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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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My g/f is 26 and still sleeps with her grandmother! Weird?
Q. Would love some advice as am confused about the below situation with my girlfriend: She has a large family and when younger use to share her bed with her grandmother. As she grew older and family member left the house (therefore more space) she ...
A. 4 May 2009: She may have just got used to it and ot want to hurt her grandmas feelings so give her a break and deal with it!... (read in full...)
Why don't I fall pregnant?
Q. hey all. every time after i have sex wit my bf i always feel the sperm sliding 0ut after 20 minutes or so. could this be why i dont fall prego? is somethng the matter with me...
A. 4 May 2009: To increase chances of pregnancy sit with your legs against a wall. Lie on your back opposite a wall and then put your legs up against it. If you don't fall pregnant within a year then go and see a doctor.x... (read in full...)
Passing bloody after sex!
Q. Why do I pass a drop of blood a day after sex on my pants like a watery consistency? I am female, 49 and in the menopause...
A. 4 May 2009: It could be due to the menopause, or it could be a small tear in the vagina as the menopause causes a lack of lubrication. Go to the doctor and ask!!! X
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Computer problems! Help appreciated.
Q. The hard disk of my computer was taken out to place an external hard disk by my husband ones then he put back the original hard disk. In the process of doing, the pin of the hard disk got bent. Since then sometimes the computer does not start and ...
A. 4 May 2009: This is a relationship site, not computer assistance
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Height rating
Q. how do you people rate a person of height 6 5"? i am 6 4" and i feel good to be this tall but girls are too short to stand up with a boy of this height. what do girls say here?And Do rate my height....
A. 4 May 2009: I'd love to meet someone your height!!! I'm 5'10 and find it really hard to meet guys which are tall. Embrace your height! Xx... (read in full...)
I have reached the age of legal consent and wanted to have sex with my long term girlfriend but I couldn't get it up.
Q. I turned 16 ten days ago, and that means I'm legal in my country (UK). I thought that when I was 16 I would not have a problem with having sex, as I did not have to worry about the law etc, but my girlfriend of 8 months and I tried having sex ...
A. 1 May 2009: I agree with the other posts, calm down and don't focus too much on it. Pressure can make you lose an erection. Just tell your girlfriend that whatever happens will happen, and you don't know if you can have sex yet. Then she won't be expecting it ... (read in full...)
Another girl asks my guy out for a meal - he thinks they are friends but she doesn't even know about me!
Q. Hi right ok so girls and guys. Girls if you asked a boy out for a meal would you be classing that as asking him on a date? guys if a girl asked you out for a meal would YOU class that as a date? a guy i was with told me a girl liked him she ...
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If I asked a guy out on a date it would mean I liked him, and if he said yes I would assume he liked me too. If my boyfriend went for a meal with a girl he would be dumped, no questions asked! X... (read in full...)
How can you know if a guy indeed likes you or just wanted to make fun of you?
Q. how can you know if a guy indeed likes you or just wanted to make fun of you from the first time he started talking to you? if he showed almost all the possible signs he's into you,let you insult him and kinda put him down in front of his best ...
A. 30 April 2009: If a guy likes you he won't insult you or make fun of you! X... (read in full...)
I'm not pretty, will anyone ever love me?
Q. ok i am going to be 100% honest and realistic about my situation however sad it sounds! Recently i fell in love with a guy. The first time i have ever fell in love. I don't think he felt the same way but he gave me a taste of how amazing it is to...
A. 30 April 2009: Just because you don't consider yourself to be pretty doesn't mean someone else won't find you beautiful! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I'm sure someone will love every part of you!! I'm a beautician and a hairdresser and when people come ... (read in full...)
Like me? View me as a good friend?
Q. Hullo... I'm single and im just curious if this girl likes me... I only recently (3-4 months ago) broke up with my first girlfriend of a year and have no idea who i like yet. A very nice friend of mine gave me her number at a BBQ because alth...
A. 30 April 2009: It sounds like she likes you! You could try hinting at liking her? If she likes you then I'm sure she'll respond in a positive manner!! Talk to her for a bit longer and you'll get to know her better and better but I don't think she would give you ... (read in full...)
Another chance? OR forget it?
Q. hey, i know this girl likes me very much but before i talked to her and things went ok then i sent her message on holiday and she said that i have a boyfriend and i dont want you as a friend and she hasnt any boyfriend so i said ok it was my fau...
A. 30 April 2009: She sounds as if she is messing around with you and not taking you seriously, move on from her and find someone new who will feel the same way about you as you feel about them. Xx... (read in full...)
Stay at home mom..I need help
Q. Hi im a 20 year old stay at home mom for my boyfriend of 2 years daughter. i have been raising her for a year and a half. pretty much by myself. i dropped out of school and do not have a permanent job. to top it all off we have moved to the country ...
A. 30 April 2009: Well are there any hobbie which you used to enjoy? Could any of your old friend come to stay for a weekend? Have you been speaking to people on the internet to maintain old relationships? There are lots of things that you can do. If you would like ... (read in full...)
Mind playing games?
Q. i had unprotected sex 3 times in one day (april 13, 2009) with my partner. im am on the pill, however i missed my pill for that day. ive noticed sum symptoms but it could jus be my mind playing into the situation. it has been 17 days since the sex? ...
A. 30 April 2009: You can get pregnancy tests which work up to a week before your period is due. Go to a pharmacy or the doctors and they will know best! They can also give you some advice on what to do after the pregnancy test! X... (read in full...)
Even though her ex has moved out I am still her secret lover and I want more!
Q. I've been married twice and have four children two from each marrage, I see my children every weekend and share holidays. Seven months ago through the internet I met up with a girl that I had not seen in 23 years. She was in a form of relationship ...
A. 30 April 2009: She doesn't sound like she is as committed to you as you are to her. I would give her the ultimatum of committing to you or leaving you! This should clear up any confusion that she may have, it will get her to hurry up and realise what she wants, ... (read in full...)
Please help me I feel so torn
Q. 2 months ago I met a man online that lived a few hours from me. We ended up talking on the phone every day. He told me was single at first but a few weeks later I found out he had a baby girl and I asked him if he was married but he told me he wa...
A. 30 April 2009: You have not betrayed him in anyway, he was cheating on his wife and you did a very noble thing! If I was his wife I would have really appreciated that information, imagine how many other affairs he could have been having and his poor wife would ... (read in full...)
Help.....Why???
Q. Hi...after 3 years of dating, I feel lost. I don't exactly know what I want from my ex who broke up with me a month ago. This was so sudden that I am so hurt. We have had problems, but I have been the one trying to cater to his ego. He is a ...
A. 30 April 2009: You're right to stay seperated from him!!! He sounds like a horrible boyfriend to have! Once a cheater always a cheater! A leopard never changes his spots so you need to get over him. The only way to get over him is to let time heal you, find ... (read in full...)
I know I can't trust him now.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We share a computer, and whilst looking through chat logs to find a phone number, I stumbled across some rather shocking information. I found a conversation between him and a guy, 7 months ago,...
A. 30 April 2009: End the relationship, the trust is gone forever now!!! Even if you manage to talk about it and patch things up this issue will still be brought up in arguements for years to come. The best thing to do is to walk away from this situation whilst you ... (read in full...)
New Colleague keeps inviting herself along to everything we do!!
Q. I need some advice with how to deal with a new work collegaue. She has only joined the team for 3 weeks and already she is making everyones business hers...she is very cocky,and nosey and the worst thing is that she keeps inviting herself along to...
A. 30 April 2009: Being a new colleague is hard so maybe this is her way of dealing with it. She slags people off because she wants to try to find common ground with you by talking about people which you both know. If it makes you uncomfortable then talk to her one ... (read in full...)
Said no, but now feel guilty
Q. Hi guys i still talk 2 my ex but the other day he said he may need 2 borrow my car 2 take him,his gf, and his child out for the day and i said no But now i feel really guilty that i said no, i dont really have a problam with it its just that i ...
A. 30 April 2009: No! Its fine to say no!! I think he was cheeky to ask to borrow it in the first place. If my ex asked me to do the same I would say no too!! X... (read in full...)
Too much wetness ?
Q. I produce way too much discharge my mum thinks that my system is working too fast, it smelled for a bit but then the smell went away .. what could it be HELP PLEASE x...
A. 30 April 2009: Everybody works differently and at different rates so you're probably normal but you don't have anything to compare to. If you are worried then you should go to the doctor but its fine to over produce discharge! X... (read in full...)
What would happen if I went on a water-only diet?
Q. hey all. i hear that starving yourself makes u only lose water so what i want to know is what happens if i go on a water-only-diet? wil i lose the kilos? im 90kgs and i wud like to be 50 by the end of may. please help...
A. 30 April 2009: We don't specialise in diets. We are a relationship site. Non of us have medical degrees which doctors have, doctors are the people you should see, or dieticians! ... (read in full...)
Feeling very stressed and I'm only 17! How can I deal with it?
Q. I'm working on my love of my body and life in general, having the stress level of a 30 yr old woman with kids isn't me- i'm 17!!! =( i need help keeping my stress level at a even well...level. I've tried some types of stress relievers like meditaion ...
A. 30 April 2009: You need to get to the root of what's causing your stress and deal with that. When you find out what's causing it write it down, there may be serveral reasons. Then write down how you are going to tackle each problem, write down who could help you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend complains I don't tell him enough how I feel about him
Q. I've only been with him for 4 months but he's complaining that he doesn't know if I like him or not and that I don't compliment him or tell him how much I like him. I just got out of a long term relationship and started this one shortly after. I ...
A. 30 April 2009: Its normal to just want to enjoy someones company. You don't need to seek conselling. He must be insecure and need you to boost his confidence a little by complimenting him. Say things like 'I love being with you' or tell him that he's looking ... (read in full...)
Can someone give me ideas on how to perform better to either save my job or to build a relationship with the big boss?
Q. This time it is a work issue. I have been with this company for 8 months. I have just received feedback from the executive boss, who wrote very harsh words that left me feeling distraught.... This is a mid-management position. it is the first tim...
A. 30 April 2009: You may be better visiting careerglove.com. ... (read in full...)
Gay man married to a woman....now I want her to sleep with someone else!
Q. Hi, i am a gay man married to my wife for 8 years, we have two kids. I am not very active in sex with my wife, for the past 4 years i had hardly had sex for 5 times. She keeps on insisting me, but i just jerk off when she is asleep on our bed. I ...
A. 30 April 2009: This whole situation Is very weird. Just get a divorce instead of being in this tricky situation! ... (read in full...)
Why won't this serial cheater marry me?
Q. hello...im trying to figure out why is it that my boyfriend of 15yrs (he's 40 and im 39) first off will not marry me and make a formal commitment and second of all will not leave this other woman alone? i've forgiven him for having a baby on...
A. 28 April 2009: You are a door mat and you need a serious wake up call. It may be hard but leave him! There are so many lovely men out there! Even on dating websites! Take the plunge and do it! X
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LDR girlfriend doesn't know if she can move for me?
Q. Hey guys... Well I've been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 6 months - in which time we have seen each other for 10 weeks and she is due to move over here in 4 weeks. She was my best mate for 3 years before this. My proble...
A. 28 April 2009: You're just as imprortant as the people in the uk, and that's why she is torn between you right now. I'm sure things will sort out for you both. X... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend doesn't know if she can move for me?
Q. Hey guys... Well I've been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 6 months - in which time we have seen each other for 10 weeks and she is due to move over here in 4 weeks. She was my best mate for 3 years before this. My proble...
A. 28 April 2009: she may be wantimng additional security, you would be best proposing to her and then she knows that there is commitment and itrs official. why cant you just move to her area? its a big step whatever you do but if she doesnt get on with your family ... (read in full...)
Do married men stop thinking about the other woman?
Q. When an affair ends, does the married man ever stop thinking about the other woman? Are they easily forgotten? Do men ever feel hurt when an affair ends or are they relieved thats it's over? Do they hide their emotions? Married men, please ...
A. 28 April 2009: every man is different. some will forget it and realise they made a mistake, others will dwell on it wishing that they were still having the excitemet of the affair. each person is totally individual, so it depends on your person.x... (read in full...)
Does she want me to be a lesbian?
Q. hi, ive just moved in with my girlfreind into a flat, and all my clothes were in the suitcases as we just got there and i went to the shop and got talking to one of my mates and when i got back she was staring in my suitcase and there was thongs in ...
A. 28 April 2009: were the thongs yours? i dont understand that part. were they yours or did she put them in there as a joke or a hint for you to put them on???x... (read in full...)
Is there a way to find out who owns an email address?
Q. I suspect my boyfriend is cheating on me and I am busy collecting evidence before I confront him and kick his sorry ass right out of my house. I found an email address written on a piece of paper in his trouser pocket and would like to know if ...
A. 28 April 2009: why dont you create a fake account of your own and then add them to your msn instant messanger. if you suspect its a girl then make it a boys name. or make a fake female account and a fake mail account and then try to add her, but not at the same ... (read in full...)
Worried about my girlfriend after breaking up with her...
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. We got along great but I wasn’t in love with her. I broke the news without warning and she is devastated. She doesn’t have many friends locally and her family lives a state away. She feels she doesn’t have...
A. 27 April 2009: the pain you are feeling for her is a sign that you do have strong feelings for her! maybe not love but its strong enough! is there no way tht you would give it another go??? offer to be her friend, tell her that you arent getting with anyone else ... (read in full...)
Advice please to stop me feeling like crap!
Q. I was living with my partner for 2 years and going out for 4 years. We broke up 4 weeks ago. The first week he stayed living in the house and the 2nd week I asked him to leave because I was so upset. We haven't had any contact since he has left and ...
A. 27 April 2009: its normal to feel like crap after a break up and only time can truly heal the pain! give yourself time to accept the break up! feel sorry for yourself, get your friends round and have a drink, watch a funny film or go out for drinks! start ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy after a vasectomy?
Q. What are the chances of pregnancy after a vasectomy after 18 years?...
A. 27 April 2009: you need to speak to a doctor bout this, we dont have medical degrees!... (read in full...)
How can I add some excitement to our conversations?
Q. Me and my bf have been together for a little over a year. At first everything was fine. We always talked and got along great but now he doesn't really talk anymore. He says there's not much to talk about since we are always together. We're together ...
A. 27 April 2009: sounds like youre both stuck in a rut! the first step tp getting a relationship back on track is to make time for just the two of you! either arrange to go out or tell your brothers to leave you alone for a while! secondly, you need to think of ... (read in full...)
Is this guy genuine?
Q. hiya well im 18 and i got to know a guy via the internet.he was on my msn contact list for months but i never talked to him just hi and bye. then last saturday we started talking and i said we could just be mates. Ever since he calls me every d...
A. 27 April 2009: if you havent met him then you cant trust him? and its way too early tostart speaking of marriage. you need to go into this situation responsibly and skeptical of everything, do not trust him until you know him! he could be a murderer, a rapist, he ... (read in full...)
Stuck with my BFF problem!! Help!
Q. hi!im 15 n i my bff 'a' is a little bit confused so i wanna ask u for her. She loves a boy n he loves her too n im sure about that cause he's my lab mate n we're pretty close n he told me that he can imagine her in his futur n he truly deeply loves ...
A. 27 April 2009: their relationship isnt any of your buisness. i would stay away from the situation completely! you may be quite close to both of them but a relationship only gets complicated when other people try to help out or interfere with it! even if they ask ... (read in full...)
Gay teen confused by sexually confused best friend
Q. I've been best friends with this guy for about 9 months now. When we first met at work, he flirted with me constantly, touched my butt after giving hugs, made sexual references every day, and a few days in; he actually told me that he has had sex ...
A. 27 April 2009: it sounds like he is confused at the minute and he is doing his best to not let his girlfriend or you down. if his girlfriend doesnt like him hanging around with you then he cant please both.i would suggest that you give him space, he needs to work ... (read in full...)
My bf says he never masturbates...
Q. My boyfriend says he never masturbates. Said he's tried it before when he was younger and it doesn't give him pleasure. But I'm very skeptical about that. We're both 27 and in a long distance relationship. I have to masturbate when I'm feeling...
A. 27 April 2009: my boyfriend says this too and i am very skeptical. but at the end of the day its not really any of my concern whether he does or he doesnt. it probably causes him embarrassment when i bring it up so i leave him to it. x... (read in full...)
My husband is converting to Islam and wants ME to convert too!
Q. I was shocked by what I found around the house when I woke up this morning. There were a lot of prayer books and a copy of the Koran (is that how you spell it??) lying around, plus some other Islamic literature. I asked my husband why there was Is...
A. 26 April 2009: Isn't qua'ran spelt like this? Just out of intrest? And why don't you try it for like a month to see what he is going through, not a permanent conversion, just a trial. You may learn a lot!x... (read in full...)
Can Ibuprofen stop your period for a few hours?
Q. I have a question.. Im on my period.. and my parents are traveling for the weekend.. so I guess you all by now have guessed where this is going for.. I have heard that Ibuprofen can stop your period for a few hours. is this true? if so how doe...
A. 25 April 2009: Get a presciption for it. You can miss occassional periods, not every month! X... (read in full...)
Can Ibuprofen stop your period for a few hours?
Q. I have a question.. Im on my period.. and my parents are traveling for the weekend.. so I guess you all by now have guessed where this is going for.. I have heard that Ibuprofen can stop your period for a few hours. is this true? if so how doe...
A. 24 April 2009: I work in a pharmacy. Ibuprofen doesn't stop your period. The only thing to do to stop a period is go to the doctor and get prescribed norethisrone (think its spelt like that) or if you are on the pill you can just take the next packet when you are ... (read in full...)
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