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I foolishly told him I love him because I thought he needed some love; what can I do to mend my mistake?
Q. I recently told a man I loved him becasue he had been through some bad stages in his life and thought he needed some love. I meant well but of course naturally he doesnt like it,which I can understand, so now I have lost him as a friend. I KNOW it ...
A. 18 July 2008: well how did you tell him you loved him? i mean you could say that you meant it just as friends - ie that you love him as a friend and nothing more? im sure you could say that and he would understand.
if not, then maybe wait for the dust to sett... (read in full...)
Is there a vibrator-like device that could be strapped on the clitoris during intercourse?
Q. I am wondering if there is any toy available that allows a simultaneous clitoral stimulation during intercourse? I know that we could stick a vibrator on the clit during intercourse but the vibrator usually gets in the way and I would like to have ...
A. 18 July 2008: why dont you just use your hands during intercourse? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sometimes calls me fat, which makes me cry, and brings out my insecurities, I am driving him away, what can I do to build my self-esteem?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with an amazing guy. I would do anything for him and I think he would do anything for me, problem is I think I could be pushing him away. We have been in a relationship for a year and a half and I can honestly say...
A. 18 July 2008: just because its really good when it is good doesnt mean that you should put up with the bad things he says and does to you. do you not think that you should be with a guy that is really good all the time? i know you really love him, but you have to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sometimes calls me fat, which makes me cry, and brings out my insecurities, I am driving him away, what can I do to build my self-esteem?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with an amazing guy. I would do anything for him and I think he would do anything for me, problem is I think I could be pushing him away. We have been in a relationship for a year and a half and I can honestly say...
A. 17 July 2008: you say he is lovely, caring etc etc...but no matter how big a fight he should never call you fat!! this guy does not sound like the angel you make him out to be. his behaviour at that party was inexcusable and he probably knew it too. and the ex ... (read in full...)
My dad won't let me see my sister. How can I convince him to.
Q. im 16. i have problems with my dad. my sister has moved out from home with her boyfriend, she's 19. my dad dont like her boyfriend, so he dosn't want me near him. my dad wont let me out of my house to see my sister. i want to see my sister...
A. 17 July 2008: i completely agree with star - maybe its not her he doesnt want you to see but the boyfriend. he may have good reason not to like him and doesnt want you beign around him cos maybe he is a bad influence etc. tell your dad that you respect his wishes ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stares at other women... should I be worried?
Q. My fiance and I are preparing to get married next year. We live together and are very much in love. The thing that bothers me is that whenever we are driving places together... he stares so much at other women. He stares into cars, women walking ...
A. 17 July 2008: well there is a difference between just glancing or taking notice, and gawking and staring - which category does your boyfriend fall into?
if it is only a case of a passing glance then i wouldnt worry too much - its normal. but if it is more then... (read in full...)
Could I go out with a younger guy?
Q. Hiya, Theres this guy i work with and well lately we've been talking a lot and getting quite close. Hes such a nice guy and were getting along so well. The thing is.. hes 17, 18 next april and i'm 18, 19 in two months. People keep saying you c...
A. 17 July 2008: well hun dont let other ppl tell you who you can and cant date. my boyf is almost a year younger than me and most ppl dont even notice the difference. if you like him and he likes you then i say go for it! the only thing i would say is he may be a ... (read in full...)
Can my best friend date my much younger brother? Her marriage is basically over.
Q. I have a best friend who just move back to me and her marriage is basically over! My brother comes and live with me every summer and this summer is no different. My best friend comes to my house everyday and her and my brother got closer she is 27 ...
A. 17 July 2008: how could they do this to you? sweetheart no offence but i dont think they did this to hurt you, in fact this isnt about you at all. they obviously like eachother and respect eachother so let them be happy. and she is also probably right - you dont ... (read in full...)
He gets jealous if I'm with other guys but he says he doesn't like me! What is his deal?
Q. ok here goes, i used to go wi this guy, we split up october, but since them i hav stayed the nyt with him far too many tyms to count, he also gets reli jealous if i am with any other guy or if he hears a rumour about me, he then tells me her reli ...
A. 17 July 2008: this guy is either very confused about wat he wants or is cruel and is just playing games with you. either way i wouldnt stick around to find out.
but wat you have also done is blurred the boundaries of your relationship - you say you broke up but ... (read in full...)
What age do you start having sex?
Q. what age do you start having sex...
A. 17 July 2008: there are no rules or guidelines to follow when it comes to this. it all depends on the individual - whether they are ready, if they are in a relationship, if they are mature enough and responsible enough to start,
when you are ready to commit like... (read in full...)
At 21, I've never had a boyfriend. What's wrong with me?
Q. I'm nearly 21. I've never had a boyfriend, and I haven't had so much as a kiss in almost four years. I've went through my degree without going for a single proper night out, and the (very) few times someone's shown interest in me, I feel terrified ...
A. 16 July 2008: i agree with naloxone...... (read in full...)
Should I have sex or not?
Q. Could you try and help plz me and this boy are on about having sex i dont know wether i should go on with it or not hes a lovley boy and i do like him its just i think im a bit scared as we will be doing it outside (probably in a bush) it will also ...
A. 16 July 2008: first time in a bush? and they say romance is dead....dont do it. the fact that you have to have sex in a bush screams immaturity to me. ... (read in full...)
My violent boyfriend has cut contact with me. What do I do?
Q. hi all im really lost rite now and nees some advice a week ago me an my bf had a huge row he pushed me to the floor so i got up an slapped him an told him never 2 put his hands on me again well he went mad an tried 2 choke me i was terrifed i i ...
A. 16 July 2008: no you dont wait - you thank god and run. this guy tried to choke you and ended up in hospital due to his violence and you want to wait for him? hunny, come on, wake up and realise wat road this one is going down. lets say you get back together, ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay?? help.!
Q. Well, we have just been together for a few months and he is the greatest guy I have ever met. He is sweet, lovely, takes care of himself, no smoking, appreciates what I do to him, but I've always felt something's not right. 1. i met him when I w...
A. 16 July 2008: thanks oldersister
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I am a 27 year old virgin, when I date men and they find out, they back off, thinking something is wrong, what do I do to combat this?
Q. Hello everyone. I don't know how to write what I want to without sounding like a complete loser. lol. Well, the thing is that till date, I have had only short-term relationships, the longest of which was perhaps 4 months. And because I did...
A. 16 July 2008: your not abnormal or unnatural hun, you just have huge respect for yourself. you wouldnt believe how many ppl out there are in the same situation as you - ppl that are still waiting for the right person and relationship to some along. and that will ... (read in full...)
Should my boyfriend have told me by now, that he likes me, we have been dating for a month and a half?
Q. Hi all, I have a question. I've been in a relationship for the longest time and I've forgotten how they start. I'm currently seeing this guy that I like.. we've been seeing each other for about a month and a half and go out once a week, so its b...
A. 16 July 2008: so you want to know if the guy that is dating you for over a month, tells you he finds you attractive, enjoys spending time with you and likes spending time with you...likes you? sorry hunny but you are old enough to know that you dont need to ... (read in full...)
We are teenagers, we have sex, and we want to do it again immediately, is this normal?
Q. hi i am 14 and i have had sex many times with my gf who is 15. how come after sex me and her want to do it again. plz dont say under age stuff. we r real in love. we have been going out 4 3 yrs. ty ...
A. 16 July 2008: well this is normal sometimes to have sex a few times in one session. do you both have orgasms the first time? or is this why you keep going? it is normal. all i would say to you is make sure you and her clean yourselves between, as she can risk ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want sex, but does watch porn!
Q. Well me and my husband have almost been married a year and I'm having problems with our sex life... There was a problem with porn before we got married and I made him promise that he wouldn't watch it after we got married, and of course he promised. ...
A. 16 July 2008: well first of all, you shouldnt have made him promise not to watch it anymore - this always frustrates me! porn is normal for men, not unhealthy...normal. its natural for them and it shouldnt be taken as anything but a 'hobby', and its not ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay?? help.!
Q. Well, we have just been together for a few months and he is the greatest guy I have ever met. He is sweet, lovely, takes care of himself, no smoking, appreciates what I do to him, but I've always felt something's not right. 1. i met him when I w...
A. 16 July 2008: well you guys have been together for a few months and havent even had vaginal sex????? hmmmm....unfair, selfish and downright strange if you ask me. alot of this post has red flags in it - but im not sure if they point to being gay. he could be ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay?? help.!
Q. Well, we have just been together for a few months and he is the greatest guy I have ever met. He is sweet, lovely, takes care of himself, no smoking, appreciates what I do to him, but I've always felt something's not right. 1. i met him when I w...
A. 16 July 2008: well you guys have been together for a few months and havent even had vaginal sex????? hmmmm....unfair, selfish and downright strange if you ask me. alot of this post has red flags in it - but im not sure if they point to being gay. he could be ... (read in full...)
Help. I've shown nude pics of my girlfriend to a friend.
Q. help. ive shown nude pics of my girlfriend to a friend. we are no longer going out. but i feel really devestated showing nude pics of my girl friend to a friend. i feel as if i gave up my love away to someone else. help....
A. 16 July 2008: you should never have disrespected her like that - imagine how she would feel knowing that you were showing pics that were for your eyes only to other ppl? she would be devestated.
get rid of the pics, ask your friend not to mention it to anyo... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend stay with me after everything I've put him through? And how can I tell him how much I love him?
Q. hi my names rachel. 2 years ago i was diagnosed with on set psycosis this means i have voices in my head that tell me all different things,this year i stabbed myself and iv also hurt my boyfriend...i just want some to tell me why he stays with me...
A. 16 July 2008: hi sweetheart - i dont think your a psycho!! i think your a person who is sick but also very lucky because your surrounded by love which alot of ppl dont get. your boyfriend knows that the reason why you did this stuff is because your sick and you ... (read in full...)
It's just me, bulimia and weed. How do I get it back to just being me and my husband?
Q. I feel like im going crazy. I dunno whats wrong with me. all i do is go to work, come home and smoke weed with my husband. we rarely have sex and im starting to get bored of the conversation,all we talk about is work or music. i am desperate for ...
A. 16 July 2008: hi hun, well you guys have obviously been a hell of alot more than any other couples your age, or couples any age! wat you have been through together is obviously going to take its toll and stress you both out, and because your still young, you may ... (read in full...)
My mum and dad have been arguing, and my mum said she hates me. I don't know what to do and I need advice.
Q. I am an 8 year old boy from Cupar in Fife in Scotland. My mum and dad have been not really been getting on well and they have had some bad arguments. One day my mum got very annoyed with my big brother for putting a towel in with the dirty clothes. ...
A. 16 July 2008: hi hun im so sorry for your situation. but you have to know that your mum does love you - she's just upset at the moment and is saying things that she doesn't mean. have you talked to your granny? maybe she could help you or talk to your mum? i dont ... (read in full...)
She sent her new "gay" friend photos and a message. How should I respond?
Q. I have been very suspicious of my girlfriends new "gay" friend recently and did something I know I shouldnt do: I accessed her email and found that she had sent a bunch of photos with the message "Hello, as promised the photos. Big kisses, I love ...
A. 16 July 2008: well you were very wrong to have accessed her email - breach of trust and privacy. has she ever given you reason not to trust her? have you met the gay friend? unless these photos were of her naked or something similar i would stop being so ... (read in full...)
I'm a late starter, but now I'm going to start! So my question is what's the etiquette for just AFTER sex?
Q. Hello, I have quite an embarrassing question! I'm a bit of a late-starter, no particular reason, just never really met the right person at the right time. Anyway, I'm now seeing this great girl and I think we will soon start having sex. I just have ...
A. 16 July 2008: yeah when you are done with the condom wrap it up in tissue and throw it in the bin. try having a box of tissues beside the bed or something so you dont have to get out of bed after. just dont put it down the toilet!! ... (read in full...)
How dangerous is breathing in helium?
Q. Hello, this is a weird question but is it real dangerous to breathe in helium from a balloon? Me an my friends did it for a laff but i read on the internet that it can make you really ill. Plz help, i'm worried now. x.x.x.x....
A. 15 July 2008: nah unless you breathe tanks of it in everyday! dont worry - everyone does it! your in no danger. ... (read in full...)
I'm getting depressed about these stretch marks.
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and currently have stretch marks on my inner thighs and are now gradually moving around to my outer thigh, they are so embarresing and i don't know what to do, i think I'm skinny at size 12, 5"8/9 and i have 34b boobs.. i can see them ...
A. 15 July 2008: hey sweetheart, I know how frustrating it can be to have them. but they are normal during puberty, and over time they do fade. there are a few things that you can do to prevent them and reduce them. invest in a loofah first of all and exfoliate a ... (read in full...)
Does he like it when I moan? Or is it a complete turn off?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have oral sex..Does he like it when I moan? Or is it a complete turn off?...
A. 15 July 2008: defo - it means you cant hold back your pleasure - and thats a ding ding for him!... (read in full...)
My friend thinks our group ignore her. It's really not my fault, is it?
Q. i have a problem with my friend she thinks that our group ignores her and we gather without telling her (we always tell her to hang out with us but then she don't come or answer our msgs or even our calls) so how can i fix this she thinks we don't ...
A. 14 July 2008: why not ask her if she would be up for hosting a party in hers ? that way she's on neutral ground and cant back out! but you should also talk to her and tell her that its not fair for her to give out cos you guys do text her and ring her but she ... (read in full...)
Sex without Protection
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time in our whole life without protection and he just pulled out. I feel like he didn't pull out in time because we did leave it in a couple of times. He also had ejaculated the day before. Am I pregnant? ...
A. 14 July 2008: it baffles me when i come onto this site because nearly all the girls who are having fears of being pregnant, and having unprotected sex are nearly all your age - 13-15, and it just goes to show that none of you are even near mature enough to be ... (read in full...)
I slept with a girl, then got a girlfriend the next day - now there are two girls, what do I do?!
Q. Right... Got a gf last night and slept with another girl at weekend. The girl at weekend slept with me at weekend and her mate asked me if it was just a one off or want a r'ship. I said I'm not sure, and I asked the girl if she wanted a r'ship ...
A. 14 July 2008: wow where do i start. first of all the speed at which you jump into relationships is almost impressive, and already your going away together? slow down!! as for the girl you slept with - in wat crazy world do you think its ok to spend a WEEK at hers ... (read in full...)
What is phone sex, exactly?
Q. I feel very stupid asking this but I really wanna know. What is phone sex? I know you deffinately can't have sex over the phone, I'm not that stupid. But a lot of my friends are just saying it and I'm sooo confused.Can anyone help? Thanks3 Re...
A. 14 July 2008: phone sex is usually dirty talk and telling eachother wat you wanna do or would do if you were together. and yes it involves mutual masturbation also. dunno if you really need to be talking about stuff like that at your age though?!... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my husband to do foreplay?
Q. My sex life with my husband is not so great. He doesn't do foreplay. He doesn't kiss me at all. He thinks touching on my breast for like a second is so suppose to just get my hot and bothered. I have talked to him about, but nothing. After sex ...
A. 13 July 2008: you say you get more turned on reading about sex - why not invest in a kama sutra or tantric sex book? reading this can encourage those who are otherwise rigid to try new positions etc. its not fair that your husband has ignored your attempts to ... (read in full...)
Should I take back my boyfriend who keeps breaking up with me when he gets angry?
Q. help me and my boyfriend got together in march 08 we broke up in june and since then we keep getting back together but he keeps on breaking us up he told me he still loves me and wants us to get back together again im not sure though i dont w...
A. 13 July 2008: i would say you're better off staying broken up. he is obviously way too immature to be in a relationship - after all you are both still children! relationships need communication, understanding and respect - none of which he has for you. and taking ... (read in full...)
Are all of my positive qualities "outweighed" by the way I look?
Q. I am 6 foot 18 years old dark haired. Unfortunately I am very overweight. My looks aren't bad for my weight, and I have good posture and can generally hold in my stomach. But it doesn't hide my weight. I have been told that I am a really sweet guy...
A. 13 July 2008: oh my god you are such a cutie! and you sound like such a nice guy - which is obviously something that others are aware of. dont worry about your weight unless its slowing you down or is posing a threat to your health. if you do feel really down ... (read in full...)
I'm really scared that I might be pregnant
Q. Dear ________, I see my boyfriend almost everyday, or at least talk to him but, when he told me he was going away for a week to a town 2 hours away and I couldn't talk to him at all, I knew I had to do something to let him know that I really l...
A. 13 July 2008: while its very unlikely that you may be pregnant from something like that, you still need to be 100% sure - so get a test!! buy a PG test and put your mind at ease. by the way hun just want you to know that you dont need to give your boyf a handjob ... (read in full...)
We two girls had very rough sex, now my stomach hurts badly, what could be the problem?
Q. ok i had lesbian sex in i got fucked pretty hard in i tummy has been killing me wats rough with me...
A. 11 July 2008: well it depends on wat you mean by 'rough sex'. were you using any toys or anything besides your fingers? if you were using toys, then you could have just gone to rough and maybe you should get checked out. bigsis is right though, it could be period ... (read in full...)
9 months pregnant still being cheated on or so I suspect as he's being sneaky! What should I do for the sake of my child?
Q. My boyfriend has had a problem with being faithful for almost two years on and off since weve been together, now i am 9 months pregnant and we are currently separated but supposed to be "working on ourselves" he is still being sneaky and is still up ...
A. 10 July 2008: he swears he loves you but he's been cheating on you for 2yrs? hun thats not love, that getting the best of both worlds. he now knows that he can do it, because you let him and havent given him reason to stop.
i think that you should get this guy ... (read in full...)
My friend asked my to go on a 12 week trip. My husband can cope. Should I go? Will the kids be OK without me?
Q. Hi, i am just looking for some opinions on the following. I am married, age 30, 2 kids ages 4 and 5. My friend who has travelled alot has asked me if i would like to go on a 12 week round the world trip in march. My kids will be 5 and 6 then and ...
A. 9 July 2008: have you talked to your husband about this? wat does he think?
while 3 months is a long time, technology these days is a wonder for keeping up with family while travelling through webcams, video diaries, email, skype etc etc. talk to you husb... (read in full...)
Me and my cousin are flirting a lot. I want to have sex with her...
Q. okay i am 15 and my cousin is 14 and every time we're together i can't stop thinking about her and we always flirt every time we're together like at our family cottage me her and my sister slept in the top floor of our bunkhouse and me and her were ...
A. 9 July 2008: im sorry but has ANYONE read wat LordFreak said??? oh my god im grossed out to the core....sex with mum, aunt, cousins both male and female. oh god...
poster please dont take the advice of this person.
your still really young and its normal t... (read in full...)
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