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He gave up drugs and drinking after our baby was born but will he ever stop lying?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now i have a little girl to him, we met when we was 18 years old, he was into drinking drugs and silly boy things and lied a lot well, when we had our baby he stopped the drugs and drinking and hanging arou...
A. 1 March 2008: well you say you dont even know if you want to be with him anymore. you need to figure out exactly wat it is you want from him, cos if you dont want to be with him, then there really is no point on trying to work on this. if you do want to stay with ... (read in full...)
We've been together for 2 years but have not had sex yet, as he is never aroused - while I am, always.
Q. i'm 21 yrs old and from Sri Lanka. I have been going out with my boy friend for the past 2 yrs (he's 24)but we still haven't had sex. When I ask him if he really want to have it, he won't say anything. And I get turned on very easly and he ...
A. 1 March 2008: well after being together that long, i think you have the right to know wat is going on. a boyfriend is meant to be attracted to his partner, sexually. ask him and tell him that you want to know the truth once and for all - and tell him that you ... (read in full...)
Does he still have feelings for me? If not, why would it be so hard to write that back in an email?
Q. My exbf broke up with me in early Dec. We live an hour away, he hadnt had a GF since his last 3 years ago and thought he was ready. Well he wasnt. Said wanted to keep in touch hang out occasionally and if it works out get back together ...
A. 1 March 2008: well instead of waiting around for a reply, just ask him! i mean you talk to him and meet up with him, so why cant you just say it to him in person? do you still have feelings for him? if you do then ask him , if you dont then i dont know why you ... (read in full...)
Should I just give up on my unreliable on-off boyfriend?
Q. I have had an on-off relationship with my boyfriend/ex-boyfriend for 3 years. He has broken up with me several times and we've always got back together after a few months. We do love each other but he is often inconsiderate and I find myself being ...
A. 1 March 2008: you both love eachother? sorry hun but i think this love is one sided - he is not treating you like someone he is in love with and is just using you and picking you up and dropping you wen he feels like it. he is acting immaure and it sounds to me ... (read in full...)
I can't help being jealous about my bf going out with other girls...
Q. I'm starting to have a real problem.. I've been with my boyfriend 15 months and we've had our bad times like any couple, but always quickly pulled through and we're still going strong. But when he goes out with girls.. I worry and it ruins my whole...
A. 1 March 2008: well at least he is not going out with them alone. they fancy him? well i presume you trust him enough to know that he is not going to do anything, but let him know that this makes you feel uncomfortable, and that his friends shouldn't treat you ... (read in full...)
He slept with 2 girls before me while drunk, and I have trouble dealing with this issue!
Q. i've been with my bf for 4 years now and he slept with 2 girls before me, he was my first and i still get really mad and upset when i think about his last words, will that feeling ever go away? he said it only lasted about 5 mins each and he slept ...
A. 1 March 2008: why do you hate them? its not their fault - people have sex!! just cos you were his first, you shouldn't condemn him for sleeping with someone - before he even knew you! the fact is he chose you, he is with you. he shouldn't have to apologise for ... (read in full...)
Could a doctor prescribe hormones for breasts growth?
Q. Hi guys, I have a question that I didn't know the answer to so I thought I would share it with you and see if anyone can help me with answers. My cousin came to me the other day, very upset and unhappy with her body. Her main issue is that sh...
A. 1 March 2008: well i do know that some contraceptive pills increase breast growth - i went up to a 34DD!!! and as for the hormones that they would give a man wanting to be a woman, im sure that they are too strong and her GP wouldnt recommend it. tell her to vist ... (read in full...)
My fiance hangs out with other girls. Is this a problem?
Q. My fiance "hangs out" with other girls. Should I be concerned about this???...
A. 1 March 2008: well to be honest, you cant expect him to cut all ties with his friends - its completely normal for guys to have girl friends. but there should be some boundaries, he shouldnt be meeting up with them alone, and he shouldnt be spending so much time ... (read in full...)
I can't help being jealous about my bf going out with other girls...
Q. I'm starting to have a real problem.. I've been with my boyfriend 15 months and we've had our bad times like any couple, but always quickly pulled through and we're still going strong. But when he goes out with girls.. I worry and it ruins my whole...
A. 1 March 2008: does he go out with these girls alone ie just him and her?? if he does then this is not acceptable, and i would understand why this would upset you. why dont you go out with him and these girls? you probably would get along well with them and end up ... (read in full...)
I love him too, should I however let him go or hold on?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 7 months ago but I still love him. When we hang out he'd tell me he loves me still but now that he has a new girlfriend, he can't just leave her and be with me. But he keeps telling me that he's happy with me and he just ...
A. 1 March 2008: hey hun, well i dont know how to say this without sounding harsh - but he is playing you. he is having his cake and eating it too, and knows that you will end up getting hurt! think about his gf - how do you think she would feel if the man she was ... (read in full...)
How can I have my cake and eat it too?
Q. I am growing close to a man who I work with despite us both living with our respective partners. We both know we have feelings for each other, and a greater connection on a mental and spiritual level. The thing is, I don't want a relationship with ...
A. 1 March 2008: you want to have your cake and eat it too?? come one hun, do you really think that ever works out? you say you dont want to leave your partner, but you also say that you are having problems? the question is, do you love your boyf that much that you ... (read in full...)
Why is he kissing and cuddling me if he doesn't want a relationship?
Q. Im so confused. There's this guy that iv known for 5 months now and we were gettin really close. we would hang out togther, id go over his watch a film..he would ring me a few times a day for a chat, evrything seemed great and knew that he liked me. ...
A. 1 March 2008: hey hun, it sounds to me that he doesnt really know exactly wat he wants. i think that he is being very fair to you to tell you that he is not ready for a full time gf, and letting you know this is very respectful. the thing is, you dont have to be ... (read in full...)
He dumped me twice then denied we had a relationship, why is he treating me like this?
Q. OK,so,i've been out with this guy twice. I really loved it when i did and i know he did to,although he dumped me within a week. I went out with him again and he dumped me again. I was at school the other day playin truth or dare and someone aske...
A. 1 March 2008: ok how old are you? the thing is hun, boys this age are really immature and are so aware of wat ppl think of them. he is acting like an ass, and you dont deserve this treatment. if he does approach you again - tell him like it is. if he likes you ... (read in full...)
I'm a young Mum who recently had an abortion and am going through a tough time!
Q. hi im 21 and have a little girl she only 13 months old and i found out a few months ago i was pregnant with twins well at the time i was not ready for them and was going throw a bad time with my boyfriend i was really ill and i could not cope with ...
A. 1 March 2008: hey sweetheart - first of all i am so sorry for your situation, i can only imagine wat you must be going through. well i think that you should check if there are any groups or counselling sessions to go to for women who have been in the same ... (read in full...)
I didn't really want him but now we've split up, I do want him...
Q. I was dating this wonderful man. For some reason when i was with him i felt like i really didnt want to be with him. But now that we broke up I am miserable. The reason we broke up was b/c i was texting an ex of mine. And he ended up calling me a ...
A. 1 March 2008: hey hun, i was in a somewhat similar situation a few year ago with my current boyf. i had been going out with him for about 6 months, and he treated me so well - something i wasnt reallly used to. i was 18, and this was my first 'real', adult and ... (read in full...)
Does he want me back, or not? Why is he asking my family about me?
Q. So go figure this one out... I was with my ex boyfriend for a year. We lived together (from 4 months on). He dumped me just after Christmas. I moved out within the week. He'd spent almost £800 on presents for me for Christmas. Then he dum...
A. 1 March 2008: hun why do you care? you said yourself the love is just not there on your side - so why would you want to know how he still feels about you? he may still want you, he may not anymore, you may never know. if he wants to ask about you let him - why ... (read in full...)
Why do some women choose 'bad boys' over 'normal' guys, as nine times out of ten, they get hurt in the end?
Q. Why do some women choose 'bad boys' over 'normal' guys, as nine times out of ten, they get hurt in the end?...
A. 29 February 2008: girls may seem to love being with the bad guy - but they always end up with the nice guy. always. girls like the chase, the mystery, something that keeps them on their toes and excited. bad boys can present that - they are spontaneous and defo pose ... (read in full...)
One day we are flirting...the next we are fighting...what should I do??
Q. hey, was wondering if anyone can help me with this... I basically went out with a guy at the start of the summer, didn't feel the same so split up with him. We go through really rough patches one day we're flirting the next we're fighting. hes real...
A. 29 February 2008: your only a young teenager, so is he - wat do you expect? he says he loves you, wat does he know of love if he thinks that rumours, flirting, and fighting is love? if you dont like him dont go out with him - simple as that. enjoy being young for ... (read in full...)
Will her male friends stop calling when they hear we are dating??
Q. Hello, I really like this girl Jessica, we have liked each other for about 4years now. But the reason why i didnt date her before was because she was really flirty to everyone and it made me jealous and i didnt see myself trusting her, so i gave u...
A. 29 February 2008: its harmless for a girl to have male friends. and alot of girls flirt with guys that are their friends - but would never see it as anything serious. it is natural for members of the opposite sex to be friendly and sometimes flirt - its instinct ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help give me tips to lose 30kg?
Q. I really have to lose about 30kg. I need help please. Anything that would work? I do swim and walk about 2 kilometres a day but it doesn't seem to work. Please help me. thx. xxx....
A. 29 February 2008: excercising isnt solely going to help you lose weight if the other elements of your lifestyle stay the same. diet changes also need to be made. cut out sugar, sodas, unhealthy snacks, and convenience foods. instead of frying your food grill or poach ... (read in full...)
She's due out of jail soon and is claiming to have "found the Lord". She wants to come home... should I take her back?
Q. Briefly as I can: situation I am 58, ex is 42. She is in jail {6 months} and will be getting out soon. I was married 20 years 1 [15 year old daughter] left. This woman has stole credit cards, bank checks over the 20 years amounting to $100,000 ...
A. 29 February 2008: well she may have really turned over a new leaf and found a new path. so i suggest you take things slow with her wen she gets out, and see if she really is different - you dont want to be introducing your kids back into that life, so you really need ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me what a "spit roast" is???
Q. What's a "spit roast" all these lasses at school where taking the piss out of a girl at school because she didn't know what it meant and I just laughed along so they didn't know any different. What does it actually mean? ...
A. 29 February 2008: spit roast - girl on all fours usually, 2 guys - she gives one oral while the other one takes her from behind. its pretty gross, why are people this age talking about this type of stuff? it doesnt make them any cooler or anything - just vulgar. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to kiss him over his body but I'm not sure what to do or where I really need advice.
Q. My boyfriend wants me to kiss him over his body but I'm not sure what to do or where I really need advice, he's my first every boyfriend and he's had loads of experience, he's always kissing me and touching me but I don't do anything back, and I ...
A. 29 February 2008: he just wants you to explore his body more and feel more at ease with his body. as for where to kiss him - neck, chest,thighs etc are all erogenous zones and it feels really pleasurable. just go with your gut and do wat you want to him! the more you ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my friends calling me names?
Q. My family is kinda well off but my friends think that because were well off I'm spoiled and it's really hurtful to hear them talking about me behind my back and saying things that aren't true what should I do?...
A. 29 February 2008: these people are your friends? honey come on, friends don't call you names behind your back, and they dont care wat your background is or how much money your family have. if you want to stay friends with these people, talk to them and tell them that ... (read in full...)
We just got back together and he tells me he's going out with friends instead of me!!!!
Q. Ok so if it was finished with you and your boyfriend, but you both knew you'd get back together, and you did just this week. Would you be kinda odd if he wanted to be with the boys tonight rather than you??? Well thats my story, we finished ...
A. 29 February 2008: you broke up with him for 3 days? come on hun its not as if you were apart for 3 months. so what if he wants to spend time with his mates - its not as if he loves you less or anything is it?!! you cant get annoyed with him every time he wants to ... (read in full...)
Does he love me? What do I do?
Q. Hi, I really need help! Im seeing this guy who is already in a relationship. I've been seeing him for a year now and im in complete awe of him. I know its wrong and not a day goes by that i dont make me feel guilty but i cant help my feelings...
A. 29 February 2008: all these reasons you have given for you not being together are just excuses and ways for you to reassure yourself. this guy is never going to leave his gf - he is enjoying the best of both worlds and is taking advantage of your age and the fact ... (read in full...)
Will he tell?
Q. hi every one, I'm only 14 and i have fallen in love with this guy, but he only likes me for what I did in the past... I have shown him my breasts and I wish I didn't.. I really do. Now he wants me to show it to him again, but I keep on saying no. I ...
A. 29 February 2008: this guy sounds like an asshole - excuse the language. dont do it, wat have you got to gain by knowing that the only reason he likes you is because you showed him your breasts? you're only 14 and behaviour like this is not cool - dont fall for his ... (read in full...)
My friends are angry that I want to break up with him as it was them that got us together.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 months but I don't think we really have anything in common, my friends fixed us up and I talking 2 them about breaking up with him and they were really mad but I like another guy who my friends hate. ...
A. 28 February 2008: its not your friends who are dating him its you. they need to understand that you cant stay with him and be unhappy just for him! if you want to break up with this guy, then do it, dont not do it to make others happy. if they have a problem with it, ... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me, it's hard to tell?
Q. i recently met a guy who is in my department at school when a bunch of us were out at a pub. we hit it off immediatley and spent the entire night talking, he kept rubbing my arm while we were talking too, and at the end of the night he asked for my ...
A. 28 February 2008: hey hun, well from wat i can gather he is interested in you and wants to get to know you more - maybe the age gap is making him feel a little awkward about contacting you? maybe he doesnt know wat to say? if you work in the same place, why not ... (read in full...)
I am considering cheating
Q. I have been married for 10 yrs have 2 children but have had an all but non existent sex life during the marriage. I have tried seducing her buying presents doing all the household chores and even explaining that i will have to walk away from the ...
A. 28 February 2008: you mentioned saying something to your wife about this, wat was her response? please dont cheat - you have children involved in this and you dont want to expose them to the nastier side of marriage. you say you love your wife, but are you 'in' love ... (read in full...)
Desperately need advice about my partner's porn watching.
Q. Hi, I'm so unhappy at the moment. I work full time but my boyfriend works from home. Every day he watches porn, despite at the beginning of our relationship him telling me he doesn't watch videos. Today I went to the shops for one hour and came bac...
A. 28 February 2008: so let me get this straight - you give him oral EVERY day, you have sex twice a month, and while you go off to work everyday he stays at home and gets off?? talk about selfish!!! fair enough if he watches porn - all men do, but all these other ... (read in full...)
Her parents won't let her have a boyfriend...
Q. What can I do, my girlfriend's parents don't let her have a boyfriend, they found out she is talking to someone on the phone every night the saw the phone bill, should I go introduce myself or what could we do? Her parents won't let her have a ...
A. 28 February 2008: hey hun, while keeping it secret sounds fab - it may not work out in reality - if you get caught the trust they have for her goes out the window, as would your relationship i would imagine. why not ask your gf to organise for you to go over for ... (read in full...)
My teacher made me feel really uncomfortable...
Q. I'm using my mum's account and remaining annonymous. Anyway, I'm having my half-term holidays now and in last week of last term in a history lesson something kind of creeped me out. In the lesson near the end we were all listening to the assistant...
A. 28 February 2008: hey chick, while it could mean nothing, just be aware of him - your instincts could be right so just keep an eye on him. if he starts to pass any comments or touches you or ANYTHING, say something immediately!but for the moment dont freak out too ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant without intercourse?
Q. can a female become pregnant without full on intercourse...
A. 28 February 2008: very unlikely but sometimes slightly possible. if his semen (fluids containing sperm) enters your vagina then you have a chance of getting pregnant. but like i said its a very slim chance that you would get pregnant without actually having ... (read in full...)
What does his text mean?
Q. i got this text from this boy that i think likes me i donno what it means. "i love you can it be our little secret u dont have a bf right can u come to our beach party fri night i wanna prove it to u love u xxxxx" what does this mean does it mea...
A. 28 February 2008: hun sounds to me like this guy wants to sleep with you and keep it secret - or tell all his friends. if you like him, then go and see him at this party but dont have sex with him! see how he treats you etc, and you will probably know then exactly ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of my gut?
Q. Over the years I've developed a terrible tummy. The rest of me is O.K. but I can't seem to lose the gut. What else can I do besides endless sit ups to lose this pregnant look?...
A. 28 February 2008: do you drink alot of beer?? sorry! but if you do try cutting down, if you dont then dont worry - alot of people carry all their weight on just one part of their body - im the same, mine is on my stomach!! before you do sit ups i would suggest just ... (read in full...)
We spend less time together and our relationship has become "too convenient," according to her! Is it normal?
Q. I am 6 months into a fantastic relationship. Started off intense and fast. We were pretty much together 24/7 from day one. (except work)It has cooled off into a normal relationship. She used to constantly show me physically and verbally how much...
A. 28 February 2008: well wat you have to understand is that the first while of a new relationship is the time wen you cant keep your hands off eachother - and wen you keep telling him/her that. now that the relationship has got a little more comfortable - its not ... (read in full...)
Dating other boys upset him, thus we broke up. What is the best way to win him back, or get over him?
Q. Hi guys im 15. basically i started talking to this boy for a couple of months and i guess i took advantage of all his compliments. I couldnt commit to anything with the boy because my freind also liked him for a little, he understood that but said ...
A. 28 February 2008: 'i want him so much more now that i cant have him' - ppl want wat they cant have and wen they get it the novelty wears off. wen you had him you didnt want him - ie the hanging out with other guys, and now that someone else has him he looks all shiny ... (read in full...)
I am unmarried and the teacher of my son might fancy me, what shall I do?
Q. I have a 6 year old that i take to school everyday and iv noticed a certain male teacher there who has just lately being smiling at me and says hello and im very attracted to him, im single so i dont have a partner.The problem is im not sure whether ...
A. 28 February 2008: hey there, have you tried approaching him and making casual conversation with him when he greets you? not only is it viewed as being polite and friendly, but it is also a chance for you to get to know him and really see if he is flirting with you ... (read in full...)
How should my friend handle her teacher's remarks, perhaps improper?
Q. my bestmate has been feeling really uncomfortable in one of her lessons lately. the teacher said she was really pretty and if he were the same age he would have probably asked her out. just yesterday he said that he had a girlfriend when ...
A. 28 February 2008: well i think that these comments are on the inappropriate side. is he making her feel uncomfortable? talk to her and see how she feels about the situation. personally, at your young age, i would say something to my principal. it is not healthy for a ... (read in full...)
I am never in the mood although initially the sex was great! What to do to improve the situation?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 4 years with my fiance john, I love him very much and I am still attracted to him. When we first started dating we had a great sex life but now I just dont feel like it (I hardly ever feel sexually aroused anymore). ...
A. 28 February 2008: hey hun, well if sex is in any way painful or uncomfortable for you, i would suggest you go to your GP and get a smear test etc.
You could be suffering from some sort of infection or virus, and alot of the time, this affects your libido. are you ... (read in full...)
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