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writes:Long story short. my LD girlfriend has always been a very confident girl about herself, her looks etc. She is very smart and very sexy too.around 8 months ago, due to cultural differences we were close to break up. Im warm and charming. she was plain and simple a snow queen. Not affectionate, no jelousy at all. Emotionless. However we have been working on it and all that is history. she became more affectionatte and i try to be less emotional. But since 3 weeks from now she has become clingy, super emotional and extremely affectionate, nothing like she has ever been before. she is still being not jelaous at all. her behaviour is not normal. She has a new friend who she may still seeing him, but im not sure.please see my last question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-gf-has-a-friend-and-apparently-they.htmlBottom line, now im getting suspicious about her, she looks very sad sometimes, she says it because she misses me and loves me very much. The Truth is she has never been this way before. sometimes she looks like she wanted to tell me something but she is afraid to... I reassured her that she can always talk to me about in her life and i will support her and try to understand her without being judgemental, no matter how bad her problems are. I told her "whatever bothers you i will help you" and then i asked her if she was feeling confused about anything, she said yes but refused to talk more.So my question is, how is it that a girl could change her behaviour and become so charming, lovely and even clingy out of the blue? she usually is not that way. do you guys think her new friend may have a role in all of this? Reply to this Question
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reader, llifton  +, writes (14 November 2013):
 I've found that in my experiences, people who change their behavior like that may be doing it out of guilt. For example, if she were hypothetically cheating, she may then feel bad and make up for it by turning around and being super over the top sweet to you.
This isn't to say that's what's happening for sure. Of course the opposite is also true, as well. That sometimes, when a person is cheating, they emotionally shut down and start getting really distant. every person is different.
I would really try to get her to talk to you. Sounds like something is up. It's impossible to know what exactly. I would be on guard.
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