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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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How can I hide birth control from my mom?
Q. MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post. Okay here's a classic: How can I hide birth control from my mom? I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide t...
A. 7 June 2009: You could just put one letter, or a scramble of letters because then it looks like you have just left your phone unlocked and have set a reminder by accident. Can you set it to vibrate too, then it won't be as obvious it could just look like you ... (read in full...)
How can I hide birth control from my mom?
Q. MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post. Okay here's a classic: How can I hide birth control from my mom? I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide t...
A. 6 June 2009: Have you got a calender on your phone? You could set a reminder on there for the same time evryday to take it. Or pick a show on tv which is on everyday and watch it then tale your pill after it. There's not really a way of remembering where the ... (read in full...)
Sex with my ex but he has a pregnant girlfriend, I feel I'm going mad!
Q. Help me please im really messed up i split with my guy last year but im still in love with him we where only together for 8 months, The thing is he now has a gf and sees pregnent and i wish it was me that was having this baby, and the other day i ac...
A. 5 June 2009: I agree totally with anonomous, he's a sleaze for doing that to the mother of his child! You should feel ashamed to! You should know better! X... (read in full...)
How can I hide birth control from my mom?
Q. MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post. Okay here's a classic: How can I hide birth control from my mom? I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide t...
A. 5 June 2009: The rug sounds good becasue then she won't stand on them, does she hoover your room though? And does she lift the rug? If she hoovers then offer to start doing chores and just say you'd like to take some of the load. That way she won't have to ... (read in full...)
How can I hide birth control from my mom?
Q. MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post. Okay here's a classic: How can I hide birth control from my mom? I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide t...
A. 5 June 2009: How often do you see your boyfriend? If you see him everyday you could ask him to keep hold of them? You could put each of the tablet packets under a rug if you have one (needs to be quite thick though) its just a matter of looking around your room ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me? I broke up with her but now I'm sad she's dating someone else!
Q. I'm 18 years old and I dated this girl for 2 months, it was my first real relationship and it was really exciting for a while but as time went on that excitment turned into anxiety and I couldn't figure out why. Its like just being in the ...
A. 5 June 2009: Could you have become anxious because you loved her that much that you didn't want anything to go wrong? (Just a suggestion) I think you aren't completely over her, and that's why you still feel emotion towards her. Just allow yourself a bit more ... (read in full...)
Haven't been taking the pill properly...am I pregnant?
Q. im 17 and on the bc pill but i tend to miss it, but this month i seemed to miss 5 tablets, first i missed the 6th or 7th non sugar tablet on the thursday or friday had sex on sunday night, i missed 1 tablet again the next day (monday) then missed it ...
A. 5 June 2009: Why don't you take a pregnancy test? We aren't psychic! Also, the birth control pill seems to be a bad choice for you if you forget to take it, try the implant or the injection or the coil!! Ask your doctor, then you will feel more secure as you ... (read in full...)
How can I hide birth control from my mom?
Q. MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post. Okay here's a classic: How can I hide birth control from my mom? I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide t...
A. 5 June 2009: Keep in in a handbag at all times, put it inside a sock in a drawer of socks, hide the pill packets inside a dvd case and put the dvd somewhere she won't think of going, put the pill packets inside a boot and put the boots at the bottom of a ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to stay in the girl after orgasm?
Q. Is it ok and safe to stay inside a girl for a bit after coming? We haven't been having sex very long but I always wear a condom.It says you should pull out staight after having the orgasm but I stay inside a bit longer because I want to pleasure...
A. 5 June 2009: Follow the instructions and pull out after coming, the instructions are there for a reason. You could always replace the condom and continue for a while, this is safer. X... (read in full...)
Husband wished happy birthday to his ex should I be bothered by it?
Q. I just found an email of my husband's ex thanking him for remembering her birthday and that he made her laugh. I've always felt that he stills has feelings for her and that he always remembers her for any insignificant reason. Am I crazy for ...
A. 5 June 2009: Ask him, don't be aggressive in your tone of voice, be sympathetic because he's more likely to give you an honest answer. X... (read in full...)
His wife is threatening me to abort our baby
Q. the father of my baby is a married man.At first he said he is going to support me all the way but his wife finds it and she is harassing and threatening me just to abort the baby.Now she spread the rumors in my workplace because her husband works ...
A. 5 June 2009: If you want to keep the baby then keep it! And he should support you, you can get help with making him pay money towards it. As for her, just ignore her rumors, if its really that bad then try to find a new job after you have had the baby. X... (read in full...)
Everything is really getting to me..I don't know whether to just pack my things and go away or what?
Q. Hi I basically just don't know what to do. I don't know whether to change my life completely. On New Years Eve I made an oath to myself that this year was going to be good. So far, its been awful. So here goes: 1. My nana died ea...
A. 5 June 2009: Well if you have the money to pack your things and go away then it would be good for you to clear your head. What was you thinking of doing? X
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Should he be a part time dad with the woman he loves? Or a full time dad with the woman he doesn't?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man off and on for 4 yrs. We recently made plans for me and my children to move in with him and start a family. Until we found out that he is going to be a father, with a woman he had a sexual relationship wit...
A. 5 June 2009: This is up to him to decide, its not really up to you so just give him space to make a decision.
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I think my sisters want to make my dad move house.
Q. My elderly father is now living alone in our family house and I know that he really likes being there, though of course he is lonely since my mother died. I can already feel the vibes of sisters who want to try to make him move or something just for...
A. 5 June 2009: What's wrong with moving you dad into another house? ... (read in full...)
I'm scared. Should I have sex with this boy who is asking me? Or is he trying to use me?
Q. i am 15 years old and i need help i really do. when i was 14 i was raped by my ex botfriend and since then i have not been able to be in a stable relationship. its messed up my whole life. theres this boy that i really really like and he keeps ...
A. 5 June 2009: Don't have sex with him!!!!!!!
If you haven't already had counselling then see a doctor and get some, it should be free!
And don't have sex until you are ready, and you don't sound ready at all.x
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I'm not sure about my equipment and feel they are too small and inadequate
Q. I know this must get asked a lot and considering i am mid twenties i should be over this sort of thing but i am and have always been concerned about my testicles. I read that each testicle should be about the size of a golf ball....! mine are that ...
A. 5 June 2009: If a doctor says you're normal then you're normal, you don't have to spend a lot of time looking at them! And your girlfriend needs to go, she's not doing anything for you, I'm sure you can find someone else! X
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Tiring and stressing job, wife is upset as I don't spend enough time with her!
Q. My wife is really pissed off at me because I haven't had sex with her in 3 weeks. I have been tired and stressed out lately with my job. She says I reject her to much and she's getting fed up with it. Her birthday was last week and I missed cause I ...
A. 5 June 2009: You need to start putting her before your job!!!! She is far more important than any job so you need to either quit or compromise with your boss and tell him/her that you can't go on as many trips or meetings, he/she will have to find someone to ... (read in full...)
How can I get to be something my parents can be proud of?
Q. I am 19 years old and really miserable. I have been fat most of my life, and I am just sick and tired of it. people tell me all the time that im stunning, but I dont buy it. I am so self conscious that Im terrified to leave the house because i ...
A. 5 June 2009: Have you been to a doctor? They can refer you to the hospital and they can set up a plan of what to eat! And do you have a gym membership? You need to put in lots of time at the gym, whenever you have a spare hour you should be there. There are ... (read in full...)
Would texting a woman be classified as cheating?
Q. My fiance has treated me like crap for 4 months RUDE!!! I caught him texting a girl from work now that he's caught, he's being really nice and things are back to normal, I don't know what to think. In my book Texting another female and hiding it is ...
A. 4 June 2009: He has emotionally cheated on you! Don't stand for it! Get rid of him!! X... (read in full...)
Should I confront her? She sent sexy pictures to some other guy as well as me!
Q. I just recently found out that my girlfriend lied to me about something. We met in Brazil in January, and unfortunately had to be apart for two months, as she had to go back to Scotland and I had to stay. During this time, we were a full-on ...
A. 4 June 2009: Don't confront her, it was before you met so its non of your buisness. I know she told you a lie by saying she'd took the pics especially for you but she probably just said that to get in your good books and to make you feel good. I'm sure she did ... (read in full...)
Am I being crazy unfair or just delusional?
Q. I am getting married shortly to a man with 3 children. The children do not live with him and all have different mothers but they visit all the time. I have one child who is at boarding school. I would like another child with my husband to be. I am ...
A. 4 June 2009: You are right in what you are saying! You shouldn't have to spend your money on a house for his kids if you aren't getting something in return! Buy a smaller house if he won't agree to your compromise. X... (read in full...)
Normal? Or not?
Q. hiya, can anyone tell me if this is normal or not? me and my boyfriend hadn't seen each other in over 3 weeks, so no sex, and then yesterday we didn't have sex but he fingered me and i started to bleed a little bit (i'm near my period time and ...
A. 4 June 2009: It probably is, but if you are unsure then you should go to see a doctor, we aren't g.p's. X... (read in full...)
Confused on what to do with my life!
Q. I'm just really confused right now...I just turned 18 and me and my bf broke up after a year. I just feel so dumb for giving him my virginity, i thought we were gonna get married so it didnt matter anyway. Now hes just being so mean to me. and i ...
A. 3 June 2009: Well its only you who can decide what to do with your life. For the minute focus on your wellbeing, if you feel depressed then see a doctor and they can help you and prescribe you anti depressants! You're only young so you have plenty of time to ... (read in full...)
Your hymen...
Q. Hi... I'm 13 years old, and I'm only here to ask this one question. I was told today that you can 'break your hymen' and i've been told too many things, and I'm not sure what is the truth.. Please, will someone explain to me... how do you brea...
A. 2 June 2009: You hymen is located inside the vagina. The hymen can be broken in many ways, sex, sports, excersize.... The pain will vary from person to person, m and my friends didn't feel anything and did not bleed after it, but I have heard of people who have ... (read in full...)
Does this mean my hymen isn't there?
Q. hey, im not exactly planning on rushing into sex just yet, im 17, and im proud to still be a virgin, ive been with my boyfriend now for almost 6 months, and im not stupid.. i know sex is going to happen soon, and ive heard most people bleed on their ...
A. 2 June 2009: Not everyone bleeds during sex, and if you do bleed its not going to be a lot. Don't worry about it,... (read in full...)
Ingrow hair is affecting my esteem and sex life
Q. i've had a problem with ingrown hairs down there ever since i became sexually active, and it's got to the stage now where it is actually affecting my sex life. how many ingrown hairs i have determines whether or not i can have sex. i've tried ...
A. 2 June 2009: You could shave and then roll deodorant over it, strippers do it! Or pluck the ingrown hairs out with tweezers.x ... (read in full...)
Is she pregnant? What is the Women's Health Card?
Q. Rumors are going around now that my girl friend is pregnant. She has been throwing up in the morning sometimes and has been telling her close friends that she is three months pregnant. So I know it is not mine, if she truely is pregnant. Her stomach ...
A. 1 June 2009: Just ask her what the card was, ask to see it. if she tells you she isn't pregnant then she isn't pregnant! You can't lie about that, believe her!
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Periods and swimming pools any advice?
Q. Okay well, I'm supposed to go to a waterpark with my boyfriend next Saturday(June 13th) for his birthday but, I can start my period anywhere between now and then. I'm on birth control so my periods don't last long and are light. What I need to ask ...
A. 1 June 2009: Just buy some tampons and practise using them when you have started you period, read the leaflet carefully. Don't worry about your mum telling you not to wear them, just flush the tampon in the toilet and hide the wrappers and box and dispose of ... (read in full...)
I'm keeping my boyfriend a secret from my parents
Q. my bf and i had been going out for about 6 months last year. i had told my parents, it being my first relationship and me being close with them. they were overbearing, very traditional and too controlling that there were lots of arguments and it ...
A. 1 June 2009: Discuss this with your boyfriend, tell him why you don't want to tell your parents. I would keep this to yourself, your parents don't need to know everything. X
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Goth or Diva?
Q. i need help.im going in to middle school and i wanna become a goth or a diva.my friend says if i become a snotty diva she won't be my friend no longer.but my dad says that if i should become a snotty diva to show dont mes with me who should i listen ...
A. 31 May 2009: Just be yourself! Don't be a goth (they are freaks) don't be a diva (they are bitches) I'm sure people will like you a lot better if you are just normal. X... (read in full...)
How can I fatten myself up?
Q. SOMEONE PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTION! im 14 about 5'6 98lbs. i want to gain FAT not MUSCLE and i want some fat in these areas: legs arms stomach and butt. I tried ensure but its too expensive. is there any supplement vitamin or powder i can drink? yes ...
A. 30 May 2009: Why do you want to gain weight? X... (read in full...)
Am I not a virgin? And do yout hink he didn't like giving me oral sex?
Q. Alright so my boyfriend and I always do lots of foreplay, but I wanted to wait until marriage before actually going all the way and having sex. Well my boyfriend got a little carried away and started to stick it in me. I got upset and he stopped, ...
A. 30 May 2009: You're not a virgin anymore. X... (read in full...)
I had sex with him yesterday and now I don't know what to do.
Q. I'm 15 and old friend just started talking to me again. Me and him had sex yesterday, he's 19 going on 20. I don't know what to do, I have known him for a long time, he doesn't want to hurt me. Can someone help me, please...
A. 30 May 2009: Just be friends if you don't want to get into a relationship. X... (read in full...)
1st sexual encounter uncomfortable
Q. Hi, Im 16 and i recently experienced my first sexual intercorse. I found it to be really uncomfortable and i didnt enjoy it. I never experienced an orgasm and neither did my partner, is this normal ? I experienced a lot of pain after it also, l...
A. 29 May 2009: Its normal to feel pain after intercourse for the first time. Don't be worried! And as for orgasms! Well, not many women orgasm through sex alone, it can be achieved but its rare, try clitoral stimulation. Masturbate and you'll soon find how to make ... (read in full...)
For the past weeks he has been rather distant, I think I don't love him any longer but I am afraid to tell him?
Q. Hey :) So I have been with my current boyfriend for about five months now. At first things were AMAZING, we had so much in common and he seemed perfect for me. We would talk for hours on end. He would always tell me how much I loved him, and I loved ...
A. 29 May 2009: If you don't love him then just tell him! Don't be afraid of losing him because you are still young! You will find that lots of amazing people will drift in and out of your life and it would be a shame to stay with someone who is acting this way. ... (read in full...)
HELP! Getting married in 4 months... But I still think about my first love!
Q. I definitely need some guidance and advice! My first love from when i was 13 we were on and off until 3 years ago when I met my fiance (I am now 23). We always talked secretly throughout the years when we were with other people, or when he had a...
A. 29 May 2009: You seem like you have got this problem sorted, you just don't know it. You know that this man is bad, and he would be a bad husband/boyfriend. This is just a case of cold feet so continue with the wedding to get past this phase of wanting to talk ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a girlfriend for that long and fall for someone else?
Q. hello, well i have a really confusing situation that's been bugging me for over a year now!!! last year, i met this amazing guy at uni, i liked him from the first time i saw him staring at me. for the first couple of months, i didnt know him...
A. 29 May 2009: I like your mature approach to this, I love how you are considering his girlfriends feelings. Just stay away from him, it will make the feelings end quicker if you avoid him, keep conversation to a minimum!! And don't look at him too much, then you ... (read in full...)
We are the closest of friends, but lately I cannot share with her as I used to, what is the problem?
Q. I've known an unbelievable woman for over a year now. We have become each other's closest friend. I have never shyed away from sharing anything with her. But over time I developed insecurity issues and as my esteem and confidence plumm...
A. 29 May 2009: This does sound abit stupid to be honest! If you are that close then I'm sure she will accept anything that you say. Don't be afraid of bringing things up which may cause an argument, its healthy for couples to argue occassionally. X
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Am I bisexual or gay?
Q. hi guys! i'm so confused with my sexuality lately. let me put up my situation: since i m young (like 8) i have crushes on boys but i never really dated. just some silly childhood crushes i suppose. i dun have any special feelings for girls. ...
A. 29 May 2009: Well I think that you could be anything, instead of focussing on what to call yourself why don't you focus on how you feel? You can decide what you are later on in life, but there is nothing immediate to decide. A lot of people are confused when ... (read in full...)
Do I let him go? He now wants children and I still don't
Q. Please help. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now (I am 37 he is 32). At the start of the relationship we had quite an open conversation in which I said that I had never been that interested in having children and that I felt indifferent ...
A. 29 May 2009: To be fair you are 37, so if you are planning kids then do it now because you haven't got that long left. If I was you I would try to start a family, it may be difficult with you career but you may regret it later on. X... (read in full...)
Problems with sweating!
Q. This probably isn't the appropriate question to ask on dear cupid, but I would like some opinions please. This is a health related question. I am male, 25years old, and fit and healthy, however I have have a problem with my underarms, I am ...
A. 29 May 2009: Hi, have you tried driclor deodorant? That's meant to be quite good. My friend (male)) has had botox, he used to sweat soooo much but he was fine after it! Its not permanent and it only lasts about 6months then you go for a top up. He said it was ... (read in full...)
Infected foreskin
Q. I've done some research on this and the results so far haven't been good. I'm 37 years old and very obese. I'm not circumcised and have been getting infected foreskin a lot lately. I'm almost positive it's not an STD. I haven't had sex with anyone ...
A. 29 May 2009: Lose the weight and then you can be able to keep clean and hygienic! Go to the doctor and ask for help with weight loss! And what the hell are you using becasue I work in a pharmacy and I haven't heard of any cream to clear infection in the ... (read in full...)
I am having terrile pain from my period. Can anyone suggest something to do or take that will ease the pain?
Q. i really need some help quick cuz im in reallyyyy bad pain. ive just come on my period and ive had them for four years so they aint new but this one is killin me. ive never bin in so much pain, ive bin curled up on my bed rockin to try and stop it n ...
A. 28 May 2009: Don't pig out on chocolate like someone else suggested, it doesn't help! Eat healthily and light foods, stodgy heavy foods will make you feel worse. Chocolate and heavy rich foods will make you even more bloated. X... (read in full...)
I am having terrile pain from my period. Can anyone suggest something to do or take that will ease the pain?
Q. i really need some help quick cuz im in reallyyyy bad pain. ive just come on my period and ive had them for four years so they aint new but this one is killin me. ive never bin in so much pain, ive bin curled up on my bed rockin to try and stop it n ...
A. 25 May 2009: Ibuprofen is the best painkiller for period pains, don't take co-codamol as they contain codeine and this causes constipation, consipation will make the pain worse. X... (read in full...)
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