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I have no friends! How do I get out of this mess?

Q.   i feel like i have no friends at all they have all gone there seperate ways and just don't bother texting or even replying i don't get invited to any parties or anywhere anymore i feel really left out and feel like im just billy no mates. ive ...

A.   29 December 2011: Don't worry about the relationships or sex. You'll be glad in three or four years time. As for friends, well, have some of them started uni? What interests do you have? Music? Theatre? Art? Sports? Find something social to join.... (read in full...)

Does body size matter to a guy?

Q.   Do men find a curvy body attractive??? I am short lol! Only 5'4" JUST!!! and I am not a skinny girl like, I wish I was more hourglass too, my measurements are 38-35-42 and I just want to know, do guys like girls with a bit extra on the bottom a...

A.   28 February 2011: beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes. you sound perfect to me :)... (read in full...)

Am I puritan for staying a virgin at 18?

Q.   I am an 18 year old girl who is a virgin. All of my friends have had sexual relations prior to turning 18. They say I am a puritan and should be having sex at my age. I think I am right in that I want to wait until I am married. Am I wrong ?...

A.   27 February 2011: no, it's fine. i am 21 and a virgin. it doesn't mean that much. I just think it's good to save it until you are with someone that you love... (read in full...)

I want our first time to be without a condom!

Q.   My girlfriend and I of a year have made a decision to have sex. We plan on doing it really soon as in a few days, and I want to make it the best experience for her. I've heard that she could get pregnant from my precum which is a problem that I ...

A.   2 January 2011: just don't. there always a possibility... too many risks.... (read in full...)

If my Mum found out she would go mad at my flirty texting sister.

Q.   I really need help really really fast. okay my sister is texting this guy on facebook and they hardly know each other. he's way too young for her and she's way too old! She flirts with everyone guy. I'm so ashamed of her. If mum found out she woul...

A.   26 December 2010: how old is your sister? perhaps, cruel though it is, she needs a straight talking to. ... (read in full...)

She's my close friend, but I want to get over my romantic feelings for her

Q.   A few questions about close friendship with a girl We have an intensely close and deep friendship. We have gone out for dinner together, spent time with each other on every possible occasion. She's been there for me through very tough times. I...

A.   24 December 2010: I would I can be happy for her. It would be tough though. She knows how I felt or feel for her. I don't know why she rejected me. I'd really like to think she could develop feelings for me, but when she has rejected me...(twice - I tried again wi... (read in full...)

Is it possible to love someone but not be IN love with them?

Q.   Is it possible to love someone but not be IN love with them? As in, like I care for you enough to the point where I love you but I'm not in love with you. I don't know if that made any sense. sorry! haha...

A.   24 December 2010: Hmm your wording is a bit off. Yes it is possible. It is not though a degree of romantic attachment. For example, I love my best friend deeply, but there is no romance between us. It is possible to love someone you attracted to without... (read in full...)

What kind of gift would be fun and nice for a young lady?

Q.   I am going to be home from uni over the summer, so I won't be seeing the young lady I like until possibly until September (though as I only live a couple of hours away I will probably try to visit when I can) Our current situation is that we have ...

A.   24 June 2009: OK, my situation is that I am unsure about what I want with her, and I think she is the same with me. I do want a friendship, but I want more (romantic relationship more than physical). I feel if I hadn't told her everything and interpre... (read in full...)

What kind of gift would be fun and nice for a young lady?

Q.   I am going to be home from uni over the summer, so I won't be seeing the young lady I like until possibly until September (though as I only live a couple of hours away I will probably try to visit when I can) Our current situation is that we have ...

A.   3 June 2009: Well we are in separate social circles. It was only by chance that we both happened to attend a meal hosted as a student societal event by one of my friends that we met.... (read in full...)

What kind of gift would be fun and nice for a young lady?

Q.   I am going to be home from uni over the summer, so I won't be seeing the young lady I like until possibly until September (though as I only live a couple of hours away I will probably try to visit when I can) Our current situation is that we have ...

A.   3 June 2009: Well her big love is books! I just would not know what exactly to get for her in that area. I guess I can think of something. Like I say though I am looking for something that would just show a bit of fun as I think I am a little too serious ... (read in full...)

I want to ask her out, but don't know what to suggest, or if it really is the next step?

Q.   I need to know what to do next in a potential relationship. (I am in uni btw) It has taken me a while to realise how much she really does like me. We met five months ago and have been meeting semi-regularly or regularly for nearly 4 months. ...

A.   3 June 2009: We went for dinner. I enjoyed it. I am not sure yet what is going to happen now, especially now it is summer.... (read in full...)

I want to ask her out, but don't know what to suggest, or if it really is the next step?

Q.   I need to know what to do next in a potential relationship. (I am in uni btw) It has taken me a while to realise how much she really does like me. We met five months ago and have been meeting semi-regularly or regularly for nearly 4 months. ...

A.   18 May 2009: I know I need to relax :) I am an on edge person a lot apparently. But you know you this a particularly big deal :)... (read in full...)

I want to ask her out, but don't know what to suggest, or if it really is the next step?

Q.   I need to know what to do next in a potential relationship. (I am in uni btw) It has taken me a while to realise how much she really does like me. We met five months ago and have been meeting semi-regularly or regularly for nearly 4 months. ...

A.   18 May 2009: OK what sort of thing? :) There just isn't a lot I can think of really. There is not a lot to do here in this town that I can think of at least in the time frame (I finish exams 3rd June go home 4th or 5th so that means we would go out 3rd or f... (read in full...)

We got on great at camp... how can I continue this?

Q.   I have never had a girlfriend I am not the fighting type or anything like that but recently me and this really popular girl randomly met at this camp. We started off being in the same group and that then it got to sitting in the same chair and then ...

A.   26 October 2008: She probably likes you. Try flirting with her, then ask her out.... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and have felt pressured to have sex most of my high school life.

Q.   I'm 15 and have felt pressured to have sex most of my high school life. I have a girlfriend and I want to have sex with her but I'm not confident enough. It's not that I have a small penis, it's that I have tight forskin and cannot ejaculate yet. ...

A.   22 October 2008: You're fifteen mate. You are under age to begin with, and very few fifteen year olds have the emotional maturity for sex. I am nineteen and I still feel that I don't yet, and I can say honestly that it isn't that bad to never have had it. Don't... (read in full...)

Am I taking the right course of action with this girl?

Q.   I am uncertain whether or not I have been taking the right course of action with the girl I think I am attracted to in uni at the moment. Firstly, I have known her only a month now, and I am not yet suree how much I do like her, so I am being ca...

A.   21 October 2008: Thanks for the answers. Anyway she accepted my invitation but made it clear that she didn't see at as a date and doesn't see me in that way. I don't really mind though as I hadn't really any strong feelings.... (read in full...)

What can I say or do that isn't too direct that would suggest to her how I feel?

Q.   I am currently in university just started two weeks ago. I met this lovely girl waiting for one of the lectures. She seemed a bit lost and didn't know anyone. I was with one of my flatmates so we introduced ourselves. Anyhow, she (like me) doe...

A.   5 October 2008: I hear what you are saying. I have had my fair share of crushes and infatuations. It doesn't quite feel the same. Definitely feeling somewhat of an attraction. Far too early to tell really I'll only have known her two weeks as of tomorrow.... (read in full...)

She is listed in her profile as being in an open relationship. I told her we should meet. Is there any way I could consider a possibility of a relationship at some point?

Q.   As I mentioned, I am starting uni soon. I added a few people on facebook doing the same course or are in the same hall as me. Anyway, I was talking to a girl I added a few weeks ago today on the facebook IM service. She doesn't know anyone...

A.   19 September 2008: Good point - had not thought of that at all. Strangely though, a profile on another networking site lists her as single. :S... (read in full...)

How do you make love to a very large guy?

Q.   This may sound so stupid but...........I need to know, my boyfriend is overweight a very large tummy and I'm thin. Oh my gosh I'm so embarresed to ask but how do you make love to a very large guy, his tummy gets in the way. And he's not very well ...

A.   16 September 2008: Can't help you with an answer. But I'd like to say this. I am also overweight and find it heartening that you are in a relationship with this guy. I think it's really and sweet and wonderful that you can see what matters in a person.... (read in full...)

My desire for a relationship is strong but I think my size is an issue! How can I overcome this?

Q.   I have posted questions previously about how I worry about how my appearance will affect my relationships in the future. Quick reminder - I am nineteen years old, six foot dark hair blue eyes. My close female friends say I'm sweet and kind and love...

A.   15 September 2008: Fellow music lover! Great. I suppose I am starting to become a bit desperate. I don't mind you saying so at all...experience is key to anything in life I accept that. Emily - fortunately I am not much of a drinker so that won't be a worry. As fo... (read in full...)

Do you believe in fate?

Q.   When we were together, things just too strange would happen. We would think of each other at the exact same time, reach for the phone and get a text or phone call from each other. I would think of him and our song would play. The same thing happened ...

A.   13 August 2008: Not exactly the same, but when I have arranged to spend time with the young lady I am attracted I often seem to know at some subconscious level exactly where she will be and when. Two examples: 1. We had arranged to meet for lunch. I decide to ... (read in full...)

I don't know what to do? I feel I have no friends my age. I am 18.

Q.   I dont know what to do? i feel i have no friends my age (18). i live in a small village and i went to the primary school for a few years but halfway through i went to a private school about 20 mins from my village i never really had any friends ...

A.   8 August 2008: I felt the same for a long time. To an extent I still do feel like somewhat of a loner. It was largely due to bullying in school and the general mistrust of people that followed it. After going to college, things improved. I was able to make mor... (read in full...)

She sees me more than she sees her boyfriend, the gift and the way she talks about him makes me wonder if she likes me...

Q.   Posted the first part before, at here, under the title - "I don't want to interfere if he makes her happy, but I don't know how much longer he will keep it up.": http://www.dea...

A.   30 July 2008: ChiRaven: that's generally how I feel about it at the moment. To be honest, at this minute my feelings are a bit confused when it comes to how I feel about her. Of course I accept whatever she wants. I wouldn't be a good friend otherwise. The path ... (read in full...)

I feel so ugly, will I ever get a boyfriend?

Q.   Hey. Im a girl, Ive just turned 15. My problem is with my appearance. I always feel so ugly. Monsterously ugly, and people tell me Im ugly aswell. If Im out with my friends, lads will look my at my friends and smile, then look at me and they'll look ...

A.   28 July 2008: You certainly will get a boyfriend. I have no doubt. I feel your pain to some extent. I have been very overweight all my life. I've had people say I'm fat and ugly. They said that out of contempt. But I was never a "good looking" person - far fro... (read in full...)

I let a couple of friends down seeing my boyfriend instead. Now it seems they don't want us to hang out this summer. Have I really ruined it?

Q.   hey. So me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 months now (pretty amazing for me) but recetnly friends have been getting funny with me about seein him. We have like a routine and we go round each others houses etc. and to be honest I...

A.   25 July 2008: Age 13-15? Trust me your friends are more important at this stage in your life. I sometimes wish I could have been in a relationship when I was 15. Looking back I can see I wasn't ready emotionally and definitely lacked the maturity for a good rel... (read in full...)

I don't want to interfere if he makes her happy, but I don't know how much longer he will keep it up.

Q.   Quick introduction. I'm having confused feelings over a female friend. I'm 18 she is 17 just over a year younger than me. She started in sixth form college (UK) the year after me. Anyway, she was the friend of a friend, and she started spending...

A.   15 July 2008: I realise I forgot to mention I'm going to university towards the end of September. It's only a couple of hours away, so in the remote possibility of something happening between us, it might not be too great a distance to cause problems.... (read in full...)

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