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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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I rushed into marriage and now have serious regrets
Q. I met a man 6 weeks ago, and fell head over heels, but I need to mention I just came from a divorce at the end of january. I agreed in a week to marry him, I was stupid. I realize now I made a mistake, this man is very insecure, accusing me ...
A. 8 May 2009: Leave him, he's not stable enough to deal with a marriage! X... (read in full...)
Issues in the bedroom with my husband of 15 years
Q. My husband and i have been married 15yrs but up to a few years ago things were mostly good. But the last few years hes changed! He has developed walking around wanting to be naked. Sitting downstairs watch tv no clothes on. Even if we have our ...
A. 8 May 2009: He sounds like a dirty old man! I would be ashamed of him, talk to him and tell him to stop being a sleaze! He needs help! X... (read in full...)
Issues in the bedroom with my husband of 15 years
Q. My husband and i have been married 15yrs but up to a few years ago things were mostly good. But the last few years hes changed! He has developed walking around wanting to be naked. Sitting downstairs watch tv no clothes on. Even if we have our ...
A. 8 May 2009: He sounds like a dirty old man! I would be ashamed of him, talk to him and tell him to stop being a sleaze! He needs help! X... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer city girls or country girls?
Q. I live in the country/farm. I am good house keeper and I can cook,clean and I like doing DIY using hammers and plyers. Would a guy like me or would he like city girl with high heels and painted nails and short skirts who works in office compared to ...
A. 8 May 2009: Everyone likes different types of girls so its impossible to say. Probably 50% of guys would like country and the other half would like city!
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My son's girlfriend died in a car accident, and he has not been able to move on, can you provide any advice so I can help him?
Q. My 22 yr old son was in a car accident a year ago and his 19 yr old girlfriend died. I understand that it was hard for him but I am really wooried about him. He hasnt moved on at all. In one full year he has not lef tthe house unless he was forced. ...
A. 8 May 2009: Keep an eye on him but don't push him to do anything. If my boyfriend died then I would be in the same state and I wouldjust want time to heal. Don't be so harsh trying to help him, he doesn't need your help! ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with this woman? I think she has a personality disorder!
Q. I just received this email from my gf. We just recently got back together after a week apart. We were texting back and forth on Saturday and she ended up calling at 4am after knocking on my apartment door at 3am. Sunday and Monday night she made ...
A. 8 May 2009:
Shame on her if she fools you once but shame on you if she fools you twice. You have said she has done it before so its your own fault! Learn your lesson! X... (read in full...)
Worried my girlfriend might be in love with an ex-student of her's!
Q. I've been dating a woman for one year. We've been very romantic together, the lovemaking was always good, we communicate well, everything seems or seemed wonderful. Recently, however, she mentioned how she is being contacted from an ex-student of ...
A. 8 May 2009: Its normal to suspect things if something like this has happened before. But she has been with you for a year, she wouldn't stay with you if she didn't love you! And so what if she has a little crush? Its you that she comes home to and wants to be ... (read in full...)
Seriously guilty over having cheated
Q. I love my fiancée very much. Last month I went out with some buddies and cheated on my girlfriend with not 1 but 2 girls I met at the bar. I was really drunk and started flirting with a girl thinking it would never amount to anything, next thing I ...
A. 7 May 2009: You should feel guilty! ... (read in full...)
The teasing is really getting to me -- any lines I can use back?
Q. I get on the school bus everyday and I usually have a high ponytail. The boys on the bus have started to call me Jet Li, and make weird martial arts noises whenever I walk on and off the bus. They are very popular and I myself am just an average ...
A. 7 May 2009: The best thing is to ignore them, if you start shouting back they will make what they say worse. Why don't you try a make over, I know you said you don't wear you hair like that anymore but try putting on makeup if you don't already or acessorising. ... (read in full...)
Friend is dating an old ex of mine...why cant I accept them?
Q. Why cant i accept them? A few months ago i found out my best mate is going out with an old ex of mine, i felt hurt coz she never came to me 1st asked if i be ok about it. I tried to be ok about it all, but every time i think bout them together i ...
A. 7 May 2009: You have nothing to logically be angry about, he is your ex!! He is your ex for a reason! You broke up, therefore he is allowed to go out with whoever he wants to! You have a daughter and your own life so get on with it and stop dwelling on him! ... (read in full...)
Living apart even though we have a baby and are working things out
Q. my ex boyfriend and I are trying to get work things out but some of his actions confuse me. we have a 10 month old baby together and he moved out into a house by himself. i have been left to take care of the baby and my other two children.. he ...
A. 7 May 2009: Tell him that there needs to be changes because you can't be expected to put up with this any longer. Write down exactly what you want to change! Then when having a conversation with him tell him what you have noticed him doing, how it makes you ... (read in full...)
Attracted to my on again, off again fiancee's brother, what do I do?
Q. Ok, i have been with this guy for tens years off and on. We met in high school and are now engaged our relationship is rocky at times but i still love him. well i had a crush on his brother first, but at that time he never gave me the time of day. ...
A. 7 May 2009: You have a fiance, do you think telling his brother that you like him is a good idea? Have some repesct and get over his brother quickly!!! X... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my depressed boyfriend, without becoming depressed myself?
Q. My boyfriend is extremely depressed at the moment. He has a history of depression, and has gone through phases like this before in our relationship, but it's getting much harder lately. I've taken psychology courses, and there is a history of ...
A. 7 May 2009: Is he taking anti depressants? He needs to get professional help! He either needs to go to the doctors and get prescribed anti depressants or if he is already on them then he needs a higher dose. It may also be good for him to see a counsellor, they ... (read in full...)
If he were to try to get back to me should I say no?
Q. My problem is my own fault really. I was in a relationship with someone for nearly 3 years. But i broke up with him for a few reasons. This was over 5 years ago. I have since had a child. He is 3. It never worked out between me and his dad. Ive now ...
A. 7 May 2009: He has got a child on the way so you need to be respectful of that! Just because he seems interested in you now, doesn't mean that he will feel the same when his baby arrives! Use some common sense here, he doesn't need the added stress of you ... (read in full...)
I was so sure he liked me then he met someone else on holiday!
Q. Dear All, Having been in a stormy on and off relationship for two and a half years I finally cracked and joined a dating agency. I waited some months before going on a first date. The guy was stunning, however I kept my wits about me and played it...
A. 7 May 2009: A lot of people in an un secured relationship tend to go distant towards a holiday, this is because there could be a better oppotunity abroad. Obviously for your partner there was another person who caught his eye, the best thing you could do is to ... (read in full...)
I feel sick around guys I like....please help?
Q. Hey um... hoping someone out there can help me with this... this has happened 3 times already and I'm starting to wonder if it's going to be like this for 'ever'... here's an example scenario: i like this guy, or at least believe i do; i like the ...
A. 7 May 2009: I had a friend who was like this. We decided that she was just too picky about guys and she needed to chill out. When you begin to notice flaws ignore them, everyone has flaws, everyone is different and we just have to accept them as they are! ... (read in full...)
I feel sick around guys I like....please help?
Q. Hey um... hoping someone out there can help me with this... this has happened 3 times already and I'm starting to wonder if it's going to be like this for 'ever'... here's an example scenario: i like this guy, or at least believe i do; i like the ...
A. 7 May 2009: I had a friend who was like this. We decided that she was just too picky about guys and she needed to chill out. When you begin to notice flaws ignore them, everyone has flaws, everyone is different and we just have to accept them as they are! ... (read in full...)
My friend is in my dreams...is this a sign of reconcilliation?
Q. Hey! me and my friend fell out 10 days into this year and we havnt spoke since, well nice words anyways. But i keep dreaming of her. its kinda weird. but im leaving school on the 15th of may and ive built a few bridge's with people and because ...
A. 7 May 2009: A dream is just a way of sorting out every day thoughts and feelings, and then there are abstract things. You keep dreaming of your friend because she has been in your life for so long, she has made an impact into your subconsious. It doesn't mean ... (read in full...)
Can someone text too much?
Q. I've recently started dating a girl. We've been on 3 dates in two weeks. Currently in the 4th week. Shes been busy this week. (Thats not a fob of story). In the first two weeks we would text a few times aday, a few days a week. Since we've ...
A. 7 May 2009: I'd love it if my boyfriend texted as much as you! I'm like you, I'll just text whenever and hardly ever get replies. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, it shows you are interested. Why don't you give her a text in the morning and then ... (read in full...)
Serious stomach cramps!
Q. Hey I had a major problem yesterday and was wondering if anyone knew what it could be. Yesterday was the first day of my period for this month, and i got some pretty bad stomach cramps it started in the morning and i was thinking that's normal......
A. 7 May 2009: It could be normal, if it happens next month then you may want to see a doctor. Are you taking painkillers? There are do good ones out there so make use of them! Xx
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Oral sex? So embarassing!
Q. please help.. this is soooo embarrassing!! ok so ive been in a few relationships the longest being 4 years and im quite adventurous in bed but the problem is when it comes down to oral sex i get so embarrassed! i dont have a problem recievin...
A. 7 May 2009:
Just put your whole mouth around it and lick in long strokes, or kiss it. Just make sure your teeth don't touch it. You can vary your technique, you could kiss it very lightly to start off with then lick it, then cover the whole thing, try rubb... (read in full...)
Seeing each other for 6 months but only got to second base?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been official for 4 months now and seeing eachother for about 6 and we're only on second base. The only first move other than kissing he's ever made was to feel me up the first time; since then, I've been the one having to ...
A. 7 May 2009: I had a boyfriend and we never did anything for 6months either. Just let him take his time, he may not have a high libido. Talk to him and see what the problem is.x ... (read in full...)
How can I get hard erections back again?
Q. I am a 16 years old healthy guy, never had any health problems but like 6 months ago i've became sexually active. I had sex with a bigger woman (1 night stand) we were drunk and on the beach.. it was winter so it was cold. When i penetrated here i ...
A. 6 May 2009: I'm sure you'll be fine when you have sex with your girlfriend, maybe stop mastirbating until you have sex with her! X... (read in full...)
Were we being stalked?????
Q. Last year we had a field trip to Canada. There was a guy there he had on all black and black sunglasses like he was trying not to be seen or trying to steel something. Well anyway after we left the theme park me and my bff relized we had seen him ...
A. 6 May 2009: He may have been a peadophile. You're never going to see him again so don't dwell on it! ... (read in full...)
What does a climax feel like?
Q. Can someone explain to me what climaxing and orgasming feels like so i know if it has happened to me...
A. 6 May 2009: I agree with satin desire, you would know if you have had one! Its unlike anything, and it feels great. X... (read in full...)
School project - ideas for a business please!
Q. I'm doing this project at school in which i have to create my own business and the starting money you get is £10 but i can't think of anything that will sell good in school, or any ideas. Please i need a wide variety of answers as i have 3 months ...
A. 6 May 2009: This site is for relationship issues. Find somewhere else
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Women all around him but he says he's just being friendly
Q. My boyfriend is says he quite honest and this is making me insecure. Weve spilt up a few times and things have happened where he done stuff. And even though were trying again i dont think i trust him. Here is what i mean. Everytime he goes somewhere ...
A. 6 May 2009: Dump him, he sounds like an idiot and you sound like you deserve a lot better! If my boyfriend acted like this I would be as far away from him as possible! X... (read in full...)
Would this be a good idea?
Q. this probably sounds like a really stupid idea i was just curious really. i get really painful heavy clotted periods which i hate! i was trying to find a natural remedy and it got me thinking... if i ate more anti-coagulatory (blood thining)foods or ...
A. 6 May 2009: You need to go to see a doctor an explain that the pain is really bad and the blood comes out in clots, he should be able to suggest things.x... (read in full...)
Should we continue using condoms after our little incident?
Q. We've been abstaining from sex since from the beginning of our relationship,thats 8 months ago.2 weeks we finaly did it and wow it was marveleous,not after all this waiting.We not regreting it and concluded to do it more often.Here's the ...
A. 6 May 2009: You need to use condoms! And even if you don't ejaculate in to her she can still get pregnant from pre-cum. She needs to do a pregnancy test and if any of you have had sex before you need to do std tests! If you want to stop using condoms you will ... (read in full...)
Gummy bare!
Q. hi there. i have a sort of problem. i am a member of several different dating sites. also bebo, facebook etc..... i have no foto on these sites. the reason is, about a year and half ago i was mugged. my front teeth, 7, were either knocked ou...
A. 6 May 2009: Well just explain this situation and tell them that it is being sorted out soon. Then send them a nice picture. I'm sure they'll be understanding. X... (read in full...)
Sex just doesn't interest me at all!
Q. Well ever since i lost my viginity at 16 nothing grand has ever happened to me! To get to the point i have never had an orgasm at least i dont think so! Sex makes me more depressed than anything:( My boyfriend is very supportive but sometimes i ...
A. 6 May 2009: Some people have a naturally low libido. I'm the same really. I don't see the fasination with sex. I still have sex and I appreciate that it brings me and my boyfriend closer, but I find it hard to get into the mood. To overcome this have sex often! ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend asked if she can "share" me with her step-mother!
Q. Ok, I know how this is going to sound but I swear that it's the 100% God's honest truth. My girlfriend, who is 23 years old, lives with her step mother who was widowed a few years ago. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about six months. I get on ...
A. 6 May 2009: Its a bit weird but as long as you all discuss ground rules and a schedule then I don't see a problem. (As long as your not doing them both at the same time) use protection at all times and make sure they are on the pill too! X... (read in full...)
Trying so hard to get my boyfriend in the mood for sex and nothing is working!
Q. Sometimes I try so hard to get my boyfriend in the mood for sex, and it never seems to work. Sometimes he'll tell me to wait till later or brush it off. We don't have sex often and when we do it seems I'm the one who is starting it up. Does anyone ...
A. 6 May 2009: Have you spoken to him about this? It is an issue which needs to be discussed. X... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting? He was texting his Ex while we were out for dinner!
Q. Someone please tell me I'm not crazy. I'm ruining my relationship with a man I'm truly in love with. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We live together and spend a lot of time together. For some reason lately I've been feeling ...
A. 6 May 2009: If this was my boyfriend I would have gone mad!! Its wrong! You're right to feel the way you do. Tell him what he has done and how it made you feel, then he's not likely to do it agai,bx... (read in full...)
What defines cheating?
Q. When is cheating actually considered to be cheating? Kissing? Masturbating someone? Oral sex? Or is it just a personal view?...
A. 6 May 2009: Everyone has different opinions. I consider anything from thinking about another girl, to meeting up with another girl to sexual acts. There is emotional cheating and physical cheating and people have views on which is worse.x ... (read in full...)
Should I work things out with my "Old ex" or "New ex"?
Q. I am really confused. I am a single mom of 3 beautiful children, their father refuses to be in their lives, and I feel bad about dating because they do not need to see their mom go in and out of relationships. I dated a guy almost a year ago, we ...
A. 6 May 2009: Whatever you do, don't get back with your new ex! If you want a man who is into drugs in your life then you are stupid!!! The old ex sounds good, and so does a new start in germany. Contact him and tell him that you love him, get back with him but ... (read in full...)
How to deal with his ex?
Q. I have been talking to a guy since the past five months. He's a wonderful person and extremely decent. We both met through common friends and my friend gave my number to him since I am single and he’s also single so we both exchanged numbers. ...
A. 6 May 2009: You should talk to him using a conversation structure. Tell him what you have noticed, how it makes you feel and what the two of you can do to stop it happening. The conversation should go like this... I've noticed you talk about your ex very often ... (read in full...)
He's talking about marriage to me but he's checking out guys!
Q. i think my fella is bi,,he has never been in a poper relationship with a girl before me and he is in his thirtys,but he has had many one night stands with females, when on a night out i see him checking guys out all the time,,he always coments on ...
A. 6 May 2009: I would be worried if I was you! It sounds as though he isn't telling you the truth, ask him to tell you the truth and if he doesn't then leave him. Tell him all of the things you have noticed too, then you have evidence against him! X... (read in full...)
I'm a bit jealous that my girlfriend hangs out with guy friends too.
Q. Hi guys, I am together with my girlfriend for 10 months now, but today she told me she hangs out with guy-friends too. Like one on one, I never knew this before so it came as a surprise. I don't know, I am kind of jealous, she did cheat on me ...
A. 6 May 2009: Ask if you can go along. I don't blame you for being jealous, I wish my boyfriend was jealous sometimes because I'm tired of being the jealous one. If she has cheated on you then its understandable to not trust her 100% so I would just ask if you ... (read in full...)
His story doesn't add up... is he lying to me?
Q. I have been married for close to 30 years and after a strange happening my husband told me he needs space and doesn't love me any more. Last week he told me he was going to a men's bible study group then came home and said he saw a stabbing and put ...
A. 6 May 2009: Don't believ him at all, he has obviously got another woman! Leave him and end things to maintain your dignity, because soon he will end it! X... (read in full...)
One night stand can turn into a boyfriend?
Q. a few months ago i had this really hot one night stand with this guy he called me 6 times over the next week. i blew him off made up stupid excuses and stuff like that. so lastnight my recently dumped friend made me go out. this one of my exs was ...
A. 6 May 2009: There's nothing wrong with just enjoying each others company. You need to get over your ex, get rid of the pictures and things like that!!!! Stop dwelling, life is too short! X... (read in full...)
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