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He used a condom but I'm panicking in case I'm pregnant!!!
Q. Hi. I'm seventeen, nearly eighteen and my boyfriend and I just started having sex about three weeks ago (it was my first time). I am not on the pill, but he has been using condoms (100% properly). I was worried about pregnancy so on February 29th I ...
A. 5 March 2008: relax hun!!! you are not pregnant! you mentioned that you have had irregular and late periods before due to stress - and what are you doing now? you are causing yourself unecessary stress here, so your period is late! and yes, it is possible that ... (read in full...)
He said spending time with me frustrates him because he does actually have feelings for me, yet he just needs some time. How long should I give him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about two months. We have both just come out of relationships so what was going on between me and his was just a little bit of fun, we saw each other a lot and I would often stay at his house, until recently he said he ...
A. 5 March 2008: you need to talk to him and ask him how long he needs and what exactly he needs space to do. he needs to tell you whether or not he is thinking about his ex, or whether he just needs time to heal from his break up and figure out whether he is ready ... (read in full...)
My wife's lesbian friend is breaking up marriages and my wife doesn't think it's a problem.
Q. I'm having issues with my wife's new found friends- 2 are a couple m/f and married and the other is a lesbian and they are next door neighbors. The lesbian broke up the couple marriage but they got back together and now the lesbian is breaking up ...
A. 5 March 2008: how is 'the lesbian' breaking up marriages? does you wife have feelings for her or is she attracted to her? you need to talk to your wife and let her know exactly why you feel she is a threat - you have valid reason after all. your wife should ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't want a baby why is he refusing to wear a condom?
Q. im 14 in 2 weeks. me and my boyfriend have had sex nprotecte so many times . im beginning to think he wants me to have a baby as he wont use a condom. i want a baby but when i mension the thought of having one he turns around and ingores me. ...
A. 5 March 2008: you are not even 14 and you want a baby? do you not see wat is wrong with this sentence? you are still a child yourself - wat makes you think that you are mature and responsible to have one yourself? you are way to young to have a child now, and in ... (read in full...)
Why aren't we together yet?
Q. I've been Likeing this guy for a very long time now I've told him how I felt And he said the feelings were mutual. We've had Sexual intercourse more than once.And we're still talking He's a very sweet guy Shows me that he cares alot about me even ...
A. 5 March 2008: well hun, i think that the only way you are going to define wat the 2 of you are doing is to discuss it with him. ask him whether he calls you his gf or whether he just wants you for sex. you have known eachother long enough for him to give you the ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your husband says he's lost the spark for you?
Q. If your husband calmly tells you that he lost that spark but he hopes he will get it back. What does that mean? At the meantime, you feel unloved, although, well-cared for. What do you do? We are very good friends but I don't remember last time he ...
A. 5 March 2008: i think that you need to talk to him and get more information from him. it is not fair on you if he is just prolonging something that just may not be there anymore. you may be good friends but that may be where it ends now. i know that he is hoping ... (read in full...)
Suspicious text message. Could he be cheating?
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, I am pregnant also. He is besotted with me as I am with him. Last weekend was one of the very few times ever he went out without me, he came home at 1.42am, I know as I looked at the clock. H...
A. 5 March 2008: hmmm. this is a tough situation to be in. but to be honest hun, if it was truly a mistaken txt sent for someone else - why all the covering up? why the deleting and acting suspicious? i think that you should talk to him - and ask him for the truth ... (read in full...)
He cheated, I got upset but he forgave me, how do we start over?
Q. The man I have been sleeping with recently forgave me for all the hateful things i said after I found out he was sleeping with another women besides me. Even though i am grateful for the fact that he forgives me and wants to continue seeing me I am ...
A. 4 March 2008: HE is forgiving YOU? im sorry but who cheated on who here? how dare he make you think that you are privileged to be 'forgiven' by him for his infidelity - wat does he think here, he's being generous? wat about you forgiving him? im sorry to say this ... (read in full...)
Desperately seeking good deodorant recommendations!
Q. Hey I am not a very sweaty person and I don't think I stin kof Bo. However, I always feel a tiny bit sweaty in my arm pits and this causes me great discomfort especially now in the winter as it causes me to feel very cold. I have tried ma...
A. 4 March 2008: i have found that vaseline, aloe vera deoderant works really well. any vaseline really i find really good and great for senstive skin. if you do find that the problem still happens, go to your GP or pharmacy, and see if there are any medical ... (read in full...)
We are totally in love but only 14...is it ok to have sex??
Q. Is it ok to have sex when you are 14 and totally in love with your girlfriend and she is totally in love with you? I will definatley use a condom becasue we really do not want her to get pregnant. I know this probably sounds stupid and an obvious ...
A. 4 March 2008: well if it was me i don't know if i would - but thats probably because i didnt have a real, loving relationship until later. but the things is - you have to remember that you are both still so young and sex brings alot of new emotions into a ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to keep things under control when my friend comes round??
Q. Hello, I have a friend coming over tomorrow afternoon, and I know that recently things have changed between us. We're beginning to become very attracted to each other when in the past we have just been friends. Can you all give me some tips on ...
A. 4 March 2008: are you afraid of wat this may do to your friendship? why don't you talk to him? if the two of you really do like eachother, and you think this could work, then why not give it a shot? this is not going to go away until the 2 of you talk it out and ... (read in full...)
Whats a personal demon?
Q. Whats a personal demon? Im perparing myself for the worst cuz my ex broke it off last nite sayin he has a personal demon controllin his life and he would explain 2 me in a few days. Well where he works is my local grocery store hes a manager and my ...
A. 4 March 2008: hey hun, im sorry that you guys broke up. but at least he respects your feelings enough to be honest with you and not hurt you. i think he may just be going through some stuff at the moment and may need to be alone to sort himself out. he says he ... (read in full...)
Am I just missing a relationship with someone or am I past my ex so soon?
Q. I just broke up with my long term girlfriend last week and now i find myself laying down on a couch with a girl that i almost dated before my ex. Is it possible for someone to move on so fast? she wants to date me and i want to date her, ...
A. 4 March 2008: well that all depends on whether you still have feelings for your ex or not - if you do then you know you miss her and are trying to replace wat you had with her. if you dont then i think you genuinely do want to date this girl. you could have been ... (read in full...)
I'm I a virgin or not anymore?
Q. Help i know people will think im stupid for doing it but last nite me and b/f where doing stuff,and after when he was inside me he said he thought i was a virgin which i was at the time but never told him, Anyway when he was going further in it di...
A. 4 March 2008: your no longer a virgin - full stop. not everyone bleeds for their first time - i didn't. first times feel different for everyone. but i think that you need to talk to your boyf - he should have asked you first before just going straight in and ... (read in full...)
I feel so disgusting, it's really getting me down
Q. I feel so disgusting, lately I can't stop eating. I am a size 8-10 and I know it sounds so dumb but I feel so fat, I constantly feel bloated, when I eat I feel disgusting and bloated. I know it's psychological but I don't know what to do. I even b...
A. 4 March 2008: i need to get this straight - is it just when you eat certain foods that you feel bloated? do you feel ill? or is it just that whenever you eat you feel down? 8-10 is nowhere near fat! so if you are thinking that, and buying diet pills, i would ... (read in full...)
I have never made out with a girl
Q. I know this may sound weird to ask but, I've never really made out with a girl. Me and my girlfriend want to try but we both have never done it and don't know how, any help would be greatly appreciated....
A. 4 March 2008: practice makes perfect - just because you havent done it yet doesnt mean your going to ba any worse than anyone else - we've all had to right? it will come naturally to the both of you, start off just softly kissing and the passion will take care of ... (read in full...)
My ex found out she is HIV positive. If I am infected, how do I tell my girlfriend?
Q. A few days ago, I got a series of rather disturbing test messages on my cell phone from a number I didn't recognize. After a little searching around, I found out that it was an ex-girlfriend whom I was on bad terms with. Long story short, the ...
A. 4 March 2008: hey there - first of all i just want to say im sorry - only a fraction of us can know wat you are going through and you are so brave right now. second of all, i agree with the last post - keep those messages - i know you may not want to, but its ... (read in full...)
We had sex but she says she loves her husband too much!
Q. I'm in love with a married woman. She has 7 months of marriage. We had sex one night. She loves me but says she will not leave her husband because she does not want to make him hurt. I can't really let go. What should i do ?...
A. 4 March 2008: she says she loves you but she is willing to stay with someone she 'doesnt love'? you need to talk to her and tell her that she must do what she wants to do. cheating is always wrong and she knows that. but wat you also need to let her know is that ... (read in full...)
He doesn't like me to go out, but he goes out with his friends all the time!
Q. my boyfriend gets mad at me alot because i always like go out with the girls and have a blast .. i never invite him because its like the girls niqht lol ladyz u understand wen i say girlsss Night!=].. but now ive stoped going almost completeing just ...
A. 4 March 2008: did he leave it alone when you were going out? no - so why should you sacrifice your social life just to keep him happy? talk to him and tell him that you miss going out with the girls and that your going to start doing it more - maybe on the same ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and now she won't forgive my insecurities...
Q. hi im a 22yr old male with a 3yr old son by my ex girlfriend. who i still love like crazy. story goes we have been together just over 4 years on and off and after about 2yrs we split up because i found out she cheated on me 2 weeks into the ...
A. 4 March 2008: dont get her back - why would you want to? she treats you badly, cheats on you, hurts you and then makes YOU feel bad just because you want to get back with her? im sorry but why would you want to put yourself through that willingly? it is VERY ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have been in one relationship with one person and just stay with that person?
Q. Is it possible to have been in one relationship with one person and just stay with that person? Or is it better to get'experienced' and then settle down? I am a lil confused, I have been with my gf for 1year and 2months, shes m...
A. 4 March 2008: i think that wat you have found with this girl is one in a million - why give that up to risk not finding it again? so wat if you have less experience - wat experience you do have is alot more special then wat she has had before. if you love her and ... (read in full...)
How should I react to my sister spitting in my face??
Q. What do you do when your sister spits in your face, during a heated argument? She's also done it to her 80 year old dad....
A. 4 March 2008: oh my god how old is she?? thats absolutely disgusting!! spitting is such a degrading thing to do to someone, especially to family! if she does it again, wipe it off your face, dont look at her or talk to her, turn your back and walk away. dont talk ... (read in full...)
Is second love worth the risk??
Q. How do you really know if you are still in love or just used to someone and the regularity of it all? Is changing partners worth the consequences? Does second love make it worth while?...
A. 4 March 2008: cheating is not worth it - love is always worth it. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have messed up my life...how do I get it back on track??
Q. I feel horrible. I have messed up my life. I don't talk to girls, i have rubbish hair and clothes. My mates make fun of evryone even themselves but what makes me feel horrible is that when they make fun of me they are just joking and don't mean it ...
A. 4 March 2008: hey chicken, well wat you have to know is that EVERY single person who has ever been your age has felt this way. believe me, no matter how secure your peers may look on the outside, there are insecure on the inside. this too shall pass, and while ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my (third) period is delayed?
Q. i got my frist period on dec 6 2007 and my second on feb 22 and i havent gotten my third yet and it is now march 3 why didn't i get 1 in jan is this normal?...
A. 4 March 2008: hey darling, when you start your periods, it can take anywhere from a month to years for your period to regulate - your body is just getting used to the change and it is completely normal. as time goes on, it will just fall into place and start ... (read in full...)
Can you recommend how to calm my nerves about presentations? I get stomachaches by only thinking of this.
Q. this may sound petty, but i am soo worried. i have to present a book i have been reading to my class, and i am so nervous. recently when i read aloud in english, i get really nervous and i sound nervous and i have to take deep gasping breaths ...
A. 4 March 2008: hey chicken - everyone gets nervous about something or other. i am a singer, and i get really nervous singing in small groups!! but you just have to tell yourself that everyone else in the room is probably just as nervous abouth their presentations, ... (read in full...)
My mother thinks I'm a lesbian after reading my diary. What now?
Q. Help!!!!!!! I think that my mom read my diary. I'm 13 years old and I wrote about an 8th grade girl who just graduated. I think she was in love with me and so by that I felt in love with her too. The only problem is is that I'm also a girl. I ...
A. 4 March 2008: your mum should know that alot of growing girls your age go through phases of slight bisexuality - completely normal. hun im sure she is probably just trying to make you feel comfortable with wat she thinks is your sexuality. but if it is making you ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend want a threesome AGAIN? Should I let him have one?
Q. this might sound like a stupid question, but why does my boyfriend want a threesome so much? My bf and i have been together for nearly 3 years and we've swapped partners with another couple once before, and while it physically felt great I fel...
A. 4 March 2008: no - you shouldnt go along with this despite your doubts. why do something you dont want to just to please someone else? leave this guy, so he can have all the guilt free sex he wants with other ppl. fair enough if you both enjoyed it and wanted to ... (read in full...)
What does celeste mean?
Q. Simply, what does celeste mean? I feel stupid but I have absolutely no idea lol....
A. 3 March 2008: well the first thing that came to mind, was that there is a contraceptive pill called celeste. but i dunno if thats the answer - you mite want to put your question into context - where did you hear it, and what was being said? ... (read in full...)
Everything under the sun!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly 5 months and ever since we have been going out I have had nothing but grief from her. I started to be that she was texting her ex who cheated on her, then cheating on me with another guy over the ...
A. 3 March 2008: hey hun, i think that this girl needs more help than she is letting on - especially if her parents are not the most understanding. she may be looking for attention and trying anything - or she may have some sort of mental illness. the need for the ... (read in full...)
Is Sex in a relationship important?
Q. I was wondering this because recently my girlfriend said she wanted to wait until marriage (which is fine by me I guess) I just didn't know if that included all types of sex or sexual contact....
A. 3 March 2008: if you both love and care for eachother - then things should go beyond sex, and should love eachother just as much. sex is an important element of a relationship - but only when both persons are ready and willing, and it is just another way of ... (read in full...)
I'm in a big fight with my friends, what do I do?
Q. I'm going through a rough spot with my friends right now, we keep arguing about stuff and one of my friends is in her period I'm in it too, what should I do????????...
A. 3 March 2008: if you need some time apart from each other to just chill out - then take it. everyone needs a time out now and again. talk to you friends, apologise if you have been a bit hard to handle lately and then just go home, cool down and spend some time ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my teacher I like him when I leave school??
Q. Well I kind of like one of my teachers. He is a good bit older than me but I really like him but he is married. I never want to get him into trouble or anything but I want him to know but I guess he already does because of ny friends blurting it out ...
A. 2 March 2008: what do you think is going to happen if you do tell him? - that he'll say he loves you back, you'll run off into the distance and live happily ever after? no offence or anything but it just doesnt happen like that in real life. the truth is he is ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mum I don't want to take "the pill"?
Q. hi I'm 13 and my mum recently put me on the pill but I don't want to take it. I was wondering does anyone know how I could tell my mum I don't want to take it without shouting or fighting please???...
A. 2 March 2008: why is she putting you on the pill at such a young age? are you having sex? if you are, then she is right, but there are alternatives to the pill such as the injections, and the tab in your arm. however, if you are not sexually active, then i dont ... (read in full...)
We have finally arranged to meet up...but I am scared I will freeze-up, any suggestions??
Q. I've been talking to this girl online for about 6 months now, and I fancy her quite a bit. Not just because she is pretty, she has a really great personality. We have exchanged photos and everything, and talk for about an hour each day. Now in a...
A. 2 March 2008: just remember that it is the girl you have known for a while that you are meeting - she is not a stranger or anything, she is the girl you know and like. also, you need to realise that she is probably going to be nervous also, but you will both ... (read in full...)
I want more sex...but he teases me and I am worried he wants to date other girls.
Q. Help! I feel like giving up - My boyfriend of 3 yrs just doesnt get it or want to - We spent a lovely evening again - a little shopping with his daughter, nice dinner, all the time with him joking and touching etc... I had to stop at the Rx and he ...
A. 2 March 2008: he is registered on dating sites? eh HELLO??!!!! why? and you know this and are 'ok' with this? hun come on, he may not be cheating on you but using dating sites is for the single and desperate - not someone his age who is supposed to be in a ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to cry if she won't go to the dance with me??
Q. OK, I've got a girl that I wanna take to a dance. I've asked her, haven't gotten a response yet, and I'm kinda nervous about it. But that's not my real problem. I don't really know how to confront her about it. My parents said that if she says yes...
A. 2 March 2008: your parents are going to buy you a car IF this girl goes out with you? what are they teaching you?!!! this is ridiculous, they shouldnt be rewarding you if you get a date - there are plenty more things that should be recognised - wat if she says ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work between a Catholic and non-Catholic??
Q. My bf is Catholic and i'm Anglican (christian religion). His family are really strict about their religion, where as mine arent. I dont go to church or anything, but I do believe in God and I think that alot of my morals and values are from my ...
A. 2 March 2008: ok so wat else can you do then?! you have met them, and whether they want to believe this is real or not, they like you. leave it be, there is nothing else you can really do to make you feel better. is he ok with it also yeah? all i can say is that ... (read in full...)
I am a little concerned that I maybe pregnant. Any advice??
Q. Hi All, Alright, so I had unprotected sex with my fiance. This happenned about 2 days beofre my period was due. It has now been 5 days since my period was due (7 days since having sex) My peiods have been pretty exact so I'm just a little concerne...
A. 2 March 2008: well yes, this is the best thing to do. waiting one week after a missed period is the best thing to do to get an accurate result on a pregnancy test. there are two ways to get tested for pregnancy - urine tests, and blood tests. the latter needs to ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work between a Catholic and non-Catholic??
Q. My bf is Catholic and i'm Anglican (christian religion). His family are really strict about their religion, where as mine arent. I dont go to church or anything, but I do believe in God and I think that alot of my morals and values are from my ...
A. 2 March 2008: im sure that it will be fine. has he said anything to you that would make you think that his family wouldn't approve? in my opinion, his family should respect your beliefs and care more about who you are and how happy you make their son. talk to him ... (read in full...)
He gave up drugs and drinking after our baby was born but will he ever stop lying?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now i have a little girl to him, we met when we was 18 years old, he was into drinking drugs and silly boy things and lied a lot well, when we had our baby he stopped the drugs and drinking and hanging arou...
A. 1 March 2008: well you say you dont even know if you want to be with him anymore. you need to figure out exactly wat it is you want from him, cos if you dont want to be with him, then there really is no point on trying to work on this. if you do want to stay with ... (read in full...)
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