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Noticed a lump as I pulled back my foreskin. Anyone that may know what this is before I book an appointment?
Q. I'm 16 and i have recently taken note to a problem ive seen. A while back i thought i needed circumsition but the docter told me i just needed to wash regualry as i was kind of afraid of pulling back the foreskin, and im still finding it difficult ...
A. 21 February 2008: hey chicken well it does sound to me like it could just be a large vein, alot of guys have them and they do look larger when they are flacid. but just to put your worries at ease, i would suggest going and getting it checked. as for the smegma, all ... (read in full...)
Do guys have a "G-spot" as well?
Q. Do guys have a "g-spot" too?...
A. 21 February 2008: yeah their prostate is actually their g-spot, but as you may know this is accessed anally!! and not alot of men are comfortable with this area being....attended to!!so id advise just sticking to their more obvious region, as they love it and its ... (read in full...)
How to get birth controls?
Q. So, Sex? Its soo confusing, right? Well, sometimes I think Im ready but Im soo scared of the risks that come with it, especially pregnency, how would i get B-control? Any one have good suggestions...
A. 21 February 2008: hey hun, if you are ready and want to do it worry free, then i suggest getting the pill - its not expensive and easy to take. for extra precaution use a condom also, as this will prevent you from contracting STD'S as well as doubling your protection ... (read in full...)
More period problems...
Q. the last time that I had my period was on the 10th of January and after 2 weeks from that day i had sex with my boyfriend however we used protection. and i am not sure why i haven't started my period yet i worried plz help ...
A. 21 February 2008: just buy a pregnancy test just in case hun, there is a very slim chance that the condom could have broken but im sure your fine. just to put your mind at ease though get a test and know for sure. good luck!... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm bi but I fantasise about girls and I have a boyfriend.
Q. I find myself thinking about girls alot. im straight, i have a boyfriend of a year and a half now, nad i love him with all of my heart. but i also think that im attracted to girls. i think about doing things with girls all of the time and i have ...
A. 21 February 2008: yeah me too....nothing to be ashamed of, alot of girls are or simply fantasize about having sex with girls, its normal. its ok to fantasize about girls if you have a bf, im with my bf 3yrs and sometimes fantasize about girls, it doesnt mean you love ... (read in full...)
What are some activities/ways of making love that we can do that don't involve intercourse?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going steady for a while now and we are very much in love. We love just spending time together. We enjoy doing many things together. We are both virgins and have talked about having sex. He says that there would be ...
A. 20 February 2008: well hun first of all you should know you have got yourself a keeper!! he seemss very kind and understanding, im happy for you!! as for your question, there are alot of things you can do that dont involve sex as such, oral sex is very enjoyable for ... (read in full...)
Am I worrying unnecessarily?
Q. I recently went to the doctor because I think I have a bladder infection, I have been given some antibiotics and I had to give a urine sample. I fear there is something really worng with me because you get loads of stories in the paper in magazines ...
A. 20 February 2008: yes i think you are. alot of ppl suffer from kidney infections, bladder infections etc., and it is most times nothing more than wat they say it is. wat symptoms have you been experiencing? if you are sexually active, it could also be cystisis, which ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me 3 times and I can't get over it...
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me three times. Twice in the first month, and then the third time was in the third month. We've talked about it all and it's been 8 months, and I still feel bad. He's a lovely boyfriend and I know he hasn't done it since, ...
A. 20 February 2008: three times is alot of times to 'make a mistake', i know its been a while and he hasnt done it, but its still something that would be very hard to get over. after all he did disrespect you more than once. yeah maybe he has changed, but if you cant ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get wet!
Q. I am going to sleep with my boyfriend for the first time the only problem is I dont get wet! I know this sounds weird but I really don't, I have any reason not to I get turned on etc.. But I never get wet! I have slept with a few people and I jus...
A. 20 February 2008: have you tried doing forepley more? you cant just go straight in, us girls need a little more!! why dont you try masturbating yourself to get used to different feelings down there? byt masturbating you stimulating the clitoris rather than the ... (read in full...)
I am inviting even the persons I dislike as I wouldn't like to exclude them, but I fear they will ruin my party!
Q. It's my birthday next week! I'm excited, but i'm worried these girls are gonna ruin my party - I don't want to hurt my mum but the film we're gonno watch at the cinema looks crap (Underdog) has anyone heard of it, is it OK? This is my first party a...
A. 20 February 2008: happy birthday hun! have a good time, and in my experience, even if the film is crap, its still great fun to stuff your face with your friends!! ppl act differently in school then the way they do outside, so try not to worry about these girls. just ... (read in full...)
Has anybody else's children heard them during intercourse??
Q. During intercourse the other night our son (6) heard me having an orgasm because he asked me next day what the noise was. I said it was a dream. Anybody else had a similar experience?...
A. 20 February 2008: i heard my parents having sex when i was younger and i hated it. i was digusted and ashamed, and i was also annoyed that they didnt seem to care that their children were in the house. but i was older than the age your child is, i was a teen!! just ... (read in full...)
Should I risk my marriage for the girl at work??
Q. I'm a married man but there I'm tempted to cheat on my wife with a gorgeous brunette in my office. Shes cute, funny and has a gorgeous bum. The only problem she has a serious boyfriend and I'm married. She flirts with me and I flirt back, we h...
A. 20 February 2008: why dont you ask her gorgeous bum out for dinner? it seems to be the only thing your interested in. grow up and realise that the marriage that you have with your wife is worth more than a gorgeous bum. this girl in the office is not an object or a ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my childhood friends to my wedding?
Q. I am due to be married in a few weeks. I have almost everthing prepared but 1 problem still keeps me awake at night, here's the background to my story so I can then ask the question: From age of about 12 I had these 'friends'.. There was about 8 of ...
A. 20 February 2008: well to be honest if it was me, i wouldnt bother, i mean you're not friends with them anymore are you? if you are inviting them to renew a friendship and catch up, then fair enough. but if you would only be asking them to show them how successful ... (read in full...)
I feel as if he has a wandering eye...
Q. Hi I'm in a rather serious relationship with a guy, we have been together for 1 year 2 months. We also live together. Yesterday when I returned from work he told me that there were two "hot chicks" that came to our home to renew our contract. He ...
A. 20 February 2008: we all know that men will never stop checking out the opposite sex, its wired into them, its instinct. when he was saying this to you, he was not thinking of how it would come across to you, and he was not implying that he wanted to do anything with ... (read in full...)
Is there any other way of stopping your period for a couple of weeks other than taking the contraceptive pill?
Q. Is there any other way of stopping your period for a couple of weeks other than taking the contraceptive pill?...
A. 20 February 2008: you should talk to your gp about this, i know that getting the tab in your arm can sometimes stop periods. but you also need to consider the fact that periods are natural and are your body's way of taking care of itself. when your periods stop it ... (read in full...)
Trapped in a loveless marruage and I want to end it...but I can't leave my kids.
Q. Dear Readers, I have been in a loveless marriage with my wife for the past 11 years. Please don’t judge me, but there has never been any sort of love between us and therefore I have always cheated on her which she is fully aware of but doesn’t ...
A. 20 February 2008: hey there, sorry about your situation. if you are not happy with your life at the moment, then you need to leave your wife and give you both the chance to have the happiness you deserve. i know you may be concerned about your kids at right now, but ... (read in full...)
Both of us have trust issues...what can we do??
Q. Ok, i have this boyfriend whom I dated for about 7 months. And we have this big problem with trust. He's always skeptical about everything a but so am i. I always feels like he's cheating evrywhere he goes, even when he goes to work and I'm at s...
A. 20 February 2008: well first of all you both need to figure out why it is you are both so untrusting of eachother, is it past experiences, or are you both just very insecure ppl? you both need to sit down and talk about this, if you dont, you will both just go on ... (read in full...)
I haven't been much fun recently and last night my bf said I am not entertaining.
Q. I have been going through a hard time lately, so I know that I have not been the most fun person to be around. But, last night my boyfriend basically told me that I am not entertaining. I cried as it really hurt my feelings. I am not a boring ...
A. 20 February 2008: have you talked to him about how you are feeling? explaing to him that you are just going through a hard time and you would really appreciate his support and sensitivity in this. however, your sole purpose in this relationship is not to entertain, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is making me do things and I am not confortable with it
Q. ive just got in to a relationship with someone that made me do things i wasnt sure i wanted to do. he is 16 im 12 almost 13 i cant tell my mum or dad i still love him and want to be with him but i dont know how to say can we slow down beacuse ...
A. 19 February 2008: hey hun, your so young and it is so easy for him to take advantage of you, in my opinion love doesnt involve fear and shame. you are scared of him? you need to leave, you may think you love him now, but wen you get older you will look back and see ... (read in full...)
It was just a stupid kiss...
Q. I live with my boyfriend of 2 years, love him a lot, we've had our problems like everyone else. About a month ago I was extremely drunk and kissed another guy, not passionately just a drunken kiss, neither of us meant it and both feel really really ...
A. 19 February 2008: a few yrs ago, my current boyf went on holidays, had a really drunken night, and kissed a girl, it meant nothing. he came back, things were completely normal for months, i found out one night that he had done this to me about it. we argued - not ... (read in full...)
I want an orgasm- please help!
Q. I haven't had many sexual partners (4) but I am not a sexually inexperienced or unadventurous person. But I have always faked orgasms with all my boyfriends and I am ashamed to say I have never, not even once, had an orgasm through sex. I can ...
A. 19 February 2008: hey chicken, well ive been with my bf for almost 4 yrs and had never orgasmed through sex until we found a wonderful invention known as the vibrator!! he is completely fine knowing that it was harder for a woman to climax from sex than it is for a ... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 19 February 2008: porn is something that girls will never 100% grasp as much as men do!! wen you say he has/had an addiction, how much does he look at it? i mean since he has been with you? you need to be rational and understand that you cant ask him to just stop ... (read in full...)
I have an 18 month old daughter already and feel it's time to have another one but only this time I am having problems concieving...
Q. I have an 18 month old daughter already and feel it's time to have another one but only this time I am having problems concieving, I was on the pill. Anyone got any ideas on what will help my chances?...
A. 19 February 2008: your only, at the oldest 17 - wats the rush? slow down, you have many more months of crying, nappy changing and all the other obligations that come with raising a child, give yourself some time!! have you got a boyf? wat does he think of this ... (read in full...)
I'm just curious what you all think would be a nice way to tell him to stop without disgusting him. "Stop, I'm bleeding," doesn't seem to quite cut it.
Q. I'm on my period and the guy I've recently started seeing has tried to make a move. I'm just curious what you all think would be a nice way to tell him to stop without disgusting him. "Stop, I'm bleeding," doesn't seem to quite cut it. Since it's ...
A. 19 February 2008: well first of all its not like your period last forever, so wats his rush, cant he wait?!! if you do find yourself in that situation again, when something simply has to be said, just tell him that you cant right now -its that time of the month. he's ... (read in full...)
Has my wife performed oral on another man???
Q. Hello, I am a married male and recently found out, by investigating my wife's internet history log that she had a secret Hotmail account that she was keeping from me. She has an Outlook email account as well, that we share for friends, business and ...
A. 19 February 2008: there are two scenarios that could be the truth here 1) she did just kiss him and is telling the truth, but engaged in some inappropriate flirtation after, which is wrong anyway. 2) she did perform oral on him and is lying to you. does it bother you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't think of me when he masturbates, is this a problem?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't think of me when he masturbates, is this a problem? He says men don't masturbate about the woman they love??...
A. 19 February 2008: i dont think its a problem at all, my boyf does it while watching porn sometimes and if im honest with myself i dont think he's really thinking of me while watching the naked blonde having sex!! it doesnt bother me at all, i know he's happier with ... (read in full...)
Two weeks ago he came out and told me that he had sex with another girl in September and he swears that after that nothing happened.
Q. I have this boyfriend that I have been with for 7 months and we love each other so much, but about two weeks ago he came out and told me that he had sex with another girl in September and he swears that after that nothing happened, he had been ...
A. 19 February 2008: your not wrong for staying with him if you believe him and have faith in your relationship. people do make mistakes, although alot of people think that doesnt happen in relationships. he made a mistake, at least he was honest with you and respects ... (read in full...)
Should I secretly text her and give her hints about her "Secret admirer". I don't know what to do!
Q. I'm 14 years old and at my school there's a new English teacher who's going to leave at the end of February. Over the past couple of months I have grown sexually attracted to her because I perform well in class she kind of... shields me! Once of my ...
A. 19 February 2008: how do you have her number? the answer is no, she is 25, has a boyf, and is well aware of the fact that you are 14, and underage. just because one of you friends says she has a crush on you doesnt mean anything - how would he/she know, im taking it ... (read in full...)
Would it hurt if I told him he has a small one?
Q. would it hurt a mans pride to tell them they have a small penis? especially if they are already an insecure person....
A. 18 February 2008: of course it would hurt!! wat if he told you that your boobs werent big enough or that you were too wide? its not something anyone wants to hear, if you love him it shouldnt really matter anyway, leave it out, no one's perfect.... (read in full...)
I caught him masturbating with the vacuum, today!!
Q. I am a married mother of 3. My oldest is a boy, he is almost 14. I caught him masturbating with the vacuum, today!! I am dumbfounded. His dad is going to talk to him, tonight. How can we deal with this, explaining the disgust and immoral act... ...
A. 18 February 2008: the same as beastality? em i would definitely not agree with that, and it is not a sin, and i feel sorry for him if you make him think like that. he is 14, he is young and he is just exploring his body and is trying to deal with puberty and all the ... (read in full...)
Why are some guys sooo obsessed with anal?
Q. Why are some guys sooo obsessed with anal? Some guys out there think it's great to fuck girls in the ass and some are really sick enough to have such things like magnam flashlights in girls asses on their porn files etc so what's the deal about...
A. 18 February 2008: so you think its degrading for a man to do it to a woman but its ok for you to want to do this to a guy? thats pretty weird, and something i have never heard a woman say they want to do. some guys like anal with a girl because the anus is tight and ... (read in full...)
Is there anything else I can get to stop the pregnancy risk?
Q. Basically i had sex with my boyfriend a week ago, unprotected. And totally forgot to get the morning after pill. Is there anything else i can get to stop the pregnancy risk? ...
A. 18 February 2008: at what stage of your menstrual cycle were you? you can check that and determine whether or not you are in the stage where you are most likely to get pregnant. and use a condom next time!!... (read in full...)
Is heartburn a sign of pregnancy
Q. is heartburn a sign of pregnancy...
A. 18 February 2008: is this a serious question? well if it was, id be a bit worried because both men and women would be giving birth??!!! heartburn alone is just heartburn, get a pregnancy test if you think you may be pregnant... (read in full...)
Attempting anal for the first time... Should I use gloves?
Q. Heya how you doing. I think the site is wonderful and i'm sure you can help me with my problem, ok here it goes, I'm 22 year old dmale and i want to try out my fantasy of anal sex with my gf, didn't think she would agree to it but she did and we are ...
A. 18 February 2008: to be honest i dont see why you would want to put your fingers in there first, it is not going to make it any more comfortable for her and it wouldnt be very enjoyable for either of you. i would suggest just going for it - but be warned, anal sex is ... (read in full...)
Do I wait until my period is finished before starting the next set of pills?
Q. Im on the pill and its slightly new to me, Im on a pill which allows me to have a 7 day break to have my period. I'm due to start taking my next set of pills tomorrow however my period is not finished. Do i wait until my period is finished before s...
A. 18 February 2008: no dont, you must stick to the routine that you have started. make sure you only take seven days for your break, it doesnt matter if your period hasnt finished, it will take some time for it to get into the routine. i have been on the pill for about ... (read in full...)
Is sex wrong at young age?
Q. is sex a wrong thing at young age i need help because a girl wants to do it with me but i don't know help me please!!!!!...
A. 17 February 2008: yes definitely!!you are both to young to get into something as intimate as this, and you are not emotionally mature enough. your still developing, whats the rush? tell this girl that you are not ready to do that yet. dont waste your childhood, there ... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 17 February 2008: yeah i see what you mean, well to me and to probably every other girl, these signs would indicate that you were his gf at the time. but like i said wait a while, you dont want to try and put pressure on something that may not be there yet. just ... (read in full...)
Boys consider me ugly and I feel very low about it, whereas the school regulation does not allow make up or other forms of embellishment. What can I do?
Q. i am really ugly, i am dark and my hair is sooo curly and frizzy... my face gets so oily and it looks really bad..we wear uniforms in school and not allowed make up although i do put eyeliner...and im not allowed to straighten or colour my hair or ...
A. 16 February 2008: your not allowed straighten your hair? why not that sounds like a ridiculous school rule!! well for your skin, you should invest in some good quality products that are specialised for oily skin - oil free moisturiser etc. try 'Origins' have a great ... (read in full...)
I keep dwelling on the collapse of my relationship. I feel like nothing makes me happy anymore. What should I do?
Q. How can I stop dwelling on my past? I had a 2 year relationship which ended last summer. Since then, not a day has gone by where I don't dwell on the fact that my ex doesn't want to be with me anymore. It's been almost 8 months now, and I'm sic...
A. 16 February 2008: well you need to figure out why you are really feeling like this - is it because of the rejection, do you love her still, or do you just miss the idea of having a girlfriend? you need to figure this out, when you do, you will be closer to getting ... (read in full...)
My first possible boyfriend. What does all this stuff mean?
Q. Hi(this is long so sorry) i meet this guy last month through a mate and thought he was very cute,anyway he had a g/f and thought nothing else of it,then last week he split with her,my mate who is good mates with said he liked me but nothing would ...
A. 16 February 2008: he was probably being affectionate, and was letting you know that although he may not be ready for sex yet, he is defo interested in you. just remember that kissing is far off from sex and is natural so dont be afraid if it does happen. you know he ... (read in full...)
Have you ever told someone you loved them, but you didnt? why?
Q. Here is a question i asked early this morning, i'm putting back on as i wasnt as many answers as i can. How many of you out there have told a girlfriend, boyfriend, fiance, wife, husband you loved them but really you didn't? Just curiosity,...
A. 16 February 2008: yes i have, years ago though. i guess some people think they should say it because its the right thing to do, others may think that they do actually love this person. other people simply say it because they are expecting something magical to happen ... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 16 February 2008: why do you feel the need to label wat you are? if you feel like a couple, act like a couple and do things couples do, then its safe to say you probably are a couple. ive had a few relationships and it never once occured to me to ask whether or not ... (read in full...)
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