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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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Lack of oral sex in a relationship...
Q. I've been dating a girl for 2 years now, and we never have oral sex. She doesn't want me to do it for her, but I do want her to do it to me. I'm not selfish though, I'd go down on her 7 days a week if she'd let me. I love giving oral to women. ...
A. 16 April 2009: She may just feel insecure about her vagina, and its appearance. And she may not want to take you in her mouth because she may not like the taste, smell, feel of it...not everyone loves oral sex. I'm sure if she wants to do it then she will do it. ... (read in full...)
What is this cum like discharge?
Q. Hey all, I'm 14 years old, coming up to 15 next month and I started my period a year and a half ago and recently I have been getting a type of thick cum like substance sometimes when I wake up. I thought it was my hygiene but bath every day so I'm a ...
A. 16 April 2009: Well if you're ok with it then it sounds fine! Hope everything is ok. X... (read in full...)
Friendship with teacher when I leave school
Q. I was wondering if anybody could help me? Basically, I've had this great teacher for 2 years now and she is a really great person and teacher of course! But I am leaving in 4 weeks time and I really want to let her know how much of a help she ha...
A. 16 April 2009: Well you leave school officially and then depending on what your school is like I think you can visit once in a while. Talk to your teachers about anything that you are unsure of, they will understand and be able to clean up any little worries that ... (read in full...)
What is this cum like discharge?
Q. Hey all, I'm 14 years old, coming up to 15 next month and I started my period a year and a half ago and recently I have been getting a type of thick cum like substance sometimes when I wake up. I thought it was my hygiene but bath every day so I'm a ...
A. 16 April 2009: I think that its nothing to do with intercourse! You are ready when your mind is ready and when you are with the right person! The discharge could be perfectly normal! Or you could have a little bit of an infection. What colour is it? And what ... (read in full...)
What do I do after swallowing?
Q. im going to be giving my bf a head for the first time. i know what to do and everything but im not to sure about afterwards people tell me itsa bit of a put off running sraight to the loo after swallowing to clean your teeth. do guys mind it if you ...
A. 16 April 2009: Well if you can swallow it without gagging then do that. Aim the penis to the back of your throat, that way you won't have to taste it as much. If you can't do this then just walk to the bathroom and spit it out and rinse, don't spend time cleaning ... (read in full...)
Friendship with teacher when I leave school
Q. I was wondering if anybody could help me? Basically, I've had this great teacher for 2 years now and she is a really great person and teacher of course! But I am leaving in 4 weeks time and I really want to let her know how much of a help she ha...
A. 16 April 2009: I left school 3years ago and I'm still friends with my teachers, I go into school and visit them. There is one especially who I am friends with and I even went to her wedding! There are certain boundaries, for example, my teacher would not attend ... (read in full...)
My b/f never stops talking about "hot" women it's making me feel uncomfortable
Q. The problem I have is that my boyfriend constantly - and I mean it - talks about other women as being "hot" and that he'd "do" them. It makes me uncomfortable, as he knows I don't have the greatest self-image of myself. It makes me wonder what he ...
A. 16 April 2009: Tell him there is an issue. Tell him what he does and how it makes you feel, then tell him what you can both do to resolve the issue! Not every boy acts like this, don't let him use that as an excuse! If my boyfriend didn't stop speaking like that ... (read in full...)
There' so much trust broken. What more can I do than walk away?
Q. Not quite sure where to begin. I posted a problem about 18 months ago whilst I was undergoing treatment for breast cancer. My partner of then just 6 months was signing up to dogging websites etc and you guys offered me invaluable advice - Thank ...
A. 16 April 2009: He is not being honest, get him to tell you the truth by threatening to leave. If he cares about you then he will tell you!x... (read in full...)
Apple cider vinegar & weight loss?
Q. hey all. i just wanted to know if apple cider vinegar really helps with weight loss? Is there anything to this, or is it just a rumor/myth? Anyone have any results good or bad using this? thanx...
A. 14 April 2009: i have heard about this. supposedly it speeds metabolism up and helps to burn fat. research it on google. they may give more info on there. x... (read in full...)
B/f's ex will be at his b-day celebration..how can I keep things from being ruined?
Q. My partners birthday is coming so we are going to his home town and meeting up with his old friends who are now good friends with me too. Since one of his good friends is with my partners ex girlfriend it is likely she'll be there too. I don't like ...
A. 14 April 2009: Well I would tell her not to come,lol. However then she would think that she is a bigger person than me. Dress in a nice outfit get your hair and nails done, make yourself look amazing because this will help you to feel better on the inside too! ... (read in full...)
Pulled out during orgasm and ruined it for me. Was I wrong for getting mad?
Q. I'm not sure I was totally in the wrong in this situation, so please just let me know what you think. Yesterday my boyfriend and I were having sex in the morning and right when I was orgasming, he pulled out and ruined it all for me. It felt like...
A. 13 April 2009: Tell him how you feel, discuss this and tell him how you feel when he does it, he may think you like it if you don't talk to him about it. Ask him why he does it! ... (read in full...)
Sex and travel during pregnancy?
Q. Hi there, my wife is pregnant for about three months. Can we go abroad on August and can we have sex normally or it will make things difficult. Thank You...
A. 13 April 2009: It is fine to have sex during pregnancy as long as your wife is ok with it, you can do it in any position but as the bump grows bigger it may become uncomfortable so you will need to experiment with the positions which suit her! Remember that if ... (read in full...)
Is he saying we belong together as a couple?
Q. I asked the man I have been with for 5 yrs if he ever found out that i was sleeping with another man what would he do. He told me that he would have to be gone. That any decent man doesn't share what he already has sexually. is this his way of ...
A. 13 April 2009: He means what he says, he just answered your question and it seems completley black and white- he's saying if you cheated then he would leave as he doesn't want to share you. Simple! There's nothing more to make out of this.x... (read in full...)
My guy made me feel like I did something wrong. Did I?
Q. Saturday night I went out with my boyfriend and 4other people he knows(1 being a girl). It was suppose 2b me and my guy at 1st but his man called wanting to go to the movies bringing along his girl. We get in the car and the plans have change. The ...
A. 13 April 2009: Everyone gets drunk sometimes and makes abit of a fool of themselves, its understandable! I got drunk within two hours once and my boyfriend had to take me home from the party we were at! Your boyfriend is the one who is in the wrong! He should have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend died 8 months ago and I can't move on...
Q. Hey dear cupid, I was dating this wonderful guy for 2 years, everything was perfect we never fought, never argued, it was a perfect relationship. He was my prince charming.. he asked me out on prom and since then we have been inseperable... but he ...
A. 9 April 2009: You need counselling. You are allowed to grieve but things will eventually get better, time will heal you. Try the 'relate website' I think its relate.org. Or look up local counselling services in your area. If you go and see a doctor they can help ... (read in full...)
Cute vs Sexy
Q. I have a question. I know, I have a lot of questions, but I also have a lot of answers, so I think it balances out =] I've noticed that a lot of guys I know have, over the past few years, said that I am so hot and sexy. They say they want to hav...
A. 9 April 2009: Try less revealing clothes (I get the impression if they are staring at your boobs that they are probably looking at a low cut top) or wear loose fitting tops. Don't be too friendly with guys, they probably take what you say in the wrong way. Look ... (read in full...)
My parents don't trust me with my girlfriend!
Q. my parents dont trust me... me and my girlfriend have been goin gout for a year she's 15 and im 14.,, and yes we're a very mature couple for our age//...but we wont do anything we are not ready for....whenever were alone watching tv in t...
A. 9 April 2009: Have you spoke to your mum? She is being stupid here! Tell her to trust you, tell her that she has raised you well! X... (read in full...)
Bad text message!
Q. I let someone write a text to my girl. The words they wrote were hurtful but they were not mines and I do not want to lose her because of the the words written by the other person. I love her more than life itself an that's no lie. I just don't k...
A. 9 April 2009: why did you let someone else write a message to her then, its stupid. she deserves better than you, get over it, and let her move on and find someone else who wont let people hurt her.... (read in full...)
I had sex today without protection, could I get pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex today just about, maybe 11 hours ago. We didn't use protection(I thought he had a condom on but he didn't so please no rude comments) anyway, We started it "doggy style" but while we were doing it doggy style, He didn't ...
A. 9 April 2009:
Of course you can be pregnant! There are some idiotic questions on this site!!! Its simple...don't have sex if you don't know enough about it! ... (read in full...)
Stretch marks on breast
Q. I have unsightly stretch mark looking things on my breast. I was wondering what it's from? And how can I get rid of these marks? Is it because they're getting "saggy"?...
A. 8 April 2009: Try moisturising! Or bio oil! You may be able to buy it over the internet! Also, cocoa butter for stretch marks (by a brand called palmers) x
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My boyfriend never calls or talks to me in class!
Q. well me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 days and he never calls me! unless i tell him to since we started going out he only called twice and thats because i told him to. and at school we barely ever talk or see eachother because were in ...
A. 7 April 2009: All boys are immature! And they are very immature in high school. Why don't you just focus on school right now, instead of boys! And I know you think that this is an enormous problem right now (trust me, I thought my problems to do with boys were ... (read in full...)
My sister asked me about masturbation. What should I do?
Q. My sister asked me "What is masterbate?" She's 11 and I was shocked at the time to I just told her "You'll find out when your older." because I couldn't think if I should tell her or not. So, what should I do, should I tell her what it is if she ...
A. 7 April 2009: Find a good sex education website and let her read up on it for herself! X... (read in full...)
My sister asked me about masturbation. What should I do?
Q. My sister asked me "What is masterbate?" She's 11 and I was shocked at the time to I just told her "You'll find out when your older." because I couldn't think if I should tell her or not. So, what should I do, should I tell her what it is if she ...
A. 7 April 2009: If she asks again then tell her! I talked to my little brother when he asks about puberty, I had an info booklet to make sure I gave him accurate info. When telling kids, don't include any myths or things you are unsure about, find facts out! And he ... (read in full...)
Is it dandruff?
Q. I don't know why but for some reason, all of a sudden today all these little flakes have been falling out of my hair.. it's probly dandruff, why would it start today??? I've never had it before, I tried to brush the flakes out but there were a ...
A. 6 April 2009: Dandruff is caused by a dry scalp so use a specialised shampoo that deals with dandruff and condition your hair too. Make sure you rinse your hair thouroughly. See if it still happens if you have no products in your hair, don't use wax or gel fore a ... (read in full...)
My bf is making me feel like crap sexually :-(
Q. My boyfriend of just over one year has been telling me for months that he thinks I am cheating on him because my "p*ssy feels different and stretched out like I have been f*cking n***ers". He has also then become upset with me when I become more ...
A. 6 April 2009: He sounds like a slefish bastard, if my boyfriend treated me like this then he would be gone! Get rid of him!x... (read in full...)
My mother does not like the engagement ring I chose!
Q. Hi, I have been in a long distance relation ship for the past 5 years and my boyfriend has finally proposed....but without a ring..he didn't want to choose it for me as i have quite particular taste so he has given me £2000 to spend on a ring ...
A. 6 April 2009: Its your choice, not your mums! When she says 'I don't like it' you say 'its a good thing you don't have to wear it then!' She'll get the msg. Add the 250 and tell him that it was 2000, he'll never know!x... (read in full...)
Help me propose!
Q. I am about to propose to my Girlfriend and i am scared to death, i have no clue how to ask her? Any ideas? i want it to be romantic....
A. 6 April 2009:
Don't take the advice of sliding the ring onto her finger by a piece of cotton! If your girlfriend has saw stepmom then she will kill you for copying! ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to tell her that I'm sexually frustrated?
Q. Hey guys, I want to ask one question; Is it disrespectfull to tell your girlfriend that you are sexually frustrated? Well I am 17 years old, and my girlfriend is 16. We are dating for like 10 months now. I haven't ever foreced her to have ...
A. 3 April 2009: if you were my boyfriend i'd tell you to satisfy yourself! its cheeky to tell her this, noiw she will feel under pressure!... (read in full...)
He says he was on the sex register for verbal abuse to a teenager..do I still see him?
Q. iv met someone he told me he was on sex register for verbaly abuse to teenager it ends in may but i dont know weather to trust him ,my family would not aprove if they find out im so worried...
A. 2 April 2009: That's great news, half the people on here come with a problem and then don't change anything! Good on you! X
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I promised my husband I'd quit smoking, but I started again and he caught me
Q. I recently got married in Sept. When my husband and I met I smoked. When we moved in with each other I had to quit because we live with his grandfather who hates smokers along with my husband didn't like it either.My husband actually gave me an ...
A. 2 April 2009: I find that keeping busy is the best way to stop, start going to the gym or jogging with a friend! X... (read in full...)
Help!!!! Stuck in a love triangle!
Q. I'm stuck in a sort of love triangle I suppose. I'm sorta with this guy Mark but a while back I went out with his best mate Josh, who I still love soo effing much but like I'm happy with Mark cos he makes everything amazing and I do love him... but ...
A. 2 April 2009: if josh doesnt want you then stay with mark but personally i think you should leave them both alone and get out of this love triangle! x... (read in full...)
Help! I can't seem to trust my boyfriend!
Q. I've been with this guy this for a week and 3 days. I cared about him and have known him for a year now but I really can't trust him even although I should. I mean the only reason why I can't trust him is because I got played in the past and I ...
A. 2 April 2009: dont trust him, you dont need to trust anyone!x... (read in full...)
Is dating your ex's sister a total "NO"?
Q. My partner left me about 18 months ago now for another guy and at the time her sister spent a lot of time at my place, helping me with childcare. I fell for her and a while after I'd split up with her sister, we started dating. We dated for about 6 ...
A. 2 April 2009: yes you should have been off limits to her, she wa just too stupid to see this at the time, forget her, move on!... (read in full...)
I promised my husband I'd quit smoking, but I started again and he caught me
Q. I recently got married in Sept. When my husband and I met I smoked. When we moved in with each other I had to quit because we live with his grandfather who hates smokers along with my husband didn't like it either.My husband actually gave me an ...
A. 2 April 2009: get help so tht you can quit smoking. its true that if its something you enjoy you shouldnt have to quit however what do you love more? your husband or smoking! what would you do if you got pregnant with his child? you couldnt smoke then, quit now!x... (read in full...)
My man is competing with me in the "girly" world!
Q. hello. i was just wondering if it is normal for an independent woman to want a man to look after her and make her feel safe because this is what im after. i do everything myself and dont NEED a man. What im saying is it possible now society has ...
A. 2 April 2009: this is out of order, tasks should be shared! tell him what you need from him, explain that he needs to take on some of the chores and he needs to make you feel more like a girl. x... (read in full...)
Gangbang..who is the daddy?
Q. I am 24 and married fo 2 years. Recently (the last 8 months or so)my gusband and I started swinging with his step bother and wife.We have also has a group ogy involving 5 other men (all unprotected). I just found out Im pregnant and I hvae no idea ...
A. 2 April 2009: youre stupid for doing it unprotected with five men ! its your own fault! ...and the way of finding out is to do a paternity test when the baby is born!... (read in full...)
I've become a social outcast overnight and I don't know what to do about it!
Q. Hi please bear with me for a few mins and take the time to read this. The story so far....I was BEST friends with a girl for a couple of years until 5 months ago when I accidentally backed my car into her mail box at her rental property. I apol...
A. 2 April 2009: dont leave uni! get through the 6months. just ignore her and only speak to people when they speak to you. get a new group of friends! join a new club or go to a new place to hang out. x... (read in full...)
I don't want to see her happy... what's wrong with me?
Q. I think I have convinced myself that I like my best friend's boyfriend but in reality I genuinely like this other boy. I think it is more to do with that fact that I like attention and all I'm doing is messing with people's heads to get it... I ...
A. 1 April 2009: i'm sure most people feel like this at some stage, its great that you have a clear mind about whats going on though! you know there is a problem so simply put your friends boyfriend to the back of your mind and keep busy! maybe get a boyfriend ... (read in full...)
This texting lark is doing my head in. Should I dump her?
Q. need advice girlfriend is texting 3 married men and its driving me mad sometimes its just conversation other times it has sexual references we have been going out over a year and are just about to build a house thing is she goes mad if other i even ...
A. 1 April 2009: dump her you can do better....if my boyfriend did this i would go mad.xx... (read in full...)
At 27, I like girls but I'm also scared of them
Q. i am 27 and i am a virgin, this is not a religon thing its a scared thing, in fact i have never even kissed a girl. i dont know why i like girls alot but im afraid of the reaction im gonna get. i have good looks and a great job and have probably ...
A. 1 April 2009: well get into a relationship first, start by being friends and ask her out on a date. dont be scared of rejection, its a natural thing and everyone goes through it. when you have been dating a while and its time to seal the deal then just remain ... (read in full...)
I really don't want the doctor to see my private spots, what can I do to calm down?
Q. hey, well my problem is that i have unusually heavy periods and a lot of times i get it twice a month and so my mom decided to make me a doctor's appointment. Cuz she's tired of me complaining about them. My only fear though is that they're going to ...
A. 31 March 2009: i dont think that he will have to examine you for this!! so just calm down and take deep breaths. put this to the back of your mind as its very unlikely!! if he does have to examine you then just keep your breathing deep and slow! it will really ... (read in full...)
He says he was on the sex register for verbal abuse to a teenager..do I still see him?
Q. iv met someone he told me he was on sex register for verbaly abuse to teenager it ends in may but i dont know weather to trust him ,my family would not aprove if they find out im so worried...
A. 30 March 2009: Don't bother with him! Verbal abuse and he's on the register is a lie! It has to be something more serious to be put on the register! Don't go near him with a barge pole!!! He is no good, you can find someone better!x
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