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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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Everyone knows we're lesbians but our parents, should we tell them?
Q. my best friend erin (yes she is a girl) and i have been dating for a little. we've fooled around and made out. everyone who knows us knows that we are gay. they've seen us make out in public. the only people who dont no are our parents. we dont no ...
A. 28 February 2009: Tell them. You have nothing to be afraid of! It's a little bit childish keeping a secret like this as if you are doing something naughty! Have the respect for them and just get it out in the open, you will feel a lot better about it and about your ... (read in full...)
He does sweet things..does that mean he likes me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I just met a new guy and I'm beginning to like him but I'm not sure whether or not the feelings are mutual. We both recently got out of relationships and although I'm not looking for a new one, it still feels good to know that fee...
A. 28 February 2009: It sounds like he does like you, if you like him too and don't want to act upon it then don't share your feelings, if you think that you two could make something good out of your friendship then I think its worthwhile telling him! X... (read in full...)
Comingout question
Q. hello. i am a male, 18, and have recently decided that the time has come to tell my family that i am gay, but i have no idea how i should tell them and am worried that i will just run off when i am about to. also, should the truth have come out earl...
A. 28 February 2009: My friend came out at 16, so its not that different. He just said to his mum ' I'm gay, I hope you're not upset with me' she wasn't disappointed at all, she's very supportive! Best thing to do is be confident about it and give them time to adjust. ... (read in full...)
My husband said I don't do "sexy things"
Q. question for man and women. how the women can look sexy ? my husband complained to me he said that i don't do sexy things.i told him buy me sexy clothes and you will see sexy.and his answer was you don't need clothes to be sexy there is other t...
A. 28 February 2009: He sounds like either he doesn't know himself or that he wants something really dirty. I would suggest going out and buying a sexy outfit, the sexiest thing you can find!!!! It can be whatever you want coz you could just wear it for him at home. ... (read in full...)
Why does he tell me he wants me and to marry me but doesn't do nothing?
Q. Please help. What is it with me. I spilt up with my ex 6 months ago. I have thought bout him everyday missing him. Wishing he was here. Wandering what hes doing.wanting him back. He has just come to me and said that he loves me so much and realises ...
A. 28 February 2009: Go out with the other man and drop this loser!! He sounds like he hasn't changed, he's unwilling to commit to you and he does not repect you or else he would apologise to your parents. Move on! X... (read in full...)
What is causing the unpleasant 'fart' noise during sex?
Q. sometimes when i have sex with my boyfriend, i make an unpleasant 'fart' noise. it only happens when i go on top and i won't do this now even though my boyfriend likes this. i thought it was the condom but i dont think it is anymore. what is causing ...
A. 28 February 2009: It may be air getting trapped in your vagina and as you move up and down, it acts like a pump and releases the air. Its normal. You can avoid this by closing ur vaginal muscles when he enters you, enter slowly! X... (read in full...)
My husband said I don't do "sexy things"
Q. question for man and women. how the women can look sexy ? my husband complained to me he said that i don't do sexy things.i told him buy me sexy clothes and you will see sexy.and his answer was you don't need clothes to be sexy there is other t...
A. 28 February 2009: Ask him what he considers is sexy! Ask him to think about it and get back to you. Tell him that you want to give him a treat but you are stuck for ideas, tell him that you're going to be his puppet and he can do with you as he pleases! X... (read in full...)
My husband said I don't do "sexy things"
Q. question for man and women. how the women can look sexy ? my husband complained to me he said that i don't do sexy things.i told him buy me sexy clothes and you will see sexy.and his answer was you don't need clothes to be sexy there is other t...
A. 28 February 2009: Just be really confident! Walk around naked and things like that! X... (read in full...)
Crushed!
Q. I have a crush on one of the popular kids ( to be expeded) we use to be friends and then he found out . now he won't talk to me my friends ask him out for me but he yells no please help...
A. 27 February 2009: Just play it cool, pretend you're not into him anymore, that way he won't think that you're just talking to him because you like him. Don't bother tryong to be friends or anything, if he like you then he'll make a move, otherwise just keep busy ... (read in full...)
She's sent a photo to him but says she loves me but there's things I know that she hasn't told me
Q. Ok, Me and my girlfriend have been together almost 6 months. I love her i really do and i understand that females have guy friends and thats cool. She tells me she loves me all the time but i found a letter from one of her friends in prison and he ...
A. 27 February 2009: She should let you read the letters if she has nothing to hide!! Sounds like there is something going on, I wouldn't trust her personally! X... (read in full...)
How can I get my colleagues to mind their own business?
Q. Hi me and my wife both work at the same office but in different departments, my wife is senior to me and have had a one night stand with my boss and now she is pregnant with his baby. My boss has made a MMS of him and her and is circulating the same ...
A. 27 February 2009: You should never have done this in the first place. You should have known that people would be laughing at you and speaking about you. You can't tell people what to do or think, eventually they will get bored, but for the time being you must accept ... (read in full...)
My long term b/f has caught me on several dating sites and left. Shall I forgive him?
Q. My long term bf has caught me in chat rooms and several dating sites over the last 9 months. We argue,like a child he walks out and doesnt come back for a week or so. All i do is harmless flirting and the odd guy i text. We broke up and this time i ...
A. 27 February 2009: I would just like so summarise evryones answers to your question! You are totally wrong!!! You sound stupid when you are asking this question as it should be him that forgives you, he has done nothing wrong. If I was him I wouldn't give you the time ... (read in full...)
My long term b/f has caught me on several dating sites and left. Shall I forgive him?
Q. My long term bf has caught me in chat rooms and several dating sites over the last 9 months. We argue,like a child he walks out and doesnt come back for a week or so. All i do is harmless flirting and the odd guy i text. We broke up and this time i ...
A. 27 February 2009: Its your fault he left in the first place so I don't know how you can say 'shall I forgive him' it should be him thinking about forgiving you!!!!!!! When things get tough he obviously has found that taking time alone helps him, this doesn't give you ... (read in full...)
I think I may have a problem and that is why I keep on lying to my parents!
Q. I have posted questions on here before about me and my mums bad relationship, which is basically down to me lying about my older boyfriend when we first got together, then lying again a few weeks ago when I applied for my passport so that I could go ...
A. 27 February 2009: Just write down what you want to tell them and give it to them in a letter because then you will be less inclined to lie! X... (read in full...)
My friend told me that we have to work hard to get back on track
Q. Hello guys me and my best friend argued not too long ago.. So anyway i argue with her cuz i left due to an argument with my GF and they had no sign of me for 2 weeks..(me and her broke up) So anyway i come back and my best friend left me tons of ...
A. 27 February 2009: People can have more than one friend so there should be no need for jealousy. You need to work to get back on track, friendships don't just happen, they need to be continuously worked on. You both sound wrong in the situation! To be honest I ... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for my friend who does not love her husband, should I confess how I feel?
Q. I am very much in love with a woman who is also one of my best friends, she is also married. Her marriage isn't a good one, and she has talked to me a lot about being afraid to leave her husband because of being alone, because of her kids, and other ...
A. 27 February 2009: Sharing your feelings may seem like a good thing but it may just complicate the situation. If you can support her financially and give her a place to stay if she breaks up with her husband then that's ok. You may not see the bad side at the min, ... (read in full...)
I think I may have a problem and that is why I keep on lying to my parents!
Q. I have posted questions on here before about me and my mums bad relationship, which is basically down to me lying about my older boyfriend when we first got together, then lying again a few weeks ago when I applied for my passport so that I could go ...
A. 27 February 2009: You need help, what is the reason behind your lying? Do you not want them to be involved in your life? Do you want to protect them from things? You need to work out the reason why and then sit down with them and talk! Get evrything out in the open ... (read in full...)
What do I do about him and why is he like this?
Q. How does he see me and how can I get past him? I have this problem that I still talk to this guy who really doesn't care. We had a thing last year where we hung out/went on dates and fooled around. He was also communicating with 2 other girls at...
A. 27 February 2009: Don't entertain him, he's no good for you. You can get past him by not speaking to him, just completley cut him out of your life. He see's you as a way to fill in some spare time when he is bored and if you let this continue then people will think ... (read in full...)
Feeling down about my past. Am I alone?
Q. This might not be a very interesting question but it would help me a lot to read some answers and see if I still have to work with things from my childhood or not. You see, I have a lot of good memories about my childhood and teenage years. S...
A. 27 February 2009: I do! But I think everyone does. It may make us sad because we are thinking how easy and simple life was and we didn't have any of the stresses we have no. Or it may make us sad if we assossiate the song with a sad event. If this is getting to the ... (read in full...)
I can't stop snooping because I worry he will cheat, please help me me keep my family!
Q. Hi everyone. I'm going to start off by saying I feel like I have really accepted that part of him, soemtimes anyways. But I just cant stop snooping. I worry all the time that he is cheating, why you ask becuase I was with a guy before him who ...
A. 27 February 2009: You're humana, all humans are curious so don't beat yourself up about it. You WILL get over this!! The hardest thing is to not look at what you snoop on, once you haven't looked after a few days then have a look, you will find that nothing has ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex at 13, what do you advise?
Q. im am 13 and i really want to have sex i just dont have anyone to do it with! who can i go to?...
A. 26 February 2009: You sound like a tramp! You are too young to make a name for yourself as a slut! Sex is illegal until you are 16 so until then you will have to satisfy your needs with yourself. Masturbate, but a vibrator but do not have sex!!! Think of the std's, ... (read in full...)
No proof of cheating?
Q. I have been cheated on multiple times, and emotionally rejected. My best friend went out with my ex basically. And that relationship only lasted 4 years then broke up. Now that I am in a new relationship of 6 years now, I always have a gut feeling ...
A. 26 February 2009: Its natural to be on guard for cheating if you have been cheated on before. I'm in the same situation. Your guy sounds great so I don't think you need to worry about anything. What will be will be so take a relaxed approach to this ( as hard as it ... (read in full...)
A nice love story to lighten the mood!!!.. Add yours..
Q. Hello Everyone! Every time I come on here there's so many sad stories, so I thought I would share a nice little happy story with you all.. feel free to add yours!!.. My story is about me and my fiance.. the love of my life! For years i had been ...
A. 26 February 2009: That's nice! Me and my boyfriend have been together just over two years, I thought he was a teacher at my college and was embarrassed when he said he wasn't,lol. I got his number of one of his friends and txt him, asking if it was ok. He came and ... (read in full...)
Did he just ask to kiss me?
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together awhiel I realy like him and he likes me so toaday he asked to kiss me I was like did you just say that look on my face I took to long to awnser and he walked away I wanted to i've been wanting to I do ...
A. 26 February 2009: Just explain to him that you didn't know what to do, explain that you wanted too! X
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Can you still have periods when you are pregnant?
Q. Can you still have periods when you are pregnant????...
A. 26 February 2009: You can have an implantation bleed at the start of the prgnancy. Bleeding can occur but not commonly. You need to see a gp if bleeding occurs during pregnancy, it may be normal but its still worth checking as it could be a sign of miscarraige or a ... (read in full...)
If I can't go away from her I continue to hurt myself, what should I do?
Q. she is my friend from since 8 months, the bond of our relationship was so strong that i could feel her pain, her feelings, i used to solve her problems, one day i proposed her only to find no on her side. she never changed her attitude towards me, ...
A. 26 February 2009: Be a friend to her! Just because she does not like you in a romantic way does not mean you can't be friends! Be a man and stop acting so selfish, I know you are feeling pain but she needs a friend! X... (read in full...)
Photo of exwife
Q. Hello everyone, Here is my situation. I am currently dating a man who has been divorced for 2 years. He on occasion talks to his ex wife, I'm fine with that because I do the same with one of my exes strictly platonic. Well my issue is that I ...
A. 26 February 2009: You have an amazing attitude about this! Its the picture or you! Giving him an ultimatum should work! And once you have deleted ur pics you won't be a hypocrite, so do yours first! He should have got rid of them when you saw them for the first time! ... (read in full...)
He cheats because he doesn't want to get hurt...
Q. i have a boyfriend who has been thru alot he fears being cheated on so he hurts me first. he cheated on me and got the girl pregnat we are now back together but i fear it may happen again. he admits he has a problem and that he wants help and needs ...
A. 26 February 2009: Being hurt in the past is no reason to be a cheater! My boyfriend has been hurt in the past and there is no way that he would cheat. There must be underlying issues. If you are having trouble finding a counsellor then I would be willing to work with ... (read in full...)
I don't understand the reason of his being upset. Am I right or am I wrong?
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend is all bothered because he text me yesterday wanting to meet up for sex during work hours. I lied and said that I was stuck in a meeting and left my phone in the car. I don't want him to get used to calling me out for a ...
A. 26 February 2009: Well he should accept that you have to work and that you can't just come when he asks. You have apologised and that's all you can do. Leave him to simmer down, I'm sure he'll be fine soon and realise he's being stupid. X
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My best friend is going out with the guy I love
Q. So I've liked this guy for about 3 years, but I've never had the courage to do anything about it because I just get tongue-tied around him and it wasn't like he liked me anyway. A few weeks ago he became good friends with one of my best friends ...
A. 26 February 2009: Well you can either choose to get help for yourself or you can tell your friend how you feel. If you want to let your friend and this guy be happy then you need someone else to focus on, firstly, pamper yourself!!!! Make yourself feel great on the ... (read in full...)
Photo of exwife
Q. Hello everyone, Here is my situation. I am currently dating a man who has been divorced for 2 years. He on occasion talks to his ex wife, I'm fine with that because I do the same with one of my exes strictly platonic. Well my issue is that I ...
A. 26 February 2009: What was his reason for having the picture? It wasn't stated what he said after the confrontation. I would be furious in this situation! Need more details about what he said though.x
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Wearing previous engagement ring
Q. My girlfriend insists on wearing previous engagement rings -- yes, she has a few of them -- when we go out together. When I introduced her to my family, my sister took me aside and asked if I had something to tell her ... of course she drew the ...
A. 26 February 2009:
No woman thinks that egagement rings have no significance so she can't be naïve about this. X... (read in full...)
I can't stop snooping because I worry he will cheat, please help me me keep my family!
Q. Hi everyone. I'm going to start off by saying I feel like I have really accepted that part of him, soemtimes anyways. But I just cant stop snooping. I worry all the time that he is cheating, why you ask becuase I was with a guy before him who ...
A. 26 February 2009: I haven't got kids and haven't been with my boyfriend for as long as you have but I know how you are feeling. I used to snoop all of the time! His phone, his facebook and myspace accounts...anything I could get into. It became an obsession!!! I ... (read in full...)
I'm meeting my boyfriend's parents, should I bring flowers for his mother?
Q. Is it a good idea to bring something for the family: the mom? I'm meeting my boyfriend's parents this weekend but he just said we'll go out for dinner at a restaurant. It was going to be at his house but he changed his mind and wants to take us...
A. 26 February 2009: Flowers are a lovely gesture!! I wasn't that thoughtful when I met my boyfriends mum! Wow, I'm impressed. I would take a small arrangement then she won't be overwhelmed, and in a restaurant she will be able to store them more easily. I don't think ... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon to propose?
Q. Hi Auntys and Uncles I really need your opinions advice on this.. To put it simply I want your opinions on how soon into a relationship is too early to propose? The complicated bit is my divorce from my my ex is not yet final(will be in 5wks) a...
A. 26 February 2009: I'm sure that he will stay with you even if you aren't engaged! You seem like a nice person and I think he will count his blessings evryday. Good luck with your future together! I hope when the time is perfect and you do get engaged that you enjoy ... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon to propose?
Q. Hi Auntys and Uncles I really need your opinions advice on this.. To put it simply I want your opinions on how soon into a relationship is too early to propose? The complicated bit is my divorce from my my ex is not yet final(will be in 5wks) a...
A. 26 February 2009: If you feel the time is right then go for it! Personally I would wait untill all financial matters are sorted out so that you can really enjoy it. Who knows, if you wait a while he may propose to you first! X
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Wearing previous engagement ring
Q. My girlfriend insists on wearing previous engagement rings -- yes, she has a few of them -- when we go out together. When I introduced her to my family, my sister took me aside and asked if I had something to tell her ... of course she drew the ...
A. 26 February 2009: She should wear them on another finger or not at all, this is unacceptable and shows lack of respect for you and for the relationship. Explain to her that you are not jealous however you do feel like a fool when she wears them! Keep me updated!! X... (read in full...)
He's so friendly with this other girl and I'm so jealous about it...
Q. I don't know how to stop being jealous? My boyfriend who I've been with for a year now keeps flirting with other girls especially this one girl who says that her and him are best friends and tell each other everything and that she knows him more ...
A. 26 February 2009: If he's not willing to stop this then you need to get rid of him. He sounds selfish!!! And saying 'I loveyou' to another girl is out of order!! Joking or not this shouldn't be allowed and they are both making you look like a fool! X... (read in full...)
I'm getting so frustrated over what used to be a really fun relationship!
Q. I have some issues with my boyfriend of over a year.. I don't know what I should do, in all honesty I don't want to leave him, but i've got to the point where I don;t think i can take anymore! He will never admit he plays any part in any argument ...
A. 25 February 2009: This relationship sounds like it needs professional counselling to get back on track, otherwise its over! Sorry to be blunt but he sounds like he's miserable and you deserve to be with someoe who will appreciate you! X... (read in full...)
I am confused and don't know whether I am just a worry wort or a comitment phobic?
Q. I am in need of some advise. I am confused and dont know whether i am just a worry wort or a comitment phobic? My boyf and I were together 4 years before i broke it off for one year. I didn't feel our relationship was going anywhere,...
A. 25 February 2009: If you like the other guy then don't move in with your boyfriend. Why don't you talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel? And agree that if you move in together and break up that you can still live as friends. You need to communicate with ... (read in full...)
He says he only wants to be friends, but I want to make our relationship work...
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up after 4 yrs dating and 1 1/2 yrs living together. I had to move in with my parents. We had been having money problems and so our sex life suffered. He says that he doesn't want a relationship but he's ok with being ...
A. 25 February 2009: You have to talk to him and tell him what you want. Ask him how he feels as he could feel the same. Sounds like you could make it work again. Keep me updated! X... (read in full...)
He's so friendly with this other girl and I'm so jealous about it...
Q. I don't know how to stop being jealous? My boyfriend who I've been with for a year now keeps flirting with other girls especially this one girl who says that her and him are best friends and tell each other everything and that she knows him more ...
A. 24 February 2009: You should be the most important girl in his life and if I was you I would be jealous to! I would feel horrible about my boyfriend having a girl best friend! You need to set up guide lines, think about what is acceptable to you and what is not ... (read in full...)
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