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I cheated, but now I'm married and I will never cheat again. Should I tell him?
Q. 15 months ago I cheated (i gave a friend a hand job) on my at the time boyfriend (we got engaged 3 months after it happened) now we are getting married in 1 and a half weeks and I am wondering if I should tell him? In all actuality we were in a ...
A. 1 July 2008: i dont think you should tell him - unless of course there is any risk of him finding out! im presuming it was a once off thing that happened and obviously it made you realise wat you have with the man your going to marry. telling him will only break ... (read in full...)
I cheated, but now I'm married and I will never cheat again. Should I tell him?
Q. 15 months ago I cheated (i gave a friend a hand job) on my at the time boyfriend (we got engaged 3 months after it happened) now we are getting married in 1 and a half weeks and I am wondering if I should tell him? In all actuality we were in a ...
A. 1 July 2008: i dont think you should tell him - unless of course there is any risk of him finding out! im presuming it was a once off thing that happened and obviously it made you realise wat you have with the man your going to marry. telling him will only break ... (read in full...)
I want to know how I should handle myself on the first few dates? I don't want to appear clingy or desperate!
Q. im in a new relationship after breaking up with my fiancee of a year and a half and i cant remember how i should act for the first few dates like how much is too much or too little texting and how much is too much or too little seeing each other. as ...
A. 30 June 2008: yeah but was there really a need to see if he was ok, to tell him your finished work, and to ask him to pass on a message? he is fine, he doesnt need to know when you finish work, and you could have left it at the text to pass on a message.... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping 12-16 hours a day, and I have other unpleasant symptoms. Can anyone suggest what's wrong with me?
Q. i need help plz.recently have been sleeping more than usual.i sleep like 12-16hours a day and even at that,i get someone to wake me up not me waking up willingly. i get tired easily and all i wona do is lie down and rest.whenever i stand up to go ge...
A. 30 June 2008: well i suggest that instead of asking us wat wrong with you (us being agony aunts and regular joes) GO TO THE DOCTOR my god with symptoms like these i'd be at my doc in a heartbeat - it could be pregnancy, anemia, cystisis, urinary infection, ... (read in full...)
I become petrified at the thought of experimenting more, sexually wise.
Q. Okay so I have kissed three guys. The first was just a kiss at the end of a date but the last two guys I made out with. I am scared though becasue I don't know how to do anything else. Is something wrong with me because I am scared to get ...
A. 30 June 2008: this is completely normal and dont worry if your friends have done it - it doesnt mean you have to if your not ready. when you meet the right guy you will want to try new things with him so dont worry. however, if you do wanna learn more about ... (read in full...)
How can I catch them if that's the case? I suspect they're cheating.
Q. we have known each other for 7 years now. I cheated on all my girlfriends with her and allowed her to ruin the relationships. Never made it official with her. I finally have in 2 months ago... About a few weeks ago we've grown distant. We meet up no ...
A. 30 June 2008: sit her down and ask her wats going on. i must say though you will get a taste of you own medicine if she is - how can there be any trust in this relationship when you have cheated on everyone else and suspect her? there are so many red flags here i ... (read in full...)
How concerned should I be about the chances of pregnancy?
Q. i could be a week pregnant but im not sure. but my question is what is the chance? i have the feeling that my worrying is delaying my periode from the stress so thats why i need an answer soon. me and my bf been having sex this past week and im on ...
A. 30 June 2008: its highly unlikely that you are pregnant hun, and its very true that stress - esp relating to this topic, can delay your period - a friend of mine just put herself through the same thing. best thing to do is take a test - nothing will put your mind ... (read in full...)
I want to know how I should handle myself on the first few dates? I don't want to appear clingy or desperate!
Q. im in a new relationship after breaking up with my fiancee of a year and a half and i cant remember how i should act for the first few dates like how much is too much or too little texting and how much is too much or too little seeing each other. as ...
A. 30 June 2008: ok well those 3 texts were 2 too much - he only replied to one!! while you want him to know that you are interested, you dont want to be so available and pushy with him. wait for him to text you now. if he does text/ring and ask you out again, tell ... (read in full...)
What do I do about a guy I met at the pub? I really want him to ask me out!
Q. hey everyone my name is Clare i live in surrey in englnd, i went to a party at a pub the other day and there was this really hot guy who works in there of course being a girl i was wearing a low cut top, anyhow he kept looking at me but i was too ...
A. 30 June 2008: when you went to that party in the pub - who did you go with, your parents? a pub can be a great place to meet ppl as everyone is out to be social etc. you need to over come your shyness - no one is going to shun you for being friendly! as for the ... (read in full...)
Do his actions show that he fancies me? What do you think?
Q. Does he fancy me? I have known this guy for 4 years and over the past couple of years we have become good friends, especially in the last 6 months. He has always had mostly female friends and so is comfortable around us all and the more he se...
A. 30 June 2008: this question has caused me to wonder if he is gay? he has many female friends, he is very affectionate to you and them, and his general behaviour possibly points to the fact he may be gay. have you ever seen him dating, kissing, with other girls? ... (read in full...)
I have a mental block that prevents me from having an orgasm during sex! How do I get past it?
Q. i have a mental block that prevents me from coming during sex or fingering, i can come no problem from oral or masturbation...when my bf fingers me it feels amazing and he knows just how to hit my gspot, but when he goes at it for a while i get the ...
A. 30 June 2008: when your boyf does stuff like this to you - do you feel conscious or anything? do you start to overthink and get distracted? you need to relax and concentrate on how enjoyable it can be. the other thing is that your techniques are obviously ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my vile friend? She's getting mean!
Q. hello ! i have a freind and shes my best freind and she has started to be mean to me for no apparent reason. she comments on things i say even if they dont involve her she constantly has a little go at me for no reason.today a girl who i am not fon...
A. 30 June 2008: i think that you should confront her and ask her why she thinks she can treat you like this? she may be really insecure and it ups her own confidence to put you down. talk to her and tell her that your not going to stand there and take it anymore. ... (read in full...)
He use to date my best friend and now he is asking me out. What should I do?
Q. there us a guy who use to date my ex-bestfriend know is asking me out. his saying he should have ask me instead of my former bestfriend but i don't want tobenore than a friend to him. what shouldi do i don't want to lose our friendship and i don't ...
A. 30 June 2008: if you dont want to date this guy, then tell him. dont date him just to keep a friendship as that will ruin whatever you guys have. simply tell him that your not looking for anything right now but you value his friendship. or tell him you just dont ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any hints for shaving?
Q. Shaving pube's is a nightmare.. Trying to get into all those little awkward places, anyone got any hints on how to get the best shave, and get to those awkward bits? Lol thanx xox...
A. 30 June 2008: have you tried waxing or hair removal cream? shaving is fine for your bikini line, but getting the awkward bits IS a nightmare! waxing i find id the best method as it reduces the risk of ingrown hairs, and ensures that you get a clean wax, even the ... (read in full...)
He won't have sex with me because I had a one night stand. This is breaking my heart.
Q. hiya well im 17 and my bf is 27 we have been together for 3 years and i love him dearly i want to spend the rest of my life with him and he says that he wants the same. well the problem is about 1 and 1/2 years ago while we was split up i had a one ...
A. 30 June 2008: You both made a mistake and you were the bigger person to forgive. he needs to make up his mind as to whether a one night stand is worth losing the woman he loves - if he cant grow and make an effort to get over this, then you need to consider ... (read in full...)
Pain during intercourse in my lower abdomen, it's not due to lack of lubrication or foreplay, has anyone else dealt with this?
Q. I'm having a problem with sex. My boyfriend and I have sex usually 2-3 times a week, but over the last few months we've been doing it less. This is because I have been experiencing some pain during intercourse since March. It's like a dull aching, ...
A. 28 June 2008: ok so you think you have endo, you take the pill to take care of it - have you even gone to a doctor? no offence or anything, but with something like this, you shouldnt be looking for advice on a website like this - you should be visiting your GP!! ... (read in full...)
She likes me but doesn't love me...how can I make her love me??
Q. 40 and i love lady how is 24yers old but she send me email taling me {that you know that i like you, but i dont love you}. so pls how cain i make hemer loves me...
A. 28 June 2008: you are 40 and you still think that you can MAKE another person love you?? jesus grow up!! ... (read in full...)
I think I might be gay - or psychologically disturbed
Q. Okay, so I think i may be gay. Gay porn really turns me on but I feel so gross. Its not because I'm gay, its because I fantasize about my highschool mates raping me. Is that wrong or are there others like me. And another question: how do I know if a ...
A. 28 June 2008: hey sweetie, well it does sound like you are gay but you are still so young and are still growing so you may just simply be confused about your sexuality. many people have different fantasies - when you fantasize about being raped, is it violent in ... (read in full...)
I'm I going to be pressured to have sex from all these boys?
Q. i am nearly 14 and i am underpresser about having sex! there are soo many sexy lads that i know, and most of them have asked me out, i have only went out with 1 of them, and there is 9 more lads that have asked me out. the one i went out with said ...
A. 23 June 2008: hi chicken - first of all fair play to you for knowing that you are too young and need to wait to have sex - you're very mature and waiting will make it all the more special for you. all these guys that have asked you out may just want sex, or may ... (read in full...)
Why won't he let me have my own cell phone? I don't see the big deal.
Q. He doesnt let me use my own phone but he has his own cell. Also he keeps the secret passcode as a secret and secured one for me too.As being a teacher there comes times when i really get troubled when i dont have a cell.For example: in need to give ...
A. 23 June 2008: when i first started reading this i thought you were a child talking about their father - im taking it i was wrong. are you not in the financial situation where you can buy your own with your own money? if you are then go out and buy one - its your ... (read in full...)
My dream is to become a runway model...should I give up school?
Q. My dream is to become a runway model,and i dont know what to do.Im in school but my finaid isnt enough to go and ive been praying and this lady wants me to be a housemodel at her salon and take photos and build my portfolio.This will be my 3rd year ...
A. 23 June 2008: i dont think that you should drop out of school with no opportunities on the horizon. use your free time to go to agencies, build your portfolio, and attend events and auditions that will help you. if you drop out of school and you have no modelling ... (read in full...)
I don't think I love him any more but he begs me to work it out. What should I do?
Q. Well...Where to start! I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, we are both 16. We haven't had sex, and he really respects me, he is really good looking and in all aspects he is perfect. We used to have such a laugh together...
A. 23 June 2008: i have gone through a very similar situation with my boyf of 3 year. he is perfect, great to me etc etc, but the love hasnt been there for a while and i was scared to hurt him by leaving. however, i learned that by staying with him would hurt him ... (read in full...)
Sex with a new boyfriend - how soon is too soon?
Q. How soon is too soon, to have sex with a new boyfriend? Im just curious to know....
A. 20 June 2008: no one here can answer that for you hun. only you guys will know when the time is right. there is no deadline set in stone - every relationship is different! if your not ready yet then thats fine. and when its going to happen im sure it will just ... (read in full...)
How do I regain her friendship and become un-creepy?
Q. Alright so right now I'm having a chat via e-mail with a girl that I really, really, really like (like she is all I think about night and day.) So over the past few months I've tried asking her out, then sending her poetry, then talking to her. She ...
A. 20 June 2008: the red flag for me there was the fact that you started emailing her poetry - creepy creepy creepy. romantic? no... slightly frightening? yeah. even if my boyf of 3 yrs started writing me poetry i would run a mile - so if a stranger starts sending ... (read in full...)
Vaginal hygiene - Am I going about it right?
Q. I wash my vagina with a scrubie poof thing and soap. Is this bad? Like, is it the same as douching?...
A. 20 June 2008: the vagina is self cleaning so there is no need to wash it with soap, especially inside as this can lead to irritation. if you do want to wash it, wash the inside and around the clitoris with warm water, and with your hands not a pouf thing! ... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm during sex, what should I do?
Q. Okay. Well Ive had sex and my boyfriend seems to cum early... But the last two times we had sex, we were at it for a long time but I got dry... So were gonna buy lube, but the fact is I have never came while haven sex but I can make myself cum.. ...
A. 20 June 2008: jesus how old are you? you are not ready to have sex, which means your body isnt either! and the fact that you are asking this question just goes to show how little you know about sex and how you are still too young to be having it. you must ... (read in full...)
How can I get my parents to trust us?
Q. Me and my boyfriend, we were planning to stay at the chalet for a few nights. we're going to share a bed but my parents were afraid that we would have sex. how can i persuade them?...
A. 20 June 2008: wat do you expect in all fairness? you, him, chalet, one bed=sex. to be honest i think if he is planning on taking you away for a few nites, then he thinks sex is on the cards. of course your parents dont trust you - i wouldnt either!! respect your ... (read in full...)
One Night Stand: Is there a general consensus on when to cum?
Q. Just a quick question, during unprotected sex, either in a relationship or a one night stand....what is the general consensus on where to cum? cheers for any answers...
A. 23 April 2008: i presume that since yous saying unprotected you wanna know where to cum when you pull out?? havent you heard of a little wonder called a condom? im surprised that you would or will find any girl out there who is willing to put their body and health ... (read in full...)
I have no idea what loving someone really means. Where do I even start if I never get asked out?
Q. I'm 19 and have trouble getting guys to want to go out w me. i don't know why. no guy ever asked me out. when i let myself fall head over heels over someone, and i take the initiative to make the first move, i am always, and i do mean ALWAYS, ...
A. 23 April 2008: hey hun - well first of all, your only 19!! slow down your still young and have plenty of time to fall in love. second of all - stop putting yourself down and concentrating on the rejection. hard to say as we all have those days of self doubt and ... (read in full...)
We can no longer be together since it's ILLEGAL!
Q. I love this guy but we can't be together because he is 18 and i am 15 going on 16.. we hvae been together 3 years and now we cant be together any longer because it is illegal. he said that maybe we should just wait till im 18 but im scared he will ...
A. 23 April 2008: wen you say that its illegal, im presuming that you are in fact sexually active with him. if your not, then your not really doing anything wrong, if your parents are fine with it and you dont have to sneak around or hide your relationship then i ... (read in full...)
A question of who should be president?
Q. During the recent presidntial election many have talked about relgion and morals. John McCain is remarried while his first wife is stil living that is adultery. Hillary Clintons husband is an adulter. Barrack Obama has no cases against h...
A. 16 April 2008: are you serious? i would have thought that in this day and age race would not be an issue here but virtues, character, personality and beliefs. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's neediness is smothering me, how can I tell her without being coldhearted?
Q. Hello there…. Help! Please! Some background…. I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months, we have lived together for the last 6, up until then it was great. I do love her; she is the sweetest person I have ever met. I have never cheated on her a...
A. 16 April 2008: hey there, well this girl has obviouly been hurt in the past and this has dented her ability to trust again or feel secure in a relationship without constant reassurance. i think that you should talk to her, and tell her that you do love her and ... (read in full...)
I don't fancy him, we're just friends, but he's been telling people I'm his girlfriend! How should I deal with this?
Q. I live in a block of flats and have a neighbour who has liked me for a long time, i agreed to go out with him as a friend but told him it was nothing more. we ended up kissing at the end of the night and did spend a bit of time together after that, ...
A. 16 April 2008: well in all fairness - you went out with him on a 'date' thing, you kissed him, and you spent time with him after. you have to think about the fact that you may have led him on. i know you have been telling him that you only wanna be just friends, ... (read in full...)
Red, swollen and itchy labia lip, what should I do?
Q. Please help, my left labia lip (outside) is very red swollen and itchy what could this be?! Should i go to the emergency clinic?...
A. 16 April 2008: this could be thrush hun, you should go to your gyno or GP and get checked out just in case. im sure its nothing, but it could be a reaction to something or an std so you need to find out asap. dont worry hun, im sure its thrush ... (read in full...)
If I have an abortion, is it true that I won't be able to have children in the future?
Q. My B/F and I had unprotected sex, and I'm pregnant but I don't want to keep the baby because I'm only 17. I may sound selfish but I really don't want to, I want to have an abortion but I've heard that after having an abortion there is a big poss...
A. 15 April 2008: hey sweetheart, first of all its not selfish - you are making a really hard, mature decision, and i can only guess that part of it is because you are not ready and you know that. second of all, while abortions can slightly increase the chances of ... (read in full...)
Can I hide having sex at 13 from my parents? Is it advisable?
Q. i want to have sex but my mom doesn't know that.i'm only 13 and want to have a baby.but also i don't have a boyfriend.how do i get a boyfriend and have sex at the same time without my mom finding out?...
A. 15 April 2008: oh my god i could scream when i read these posts. im sorry but this is going to be harsh harsh harsh.....wat are you thinking??? you are still a CHILD!!! - the fact that you are even asking this question shows us that you are nowhere near ready to ... (read in full...)
How can I look and feel attractive with out make-up?
Q. I've worn make-up since i can remember, all day everyday, even on holiday. I don't feel comfortable without it on, the thing is, as you can imagine, my skins already becoming quite knackered out already, i have pinkish skin with dark freckles ...
A. 15 April 2008: hey hun, well first of all you need to start a really deep cleaning skin regime - cos your skin is probably absolutely worn out!! you and your skin are still so young and you need to let it breathe once in a while. exfoliate once a week - this is ... (read in full...)
He has a problem with anger when drunk, can this change??
Q. I have the most wonderful boyfriend. He treats me very well, he's respectful, loving, attentive, everything you could possibly want in a man, and I am madly in love with him. But he has a problem with anger when he gets drunk. Normally, he;s f...
A. 15 April 2008: well i think that the other post is wrong - i have known of alot of men (and women) that have had different alocohol - especially spirits - disagree with them. a friend of mine had a similar problem, and her boyf just stopped drinking spirits at ... (read in full...)
I'm always wet down below, it's very uncomfortable!
Q. I know this might sound gross, but I always feel wet down below. I have a bath every day, if not twice a day. I feel fresh and dry for about an hour, then I just feel wet and uncomfortable and I have alot of dicharge. I did consider thrush,...
A. 15 April 2008: it could be to do with the contraceptive injection that you have started - your body may just be getting used to the hormonal changes and this is its way of dealing. you should go to your gp and explain your problem - it could be something else. ... (read in full...)
Having a relationship with my dad's friend, should I tell my parents?
Q. Hi, i am 17 and my dads friend (who is 42) has told me he has had feelings for me for a long time, we have kissed on a few occasions and have been away on a weekend together where we had sex which i really enjoyed. I really like him, but i think ...
A. 11 April 2008: well you do have to realise that this man is a little on the morally wrong side for having sexual feelings for a child - and yes, in his eyes, and others the same age - you are a child still. you have to be prepared for the fact that if you did tell ... (read in full...)
He wants me to cut my hair? I won't have a chance with him if I don't...so is he worth it?
Q. i need some advice, i've got this guy i really like him and we are going ot meet soon but he says i ain't got a chance unless i cut my hair i really like my long hair and dont wanna cut it but i dont wanna miss out on being with him do u think i...
A. 10 April 2008: i cant believe that some guy thinks he has the right to tell someone they have no chance until they cut their hair?? this is disgusting to be honest. how dare he demand that of you? stick to your guns and be who YOU are - not something else just to ... (read in full...)
I feel like the relationship isnt fun anymore
Q. Hi. Ive been with my girlfriend for 6months, it started off well, but im not so sure now. She has just turned 17 and i am 20. There are qualities i like about her that are different to my ex, but other qualities im not so keen on. I feel l...
A. 10 April 2008: ok so you have only been together 6 months and already the novelty has worn off? strange as that may be to me, its not my relationship so i dont know what your going through. however, if you find that you have slumped into a routine that doesnt ... (read in full...)
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