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Is sex between siblings incest?
Q. Hi, I am a student of human psychology. I have a question. Is sex between siblings incest? I mean I have read it somewhere that it happens more often than we think. Has anybody had sex with their own brother or sister?...
A. 6 August 2008: who knows wat initiates it? some ppl know it is wrong and of course dont act on it. some ppl dont have that distinction of right or wrong in this case and do. to be honest i dont know wat brings it on. ... (read in full...)
Do you think we can last forever? We are too young to get together but he's an awesome guy!
Q. I'm going into Middle school. I have this awesome guy friend. He is no pervert, no idiot, he is sweet, kind, and a lot of fun. He is in all of my classes, and lunch breaks. So we made a schedual... We get to hang out for at least 30 minutes each day ...
A. 5 August 2008: why are you too young to get together? im assuming you are at least 16, which to me, is not too young to start seeing someone you like. as for whether or not it can last forever? honey...do you honestly think that anyone here is going to be able to ... (read in full...)
I'm being teased and I'm angry can you help me please?
Q. I have 2 questions really, i just thought it would be quick to do it at once. 1. At the moment, i am feeling depressed and et angry easily. No-one really dare talk to me sometimes because i can scream at the drop of a hat! What'swrong with...
A. 5 August 2008: to the first question: this change in moods could be a sign that you are close to getting your period. assuming you haven't got it yet, your first one could be closing in. this is normal to feel moody and depressed, all women experience hormonal ... (read in full...)
Is sex between siblings incest?
Q. Hi, I am a student of human psychology. I have a question. Is sex between siblings incest? I mean I have read it somewhere that it happens more often than we think. Has anybody had sex with their own brother or sister?...
A. 5 August 2008: yes it is incest. and yeah it happens alot. a good scroll through the archives of this site will show you that alot more ppl than we would think feel sexual attraction or have had sex with a sibling. i suppose there is a fine line that gets crossed ... (read in full...)
I had a piercing done 3 days ago, how long do I have to clean it, days, weeks, months or forever?
Q. i had a piercing done 3 days ago i am wondering how long do i have to keep cleaning it for? is it days, weeks, months or all the time cheers x...
A. 5 August 2008: did they not tell you all this? you should clean it for about 6-8 weeks with the solution you get. and then you should clean it in the shower with warm water just to keep it clean. it's the same for changing the bar/stud. you leave it in for about 6 ... (read in full...)
Was my wife really a virgin, if she almost had complete intercourse, but not quite?
Q. I've never obsessed over my wive's past before. She was a virgin (so she said) when we got engaged and moved in together. I knew of a few past boyfriends where they did some 'heavy petting', but that's it. This past weekend, we had a romantic n...
A. 5 August 2008: why does it matter whether or not she was a virgin? she married you, she loves you, she wants sex with you for the rest of her life. why her past should bother you so much is beyond me. as for what she told you, i would believe her. as far as im ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for a guy who is a real pervert and a jerk! What do I do?
Q. Okay...I have these random feeling for this random guy, he is the biggest pervert and jerk anyone could ever be. He freakin humps everything! Wut do I do?...
A. 5 August 2008: he's the bad boy. fancy him from afar but stay away from him. ... (read in full...)
I just feel plain, dull, bored and boring. What can I do?
Q. I've been feeling dull lately. These last few weeks, when I wake up, I'm like "bleh". I don't get excited about life. It bores me, the routine, or I don't know. But I don't wake up feeling like I want to seize the day (like most of the time). I ...
A. 5 August 2008: you say you have been there with depression - do you think it could be something along these lines again? not necessarily depression but maybe paranoia or anxiety? maybe you should talk to your family and tell them how you are feeling - the most ... (read in full...)
What noises should I make during sex??
Q. well im going to be losing my virginity soon as me and my boyfriend are ready for sex. but im really worried about how itll feel like but most of all what kind of noises to make. i mean, just soft moans or screams? what should i be saying?? what do ...
A. 5 August 2008: there are no rules are guidelines!! not everyone makes noise during sex. when they do, it purely out of pleasure and its not something you control or plan. don't worry about that side of things, just enjoy the moment and let whatever happens happen. ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with and get over all of this??
Q. Hello! I've been in a relationship for 4,5 years and it was the love of my life. Apart from great sex we could talk and hug for hours and were helping and supporting each other. We had problems... but I believed our love can make up for it. I wa...
A. 5 August 2008: hi sweetheart first of all im sorry that you went through all this. second of all, its very clear that the 2 of you were on different sides when it came to goals, needs, wants for the future etc. sure you were in love, but sometimes thats not ... (read in full...)
This girl keeps undermineing everything I say even when I know I'm 100% right...what do I do??
Q. There is this girl on my course who always seems to undermine me, no matter what I do. At first I thought maybe she was just irreverent with everybody but now I feel convinced that everytime we have a friendly conversation she picks at what I say, ...
A. 5 August 2008: its true that we are never going to get along with everyone we meet, and we all clash with ppl at times. but she seems to be going out of her way to clash with you. why not ask her can you talk to her alone and just ask her if you have done ... (read in full...)
I'm too scared to talk to my mum about periods/boobs and so on. Help!!
Q. I am 11, and 2 of my friends have started ther periods, the say that they asked their mum's about gettin boob's, problems 'down below' and all that.. but i feel i cant! I want to ask her about why I fancie like 5 boys in my class, and about periods ...
A. 5 August 2008: hi hunny, don't worry!! first of all you need to understand that she has been through all this too so she knows how awkward the mother/daughter talk. she is the best person you can talk to about this because she understands and loves you. its only ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 years old, going to have sex for the first time. What position is best?
Q. I am 13 and me and My And My Boyfriend have been together for nearly 3 months now and i no he wants too have sex and so do i but i am a virgin so he will be my first. i am really scared.! What position is best for the first time? Everyone says ...
A. 5 August 2008: it frustrates the hell out of me to know that the ONLY reason you wanna have sex is becuase your friend is going to and you dont wanna be considered frigid. how stupid can you get? im not saying this to hurt your feelings. im saying this because, if ... (read in full...)
I have sexual feelings towards my cousin...
Q. me and my cousin are the same age (just 4-6 weeks apart) and are really close. Ive been having sexual feelings for her for some time now and i'm not shure whether she has the same. i have thought up a tactic to say someting like -please excuse me if ...
A. 5 August 2008: you want to ask her does she want to see your penis?? oh my god. and just to let she know if she has any sense she is not going to fall for the "no i said wenis" excuse.
your family would be horrified if they walked in on you two naked with each... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and scared that I might be pregnant...I know I shouldn't had sex...
Q. help,im a 13 year old girl,i no i shouldn't of had sex but i did, and i just hate my self for it , me and my boyfriend had sex on the 15th of july ,and i was due on my period on the 27th of july but have'nt come on and i no im not late because i ...
A. 5 August 2008: oh sweetheart. you are not dirty!! you made a mistake..one that alot of girls make. you are mature enough to know this and are aware of the consequences. have you told your boyf? you need to get yourself either to your doc or to the chemist and get ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work even though I cheated on a guy?
Q. Can a relationship work even though i cheated on a guy i have been seeing for about 4 weeks, we were going through a patch when he wasn't replying to my messages so i assumed he wasn't interested, he then contacted me and wasn't aware that i thought ...
A. 5 August 2008: you have only been seeing him for 4 weeks. calm down. i wouldnt really call it a relationship! he'll get over it im sure. as for the other guy, you need to grow up and face this. just because you dread doing it doesnt mean its not the right thing. ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous and guilty what should I do???
Q. Im sleeping with a married man and Im 14 years old. Ive fallen in love with him but recently he's been really really close to his wife in front of me and i just feel jealous and guilty. help?? what should i do??...
A. 5 August 2008: i agree with eyeswideopen. grow up and cop on. how the hell do you think she would feel if she knew her husband was committing statutory rape? you need to get some sense and stop this stupid behaviour. you are not the only one to get hurt here. and ... (read in full...)
Do you know how to say 'a good looking guy' in french?
Q. do you know how to say a good looking guy in french? when i went to quebec with my school, i learned it but didnt know how to spell it. me and my friend tried to spell it, so maybe you can get it with this. we spelled it mesho pater'?...
A. 5 August 2008: its not c'est (thats "it is"). il est is he is. you are = vous etes. ... (read in full...)
Do you know how to say 'a good looking guy' in french?
Q. do you know how to say a good looking guy in french? when i went to quebec with my school, i learned it but didnt know how to spell it. me and my friend tried to spell it, so maybe you can get it with this. we spelled it mesho pater'?...
A. 5 August 2008: mesho pater???? never heard of that!!! good looking boy = un garcon beau i think ... (read in full...)
Is it a good thing to have a man who loves you but does not always want you?
Q. Question: Is it a good thing to have a man who loves you but does not always want you? I am a newly wed woman, married for just one year....
A. 4 August 2008: well it depends on what you are really looking for in the marriage. if you are looking for a marriage based more on friendship, security, and trust then i suppose its ok.
if you are looking for a marriage based on passion, true love, sex, happ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel like you need to pee in the middle of sex even if you don't actually have to go?
Q. is it normal to feel like you need to pee in the middle of sex even if you dont actually have to go?...
A. 4 August 2008: this is normal. many women and girls confuse the feeling before orgasm with the feeling that they need to go to the toilet. dont worry you wont! its completely normal. ... (read in full...)
My wife is infertile so I decided to divorce, as children are important to me. Your comments?
Q. I am 31 yrs old and married some six years back. We did not have a child due to the infertility problem from my wife side. I am an assistant professor. I am the only kid for my family. I want to have kids.Therefore I decided to divorce. I need your ...
A. 4 August 2008: this really was not fair of you at all.this woman found out that she was infertile and probably felt like a failure as a wife, guilty, broken, and not wholly a woman anymore. you of course made this a reality for her by abandoning her when she ... (read in full...)
When my wife pees she pees blood...what is causing this??
Q. Hi i would just like to as a question about my wife, and i know she should go to the doctor but she says she is too bizzy. 2 weeks ago when she pee-ed she pee-ed blood, she did it several time that day and for the next few days. she is late 4...
A. 4 August 2008: excuse me for saying this, but your wife is being VERY silly by ignoring her health and putting herself in danger like that. it could be anything ranging from mild cystisis to kidney stones. either way you are not going to get a professional ... (read in full...)
I am worried about a piercing I had done, does anyone know whether what I did is alright, please advise?
Q. hi i had a auricle piercing its about an inch up from my lobe so quite low. i got it pierced at a professional tatoo, hairdressing and piercing place but pierced it with a piercing gun and have got a stud in it. i was wondering weather it shoul...
A. 4 August 2008: i hate to sound nasty, but emilyanswers has it a bit wrong. she is of course right in saying do your research etc etc. but there is no problem in getting it done with a gun. the only piercings that should ever be done with a gun are the ones that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got mad when he discovered my plans to cheat! Should I walk?
Q. I have been seeing a guy now for a few months. We live together with a third roomate and we all have jobs. I have never cheated on any of my previous boyfriends, but I will admit I was interested in casually dating some guys behind my boyfriends ...
A. 4 August 2008: just because he has cheated on other girls does not make it ok for you to do the same thing to him. and he is not going to see it that way either. you seem to be justifying being with him and cheating on him at the same time when wat you really need ... (read in full...)
I keep having dizzy spells....any idea what they could be?
Q. ever since april/may this year, i've started to have these really weird dizzy spells. i've had a few panic attacks aswell. i've just recently done my welsh GCSE's two years early and my parents thought it was something to do with that. we went to ...
A. 3 August 2008: you could be suffering from mild anxiety due to the stress of your exams. i suffer from anxiety and recently started listening to meditation music at night. this has helped me so much and teaches you to relax and breathe when you feel panicky. as ... (read in full...)
Abused by cousin who now lives in our house! Please help.
Q. me and my sister wer staying at my aunties house each evening after school because she was our baby sitter she had 2 children, my 2 cousins who wer 3 and 4 years older than me. my cousin C was 3 1/2years older than me and she would always bul...
A. 3 August 2008: my god im so sorry that this happened to you - she was older than you and should have known that wat she was doing was absolutely wrong. now that you're older, have you considered confronting her about it? she needs to face wat she did and apologise ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got mad when he discovered my plans to cheat! Should I walk?
Q. I have been seeing a guy now for a few months. We live together with a third roomate and we all have jobs. I have never cheated on any of my previous boyfriends, but I will admit I was interested in casually dating some guys behind my boyfriends ...
A. 3 August 2008: the trust in this "relationship" is obviously gone. he didnt trust you so hacked into your accounts. now you cant trust him . you were both in the wrong here. he went behind your back and invaded your privacy, but you went behind his back planning ... (read in full...)
Has my vulgar text scared off my sweet and sensitive man??
Q. I have just returned to the UK after spending 3 months in Greece. While i was there I met an Albanian man - who although i didnt get to know very well, really fancied. We got on very well, but the language barrier was difficult and then time ran...
A. 2 August 2008: im sure he is embarrassed as now, it looks as if you have shot him down when he responded to those "dirty" texts. the poor guy obviously got excited and this got blown to pieces when you said otherwise. you need to understand this - it may even feel ... (read in full...)
I feel so ugly, will I ever get a boyfriend?
Q. Hey. Im a girl, Ive just turned 15. My problem is with my appearance. I always feel so ugly. Monsterously ugly, and people tell me Im ugly aswell. If Im out with my friends, lads will look my at my friends and smile, then look at me and they'll look ...
A. 28 July 2008: i love the answer that ChiRaven gave. I cant add more to it!! I think its great for a poster like yourself to get advice from guys as well as girls on this. read it a few times and believe wat he is saying to you. its all true!! and sweetheart just ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very jealous, how do I help him to not be so jealous, and to love me more?
Q. what does a girl have to do with her boy friend like sexual things? what to do when your boyfriend is really galous? what to do to keep ur boyfriend inlove with with you? ...
A. 28 July 2008: you can do nothing. you cant buy his love with sexual acts. you cant make him love you. you cant keep him in love with you. no offence but these are VERY immature questions. a girl your age should know that the age old presumption of giving him sex ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend. Should I tell him?
Q. i cheated on my boyfriend, whom i have been going out with for 2 months. With someone that i kissed about a year ago, it was totally out of the blue and i really regret it now. Should i tell him or not ...?!...
A. 28 July 2008: so you kissed and nothing else...leave it. you have only been going out for 2 months after all!!! as long as you know you made a mistake and regret it then i dont see any reason to hurt the guy you wanna be with. some may not agree with this advice ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to orgasm
Q. Hi this may sound weird but I can't seem to orgasam. I only reached 2 mind blowing orgasams in my life. Tried different positions nothing works.... but I will squirt.... just dont get that tingly feeling kwim? ...
A. 28 July 2008: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-cant-have-an-orgasm-with-my-partner.html... (read in full...)
I can't have an orgasm with my partner, although it works OK alone
Q. im 18 and i carnt have a orgasum with my partner but i can through oral sex and mastubation, i dont wont to tell my bf because he thinks i do have one during sex, i get the arousal feeling during sex but i never seem 2b able have one, i dont no what ...
A. 28 July 2008: this is VERY normal dont worry. alot of women NEVER orgasm through intercourse without a little added help (fingers, vibrator etc). you need to stop faking it though, i fell into that trap years ago and it doesnt end well. he thinks that he's doing ... (read in full...)
Will I ever hear from the guy I met on holiday?
Q. I've just come back from holidays 4 days ago and while I was over there I met a really great guy. We didn't get to spent a lot of time together alone because we were both there with friends, but the time we did was amazing. We just talked loads and ...
A. 28 July 2008: ah i had the exact same problem!!! email me and we can talk about it if you want. but if he is still over there, chances are you wont hear from him until he gets home too. is he from the same country? email me id love to talk to ya xxx... (read in full...)
I've been bleeding, hungry, tired, and throwing up since having sex. What could be wrong?
Q. So i had sex with my boyfriend about 11 days ago and i have been bleeding ever since. Then today, i threw up twice and my appetite has increased as well. And in addition, i am constantly tired even though ive had plenty of sleep. I told my boyfriend ...
A. 28 July 2008: if it is not coming up to the time of your period, then i would defo get the bleeding checked out - esp if its proper blood loss rather than lining (i.e period blood, sorry to be so graphic). i think that you should defo go to your GP, all we can do ... (read in full...)
Could I have some birthday present ideas for my girl. Thanks
Q. good birthday present ideas? girl likes music theatre drama anime japanese pop culture alternative fashion chocolate thanks everybody...
A. 26 July 2008: india's idea is great. theatre tickets would be a lovely pressie, im a musical theatre addict and i loved it when my boyf surprised me with tickets to les mis in london (im from ireland). go onto google and search for any upcoming shows that may be ... (read in full...)
How can I cope with my terminally ill father?
Q. my dad's going to die within the next year... i don't think i can cope anymore....
A. 26 July 2008: hey sweetheart im so sorry that you and your family are going through this, my thoughts are with you all. you have to remember that right now your dad needs you most, you and all his loved ones. he is probably as scared as you are. right now i know ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him for cheating on me, and lying to me about it?
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this guy for nearly two years now. Three days after we started dating, he was alone with this girl, and HE SAYS that she kissed him goodbye when she left, not knowing that he was dating me. However, he did not even tell me ...
A. 26 July 2008: ok so the kiss after only 3 days of dating is forgivable. but the lying, tricking, deceiving, humiliating and then going back to her and asking for more? not forgivable. not justifiable. yes you should just leave him. you said yourself you saw the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get withdrawal symptoms if you stop masturbating?
Q. i know you hear of people gettin withdrawal symptoms from smoking, drinking etc, but when its that one week out of the month and mastubating would be a REALLYY messy job so i prefer not to do it, i get realy snappy n stuff, and i get so horny its ...
A. 26 July 2008: this isnt due to not masturbating!! alot of girls get particularly horny in and around the time of their period - this is normal. and as for the snappy stuff, yes we all go through it and its cos of the hormonal changes going on in your body. so no ... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop leading guys on into liking me as more than a friend?
Q. What can I do to stop leading guys on into liking me as more than a friend? I just have a very outgoing personality and I just want a guy friend!...
A. 25 July 2008: i know exactly wat you mean!!! well the thing you have to be aware of is flirting with them - even if you dont think your doing it you are, its kind of how we initiate conversation with men i think. the other thing is to always stick to group ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a member of a group who won't give?
Q. Hi, I'm studying events management, and a group of girls in my class are manageing a large event for our final semester of studies. We need to come up with a name for the group and we are deciding between Zap Events or Vibrant Events. The majo...
A. 24 July 2008: i think you made the right choice with vibrant events. i study event management myself, and zap events sounds harsh, impersonal and aggressive. it sounds like there is no personal touch to the event itself and that its quick and then you're out of ... (read in full...)
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