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writes:My ex and I broke up mutually (but I initiated it) 2 months ago. We were having incompatibility issues but my time apart from him has made me miss him terribly. I got back in touch with him recently and he's been quite brief with his replies. I ended up texting him asking if he wants to meet up for dinner next week to talk. It's been 24 hours and he hasn't texted back (but I did notice his best mate viewed my profile on LinkedIn this morning. It's a bit random so maybe my ex was talking to him about me?) I did say in the text that he could think about it and get back to me closer to the time so perhaps that's what he is doing and he will get back to me soon? I keep thinking that if he definitely didn't want to meet he would have replied sooner than now to say he's not interested, so maybe he is thinking about it. Or am I deluding myself? I feel so anxious wondering if he's going to reply or not...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2013): Hun just give him time, you know the old saying he is probaly thinking about you just as much,he might be scared that ,he might scare you off if he seems so much in a hurry, hun just give him, time.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 November 2013):
I think that given his short responses, perhaps this won't work out for you. I also think you are perhaps overlooking the fact that this didn't work out before (just 2 months ago, you broke up with him"). I think that if you were to get back together, you'd still find the same problems existed.
I think you're best off moving on from him to be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): Accept no reply as a "No!" He had the past two months to reconsider and make an attempt to patch things up.
I strongly urge you to continue "no-contact;" and accept that he isn't interested in getting back together. It's less painful and emotionally paralyzing than living on false-hope.
You need to initiate detachment and healing. Don't stand still waiting.
You're prolonging the inevitable. He has moved on, and so should you.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (5 November 2013):
Be patient, speculation won't change anything.
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reader, llifton +, writes (5 November 2013):
 I honestly believe his lack of a response indicates that he has moved on and is not interested. he could be thinking about it, however, I wouldn't get my hopes up. If if were me and I didn't respond, it would mean I had no interest.
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