| Latest articles: Life is too short for...
This question has 13 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
|
Texting his co-worker 30-40 times a day but says nothing is going on
Q. My husband has been texting a female co-worker at work. Sometimes a multiple of 30 times a day.She is a lot younger than he is. I found out. He swears nothing is going on. Do I believe him, or am I being stupid to think that nothing is going...
A. 30 June 2009: You can't trust him! I would not believe a word either of them say! Do what's best for you and get out of the relationship before he makes you look more of a fool! X... (read in full...)
I am having terrile pain from my period. Can anyone suggest something to do or take that will ease the pain?
Q. i really need some help quick cuz im in reallyyyy bad pain. ive just come on my period and ive had them for four years so they aint new but this one is killin me. ive never bin in so much pain, ive bin curled up on my bed rockin to try and stop it n ...
A. 28 May 2009: Don't pig out on chocolate like someone else suggested, it doesn't help! Eat healthily and light foods, stodgy heavy foods will make you feel worse. Chocolate and heavy rich foods will make you even more bloated. X... (read in full...)
Texting his co-worker 30-40 times a day but says nothing is going on
Q. My husband has been texting a female co-worker at work. Sometimes a multiple of 30 times a day.She is a lot younger than he is. I found out. He swears nothing is going on. Do I believe him, or am I being stupid to think that nothing is going...
A. 27 May 2009: Sorry to be blunt but there is something going on here! My guess is he's having an affair! Don't believe a word that he says! X
... (read in full...)
Is it okay too have sex with a girl you don't really like, when you like someone else?
Q. is it okay too have sex with a girl you dont really like when you like someone else ?...
A. 27 May 2009: My answer was short simply because it was a bit of a stupid question! Lol. Of course its not ok to penetrate or be penetrated by someone you don't care about!!! Feelings are involved when you have sex, and messing around with someone is not ... (read in full...)
On line fantasy may become a reality.... But I am married!
Q. I have been married for five years and we have a child. I recently "ran into" my first love (middle school/highschool) on the internet. We started swapping messages and then we started texting. It started as casual chit chat, then a little flirty, ...
A. 27 May 2009: I would respect my partner and my child and do the right thing and not meet up with him!!! You are married, does that not mean anything? You have a child and you are supposed to be a role model for them, this is not acceptable at all.so contact this ... (read in full...)
Useless husband doesn't show any appreciation to me
Q. Hello Everyone, I do everything for my husband. I get up before him to make him breakfast, I make sure the house is tidy I fold his laundry, I run him baths, I shave him sometimes as he finds it tedious. As well as household duties I also wr...
A. 27 May 2009: Stop doing all of these things, I know it will be hard for you at first but just stop this. Then he will realise how much you actually do for him, and to an extent he will feel unloved! Stop telling him that you love him. Eventually he will get the ... (read in full...)
Is it okay too have sex with a girl you don't really like, when you like someone else?
Q. is it okay too have sex with a girl you dont really like when you like someone else ?...
A. 27 May 2009: No... (read in full...)
I'm so skinny, when will I start to fill out and look normal?
Q. i am reaaaaaally slim. i'm definitely NOT anorexic, thats just a terrible thought. all my friends are like 'oh how skinny are you' and its really annoying because it makes me feel upset. that i'm not normal like everyone else. everyone is like 'oh i ...
A. 27 May 2009: No, not at all! I was 5 foot 8inches and weighed just a little more than that. As long as you feel healthy and able to do things then its fine. X... (read in full...)
How do I make him see that I want to be free and happy?
Q. Please Help. I have been in a relationship for a year nearly, it has been very good, but we have our ups and downs. Due to personal problems my BF closed off for a while. I went away for a week and I was able to think about us. I decided I couldn't...
A. 27 May 2009: Firmly say you don't want to be with him anymore. Stick to it this time! Don't let him sway you!x... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had one previous relationship with a man, and I can't accept it...
Q. hi, so i have a bf which really loves me and i feel great with him, but my boyfriend in the past had one relationship with a man and i really cant accept this thing. if it was you would you stay with him? however he confessed that it was his only...
A. 27 May 2009: I couldn't stay with him, even if he was a nice person. Its too weird! X... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of those last extra pounds??
Q. I am 5ft 4inches and I'm almost 10 stone. I don't think I am fat, but I would like to be at my target weight of 9stone. Compared to others, I don't really have alot to lose, however because I'm not drastically overweight I am finding the extra ...
A. 27 May 2009: I forgot to mention that I noticed your flag says you're from the uk, rowlands pharmacy do an excellent weight loss treatment, its called celebrity slim. Ask to talk to the pharmacist about it and they will be able to give lots of information. A ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of those last extra pounds??
Q. I am 5ft 4inches and I'm almost 10 stone. I don't think I am fat, but I would like to be at my target weight of 9stone. Compared to others, I don't really have alot to lose, however because I'm not drastically overweight I am finding the extra ...
A. 27 May 2009: Just eat smaller portions, thay way you can still have your food but you just won't be taking in as many calories. Do you eat healthily? Do you snack a lot? I would cut out all snacks and just stick to square meals. Drinks lots of water, it makes ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of those last extra pounds??
Q. I am 5ft 4inches and I'm almost 10 stone. I don't think I am fat, but I would like to be at my target weight of 9stone. Compared to others, I don't really have alot to lose, however because I'm not drastically overweight I am finding the extra ...
A. 27 May 2009: Just eat smaller portions, thay way you can still have your food but you just won't be taking in as many calories. Do you eat healthily? Do you snack a lot? I would cut out all snacks and just stick to square meals. Drinks lots of water, it makes ... (read in full...)
I'm so skinny, when will I start to fill out and look normal?
Q. i am reaaaaaally slim. i'm definitely NOT anorexic, thats just a terrible thought. all my friends are like 'oh how skinny are you' and its really annoying because it makes me feel upset. that i'm not normal like everyone else. everyone is like 'oh i ...
A. 27 May 2009: I was like you when I was your age, I'm 19 now and that junk food seems to be catching up with me. Don't worry, you'll fill out soon, and you could try going on the birth control pill to increase the size of your boobs. As for the junk food, its ok ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has told me she just doesn't want or need sex anymore...
Q. Ok so this has been going on for a few months now. My gf and i have been together for about a year and we've lived together since august of last summer. We used to have sex without discussion and anywhere from 3-6 times a week. The first night we ...
A. 27 May 2009: I have felt like this from time to time, I think its a hormonal thing. You need to talk to her and see if she has any other problems. If she seems fine then just give her time and don't come on to her, remain affectionate but don't do anything to ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the trick to a "flawless lady garden"?
Q. I like to be completely hair free down below. However, no matter what hair removing method I try, I still get red irritation and spots. Does anyone know the trick to a flawless lady garden? ...
A. 27 May 2009: Its so weird how this question has appeared as I have just been researching this for myself. Apparently if you shave and apply a thin layer of deodorant it gets rid of red bumps, not tried it yet but I'm sure it works as they apply deororant to the ... (read in full...)
Major trust issues from the past
Q. Ok I have a boyfriend of 7 months, I love him and one day want to marry him. However, he has some seriously deep trust issues from his dad leaving him and being cheated on by all his ex girlfriends. So from this he believes that im going to do the ...
A. 27 May 2009: You just need to reassure him that you won't treat him badly, it will get very tiring for you but you need to do it most of the time. I'm like your boyfriend and the only thing which seems to help me is when my boyfriend reassures me. You need to ... (read in full...)
Grilfriend physically cannot give head. Move on, wait, or accept it?
Q. Hey I have posted this question before but didn't explain enough so the advice I received wasn't particularly relevant. The problem I seem to have is that I am in a 5 month ongoing relationship- we are both 21 and I have never received head to...
A. 27 May 2009: Accept this! You are being very selfish! This poor girl may dislocate her jaw!!! ... (read in full...)
Pains in my stomach after sex?
Q. The first time i had sex a few weeks ago it was fine during sex, however a couple of hours after i got a sharp pain through my stomach area every time i stood up/straightened my back. I didn't know what caused it or if it was to do with the sex, but ...
A. 27 May 2009: No, its not normal. You should book an appointment with the doctor, its confidential, just phone your surgery and you can even request to see a female if there is one present. Alternatively you could visit your local family planning clinic for a ... (read in full...)
I get turned on too easily!
Q. My problem is I get turned on too fast and easily. When with my girlfriend and we start kissing I get an erection almost straight away and before I know it I feel like I'm going to ejaculate. It completely blows my chance for sex and it's reall...
A. 27 May 2009: Have you had sex yet? You could try masturbating before you see her and then this should ease the need to ejaculate. Alternatively you could try thinking of things that would turn you off when kissing. X... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend with his OCD?
Q. My boyfriend suffers from OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.)i love him so much but sometimes it gets really difficult between us. Take two nights ago, for example, he called me saying that he doesn't deserve me, that he's a loser and that the ...
A. 27 May 2009: This doesn't sound like ocd, you haven't mentioned any symptoms. What you have described sounds more like depression. Let me know if I'm correct in saying this, otherwise describe the actual symptoms of the ocd. X... (read in full...)
Kissing and HIV
Q. I want ask that if may i kiss my hiv positve friend now will i become hiv positvie or not?...
A. 27 May 2009: Hiv can be passed by infected blood too so if they have cuts or sores inside of their mouths and you have an open cut or sore in yours then there is a chance you can contract it. If you have to kiss them then stay to a closed mouth kiss, or show ... (read in full...)
How do I hug/kiss my boyfriend on our second date?
Q. Hi! I've been going out with my bf for 2 weeks exactly and we are going to the park with my friend and her bf and i want 2 kiss him and give him a nice warm hug but we are both kinda shy... we havent even held hands coz when we went 2 the cinema I...
A. 27 May 2009: Just let it flow, it should happen quite naturally. If he is very shy then just hold his hand and put it around yourself so that he is hugging you, then look at him and focus your eyes on his lips and he should know that you want to kiss him then. ... (read in full...)
Orgasm Trouble. The sequal!
Q. Hello, I've posted before about my inability to orgasm and FINALLY "tada" I had one, and then some more later on... BUT they only last like half a second... was I expecting too much? Is this normal? My sex life is a gong show, any adivice could he...
A. 27 May 2009: Its no problem, x... (read in full...)
The worst haircut of my life! How do I tell her?
Q. my friend who is in beauty school (almost done) , cut my hair the other day. she did such a bad job, what makes it worse she loves it. my husband said it kind of looks like an 80s mullet, :/ my mom just said omg. i called my cousin who has been a ...
A. 27 May 2009: Just keep telling her that you have already said that someone else can do it. Get it done as soon as possible and then she won't be able to so it! X... (read in full...)
Why does he act differently now he knows I like him?
Q. Before, my crush's friends used to act shy and awkward around me. Which I thought was weird because they were all outgoing. But once I told him that I liked him (he didn't say anything but he told my friend that yes, he liked me too), they started ...
A. 26 May 2009: I don't know, ask them. We aren't psychic! X... (read in full...)
Orgasm Trouble. The sequal!
Q. Hello, I've posted before about my inability to orgasm and FINALLY "tada" I had one, and then some more later on... BUT they only last like half a second... was I expecting too much? Is this normal? My sex life is a gong show, any adivice could he...
A. 26 May 2009: That's normal, you need to keep experimenting though. Its only by experimenting more and more that you'll find the best way for you and how to make it last a bit longer. Orgasms don't last long for many women, x... (read in full...)
Mum's threatening to chuck me out if I don't pass my exams!
Q. Is it normal for my mother to threaten to throw me out of the house and make me repeat 3rd year if I fail anything or if I do pass in the subjects I want...
A. 26 May 2009: No, its not normal at all. Sit down and talk to your mother. Tell her that you are trying your hardest and you will do your best in the exams but tell her that you don't need the added pressure of her threats. X... (read in full...)
I like this girl, but don't know whether I should continue being friends, what do you think?
Q. So this is my story: I love my friend, and I promised I will always be here for her. (Am I gay? no, bi? Maybe) and I am, I try my best. Anyways, we are in 2 different states, so there isn't much I can do but talk on the phone. She's always going ...
A. 26 May 2009: Move on from her! Never wait for someone, live your life for the present whilst you are young! X
... (read in full...)
Is he going to break up with me?
Q. Ok, so I have a theory that after the 5 or 6th month of a relationship, it either finishes or it blossoms. I'm in between the 5th and 6th month of a relationship with my current boyfriend. We haven't said "I love you" in a serious or formal way, but ...
A. 26 May 2009: I don't agree with your theory at all, I think every couple have ups and downs and each relationship flourishes and fails at different times. You are basing your current relationship on previous things, don't do this! Its wrong to compare! If you ... (read in full...)
I found condoms in my husband's pockets and he says they were for a friend!
Q. I Found 6 condoms in my husbands pockets and he said his friend asked him to bring it. I didn't believe him, and he was crying. could he be telling the truth?...
A. 26 May 2009: He is lying! X... (read in full...)
Bad reaction from my family about our relationship, what do I do now?
Q. I am 20 years old.I am in love with my GF who is 34 years old.She is divorced and not having any child. Her husband was impotant hence she didnt have sex before.She loves me lot and she is very much caring for me too.I am from middle class brahmin ...
A. 26 May 2009: There is nothing wrong with this relationship! X... (read in full...)
18 year old girl sending me provocative texts...should I take her up on her offers?
Q. I'm currently 25yo but i've got an 18yo girl proposing all sorts of dirty things to me via text message. I've never even met her but she got my number after i allowed a friend who had no phone cred to use my phone to text her. Would it be wrong of ...
A. 26 May 2009: Nope, she's obviously a bit of a slag though so use a condom. X... (read in full...)
When you join a gym/health club do they weigh you?
Q. hi, i know this isnt relationship based but i have a question and wonder if anyone can help?! i have decided to join a gym with a friend, we both want to loose weight and we have our induction tomorrow. but im really scared! i dont know what an ...
A. 26 May 2009: It depends on the gym. If you have to be weighed then don't be worried, they would be very professional. X... (read in full...)
I have POCS and its making me very self-conscious
Q. Okay so im usually the one giving help instead of asking for it but here goes, I was diagnosed with PCOS (poly cystic ovary syndrome) and Im only 15. I hate this disease and i used to have alot of confidence and self esteem but now im just r...
A. 25 May 2009: Can you wax the hair off? Or shave it? There are lots of methods of hair removal. X... (read in full...)
Former teacher student relationship possible?
Q. This is about my teacher.. I need help :( I am 16, 17 in September and I have finished school and I am halfway through my GCSE's. I had a few issues with one of my ex-teachers; as I am not coming back to my old school next year, she is n...
A. 25 May 2009: Don't pursue it! Leave her alone! Its wrong!! Get on with your life, stop this patheticness, she is a TEACHER! ... (read in full...)
Supernatural experience
Q. I wonder ,if anybody ever had any very strange supernatural experinces? I had one, and it is weird to have someting like that, and not be able to know if it happened to someone else too. I had a strange 'visit'' in my sleep , when I woke up with a...
A. 25 May 2009: This isn't a relationship questoon, you're in the wrong place. X... (read in full...)
What are the laws in the united kingdom for a 16 year old whose living with a friend who works getting job seekers allowance?
Q. This isn't really a relationship question but what are the laws in the united kingdom for a 16 year old whose living with a friend who works getting job seekers allowance? I've tried googling it but its all jibberish and doesnt mean much lol! ...
A. 25 May 2009: I don't think you can get jobseekers until you are 18, you will need to book an appointment with the job center or phone them and ask them. X... (read in full...)
I am having terrile pain from my period. Can anyone suggest something to do or take that will ease the pain?
Q. i really need some help quick cuz im in reallyyyy bad pain. ive just come on my period and ive had them for four years so they aint new but this one is killin me. ive never bin in so much pain, ive bin curled up on my bed rockin to try and stop it n ...
A. 25 May 2009: Ibuprofen is the best painkiller for period pains, don't take co-codamol as they contain codeine and this causes constipation, consipation will make the pain worse. X... (read in full...)
Can't have anal sex
Q. i have a problem, embarcing one by the way,,,, i keep trying having anal sex with my boyfriend but i end up crying and shivering , i don't know why,although i want to but the moment i know it's gonna happen i could simply jump off , can any one ...
A. 23 May 2009: Don't do it then, simple as that! X... (read in full...)
I was sweaty and smelly. Did this ruin my chances with her?
Q. Hey Everybody, Basically, I was at university playing some pickup soccer with some of my friends, but there was this new girl playing with us and she had to guard me, so i was taking it easy on her and everything right, but I noticed that she...
A. 23 May 2009: Its normal to smell and sweat during sports so if I found someone attractive and I was playinh sports with them then it wouldn't put me off. X
... (read in full...)
I was sweaty and smelly. Did this ruin my chances with her?
Q. Hey Everybody, Basically, I was at university playing some pickup soccer with some of my friends, but there was this new girl playing with us and she had to guard me, so i was taking it easy on her and everything right, but I noticed that she...
A. 23 May 2009: Its normal to smell and sweat during sports so if I found someone attractive and I was playinh sports with them then it wouldn't put me off. X
... (read in full...)
The worst haircut of my life! How do I tell her?
Q. my friend who is in beauty school (almost done) , cut my hair the other day. she did such a bad job, what makes it worse she loves it. my husband said it kind of looks like an 80s mullet, :/ my mom just said omg. i called my cousin who has been a ...
A. 23 May 2009: If you are getting it sorted out then there is no need to tell her. If she notices a change then you could say that she inspired you! X... (read in full...)
| *ellyxxx's friends
These are mutual friends, so *ellyxxx has
added them and they have added *ellyxxx!
|
