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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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I've asked him to stop but he won't - what can I do?
Q. My husband is flirting over the internet. He goes into instant messenger and flirts with women all over the world. When I confront him, he says its just a joke, nothing serious, it just a hobby. One of these ladies told him she would be visiting ...
A. 24 June 2009: Threaten him with divorce! He sounds like a total idiot! Or you could guess his password and disable his account, if you do guess his password then you have to change his security question too so that he won't be able to get on his account again! ... (read in full...)
Is this a sign she wants to break up?
Q. I have been dating this girl for a littke over a month. At first we would spend hours on the phone at a time. Now it is more like 30 minutes at a time and once a day. We also use to text a lot now she dosn't always reply. It has been a while since I ...
A. 24 June 2009: With time, every relationships lust fades. Lust shouldn't fade this soon though, its still the start of a relationship. Check with her and see if she's ok, see if she has any problems or any stress outside of your relationship. You may find some ... (read in full...)
I have an abnormal penis with a lump on it. What is it?
Q. So need calming down!!! For the past month I have had a whitish lump almost on the base of the head of my penis (I am uncircumcised and it is on the head itself). I have been to the doctor and looked online and it seems it is very probably a swoll...
A. 24 June 2009: Just relax, abnormal could mean anything so there's not much you can do about it until you see the doctor. Chill out and try not to think about it! Xx... (read in full...)
Love hurts , .I can't get over him
Q. i am 15 years old and i had a boyfriend of 9 months its not alot but he was my life we did eerything together we even had sex both our first times. it but i guess the love we had in the beging was just fadding away and he ended it he said it was...
A. 24 June 2009: I was in a similar situation at your age, I have some valuable advice having been there before. 1) this is not the end of the world 2) time heals, just give it time and you'll feel better and find someone else 3) you probably weren't in love, you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend slept with friend before she was "my girlfriend"
Q. I have been seeing this girl for about 4 months, and the relationship has been mostly great. She is athletic, caring, friendly, very attractive and has a great personality. I have a high level of trust in her and I know she thinks I am attractive, ...
A. 24 June 2009: You can't change the past and you can't live in the past. Just accept the fact that everyone does something like this at some point in their lives. It was before you were official so it wasn't cheating and your friend is more to blame that the girl. ... (read in full...)
My life is filled with drama!
Q. please help me i'm confused. when i was 15 i went to a party did things i'm not proud of i got drunk and made out wit a guy i barely met.i honestly remember the whole thing but the next day i lied and said i dont remember anything but i did.he d...
A. 24 June 2009: You're young, at your age life does seem as though it is full of drama however, when you gain experiences and age you will realise that your life wasn't full of drama, just a lot of immature people, mistakes and minor problems which seem like the ... (read in full...)
My Land Lady is Flirting with me!
Q. hi aunty, Well last few days have been a roller coaster for me.I am a mid 20's guy staying by my self in a small apartment. As per the rules and regulations of the apartments contract,alcohol is not allowed.. But I still do bring beer from...
A. 24 June 2009: She's out of order doing a spot check on your room, its an invasion of privacy. Do you like her? It could be an oppotunity to have sex, however she does own your apartment so things could get complicated, not to mention the fact that she has a ... (read in full...)
I really need your advice... could I be pregnant?
Q. well. im another stupid teenager and i am very young. and have a few questions. i might be pregnant. The last time i had sex was at the begining of this month. it was after i had already started my period. Today, i think i discovered a hym...
A. 23 June 2009: The only way to tell if you are pregnant is to take a test! ... (read in full...)
How long was your first kiss with a new person?
Q. This is just a general question. But when you had your first kiss ever, or even a first kiss with a new person, how long did it last? Because I had my first kiss ever a few weeks ago and it lasted for over an hour. We obviously broke apart t...
A. 23 June 2009: Awww, this is sooo cute! I remember when me and my boyfriend used to be like this. Yes its normal, there's a lot of lust which builds up and kissing is a release for it. X
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I have no serious illness, so why is my hair falling out?
Q. This is kind of a health question. I recently cut my hair, because I had some of it falling out. I contemplated cutting my hair for some weeks. I know that it will grow back, but my question is this, is there any particular reason why my hair would ...
A. 23 June 2009: If its coming out in clumps then it could be alopecia, if its coming out in strands then it could be hormonal. Go to see a doctor, there are products such as 'regain' which may be able to help. X
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I embarassed my gf and now she wont talk to me!
Q. Me and my girlfriend of 3 years went to a party together. She usually doesn't wear stuff that shows off her body cause she thinks its slutty (she only wears clothes that sre 3 sizes too big or borrows my clothes). Anyway I somehow get her to a tube ...
A. 23 June 2009: I would leave you, you sound like a total prick and your friends are idiots! I would want nothing more to do with you!
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I want him to go down on my more often!
Q. Ok ... here's my deal. I LOVE when my boyfriend goes down on me. I crave it and even daydream about it! The problem is he hardly ever does. He will occasionally but only when he "feels like it" even when I give him oral he hardly ever returns the ...
A. 23 June 2009: If I was you I would stop giving him oral and then he may get the hint! Or just whisper in his ear when you are doing foreplay how much you like it when he goes down on you. Or you could just ask him why he never does it. X
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Problems with my foreskin...
Q. Hi I'm 14 and my foreskin only retracts very slightly, you can't even really see the head of the penis. I've read about all of the techniques of fixing this, but I'm worried about doing them because I think I can see a vein or something stuck inside ...
A. 22 June 2009: If there is something which doesn't seem right then you need to visit the doctors, you can phone up and book an appointment and its confidential. You can phone 118 for the number of your surgery of you can look in the phone book. X... (read in full...)
Seems like she wants me around when she wants some!
Q. Hi im currently at uni and in a long term ish relationship, i have my holidays at the moment and have been spending alot more time with my girlfriend. i see her at least 3 times a week as oppose to every oher weekend when im studying. T...
A. 22 June 2009: Tell her how you feel, you need communication in your relationship! If you aren't happy with the outcome then leave! X... (read in full...)
His family keep inviting his ex-wife to family gatherings, what can I do?
Q. I am in a tough situation. My boyfriend is divorced but his family keeps inviting his ex wife to family functions even though he has asked them not to. She also invites them to her family functions and they accept. Last December his parents ...
A. 22 June 2009: His family clearly have a bond with his ex and you can't just expect them to break it. The best thing that you can do is to be the bigger person and attend gathering when she does, even try to engage in conversation. This will throw his family off, ... (read in full...)
I kissed him while I was drunk...
Q. Okay, I feel really stupipd for even having to ask this, but I guess I just need the reassurance. I came out as gay about 18 months ago, and have truly never looked back, I'd never had feelings for a guy and was just overly relieved about being able ...
A. 22 June 2009: You were drunk so just forget about it. And even if you feel attracted to guys, who says that we must define out sexuality. Be free and experiment with people, you may feel differently towards different people!
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How do I accept that my girlfriend had a child with a man twice her age
Q. How do I accept that my girlfriend had a child with a man twice her age, a senior citizen and now the judge has given a very equal custody - entailing weekly visitation and weekend rights, severly disrupting our ability to have continuity in our ...
A. 22 June 2009: People deal with this everyday, step up and accept that she has responsibilty to her child! The child has a different father, so do a lot of children in the world! And her job was around before you! If you can't accept that she has other ... (read in full...)
Sister was incredibly cruel to me but has good life! Where's the justic?
Q. Hello, The issue which I am going to write at times discourages me a lot. I have a big sister with whom I was never in good terms. Now she is married and I share no relationship with her at all, I did not even attend her marriage. Since I...
A. 22 June 2009: Well you can't decide what happens, and just because she wished bad things on you does not mean she was actually responsible. You need to get over this, if you can't do it alone then speak to a counsellor. Just forget about her, pretend she doesn't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are fighting a lot because of my guy friend.
Q. Hey people, my problem is that me and my boyfriend have been fighting a whole lot lately with my guy friend because he's always hitting on me and trying to grab me trying to make my boyfriend jealous, sometimes trying to kiss me. Yesterday morning ...
A. 21 June 2009: Your guy friend doesn't seem to be such a good friend if he is doing this to you, stop being around him and treating him as a friend! A nice friend doesn't act this way! X... (read in full...)
Who comes first in a marriage, the spouse or the adult children?
Q. Who comes first in a marriage, the spouse or the adult children? I've heard this debated so many times and no one seems to have a clear answer. Being a Christian, I believe the marriage comes first. My husband thinks the children do. I am my h...
A. 21 June 2009: Kids come first, as soon as a child is born its parents must do anything humanly possible to protect and provide for it, x... (read in full...)
How can I get over my insecurities about the way I look?
Q. Ok, I am an ugly 20 year old (don't tell me I'm beautiful, you haven't even seen me, and I've been told many times by many different people that I am ugly). Men never check me out, etc. It's not lack of confidence because I know beautiful ...
A. 21 June 2009: Focus on your good points and say something positive in the mirror everyday to yourself. It takes a while to change someones mindet, it takes even longer to do it alone. You may want to see a counsellor? X... (read in full...)
My grandpa molested me when I was 13!
Q. My grandpa molested me when I was 13. I stayed over at his house all summer because my parents were finishing building a house and moving into it. The abuse started by him tickling me one time after I was tickling my cousins. A minute or so later ...
A. 21 June 2009: Who were you going to tell? Is your grandpa still alive! If he is a risk to other people then you should tell the police, if he's dead and you're over it then keep it to yourself. If he is alive and you don't want him to go to jail then speak to a ... (read in full...)
Sexual Frustration!
Q. I am having problems with my bf sexually and its really getting us down. At the beginning of our relationship he managed to make me cum on a couple of occasions which was really good and he seemed really proud of himself. Then had exams and stuf...
A. 21 June 2009: Just fake it until he has confidence again and then focus on comming, eventually it will straighten itslef out. X... (read in full...)
Is it possible that I have a disease from anal?
Q. Hi, my ex had anal sex with me and he didn't tell me that it has risks of diseases and i didn't have a clue about it i have done it for him to please him cause i'm a virgin. my current boyfriend knows about it and became angry cause that happe...
A. 20 June 2009: Any sexual contact has risks to it. So you should go to see a doctor and get tests done. Use a condom! X... (read in full...)
Shave my pubes for him?
Q. Hiaa im 13 and im unsure if i should shave my pubes for my boy or not. Please give me a answer!!...
A. 20 June 2009: At 13 you shouldn't even be doing sexual things!!! If you do, then shave them, it looks tidy! X... (read in full...)
She thinks I'm a sex maniac for just 2 times a week!
Q. I am a 49 year old male married 8 years with one son 6 years old my wife is 36 years old my problem is before we got married we were having sex 4 and 5 time a week after our son was born the sex drop to 2 and 3 time a week, for the past 2 years it's ...
A. 20 June 2009: As a woman gets older and has children her sex drive can decrease so be a man and deal with it! Try masturbating if it bothers you that much! Don't be so selfish as to hassle your wife into having sex! X... (read in full...)
Why do men complain about us gainging weight?
Q. Dear cupid y is it that after a couple of yearz of bieng together,m0st men start c0mplaining about us gaining weight? what is the pr0blem?...
A. 20 June 2009: Because you're not the person they fell is love with, they fell in love with someone who they deemed to be attractive and when that fades they consider it as 'letting yourself go' its disrespectful and you don't care about your appearance and take ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a boner constantly?
Q. I'm a 16 year old male. I'm wondering if it's normal to have a boner constantly. miao...
A. 20 June 2009: Its just down to all of the hormones in your body, as a result of puberty. Don't worry about it, if it bothers you very much then you should go to see a doctor. X... (read in full...)
We have alot of arguments and fights! Why bother?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 9months and weve had a lot of arguements and fights. he says im a bad gf but all ive been doin is trying to make our relationship work. everytime we have a disagreement he never lets me say how i feel. he told ...
A. 20 June 2009: I'm going through something similar at the minute. In a relationship both people have to work at things, even if the problem seems to lie with just one person the relationship dynamics need to change, attitudes need to be adjusted so I would have a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cannot go to sleep with me at night!
Q. My boyfriend cannot go to sleep with me at night. We went through a phase where we finally managed to get it right then I came back late one night and through out the pattern. Now he is back in the spare room listening to boring fm all night. I...
A. 18 June 2009: Why is this so important? I don't really get it, so what if you sleep in different rooms? X... (read in full...)
Is there a product like lady secret serum to make me tighter?
Q. i am 30 years unmarried female, i have never been into any relationship before, but i am doing masturbation from last 6 years With a wooden tool due to which i think my vagina is loose, now i am getting married soon will my husband notice it, what ...
A. 17 June 2009: Haven't you already posted this before??? Don't be worried, he needs to get with the times. People have sex and masturbate before marriage all of the time! Chill out! X... (read in full...)
I cancelled the wedding due to serious doubts, but he is crying and begging..please help!
Q. Ok, so I have been with my fiance for 3 years now and everything has been wonderful. Just this past weekend I have cancelled our wedding which was to happen in 3months from now. He is 7 years older then I am and lately I have been feeling distant ...
A. 16 June 2009: You should lay down the law to him! Explain that you will continue with the wedding (because he makes you happy) if he starts controlling his jealousy. And he needs to respect you more and just explain that you need to have experiences and you won't ... (read in full...)
I've realised I married my best friend, not someone I'm attracted to
Q. I'm 26 and just had my one year anniversary. My husband and I have been together for seven years. I've realized I married my bestfriend and not someone I'm attracted to. We have never had a great sex life and now I feel like I'm really losing out on ...
A. 16 June 2009: You're lucky to have married your bestfriend, you can't have everything in life! X... (read in full...)
I'm 14, What sex positions can I try out?
Q. what other sex positions can i try out any suggestions???...
A. 15 June 2009: You shouldn't be having sex at your age! How stupid are you?!?!? You need to have a mature attitude, and stop having sex! X
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He keeps speaking to his ex. It really hurts
Q. i love my boyfriend but i found out he keeps talking to his old girlfriend even after he promised not to. i dont want to break up with him hes my life but it hurts when hear the stuff he says to her. what should i do?...
A. 15 June 2009: So hpw did you find out that he has been talking to his ex? And what has he said to her? And how often? X... (read in full...)
How can I make our sexlife even better?
Q. Me and my girlfriend love sex we do it all the time...but I want to try anal we tried a few times but didn't work....how can I make it better? And another thing is I want to make her squirt all over me. I'm very kinky and I wanna have a 3sum she's ...
A. 15 June 2009: Talk to her, communication is the key to a good sex life. Its no good asking us, you need to speak with your girlfriend! X
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He keeps speaking to his ex. It really hurts
Q. i love my boyfriend but i found out he keeps talking to his old girlfriend even after he promised not to. i dont want to break up with him hes my life but it hurts when hear the stuff he says to her. what should i do?...
A. 15 June 2009: How long have you been with your boyfriend? If this was my boyfriend I couldn't cope with it! What has he been saying? Are they just good friends? X... (read in full...)
I'm too paranoid to finish in the condom
Q. Hi ever since I started having sex with girls, always pull out even I always wear a condom. I don't like finishing inside the condom, since it might break. My GF wants me to do it inside but I never do. I'm too paranoid. is this normal? my cousin ...
A. 15 June 2009: Condoms are effective over 99% of the time! Why don't you ask your girlfriend to go on a form of female birth control so that you are not as paranoid? Then you are double protected. If you put the condom on correctly then you should be fine! X... (read in full...)
Depressed from the bombshell my wife dropped. She wasn't a virgin.
Q. I recently got married and on our wedding night my wife dropped a bombshell by saying shez not a vrigin. she said she had sex while she was 9 years old and the guy was 20 years old. She didn't have any boyfriend or any sort of relationship since ...
A. 15 June 2009: Get over it!!!! It doesn't mean anything, it was a while ago, you need to move on! X... (read in full...)
What does a leather bracelet/fabric bracelet mean these days anyways.... anything?
Q. so, im gonna see this chick, and noticed she is wearing a leather ''friendship'' bracelet ... i am a bit older than she is, (its a surfer style thing, and im a surfer, but just not for years and years) -- so the only place i can ask this, without ...
A. 15 June 2009: She may just be wearing it as a fashion item, or just because she likes it. It doesn't have to mean anything! X... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's mother driving me insane!
Q. My boyfriends mum is driving me insane. I am pregnant and this is her first grandchild so I understand that she is super excited. But she's being so controlling, it's unreal. She treats my boyfriend like he is a child (he's 23), she speaks to...
A. 14 June 2009: Omg anon!!! Can't believe how old fashioned your response is!! People have babies before they are married all of the time for many reasons! Many people want to save the money they would spend on a ceremony and spend it on their child instead! ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's mother driving me insane!
Q. My boyfriends mum is driving me insane. I am pregnant and this is her first grandchild so I understand that she is super excited. But she's being so controlling, it's unreal. She treats my boyfriend like he is a child (he's 23), she speaks to...
A. 14 June 2009: Have you spoken to your boyfriend? You need to see how he feels about this. If you both feel the same then sit down with her and talk about what is acceptable and what is not. X... (read in full...)
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