He takes ages to reply to my messages!
Q. I'm currently dating this guy and have been for a few months...we see each other only about twice a week as we both work full time. During the time we don't see each other we message. But my problem is that 80% of the time he won't respond to...
A. 4 November 2013: In this day and age, it's annoying. I know what you mean. That stuff brothers me, too.
When you are with him, do you notice if he gets on his phone much or texts people back? If he does message other people but takes days to respond to you, tha... (read in full...)
He has made me so angry! How can I make myself calm down?
Q. I am so angry and don't know were to begin with this....I will explain as best I can so please be patient... my boyfriend has an ex wife and two kids of 15 and 17. I am finding it hard to trust him lately as he keeps going out for hours and I get ...
A. 3 November 2013: I'm not sure what women would say you should just understand. that would be horrific advice.
I'm afraid my response will certainly not calm your nerves and make you less angry. In fact, it will probably add more fuel to your fire. Which perhaps ... (read in full...)
I know he just got out of a relationship ...
Q. I really hope and pray someone can please help me out. When I was young about 14 or so I was at a party and I met this guy we made out, then at one point we went outside and walked to a park and just talked. At that time he was a bit older so when ...
A. 3 November 2013: Since he's just out of a long-term relationship, you would only be a rebound if he got with you right now or in the near future.
Just be his friend, if at all possible. Text him and ask to hang out. Be available if he needs to talk. But don't pr... (read in full...)
How can girls be good enough to have sex with but not good enough to date?
Q. There is this guy and I really really like him and he talks to me all the time and is really sweet to me and also he's so good looking. I have known him for a very long time but we hadnt talked for over a year then he finally started talking to me ...
A. 3 November 2013: Although I am a woman, I think very much like a dude in this way, so I can help explain it. Basically, women fall into two categories: the dateable/ take home to mom type, and then there's the f*ck buddy/one night stand type.
The women I have had... (read in full...)
How can I get my dear bunny girlfriend back?
Q. Six weeks ago, I met a beautiful young woman online who I ended up falling head over heels in love with. She was affectionate, caring, beautiful, we got on fantastically, the sex was amazing, and she seemed to be into me just as much as I was into ...
A. 3 November 2013: when she said she loved you, did you say it back or did you get really awkward and change the subject?
if you didn't say it back, perhaps you upset her? made her feel stupid? maybe that's why she backed off.
why did you lie about your age? ... (read in full...)
Is dripping in sweat normal when you both have sex together??
Q. My boyfriend and I are dripping in sweat when we have sex together. I mean, it is as if somebody sprayed a hose on both of us. Dripping wet in tons and tons of sweat!! Lol Is this NORMAL at all? And... we usually fog up all the windows ...
A. 2 November 2013: It can be normal. I've had that happen. I think it's really hot, actually. ... (read in full...)
Why did this gal ask me for sex on our first date?
Q. I met a woman on a dating site for serious relationships, which I am seeking. After some brief emails and a phone chat we made a dinner date. We met at a nice resturant and spent a nice hour talking about ourselves, nothing sexual. When we left, I ...
A. 2 November 2013: this is a very normal and frequent question women come on this site and ask about men regularly. the question is the same "i met this guy/girl, but (s)he is pushing for sex too soon. should i back off?" the only difference is that the gender/sex is ... (read in full...)
Both of my friends with benefits don't want to see me anymore. What now?
Q. I guess that this doesn't fall under the traditional, or conventional, relationship topics, but I lost two friends with benefits and I'm going to have a tough time getting back into the dating world. The dynamics of our relationship bas...
A. 1 November 2013: you say "I don't want to lead women with the false pretense of starting a serious relationship and then break it off because I'm tired of being with her 24/7." However, you mention that you lied to one of these women for years. i would say that's ... (read in full...)
Thin or curvy?
Q. I am in my late 20 s and have a 5 year old son. I was very thin when I got married 112 lb with 5.4 height. I was always getting attention from guys, though was called skinny sometimes. Now after divorce and my pregnancy I gained 25 lb. I am not o...
A. 1 November 2013: I love curves! I can't go for a skinny girl. I think men who go for skin and bones are crazy! There's so much more to move about a girl with hips and boobs! To each their own, though, I suppose.
Evolutionarily speaking, one would think men woul... (read in full...)
How can I find true happiness within myself. Without needing another human to help provide that happiness?
Q. How can you find true happiness within yourself without needing a man or anyone else to make you happy? I'm finding happiness through men that eventually hurt me because they see my lack of confidence and unhappiness. I want to be in a relation...
A. 1 November 2013: One thing I've always found to be so incredibly true: you cannot be happy with someone else until you are happy with yourself.
There are two types of (w)hole's in the world. One is where you are lacking something and need somethin... (read in full...)
An Angry Boyfriend? What to do with him when he is like this?
Q. I feel like lately things have escalated way out of control. So the other day he and I decided to see each other for a couple of hours before he starts work. While I was waiting for him to arrive, we spoke on the phone and got into a small disagr...
A. 1 November 2013: It sounds from your post as though you are a bit passive, and it is this that passiveness that winds up causing your bf to blow.
Example being that you got upset about his not listening to you and engaging with you over the phone. You have eve... (read in full...)
He needs time to think about it? What can I do? I am left wondering and waiting if he's planning to break up with me.
Q. I am hoping that my boyfriend and i eventually make-up. At the moment he is really angry with me because of something i should have not said to him in the heat of an argument. I have sent him 3 apologies, via texting. After i asked him if he wante...
A. 1 November 2013: you didn't mention what exactly it was that you said to him to upset him so much. However, unless it was something significantly and majorly horrible, a week is quite some time to stay mad. it sounds to me almost as though he is distancing himself ... (read in full...)
My gf has a friend, and apparently they like each other. How should I react?
Q. my gf and I are in a long distance relationship for a year and a half now. We love each other and so far we have been very happy together. she met a guy in university who has been talking to her and messaging her on fb. he has been asking her to h...
A. 1 November 2013: Honestly, you've responded in the most adult and rational way you possibly can. You know you can't control her and tell her what to do, but you can inform her that her actions with him are making you uncomfortable. And what you said is spot on - ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gets easily irritated at me regarding how I work and I don't know what to do? I am walking on egg shells anymore
Q. We live together. He is divorced with a couple adult children. We talk about getting married. We share the same office. I have a home based business. I have a separate work space from the office in the home. He tells me to be myself around hi...
A. 1 November 2013: he clearly has difficulty transitioning from "executive" to "boyfriend" at the end of the day. what you asked is an absolutely normal question. and his response was uncalled for.
perhaps he is just trying to help in his "executive business... (read in full...)
I'm confused and I know it will hurt my g/f to find out I'm leading a double life!
Q. Guys I don't know where to start and I'm so confused but I guess I try from the beginning . 6 years ago I met my best friend and my girlfriend and my first love but we are both closet cases but most people have assumed that we are an item. The last ...
A. 1 November 2013: as a gay female myself, i have witnessed this happen on multiple occasions. in fact, i had sworn to myself i would never again date a woman who wasn't certain of her sexuality, as it's blown up in my face many times before just like this, with them ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend wish things had worked out with him and his ex?
Q. Why would my boyfriend (31m) look at his exes pictures on facebook all the time if he says he hates her because of the way she treated him. Is it really because he dislikes her or because he still has feelings for her - wishes things had worked out? ...
A. 1 November 2013: i've actually done this before; looked at pics of my ex of five years. i used to do it because we were not in contact and i missed her. i wasn't fully over her. although, i didn't necessarily want her back. it was a bit of a confusing emotion. it ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my manager if he want to?
Q. I am 19 and I work part-time as a server. We have this kind of newish manager, he's 31, that started about 5-7 months ago. When he first started working there, I HATED him. I mean seriously disliked the guy. He was arrogant, rude, cocky an demanded ...
A. 1 November 2013: as someone who has worked in the restaurant industry in the U.S. for a long time, and am continuing to do so now while i'm finishing up school, i would say it's relatively normal for managers to sleep with their co-workers. it's not like any other ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with him? I love him with all of my heart
Q. Hi everyone. Well I've been in a relationship with a lovely guy for the last 4 years and I used to think he was the one. In fact I still do in some ways. However the last year or so has been very rocky because I've started to want more from the ...
A. 1 November 2013: hey there.
first let me start by saying i'm really sorry you're having such a hard time.
i know where you're coming from. i'm in your age bracket as well, and at our age, some of us potentially start to want to find our husbands/wives a... (read in full...)
I called my girlfriend fat. I was joking but she's upset. How do I make it up to her?
Q. I have got a problem which needs your help. I met my girlfriend in Singapore two years ago and living with her in her small apartment there provided to her by school where she teaches. I do odd job there and grateful to her for that. She is an ...
A. 31 October 2013: Girls can take jokes, but calling a girl fat is completely off limits. Lol. I mean, really? In just about every culture, women are expected to look a certain way. looks are emphasized way more for women then are for men.
In america, at least, i... (read in full...)
Should I talk about this when I meet up with an old friend?
Q. Should I talk about this when I meet up with an old friend? I'm meeting a friend this weekend, who I haven't seen for a few years. I want to talk about everything that has been going on recently, such as when I went on holiday for the weekend to v...
A. 31 October 2013: Of course you should talk about it. If she's a real friend, which I'm sure she is, she would want to know.
I Know I would want to know if I were in her shoes.... (read in full...)
The last convo we had he said I was acting like a psycho and wants me to leave him alone. How do I fix all this?
Q. I've been dating this guy for aboyt 2 months. He has his own business and works crazy hours and gets stressed about it. In the beginning we spent a lot of time together. We went out and did enjoyable things together. Then he started a really huge ...
A. 31 October 2013: tell him you recognize your mistakes and you're very sorry for your lack of understanding. let him know you wish to reconcile and that the ball is in his court now. you won't contact him again unless he comes to you first. ... (read in full...)
I've become extremely needy and emotional, since I'm used to have her around my finger.
Q. Hey, I recently dumped my girlfriend of 4 years. I did it because I haven't lived my life and I was feeling that I wanted to meet other people. My girlfriend was wonderful but we wasn't on the same level, she was very responsible and ...
A. 31 October 2013: what i think is that you have a bit of growing up to do. you broke up with her to date other girls because you claim you're too young to be in a serious relationship, yet you're between 22-25. that's not extremely young. you just wanted a chance to ... (read in full...)
My ex won't let go and is telling people how he misses me and sending me things in the mail
Q. Can any of u lovely people help me.... I've posted here before. I was with a man a few years older than me for 2 years. In those 2 years he cheated for 15 months (I was the mistress it turned out) I tried to stay and forgive him. It just didn't work ...
A. 31 October 2013: i would definitely ignore it. you're doing so great. stick to it. writing him or messaging him back, even if it's to give him a piece of your mind, will only open up the lines of communication again and give him a chance to hurt you all over. or it ... (read in full...)
No experience with players. How do you know if a guy is one?
Q. I need advice on dating. So, I haven't gone on dates for over 12 years. My ex-fiance and I were together 11 years and we did not even dated we were collage buddies. We have been separated for over a year now. I recently signed up for online ...
A. 31 October 2013: there's really no telling as of yet if he is a player or not or if he is lying or being real with you. this is why taking it slow and not jumping in so quickly is very important, as you said.
just keep doing what you're doing. relax and enjoy yo... (read in full...)
After 5 years he tells me he never loved me and was just using me for sex
Q. after 5yrs the guy i was seeing told me he had meet someone else. Now discover that he never loved me and he only kept seeing me for sex. I feel so used and cheap. Im finding it hard to deal with as i loved this guy. how do i move on? jo ...
A. 31 October 2013: don't let this low-life make you feel cheap. he's the one who should be ashamed of his behavior.
i'm sure you're hurting and upset about being discarded so coldly. try to hold your head high. he clearly wasn't a very nice man, and you could do... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being disrespected, used, and attacked by my boyfriend
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 13 months now, and I have never loved someone so much before. I recently started my first year of college, and my first job. My motivation was him, it was for our future. He on the other hand wont ...
A. 30 October 2013: His plans for the future need to entail a trip to a therapists office. his behavior is out of hand. you don't owe him a damn thing. You're being faithful and you KNOW you are. In a healthy relationship your partner believes and trusts you. he thinks ... (read in full...)
Will the Way He Treats Me Be Enough For this to Work?
Q. Me and my bf have been together a couple of months. WE moved in together already. People think it was to fast but we are happy and in love. We work together sometimes too so we spend most of our time together. I met my bf when he first came back ...
A. 30 October 2013: Perhaps love is enough. However, I suspect once the honeymoon phase wears off, you will most likely grow tired of his childish behaviors and desire more.
Ideally, he will change and learn to stand on his own two feet. However, what incentiv... (read in full...)
Will the Way He Treats Me Be Enough For this to Work?
Q. Me and my bf have been together a couple of months. WE moved in together already. People think it was to fast but we are happy and in love. We work together sometimes too so we spend most of our time together. I met my bf when he first came back ...
A. 30 October 2013: Perhaps love is enough. However, I suspect once the honeymoon phase wears off, you will most likely grow tired of his childish behaviors and desire more.
Ideally, he will change and learn to stand on his own two feet. However, what incentiv... (read in full...)
Co worker goes from friend to just a co worker?
Q. Hi. I work at a school and it pays ok for now. Well I am engaged and there is a male coworker who is married with a baby. We hit it off and became friends at work, so I thought. We both talked a lot during work and texts about games work etc not ...
A. 30 October 2013: hi there.
for him to change his tune this much, from being your friend one day, to saying you're just coworkers the next, i feel pretty confident that his wife had something to do with this. she was probably standing over him watching him text you... (read in full...)
My child's father suddenly wants to play a bigger role in her life
Q. I have a child with my ex, she is 3, and I have raised her completely on my own with a little help from my family and her father's sister. I never asked her father to stick around me, but I practical begged him to play a part in his daughter's life, ...
A. 30 October 2013: this is a tough stuation, as you naturally want what is best for your daughter. ideally, your ex would come into your daugters life and stay there. however, i am very skeptical of this because he chose to walk out of her life when he was caught up ... (read in full...)
When Will the Rose Colored Glasses Come Off?
Q. About 2 weeks ago I posted a question about my son cutting his friends and family out of his life because of a new gf. The verdict was just to give it time and he would come around. Now, here we are, with something that is even more perplexing ...
A. 28 October 2013: i know you want the best for your son, and it's easy to look on his actions and tell him how he *should* behave. however, the hardest thing for a lot of parents to do is let go and realize that there is nothing they can do to change their kids minds ... (read in full...)
Do abusers ever leave you alone?
Q. I recently just got out of an abusive relationship. My family and friends are fully aware of it and absolutely support my decision and want nothing to do with this man themselves. It has been a few weeks since the break up. I have him blocked on ...
A. 28 October 2013: yes, he will eventually leave you alone. but you nailed it on the head. he won't leave you alone until he finds another person to make miserable first. until he finds someone else, you will be his primary focus.
it will most likely be a long and... (read in full...)
Do you think I should have to tell him everything about my life when now hes a friend with benefits ?
Q. Does a guy I see once a week have any right asking questions about where I go and what I do? ive been seeing someone for a year and it turned very serious very quickly. He moved in within four months but it turned sour pretty quick.I chucked him ...
A. 28 October 2013: hell no, you don't owe this guy anything. you aren't in an actual relationship anymore. you are just f*ck buddies, which means you have every right to do whatever you want without having to explain yourself. he is WAY out of line inboxing your male ... (read in full...)
Is my LDR worth it?
Q. I've been dating my current boyfriend for a little over two years now, and we have been long distance since 2 weeks after we began dating. We saw each other regularly, but recently he moved further for school and were closer to 5 hours away from ...
A. 28 October 2013: hi there.
it seems completely natural to be questioning the relationship at this moment, seeing as how i would certainly be feeling the same way if i were you. a few questions for you:
1. do you foresee yourself ever moving closer or moving... (read in full...)
LD Girlfriend with male bestfriend...
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship (on the game SecondLife), and my girlfriend has a male best friend on SecondLife. They have known eachother for 3 years now or so. She is the type that only has guys friends and admits it. I've only known her ...
A. 28 October 2013: i honestly have no idea what secondlife is, however, i agree with CMMP - get a firstlife girlfriend. lol.
he seems like a bit of a problem. he apparently rejected her, not the other way around. so she obviously liked him at one time. also; sh... (read in full...)
Does being cheated on make you more likely to cheat?
Q. What do you think? My girlfriend's last boyfriend cheated on her. Would that make her more likely? Since her experience with her ex, she is very jealous with me. That is understandable. I wonder if that makes it more likely for her to cheat. ...
A. 28 October 2013: in general, i would believe that having been cheated on in the past would make one LESS likely to cheat, seeing as how you have experienced the pain and heartache of what it feels like having it done to you. it makes a person able to empathize with ... (read in full...)
Gay and ginger, is there any hope?
Q. Hi all, I would be very grateful for any advice so here it goes. Im a 22 year old guy and I have just accepted that I am gay and I'm not out to anyone. I'm also very unfortunate to have Ginger hair too. I have been a quiet and shy guy all my life ...
A. 27 October 2013: what CMMP said - except in reference to men, not women, as you said you are gay.... (read in full...)
Question to American Women and Men!
Q. I have some American friends and I have a question to American women and men. My male friends there tell me that women there love money only and all the men are afraid to have a relationship because they want to get marriaged fast and use the men´...
A. 27 October 2013: i don't think that stereotype about american women being money hungry is very accurate. however, i've never really experienced any other culture, so i can't say in comarison.
of course, there are SOME women here who are money hungry and only wan... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of my sex drive?
Q. I'm a 26 year-old single male, and I'm sick of my sex drive. Absolutely, 100% sick of it. People talk about sex like it's one of the great joys of life, but as far as I can tell, it's more burden than blessing. I'm sick of thinking about sex all the ...
A. 27 October 2013: hmmm, it's hard to tell what exactly the problem is here. you paint the picture of a guy who possibly has a sex addiction? is this possibly correct? does it consume your life? is it coming between you and your daily functions? anyway, if you do feel ... (read in full...)
Am I worrying too much about my boyfriend's ex and their continued contact?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend about 4 months now. I knew before we starting dating that he was still friends with his ex and they talked often. She cheated on him and hurt him a lot, and I guess left him for another guy eventually becau...
A. 27 October 2013: i've always been of the mind-set that exes can legitimately stay friends without it meaning more. i, myself, am friends with a bunch of exes because they obviously mattered to me at one point in time, and we had a lot of fun together, or i never ... (read in full...)
Having trouble adjusting after moving back home
Q. When I spent a year working in Australia, I met the man of my dreams. He trained at a gym which had a coffee shop nearby, so as I worked there I saw him daily. After a few weeks of flirting, he asked me out and started dating. When my year was up we ...
A. 27 October 2013: you give him that ultimatum. you tell him that if he truly loves you and wants to be with you, then he will move to england and you two will work it out. but if he is unwilling, then you tell him it's over and you are moving on.
you literall... (read in full...)
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