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Why are so many children having sex?
Q. Hi. This is a general question, rather than help really, and for all the young people to think about perhaps. Ok, here it is..... Why are so many very young people having sex under 16 years old? For a start the legal age for it is no...
A. 24 July 2007: i know exactly wat your talking about - it is so worrying! im 21 and had my first wen i was 18 and regret even having it then! the thing is that the pressure these days is unreal! and especially for girls sex is basically all over these days and it ... (read in full...)
His horoscope said 'an ex is back'! How much validity do you think this has?
Q. Things have been going beautifully between my b/f and I for the past few months, after much stress over an ex-girlfriend that took him 4 years to get over because he insisted on remaining friends with her, even though she's manipulative, intrusive ...
A. 24 July 2007: its a horoscope - a computer makes them up so i wouldnt take it to heart too much. wat i would worry about is the obvious trust issues and lack of communication between you and your bf - if you truly trusted him then you wouldnt have to go behind ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my ex and expected him to try to win me back. He didnt, but I miss him now.
Q. I broke up with my Ex a few months ago when i ended it. He ended it first but then changed his mind after a few weeks of absence and no phone calls. He said at the time that he was ready to give the relationship another try but the thing is it ...
A. 24 July 2007: well to be honest with something like that you really do have to hear it straight from the horses mouth you know? i think that you need to ask him - not accuse him but calmly tell him that you heard it and your just wondering where it came from, if ... (read in full...)
Is it dangerous to have oral sex with him right after anal sex?
Q. My boyfriend likes to come in my mouth and have me swallow his semen. I'm ok with that...but we've been thinking of trying anal and I'm worried about how dangerous it is to do him orally after anal. Can I do it safely? Is it safe to swallow ? ...
A. 20 July 2007: I wouldnt suggest that at all you could get an infection or worse as there is so much bacteria in there! plus i hope u and your guy are planning on using a condom wen you do try anal?... (read in full...)
We dated on and off; now he has a girlfriend but still acts like he wants me
Q. Dear whoever will answer this, So I need some major advice. I've dated this guy on and off for a year, and now he has a girlfriend but he still acts like he wants to be with me. He's one of my best friends and I hate the thought of losing him b...
A. 16 July 2007: your completely right - the things he is saying are not right. he is leading you on and making you think that there is something there but he is not taking it any furthere than that - if he loves you fair enough, he should be with you!! but honestly ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about another girl?
Q. i was with my b/f watching tv and i had a movie on for a few seconds and changed it and then he said i thought you liked so and so(he said the name of the movie) and i said umm no..i never saw the movie. And he said oh i thought you said that...i ...
A. 16 July 2007: i wouldnt worry about another girl - but wat i do wonder is do you trust him? if you jumped to this conclusion then your obviously untrustworthy or not completely secure in the relationship. think about why you would think this, are you insecure or ... (read in full...)
I have low self esteem and I'm afraid to ask girls out
Q. I am rather shy, and I have very poor confidence in myself. I'm the tall,skinny,quiet kid who is good in school, I'm sure you know the type. I'm afraid of asking girls out, and what they would think of me if I did, although I have no problem talking ...
A. 16 July 2007: if you say that you can talk to them normally then you could try dropping in hints that you could go out - u dont even have to make it sound like a date try things like talking about interests you both like - movies, music, sport etc and say ... (read in full...)
He wanted to marry me but his parents have another girl for him he has to wed
Q. My friend got close to me saying he wants to marry me. We got emotionally attached to each other very much and now due to his family problems he says he can not marry me. I tried to tell him how much it is hurting etc but he says he is sorry and ...
A. 16 July 2007: he is a grown man!! is he in a certain religion or ethnicity that his parents arranged his marriage? if not then he shouldnt let his parents do this. wat they are doing is wrong, and if he cant see this then maybe you should sit down and talk about ... (read in full...)
We dated on and off; now he has a girlfriend but still acts like he wants me
Q. Dear whoever will answer this, So I need some major advice. I've dated this guy on and off for a year, and now he has a girlfriend but he still acts like he wants to be with me. He's one of my best friends and I hate the thought of losing him b...
A. 16 July 2007: hi there hun, i feel for you - its hard to be friends with someone that you cant be with but want to. the only thing i can tell you is that if he really did love you then he would be with you and not this new woman. if you find it too hard to be ... (read in full...)
How can I break up with her without hurting her?
Q. hi, there is this girl that i am currently goin out with and i want to break up with her without hurting her and i really dont kno how. please help! ...
A. 16 July 2007: there is no such thing!! any break up is tough and hurtful for both parties but it would be more hurtful to her if you led her on and made her think that everything was ok! tell her gently and give her your reason - she deserves a good reason and to ... (read in full...)
My friend feels like he's been replaced since his best friend got a girlfriend
Q. A friend of my girlfriend has a problem. We will call him Bob. He has been best friends with a guy for over 10 years. We will call him Joe. They did everything together. Anyway, recently Joe had started dating someone and all of a sudden he doesnt ...
A. 16 July 2007: hey i think you should advise bob to talk to joe, if they have been so close for so long then joe should understand and it should be easy for them to talk about it. in the meantime, why not try and get closer to bob and include him in your social ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to keep the baby and if I should tell him
Q. I am pregnant by my new ex. We had only been dating 6 months, but the unhealthy relationship he has with the mother of his child has finally broke us. I already had an abortion a few months ago (also his) and I really don't know what to do. I really ...
A. 16 July 2007: im not sure if you would even be allowed have a second abortion in such a short time. its very unhealthy and you should be careful of your body. if you felt the twinge of motherhood the last time than maybe you are ready to be a mother!! dont let ... (read in full...)
We want to wait until we're engaged or married before we lose our virginity; what can we do in the meantime?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 1/2 months and things are starting to get a bit more physical. We haven't had sex, far from it probably, but each time we are together, we always seem to touch a little bit more. Go a little bit farther. ...
A. 16 July 2007: ok so you want to have fun and not orgasm? there are things that you can do that will result in orgasm but arent considered sex, but if you dont wanna go this far than you can do things that are more on the romantic side - massage with aromatherapy ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me saying he wants to experiment sexually but he had said he wanted to be with only me
Q. In a month me and my boyfriend would have been coming up on our two year anniversary. I found out he was lying to me about basic things, so I got friends involved and they did a little intervention. He admitted to them that he has thought about ...
A. 16 July 2007: this guy obviously doesnt understand wat it is to be in love with someone. he cant understand that sex is just sex whereas sex with a loved one is the best you'll ever have. he is probably too young and to immature to commit to you properly and you ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and doesn't love his girlfriend (who he has three kids with) anymore - but he hasn't left her yet!
Q. im 25 with 3 children and have been seein a man for 4 years he has kids and a girlfriend,he has been telling me since just before xmas that he loves me and doesnt love her anymore wants to be with me but finds it hard to leave cause of his kids, i ...
A. 16 July 2007: this has happened so many times wen affairs start up. he is in the dream position - he has a girlfriend that he shares a life with, and then he has you - who offers him a way to slip out of that life and enjoy another life. if he really does love ... (read in full...)
He regrets not having as many sex partners and that makes me feel insecure
Q. My boyfriend loves me there is no doubt. We found each other again after years of unhappiness. I had a healthy number sexual partners in my youth and am now happy to settle. He has only had a few partners and makes references this, seeming very ...
A. 16 July 2007: he has not said to you that he wants to be unfaithful so why would you think that? he may only be acting like this wen it comes to sexual history because he may feel inferior to you in that area. his ego is probably a bit bruised and he could be ... (read in full...)
I am 15 and dating a 27 year old
Q. i am turning 15 and i am dating a 27 yr old i dont know how to tell my parents i really love him...
A. 16 July 2007: first of all if you did tell your parents - they would not react well, wat they would hear is that their little girl is dating a man almost twice her age! wat this man is doing is illegal and he is taking advantage of your youth. you think you are ... (read in full...)
I just wanted reassurance and now he wont talk to me
Q. I have been seeing my guy for about 8 months now... im 20 and hes 35 - we get along perfectly and we never see a problem with the age difference... Today we had a great big fight because i told him im starting to think hes treating me like...
A. 16 July 2007: i do agree with donna - you shouldnt look for fights wen there are none! and yes he is older than you and probably takes things like this in a relationship alot more seriously than you think. give him some time to cool down and then admit your ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my ex and expected him to try to win me back. He didnt, but I miss him now.
Q. I broke up with my Ex a few months ago when i ended it. He ended it first but then changed his mind after a few weeks of absence and no phone calls. He said at the time that he was ready to give the relationship another try but the thing is it ...
A. 16 July 2007: did you break up with him because you wanted him to appreciate you more and realise that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'?? maybe he just wants to give you your space for now and thinks that that is what you need. i dont want to sound cruel in... (read in full...)
My ex wants to get back together, but I am leary
Q. I was with me ex for a year and half, we were really close from day 1...then he turned into someone i didnt recognise and thought the grass was greener on the other side and dumped me in march. I knew he was stupid and couldnt understand why he done ...
A. 16 July 2007: Give him a chance! I broke up with my bf and when I realised what I had done, he took me back and now we're happier than ever! Don't miss out on possible happiness for you just because you are wary of it. Take it slow first and you will gradually be ... (read in full...)
How do I improve my sexual tecnique when I didnt know I was bad in the first place?
Q. Hello, My girlfriend of 5 and half years has just recently broken up with me (about 2 weeks ago). She said that she no longer loves me, she found a new guy, she doesn't see a future with me, and etc. Anyways, I met her the other day and we w...
A. 16 July 2007: she may be just doing this out of spite - if she was with you for 5yrs and didnt say anything then she cant have been that unsatisfying! if you are unsure of your technique then there are websites that can give you info on pleasing women, positions, ... (read in full...)
How can you tell a good friend to go home without sounding like a jerk?
Q. Whenever my husband and I ask one of our close friends over for dinner, he always just assumes that he's going to also spend the night - and then he spends half of the day with us the next day! He only lives 45 minutes away and we've tried hinting ...
A. 16 July 2007: why dont you try and go out more often instead - then you are not obliged to have him stay - which is probably the way he sees it. if you do have him over for dinner, order taxis for everyone wen they are ready and suggest that he shares one with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got a rash after going down on me
Q. Hi, myself and my boyfriend recently had oral sex which he performed on me. It turns out that he got a rash for one day and the next day it had cleared up and gone away. What is this? I am totally freaked out since I had been to the doctor the ...
A. 16 July 2007: it was probably just irritation from your hair i wouldn't worry about it!!... (read in full...)
She is hiding her bisexual past from me
Q. Re: Girlfriend hiding bisexual past from boyfriend I discovered that my girlfriend dated another women a year before meeting me. Her email was open on my computer... curiosity got the best of me. I know I was wrong to peek. My girlfriend doe...
A. 15 July 2007: well as you did go behind her back, you are now not being honest with her so you have done to her wat she has done to you. i think that you need to be open with her and apologise for wat you did but it is a hard thing to do wen something like that ... (read in full...)
I sometimes have flashbacks to previous bad sexual experiences
Q. I just have a few questions. First of all, let me say that I'm in a wonderful relationship and we have lots of fun together. All right, recently my boyfriend has stoped telling me that he loves me. His 24 year old cousin and Grandmother think that ...
A. 15 July 2007: it is completely normal for girls who have had experiences like yours to have flashbacks - esp wen in a similar situation with a new guy. i think that it is amazing that you have a guy that is so understanding, patient and respectful of your fears ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell us how to make me have an orgasm?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been intimate for 11 months now and i have not yet received the pleasure of having a orgasm. We have tried many different things and yet it has not happened. We were wondering if anyone could give us any suggestions on a...
A. 15 July 2007: it is very normal for girls to find it hard to orgasm from sex. you need some other stimulation as well as sex i think. have you tried oral sex? it sounds like you may need to try clitoral stimulation, which is something you wont get from ... (read in full...)
I wake up in the morning feeling miserable
Q. Please help me everyone. I'm so upset. Since mine and my girlfriends break up almost 3 weeks ago, I find that I'm waking up in the morning miserable, and I don't know how to help it. This is starting to seem like depression, but I don't wan...
A. 15 July 2007: i dont think that you should worry about depression. you both broke up only 3 weeks ago and the wounds are still open. wat your going through is completely understandable and it will take time for you to get over her. how long were you seeing ... (read in full...)
Shes 14, I am 16. Is it ok to date her?
Q. a girl i like said she would go out with me if i ever asked her out but she knows i wouldn't because she's 14 and i'm 16. So is she too young for me? She flirts and talks alot to me and tells me she loves me. ...
A. 15 July 2007: i think its absolutely fine to date this girl. i dunno if you know this but your both at the same mentally mature level, as guys are as mature as girls 1-2 yrs younger. wen i was 14 all my guy friends were 16 and it was fine!! but just remember that ... (read in full...)
I get jealous because I cant compare to airbrushed models in a magazine
Q. Why am i so jealous and insecure? Im 28 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. Hes a good man and will do anything for me and vice verca. Ive suffered from jealousy and insecurity now for many years, however i am bett...
A. 15 July 2007: hey there it sounds to me like you may have either mild depression or self esteem issues. i would advise you to see a counsellor to get help with this issue. as for all those women that you feel inadequate to, they ARE airbrushed, they probably ... (read in full...)
Does porn bother you?
Q. Hi everyone I would just like to ask for several minutes of your time to ask for your opinion on the folllowing. It MAY affect women more than men (as already confirmed. How do you all feel about your partner (male/or female, again it may...
A. 15 July 2007: i think thats its fine for you or your partner to look at stuff like that - but in moderation!!i know my bf has porn on his fone and laptop but that doesnt bother me in the slightest i suppose its cos i know he loves me and wants me!! i also think ... (read in full...)
My soul mate is about to get married and it is tearing me apart!
Q. I have spent a long time looking for a soul mate and now I have found them and we have been getting along great and are very close friends... but I never had the courage to take it further in case it changed the realtionship. As a result I have ...
A. 14 July 2007: it is such a hard position to be in for you! do you think that this person could feel the same and could just be settling? if so then i think that you should consider telling him how you feel, i know its a horrible thing to do but if you are meant ... (read in full...)
He's just broken up with me because we fight all the time, I don't want to fight with him so how can I resolve this?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been fighting a lot and we have been together for almost a year and we just broke up because he doesn't want to deal with fighting anymore. What should I do because I don't want to fight either?...
A. 14 July 2007: wat do you fight about??alot of people have this problem but you shouldnt give up. try getting back but taking it slow and not spending too much time together, if the fights are about small random things, then it could be because your both ... (read in full...)
He tells me he doesn't know what missing someone is, he is an only child and spent years in a boarding school so he tells me he's content to be alone...
Q. Hi! I've been chatting on the phone and through emails with a guy from NZ.. I'm in the US.. we met on myspace, and we really hit it off... He's everything I've ever wanted in a guy, intelligent, sexy, sweet, funny, independant... the list goe...
A. 14 July 2007: Well i dont think that it is healthy to have a relationship with someone that you cant see and give up others that may pass you by. i think its ok to be friends with him but if he is not giving to you wat you need then you should try and get out ... (read in full...)
Is she messing me about? Or is she just scared of commitment?
Q. Before I start I must warn all of you this is a very long winded problem, but please read on I could use all the advice I can lay my hands on. I have been seeing this girl who is 19 and I am 23. we were together for 1 and a half magical years, i...
A. 14 July 2007: so u were together for almost 2 yrs with out any problems and were in love, then she goes away and things change. in my opinion this girl is not scared of committment but just doesnt know wat or who she wants and while she tries to determine this ... (read in full...)
He said he wrestles with things in his mind because he thinks it won't work...
Q. I have been dating a guy about 6 months. The first couple months were amazing. We really connected and totally fell for each other. After those 2 months I went away for week on a trip and he sent me emails telling me how much he missed me and ...
A. 14 July 2007: i think that until he can sort out his mind and issues, you need to stay away from him. yes he doesnt want to break up with you but it doesnt seem like he really is in it with his heart. wat he is doing is not fair to you cos it is causing you to ... (read in full...)
Shaved my eyebrows! How long does it take for them to grow back in?
Q. i shaved my eyebrows now they are really thin and short, how long will it take for them to grow back. thankyu xxx...
A. 13 July 2007: ah we have all been there i think!!it can take between 5 days and 8 weeks it depends on genetics,growth speed,ethnicity etc.for you i cant imagine it would take longer then 2-3 weeks... (read in full...)
I'm not sure...Do I really love this guy?
Q. ok well i have been going out with this guy for a year and a half and i love him but i keep on thinking about another guy and how it would be it we date. i cheated on him 2 times and i told him b/c i just feel really bad and he took me back i don't ...
A. 13 July 2007: while it is normal to be attracted to other guys it is a different thing to want to be with other guys. you need to try and imagine wat it would be like to not have him in your life at all. wen you cheated did you enjoy it?or were you thinking about ... (read in full...)
He feels bad he doesn't work so he won't get back together with me. What should I do?
Q. hi.i really need your help. there is this guy that i have been with for three months but now we broke up , because he kissed another girl and because he has just not matured enough,but i am head over heels for this guy and i think he is the one. i ...
A. 13 July 2007: ok well first of all i do believe in giving people second chance - after all we are all only human! you need to talk to him and make sure that he really is determined to make it work and understand that he cant be unfaithful again! also assure him ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a period to be late after starting on the pill?
Q. i started the pill at the beginning of this week as this was the week my doctor highlighted in my planner. i was due to get my period about the 10th/11th of this week and now its like 2-3 days later and there is no sign of it at all. is this normal ...
A. 13 July 2007: this is normal, wen i started the pill my period started after the seven day break!!and wen you first start the pill you may not bleed at all this is normal. if you are very nervous you can get a test have you been having sex?? i have been on the ... (read in full...)
I am not interested in anyone else I only have eyes for him, I adore him and know we are brilliant together when it is good.
Q. Hi there. Nearly 4 years ago I had an affair which consequently broke my marriage up. At the time I had been with my husband for 21 years. We had worked hard and had a beautiful house in the countryside. We had a son who at the time of breakup was ...
A. 13 July 2007: ok so i know im younger and may not be right but my opinion is that the reason why you fell for this guy in the first place was cos he offered something new and exciting - a fantasy that one too many of us fall for!but now it is all too real and you ... (read in full...)
When you masterbate, why does your penis hurt afterwards?
Q. When you masturbate, why does your penis hurt afterwards?...
A. 13 July 2007: sometimes your penis will hurt after sex if you have been going too vigourously and do not have enough lubricant as this will cause 'chafing'. there may also be something wrong with her eg she may have thrush, this can cause a stinging redness for ... (read in full...)
When you masterbate, why does your penis hurt afterwards?
Q. When you masturbate, why does your penis hurt afterwards?...
A. 13 July 2007: i dont think it should really hurt maybe just a little discomfort. just use some more lubricant if you feel the need and try not to overdo it!! but i really dont think it should be very painful, if it is maybe you should go see your gp to make sure ... (read in full...)
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