself. In the past few years Ive noticed I always get the hots for elder men. I dont mean old pensiors! But like men in their 30s and 40s, and I don't like anyone near my age at all. I just find older men ...
A. 16 January 2008: no you are not abnormal!!your a 15 year old girl who is just growing up and getting used to all those hormones raging!!just as long as you dont act on any of those fantasies, which i cant imagine you would, you will be fine!!you seem quite mature ... (read in full...)
Are there any creams or remedies that dimiss the hurt during the "first night"?
Q. I am 22 and I am a virgin. More so, I am a virgin who just got engaged. I really want to have sex and so does my man - not that hes pressuring me at all. The problem is every time I try it hurts too much... i've used copious amounts of lube ...
A. 15 January 2008: i havent heard of anything for something like that - apart from lube. yes some girsl do find it painful at first, but after its amazing!!is it excruciating pain??do you just go straight into it or have foreplay beforehand? i know this sounds weird ... (read in full...)
My sister's bf's daughter (same age as me)...and I'm in love with her. Is this wrong?
Q. Hi I need some advice My half-sister is about 19 years older than me and has got a new boyfreind. He has a daughter around the same age as me. My sister thought it be good if we swapped msn addresses. So we got talking and we met up before christ...
A. 15 January 2008: well i think that you need to be 100% sure of how you really feel about your current gf, this new girl may just be making you feel like you love her because its all new and you may be getting confused.try to figure this out before you make any ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and my boyfriend planned for us to reenact porn scenes...
Q. Hi I'm 15 and my boyfriend wants to see me squirt I need help my boyfriend is 18 and likes us to watch porn together then reenact it he got his best mate to join so we could reenact this scene with two boys one girl help please ...
A. 15 January 2008: im guessing you are not comfortable with this? well this sounds awful to me hun, he knows that because he is older than you he can take advantage, but dont let him!!has he ever forced you to do anything??i need to know more chicken so just please ... (read in full...)
He says he loves her but spends most of his time with me...does he want me or her??
Q. Me and my on again off again bf of 8 years are having a baby together. I am currently 7 months pregnant. We got back together officially in the begining he moved in with me. Then when I was 5 months pregnant he broke up with me citing that he was ...
A. 15 January 2008: my guess is he wants both of you - and both of the lives he leads wen he is with both of you. i know you want him to be with you and have a family but it doesnt always work like that. i think you need to kick him out, and make it clear to him that ... (read in full...)
What happened years ago kills me inside and I just cant seem to get over it.
Q. Where to start... I'm 26 y/o. I have been with my husband for 9 years and married for 3 years. We started dating when we were 17. When we were 21, my husband (boyfriend at the time) starting acting strange and distant. I learned that he was becoming...
A. 15 January 2008: hey hun, i completely understand why you would feel like this, but the thing is, at the end of the day, he chose YOU, he proposed to YOU and he has a child with you!!he obviously loves you and he was so young wen he did this. my advice is to try and ... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant, but boyfriend wants nothing to do with baby, what can I do?
Q. I think i'm pregnant but my boyfriend wants nothing to do with the situation at all. He doesn't even want his mother to know and they're really close! I've tryed to talk to him about it and he just doesn't say anything. He just knows that he doesn't ...
A. 15 January 2008: ok first of all, you have GOT to be more careful!!if you have been in this situation before you know how stressful it can be!!you have got to take a test, you cant just turn a blind eye to something this big, even if you are afraid of wat might ... (read in full...)
Want to lose my virginity but uncomfortable with the way I look.
Q. i will be turning 17 in a few months. I am still a vrigin and one of the select few in my school. I kinda want to lose my virginity but i am very uncomfortable with the way i look. I feel totally disgusted wen i look in the mirrors. My friends say i ...
A. 15 January 2008: first of all everyone has insecurities about their bodies, especially those who havent shared it with someone else before. im sure you have a lovely figure and other ppl see this. have you talked to this guy about losing it to him? if so and he is ... (read in full...)
I'm bored with him. Should we just move on?
Q. My dilemma is the following. I'm around my 20's, my BF is my same age, and we are each other's first love and relationship. Seriously. We've been together for 2 and a half year now. And we are not the kind of person that would just go around ...
A. 10 January 2008: well first of all i think that you need to talk to him about this because he cant think that this is normal, so he obviously feels it too! do you still feel sexually attracted to him? you need to figure out whether or not you are in love with him ... (read in full...)
What can I do for a romantic night in that won't cost a fortune?
Q. Hi, I am having a few problems with my partner at the moment, so in order to show him I love him I was to arrage a romantic night in... I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of what I could do that wouldn't cost a fortune thanks...
A. 10 January 2008: dress up, nice underwear, his fave movie....then cook a mindblowing meal that consists of all his fave food, and then dessert on you...literally!!! another thing is an indoor picnic on the floor by the fire.... (read in full...)
How can I get over my Christmas grief??
Q. Hiya, I'll understand when you read this is you just tell me to grow up and get over it but i really need some help. Around November my dog that i'd had since i was 6 got quite ill and we didn't know what was wrong with her and in December she wen...
A. 22 December 2007: i completely understand wat your goin through hun, this only happened a year ago and losing pets can sometimes have a heavier impact on the owner than other bereavements. but dont worry, as time goes on things will get easier for you. just remember ... (read in full...)
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