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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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He says he was on the sex register for verbal abuse to a teenager..do I still see him?
Q. iv met someone he told me he was on sex register for verbaly abuse to teenager it ends in may but i dont know weather to trust him ,my family would not aprove if they find out im so worried...
A. 2 April 2009: That's great news, half the people on here come with a problem and then don't change anything! Good on you! X
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I really don't want the doctor to see my private spots, what can I do to calm down?
Q. hey, well my problem is that i have unusually heavy periods and a lot of times i get it twice a month and so my mom decided to make me a doctor's appointment. Cuz she's tired of me complaining about them. My only fear though is that they're going to ...
A. 31 March 2009: i dont think that he will have to examine you for this!! so just calm down and take deep breaths. put this to the back of your mind as its very unlikely!! if he does have to examine you then just keep your breathing deep and slow! it will really ... (read in full...)
Feeling trapped by the relationship, not by him personally.
Q. I have been in 4 separate relationships since I was 18 (10 years ago), my most current one being 5 years and counting, with a man 19 years my senior. Lately I have been dreaming of being alone, for about a year or so, as I feel I have no idea who...
A. 31 March 2009: you need a break, explain tpo him that you have been in relationships and want to find out who you really are. i'm sure you'll be great on your own and dont get into another relationship for at least a year! good luck.x... (read in full...)
We slept together and now he hasn't called
Q. Ok so I really like this guy and have for a while. After becoming friends and months of me wanting him we began dating. Everything was going great at first and no problems at all. Then we slept together. I wanted to wait (We have only been dating ...
A. 31 March 2009: you gave it up too early you should learn from this mistake an move on.x... (read in full...)
How do you use tampons?
Q. I want to start wearing tampons and my mom will not help me with it! So how do u put them in? This question is strictly for women!!...
A. 31 March 2009: this is to 'myp'....it doesnt matter whether you are a virgin or not, you can use any size tampons depending on how heavy your flow is! start of with a small one and if it isnt absorbing the flow increase the size until you know which one yto use. a ... (read in full...)
Student/teacher porn
Q. Hey, I'd like some advice especially from you guys out there about my boyfriend. We've been together 6 years, he's a teacher. Recently, I found he'd downloaded loads of student-teacher style porn films from the internet. Some of them involve the ...
A. 31 March 2009: he is sick! he's a teacher so he should not be watching this stuff, its an abuse of his position! get rid of him. i hope you dont have any children together, if you do then get them out of his way.x... (read in full...)
Mom made me choose between her and my boyfriend
Q. Okey my question is kinda complicated i have been with my boyfriend for 4 weeks now but ever since i started going out with him my mum has changed and is always moody with me and does not trust me. she thinks im gonna have sex when i told her wen ...
A. 31 March 2009: your mum should not have made you choose. maybe if you act less serious then she wont be as bothered about your relationship. write her a letter saying that you are not stupid and she should trust you when it comes to boys and sex. tell her that you ... (read in full...)
He says he was on the sex register for verbal abuse to a teenager..do I still see him?
Q. iv met someone he told me he was on sex register for verbaly abuse to teenager it ends in may but i dont know weather to trust him ,my family would not aprove if they find out im so worried...
A. 30 March 2009: Don't bother with him! Verbal abuse and he's on the register is a lie! It has to be something more serious to be put on the register! Don't go near him with a barge pole!!! He is no good, you can find someone better!x
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I want to seduce my 26 year old gardener..not sure I remember how? HELP!
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a 46 year old lady and I fancy my 26 year old gardener. We are always flirting and now I'd like to make a move on him, hopefully get him in my bed. But the thing is, it's been so long since I've done anything like this that I'm not ...
A. 30 March 2009: What makes you think that he likes you in this way? Does he have a girlfriend???? You need to add more details like this! If he is single then fair enough. Maybe he is just being polite as you are paying his wages. I think its unlikely that he will ... (read in full...)
Why can't I feel it when I cum during sex?
Q. hi i am really ashame of this question because to be honest. every time i have sex with my sex partter i can never tell when or if I cum?...
A. 30 March 2009: When you come there will be a clear fluid which is the consistency of urine which will come from glands called 'skenes glands'. Most women don't come during sex so its a normal thing. As long as you enjoy sex there is nothing to be ashamed about if ... (read in full...)
He says he feels awkward around my family yet he still talks to his ex's family!
Q. My birthday is coming up, he says he feels awkward around my family and he doesn't wanna go to dinner with us, but he still talks to his ex's family... what do I do?...
A. 30 March 2009: Say that its unacceptable for him to be in contact with his exs family when he feels awkward around yours! Make him spend more time with them! He may feel as though he has to impress them and that's why he feels awkward whereas when he is with his ... (read in full...)
He thought I cheated with my flirty texts
Q. Before me and my boyfriend started dating, there were a few people I would flirt with through text messages. It never went any farther than texts. When me and boyfriend began dating, I didn't stop texting the people I used to flirt with, and 3 ...
A. 30 March 2009: Cut all ties with the people who you used to txt! Change your number and don't give it out to anyone other than people who are close friends and family. Reassure him that you are sorry and that you have realised how stupid you have been. Tell him ... (read in full...)
Question for the guys: How long do I wait to give him a blowjob.
Q. Ok so for sex, you wait about 4-8 months if you are looking for something serious. Hopefully by that time you have developed a close attachment to where the sex would add to the relationship. What about for oral and other kinky acts?? Do yo wait...
A. 30 March 2009: I think you should do it when it feels right instead of putting a time limit on it.just go with the flow! My boyfriend and I had sex two weeks into our relationship (we'd known each other only 4 weeks) and I'm still with him! We've been together ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friends it's not right and it's not lame?
Q. i am going to stay a virgin until im married but my friends say i have to have sex or i'm a lame. how do i tell my friends it's not right without becoming a lame?...
A. 28 March 2009: I admire you, and I wish I had yor attitude when I was your age! your friends will understand when they are older!! But for now just try saying that you are saving yourself for someone special because you respect your body! Giving someone your body ... (read in full...)
It was like a daydream come to life
Q. i liked this guy his in my modeling and acting class when i first saw him i was like dayumm..i gave him my number at night we would talk and he would sing some songs on his piano and his voice wasnt that great but him singing to me was beautiful cuz ...
A. 27 March 2009: if you think he's a player then he probably is so leave him alone. he sounds too good to be true.x... (read in full...)
Husband's homecoming from Iraq
Q. My husband is in the army and has been in Iraq for the last 10 months, he is due home in less then 3 weeks. This is his first tour and it has been very emotional for the both of us. (we were only married 6 months when he left) He is a huge momma'...
A. 27 March 2009: just tell her that you are looking forward to plans that she has made however you would like to spend some time alone. tell her that you have missed him just as much as she has but she needs to remember that you are still newlyweds.x... (read in full...)
How to maintain at least the possibility?
Q. I have known this girl a few months, and after long and careful thinking I have decided that I do not know is SHE specifically is the one I want, but she definitely matches the type of person I want to be with. We have been out three times as f...
A. 26 March 2009: If she hasn't shown specific interest then she's not that bothered about you! The best thing is to move on! You could do better than someone who is like this!x
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Am I 'obsessing' a little too much about it?
Q. Hello guys its another love related issue, well hardly an issue but i'd appreciate some advice. Okay here goes, i think i'm falling in love with one of my friends, i've known him since i was born but we lost contact for a couple of years. we rece...
A. 26 March 2009: Next time you see him in person just say 'I don't want to mess up our friendship but I have to tell you that I think I like you as more than a friend. I just wanted to tell you to see how you feel about it, if you don't fee the same then forget I ... (read in full...)
Proper grammar please!!!
Q. this is not to do with relationships or anything like that but i just had to point it out: why doesn't anybody use grammar properly on this website or anywhere else! nobody seems to know the difference between to and too or between there, they're ...
A. 26 March 2009: I apologise for sounding like a bitch too! Lol. Just seemed inappropriate. I hope your friend gets better soon by the way, must be a terrible thing to go through!x... (read in full...)
Am I 'obsessing' a little too much about it?
Q. Hello guys its another love related issue, well hardly an issue but i'd appreciate some advice. Okay here goes, i think i'm falling in love with one of my friends, i've known him since i was born but we lost contact for a couple of years. we rece...
A. 26 March 2009: He may feel the same so take the plunge and tell him!!!!! You are both older and if he hugs you and stuff it may be a sign so go for it!x... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do? I really like him.
Q. What do you do about a man who is absolutely perfect in every way; kind, attentive, romantic, intelligent, everything really, but who says he doesn't do relationships because he is selfish and loves himself too much? I get the impression he's had ...
A. 26 March 2009: Just keep your distance slightly. If you want a commitment then end it here because you're not going to get one, you cat change a persons mind if they feel strongly on something.x
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I'm not a guy, so I just don't get this killer exercise to get in shape I guess.:)
Q. This is a queestion for everyone out there! Ok, so my boyfriend started this new exercise program. It's for 90 days, but a killer!! You have to do certain exercises every day. He has only done this (3) days and the soreness just gets worse every...
A. 26 March 2009: He is over doing it but he Is trying to prove he can do it! Doesn't really matter what advise you give him he will continue. Hopefully it will get too much for him and he will see sense, but if that doesn't happen then only another 87 days to go!x... (read in full...)
Proper grammar please!!!
Q. this is not to do with relationships or anything like that but i just had to point it out: why doesn't anybody use grammar properly on this website or anywhere else! nobody seems to know the difference between to and too or between there, they're ...
A. 26 March 2009: This site is called 'dearcupid' its here to help people with problems revolving around such things as romance, love, and sex! It's not supposed to deal with grammar! I admire you for supporting you friend and mother, this is not a selfish act. It ... (read in full...)
I wonder if we are just married as a habit now
Q. I am 46 and have been married to my husband for 22 years. We met when we were both 17 and we are the only partners each of us have had. Our relationship has changed over the years but and is now at the stage that I still love my husband but I am...
A. 26 March 2009: You need to talk to him about how you feel! Are you familiar with 'loose women' the tv program? Well this was the topic of discussion the other day and they said that it is not unusual for a women of your age to want to re evaluate your lifestyle! I ... (read in full...)
Why has she left it this long to tell me that? Could she be lying?
Q. I'm having the time of my life romancing an older woman. I'm 26 and she's 46. You have to see her to believe her. She's gorgeous and got a great personality. We met at a party, she's a friend's friend's friend's friend's Mum or something like that...
A. 26 March 2009: I would continue to wear condoms! She could be lying however at her age it wouldn't be unusual to be sterilised! Stay safe and keep a condom on, even if she is sterelised she could still have sti's! X... (read in full...)
I truly love him so why am I having these doubts?
Q. ok here goes. I am in a little situation here I have been dating my bf for 2 yrs now and seriously he is not motivated or anything.He is faithful and is a nice guy but I dont think i want to marry him anymore. Ever heard of the saying small thin...
A. 26 March 2009: I think you should try to make this work for the baby's sake! Try to keep talking to him, sit down by yourselves and you need to tell him that you want to see him motivated, ask him to set short term goals! If he is asked to set short term goals ... (read in full...)
Proper grammar please!!!
Q. this is not to do with relationships or anything like that but i just had to point it out: why doesn't anybody use grammar properly on this website or anywhere else! nobody seems to know the difference between to and too or between there, they're ...
A. 26 March 2009: I use proper grammar,however I feel that it is much more important to give the answer to a question instead of focussing on grammar!!
There are people who ask questions on this site who are in a total messed up state, I don't think they are goin... (read in full...)
Is it ok to want some space?
Q. I have a girlfriend of two years that I love with all my heart. We are two hours apart (me being at school, her being a hairdresser) and are constantly on the phone. Little bits here and there and longer conversations during the night that can ...
A. 26 March 2009: Me and my boyfriend are in a similar situation, I wait for him to call and text. When he needs time to himself I feel neglected! If you really love her then you should want to talk to her, not go out with friends! You should commit your time to her, ... (read in full...)
Serious wife issues
Q. My wife had a male best friend prior to our marriage. While dating, she had me meet her at her work in order to actually meet him. As an introduction, she stated, "I'd like you to meet AA, he's my life." This upset me some, as we were planning on ...
A. 26 March 2009: Ultimatums are the only way to go! Tell her that she needs to make a choice! You or aa!!! And I don't like my boyfriend working with females either so I understand where your wife is coming from, she may be insecure like me so she needs lots of ... (read in full...)
Wanted to get something for easter present but it'll cost about 40.00!
Q. Ok, so I've been with my boyfriend for two months now.:) I thought about getting a little something for his younger brother (9 yrs. old) For Easter! Should I just go for it? But it turns out after searching and searching I would end up spending ...
A. 25 March 2009:
Don't do it! X... (read in full...)
To go or not to go?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. But it was all very unexpected, I never expected him to break up with me, because everything was going great. And then one day he calls me and tells me he was not feeling it any more, and that we s...
A. 24 March 2009: remain cool and dont attend, its so much more classier and you will be able to keep your dignity. just tell your friend that you will be unable to attend as you alrady have plans (make something up and say that you cant change this) x... (read in full...)
He's 'working' with his ex - what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months now. we are both 19 and love each other a lot. he has been trying to get a job at this place for a while now. this girl is helping him for the past two months with barely any progression. the...
A. 24 March 2009: he has kept something from you and he should have told you straight away. if this was my boyfriend i would tell him to quit the job and have nothing to do with her, change numbers and everything like that!! if he loves you he'll do it. x... (read in full...)
What should we do to make it good between both of us and make our parents happy too?
Q. Okay, so me and my gilfriend have had are ups and downs and as of now, what should I do? I want her to marry me and she wants to marry me. But, there are many things wrong, for one her parents don't like me and mine don't like her but we are both ...
A. 24 March 2009: why are your parents not happy? maybe wait a while and they will come round, they probably think that you are too young. wait a few years and see how you feel.x... (read in full...)
I'm so confused... Does he like me or what???
Q. Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and I have a student-teacher(you know a person in college training to become a teacher), he acts like he like me. He is 22. Here are the things that he does: 1. When he was supposed to be watching the whole class to s...
A. 24 March 2009: dont even get involved, fair enough he may like you but he shouldnt. you are too young and he is old enough to know better. x... (read in full...)
How does anyone ever trust a cheater again?
Q. Many answers advise that if you have been cheated on, the cheater is going to lie to cover up the truth or to make things seem less serious than they actually were. I am in that situation and my question is, if the cheater is assumed to be lying, h...
A. 24 March 2009: I'm one of the people who say 'once a cheater always a cheater'
People who trust cheaters after they know they have cheated are fools! And it seems like the suicide thing may be an act, he should have thought of this before he did it!
There... (read in full...)
I cannot buy one that is exclusively a sex toy
Q. I have read on this forum about girls using the handle of brushes and other items such as shampoo botthes for personal pleasure and experimentation. I went shopping and could not find anything that looked reasonable, It need not look realistic in s...
A. 24 March 2009: Banana with a condom on for easy insertion? The end of a hairbrush? Aerosol bottles? X... (read in full...)
My beautiful baby was born dead and I'm finding it very difficult to cope... Please help me...
Q. On the 27th of February my baby was born dead... I'm finding it very hard to grieve and do anything. I have an 18 month old baby and I can't seem to hold her... I don't know how to go on. Please I need some help. ...
A. 23 March 2009: You shouldn't be looking for help here, go to the doctors and tell them the problem. You should see a qualified counseller! It must be so hard but you need to get help for yourself and for your other baby! Your child needs you and its your ... (read in full...)
What qualifications for activity advisor in senior citizen's home?
Q. I'm interested in becoming an activity advisor for a senior ciztens home. What kind of a degree do i have to have, if any? W...
A. 23 March 2009: i dont think you will need a degree, why not pop into your local nursing home and sk then what the requirements are?? they will be very helpful and may even give you work experience! x... (read in full...)
What training would I need to do?
Q. My dance teacher is trying to get me a job with her. If it all goes well what sort of training would i need to do?...
A. 23 March 2009: ask your teacher. you'll need to have lots of experience and if you are going to teach then you may need to go to uni to do a course. depends on what your job title will be.x... (read in full...)
Does Enzite REALLY work?
Q. Is there any way to make your penis larger. I hear about things like enzite and all these others that make it bigger but do they really work? Do you have to keep taking them to keep it big, does it just make your erection big, or does it make your ...
A. 23 March 2009: instead of focussing on penis size why dont you work wth what you have? learn new postions to make the most of your penis and practice oral sex so that you satisfy your partner beforr you even have sex.
novelty penis enlargments seem ridiculo... (read in full...)
I really want to get over his cheating, but I don't know how...
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me back in October, two girls in two nights, and I still haven't gotten over it. I told him I forgive him, because I love him, but since then it hasn't been the same. I really want to get over this, but I don't know h...
A. 23 March 2009: well once trust is lost it is very hard to be regained!!
are you sure you want to get back with a man who has cheated on you? he obviously had no respect or love for you so why do you want to be with him?????
once a cheat always a cheat..... (read in full...)
Why do I go back to him? Do I just get lonely and go back to the ex because I can?
Q. Hmm, okay here goes. So I'm 17 and have been on and off with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. I'm the one who has done the breaking up in the past. We broke up at the end of august last year after being together 6 months, because by the end I ju...
A. 23 March 2009: life is way to short to spend time on someone who does not deserve it! you need to dump your boyfriend, he isnt worth the hassle when you have a boy ready to treat you like a princess!!
i would dump your boyfriend and then spend a week alone, d... (read in full...)
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