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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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How can I stop this overwhelming feeling of grief and sadness, and hurt, and disbelief?
Q. hi I've been with a guy for 19 months - I did everything for him, he lived in my house, I fell truly madly deeply in love. Suddenly he texted me one day and said he wasnt coming back. I was left utterly heartbroken, depressed, the sadness when...
A. 15 May 2009: Well the key to stopping feeling this way is time! You need time to grieve before you can move on, feeling this way is a natural part of a breakup! Give it a few weeks and you'll start to notice that you don't feel as bad! It can take years to get ... (read in full...)
The first kiss...
Q. today im going to kiss my boyfriend for the first time and im so nervous. I know that the first kiss does determine the relationship but why must we be so nervous after all is just a kiss. what if the kiss is not what i expected it to be. should i ...
A. 15 May 2009: A kiss isn't really a thing to plan, it should just happen when it fells right. You feel nervous because you have planned it. What if you're a bad kisser? Would you like him to dump you just because of that? That's very selfish!! Give him a chance, ... (read in full...)
Problems in our relationship and need your help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together exclusively for 6 months this week. We have been seeing each other for about 9 though. About a month and a half into our relationship, I had sex with an old friend of mine; I cheated on him. My boyfrien...
A. 15 May 2009: Don't tell him! Just think of it as in the past and he doesn't really need to know. Just as long as you don't do it again I'm sure its fine to let it go this time. Xx clear your conscience, and move on! X
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Can someone explain what she means?
Q. Hello, Ive been with my girl for a month now, not long I know but its going really well which is great :) On several occasions shes told me she loves me, all well and good but it does seem too soon to say that. Anyhow, she called me last night...
A. 15 May 2009: She means that she doesn't love you but she has strong feelings for you! Just accept this and move along! Xx... (read in full...)
Should I hire a PI to follow my wife???
Q. I found 2 texts on my wife's phone. 1 sent to her, and 1 was her reply. I checked her contact list and the text was from a guy named Jim. That's it, only Jim in her contact phonebook. His text was 'so, how do you like my hang-down?' My wife's reply ...
A. 15 May 2009: Private detectives could be really expensive, if you don't trust her then could you follow her yourself? Or steal the sim card out of her phone? Then pretend to be her and msg jim? There are lots of ways you could do this but only do them if you ... (read in full...)
When he's in a bad mood he ignores me!
Q. When my bf is in a bad mood, he ignores me. He wont tell me about his problems or what really happened. This really upsets me because I feel like I must be a bad gf because he wont let me be there for him. I want to support him, but I dont ...
A. 15 May 2009: Maybe this is his way of dealing with things, I deal with things in the same way as your boyfriend. Why don't you write him a letter voicing your feelings. Tell him what you have noticed about his way of dealing with things, tell him how it makes ... (read in full...)
Help me to be thin!
Q. hello. i have a problem. please help as best you can. well i am 14, 5'4'' and weigh 9 st 9 lbs. i am really fat. i want to weigh 8 st 7 lbs so i am going to do a pro-ana diet and lots of exercise etc. now someone told me that ana can make you pu...
A. 15 May 2009: You're an idiot if you do pro ana!! I did it and it fucked me up! So if your life is already fucked up then you don't want to mess yourself up even more!! Msg me if you need anything, I can help you do it properly, not the pro ana way! X... (read in full...)
Why is body image so important to men?
Q. Well, what if you don't have them, hmmmmm? What does that make me? Obviously, not a real woman. I know society puts pressure on women to be thin, but I don't understand why they need to listen to this crock of nonsense, since men prefer women ...
A. 15 May 2009: Is this even a question? Should it be in the articles section? X
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I am perceived as not a convential beauty - can guys still want me?
Q. Do guys prefer the more convential beauty to some one who isn't - like me. I am 32 year old which is old and who has a fat face and short teeth. Now will you please print my question since you printed every one else's but mine every time. I re...
A. 15 May 2009: Every guy is different, evevry person wants different things.
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What's going on with this lower abdominal pain I'm getting?
Q. I'm a teenager and I've been having this lower abdominal pain for about 1-2 weeks. Its like a dull ache all around my hip and the top of my thigh, round to my groin area, on both sides. Sometimes when i run, or just walk, i get sharp stabbing pains. ...
A. 14 May 2009: There could be a number of problems, you need to see a doctor asap! X... (read in full...)
Do I just need to move on from this girl?
Q. Hello Everyone I need some help here. OK. I was dating my girlfriend, i met her and she was a stripper and a model. I was into it for the looks at first then it got more serious and i told her to quit stripping and she would give me the excuse of ...
A. 14 May 2009: Remain apart from each other! If she was really into you then she would have given up stripping! I can understand that she has probably got used to the lifestyle that she had whilst stripping but I'm sure that if she loved you she would downsize her ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my two BFF's who are ignoring me?
Q. my two best friends at school are ignoring me. Because recently i've been going though some really hard stuff with my mum and everything and they are just a bit fed up with it. should i just face the fact that they don't wanna hang out with me or sh...
A. 14 May 2009: Try to find out why they are ignoring you, if they were true friends then they would be supporting you through whatever you are going through! Try talking to them if you are lonely but if you are ok plodding along or if you have other friends then I ... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable with him going to a speed dating party. Am I overthinking or...?
Q. Hey. I dunno if I'm just being a typical woman here and giving this too much thought but would like some second opinions. I've been seeing a wonderful guy for two months now - it's our 2 month anniversary on Friday and everything's goi...
A. 14 May 2009:
If this was my boyfriend I would have said that he could not go. Yeah, its nice that he's taken your feelings into account but I still would have said no! Speed dating does exactly what it says on the tin, its unacceptable in an exclusive rela... (read in full...)
Who should I invite to his birthday celebration? My family or his friends?
Q. I'm planning my bf birthday celebration. I want it to be a surprise! The trip allows 12 guests.. At first I wanted us alone but hey I'm paying for a group so might as well take advantage of it. A 2 hr. trip. Dinner and cruise. His family and ...
A. 14 May 2009: I would invite your family, it will be nice for them to interact with his family again,. Or if you think there will be too much pressure on the two of you with two sets of parents then invite his friends! X... (read in full...)
He loves me, but wants to be single....need advice to tame my alpha male
Q. We have 4 kids and my husband wants to leave me :'( I am not looking for people to tell me he is not worth it so please just don't. I have heard it enough times and maybe it is true but I think he is. He sais he still loves me , but he wants...
A. 14 May 2009:
Once someones mind is made up it is very hard to change it. You need to arrange your life and if he comes back then that's a bonus if he doesn't then you need to start preparing now! Get a grip of this lifestyle change now! ... (read in full...)
Why does his daughter talk to him in that way?
Q. I am dating a older man who has a very nice 21 year old daughter, I have four kids from my previous marriage. And this is my first serious relationship. I have noticed over the 6 months we have been together that he is very hard with my daughter ...
A. 14 May 2009: You need to talk to him and tell him not to insult your parenting! He needs to see what he does wrong and how it makes you feel, the the two of you need to come up with a plan to phase out his unacceptable behaviour. As for his daughter, that's his ... (read in full...)
Trying to have a baby! What are the odds?
Q. So me and my boyfriend are trying to have a child. While I was on my period we had sex and he came in me. The day after I got off he came in me, and yesterday he came in me and the day b4 that he came in me.. I just wanted to see if you guys that ...
A. 14 May 2009: You need to see a doctor for a professional answer. Xx... (read in full...)
Fat joke that wasnt funny!
Q. my boyfriend I have been dating for 3 months told me he doesnt want me to lose weight as other men might fancy me, after seeing my hurt reaction he laughed it off saying he was joking but at the time did not seem that way...
A. 14 May 2009:
Losing weight can have health benefits so maybe it was a subtle hint from him to shed a few pounds for your own good, not for his(as he said other guys may fancy you) x... (read in full...)
How do I tell b/f I'm through making mistakes?
Q. how do i let my boyfriend know that im done with making my mistakes and want to take the relationship furthur?...
A. 14 May 2009: Talk to him, tell him that if you stay in this situation you will be unhappy! ... (read in full...)
Break up with Micheal and wait for Brandon?
Q. so i have a boy friend named micheal and me and him were and still are best friend's.. but im still in love with my ex who's named is brandon , me and brandon were together for a month .. right now brandon is datting my best friend alliyah.. brandon ...
A. 14 May 2009: Stay with your current boyfriend! Its wrong to mess people around! If you don't want to be with him then tell him! X... (read in full...)
Keeping an open mind
Q. girls is it a trun on for your guy to be open minded and open to try anything that u want to try?If so would u do the same for him?Whats the one thing u have always wanted to try but have never told anyone?...
A. 13 May 2009:
If you're looking for sex chat this isn't the point. Is there a purpose to this question? ... (read in full...)
Sleeping while partner has sex with me
Q. hi plz help, in a normal relationship is it right that u should wake up and find your partner has had or is having sex with you this has happend so many times. xxxxxx...
A. 13 May 2009: That's called rape... (read in full...)
Breaking it off early the right thing to do?
Q. Hi I'm a pretty laid back intelligent guy in his early 30s who hasn't had any long term relationships so am a bit inexperienced. I guess I would say I'm quite shy and lack a bit of self-esteem. I went out with someone I met on the internet re...
A. 13 May 2009: You're going to be alone forever if you don't stay with people for long! 3 months isn't enough! ... (read in full...)
I really like him but don't want this to just be a "work thing"
Q. I need some advice, I have liked this guy I work with for a couple of years, he shows an interest and is always checking me out, we have never been on a date (I have asked once and something came up and he couldn't make it), we french kissed about ...
A. 13 May 2009: Does he have a girlfriend? X... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband or try and fix this mess?
Q. Hi..so here goes. I am a recent newlywed and I have also just had a wonderful baby. I have been with my husband for a few years before we got married. He had cheated on me in the past but our relationship was long distance, the problem is he ch...
A. 12 May 2009: I would leave him! You need to think about your baby too, growing up with his mother supressed by her horrible husband isn't going to be good for it! End the relationship for the sake of you and your baby, x... (read in full...)
I hate my sister's boyfriend! What can I do?
Q. I hate my sister's boyfriend! What can I do? They're currently LDR, but he's planning on coming to live here. Well, the thing is that he's 32 or 33 and she's 22. He's so annioying. He may be old, but he is so immature. He doesn't work, he's looking ...
A. 12 May 2009:
You will just have to deal with it!... (read in full...)
Peter Andre and Katie Price breaking up has really upset me. Help!
Q. I feel seriously pathetic and stupid for asking for adivce on this... but thank you guys for even reading the question. I'm sure all you people in the UK will have heard the news that peter andre and katie price are splitting up? Well it has real...
A. 12 May 2009: You'll get over it
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Best place to lose your virginity?
Q. I'm ready, and I'm gonna lose it. The question is where? Ideas anyone? The beach? The woods? Not some sleazy hotel room or my bed. This is the first time you'll always remember. I want to make it memorable in so many different ways, and...
A. 12 May 2009: The first time isn't that special. You need to find somewhere which you are comfortable. How old are you, the legal age for sex in britain is 16. X... (read in full...)
This whole thing stinks of dog doo-doo..WHAT is going on?
Q. Im so neglected by my guy who use to show and tell me how he feels. I told my guy this and he says its because I complain to much. Well excuse me, I think talking and complaining r2 different things. Last week my guy and I was suppose to order ...
A. 12 May 2009: Your man sounds like he is taking you for granted! Kick him out, don't pay for anything and tell him to look after the dog! He is a useless good for nothing! X... (read in full...)
Why does everything I do go wrong?
Q. The thing is i have been going out with this person for 2year, and we are planning to get married this sumer.There is one thing i don't get, first everything as to go his way cuz i can't do anything about it i realy love him so much, I have to speak ...
A. 12 May 2009: You are becoming too dependant on him. Switch off your phone and go out with friends. You haven't got a healthy relationship, you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. You could maybe think of having councelling sessions to find out what ... (read in full...)
I like this guy, but I only want to date him in private. What to do?
Q. So there is this guy i like and i have liked and known him for a over a year now... but i think im starting to like him more... I find myself always needing to talk to him or think about him or talk about him... I also have been known for well being ...
A. 12 May 2009: If he is a pot head he is bad news! Try to get over him because otherwise you will end up heartbroken!x... (read in full...)
He's going to a party as a female and wants me to help dress him
Q. One of my best friends who is male recently told me a secret of his. It's not uncommon, he gets turned on by wearing girls clothes and has fantasies of having sex with girls whilst in girls clothes. This isn't a problem with me, however....
A. 12 May 2009: Just plod along and keep talking and help him, you'll get over it, you just need to find time to adjust! When my friend of 14 years came out and told me he was gay I was in the same situation as you are really, but I just carried on as normal ... (read in full...)
Dating but have no feelings for him
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for a month now. We've been in a difficult situation together because before we went out, he went out out with my ex-best friend (who was my "best friend" at the time) and she played with his feelings a lot, and ...
A. 12 May 2009: You need to break up with him, I'm sure your parents would rather you be happy than to stay with someone who you don't have feelings for. Ask the boyfriend if its possible to just be friends. I'm sure your parents will understand, you could even ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is nothing but a pothead!
Q. My boyfriend is nothing but a pothead. I can't stand it. He's stuck in a dead end minimum wage job because he can't pass a drug test. He never follows through with anything at all. All he does is get high then eat everything in the house. The ...
A. 12 May 2009: You have your baby to think of, you need to leave him! Being a single mum is better than having a pothead for a dad! I know which one I'd prefer. He won't quit when the baby is born, if he could actually quit then he would have done it sooner! X... (read in full...)
Do you think these can be signs of her presence or just coincidences.
Q. Tomorrow will be 5 weeks since my grandma whom i was very close to passed away. Saturday night that just passed, i had a dream about her (idk if it was her coming in a dream). We were eating pizza in my school cafeteria and we were talking about ...
A. 12 May 2009: I think its a sign that your grandma Is looking over you, she may want you to know that she's always near when you need her. I believe in signs like this. Some people would say they are coincedenses but its whatever you believe, if you have a gut ... (read in full...)
Do I need medication? I have an irritability problem
Q. I have always had a bit of an irritability problem, and i try to control it. When i say irritability i mean that if someone ask 5 times are you feeling ok or are you sure you dont want to go with me? it tends to get on my nerves so bad i will yell ...
A. 12 May 2009: Talk to a doctor about it, they may be able to suggest something. Or look online for relaxation techniques and practise them. X... (read in full...)
How can I make myself prettier??? I want to WOW him.
Q. im looking for advice on how i can make myself prettier. please not i am NOT looking for answers of people telling me beauty is on the inside, or its about confidence or anything like that. i want advice about physical thing i can do. My boyfr...
A. 12 May 2009: You could go to a saoln and have a spray tan! Ring up for the cheapeast price and ask what tan they use, sun laboratories is excellent, st tropez is good too! Exfoliate the night before and shave or wax, then to maintain the tan moiturise every day, ... (read in full...)
How can I make myself prettier??? I want to WOW him.
Q. im looking for advice on how i can make myself prettier. please not i am NOT looking for answers of people telling me beauty is on the inside, or its about confidence or anything like that. i want advice about physical thing i can do. My boyfr...
A. 11 May 2009: You could try a smocky eye look, or maybe use a green or blue to make your eyes really stand out from your hair! What's your hair like? If its long then you could straighten it and back comb sections so that it looks volumous, if you describe your ... (read in full...)
Do some people just grow apart?
Q. Well, me and my boyfriend of 17 months have been really loved up. I felt as though nothing would ever come between us, my soul mate, I was just so in love with him and knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. But as of recently...
A. 11 May 2009: Some people do just grow apart but I think its a phase which a relationship goes through. Me and my boyfriend got through it!x
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How to help when she doesn't want consoling?
Q. My girlfriend is very upset. There is this lady she has tried to be best friends with for over 4 years now. I say "tried" because all this lady does is use her to watch her kids or do some labor around the house or lately borrow money from. I hate ...
A. 11 May 2009: Let her know that you will be there for her if she needs you, but other than that you can't really do anything. If she handles situations without emotion then its just her way of dealing with it. So be patient and if she needs you then welcome her ... (read in full...)
Fooling around...and now I cant pee!
Q. My boyfriend and I were messing around last week. Afterward, it hurt a little more than usual in the next couple of days, and a pain kept lingering. Yesterday, we got... um... naughty in a pool and now every time I use the bathroom I feel a searing...
A. 11 May 2009: You NEED to see a doctor and explain the situation! X... (read in full...)
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