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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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One night stand can turn into a boyfriend?
Q. a few months ago i had this really hot one night stand with this guy he called me 6 times over the next week. i blew him off made up stupid excuses and stuff like that. so lastnight my recently dumped friend made me go out. this one of my exs was ...
A. 6 May 2009: There's nothing wrong with just enjoying each others company. You need to get over your ex, get rid of the pictures and things like that!!!! Stop dwelling, life is too short! X... (read in full...)
Should I stay and work it out or go?
Q. my boyfriend has been going on online dating sites and flirting with girls, i also checked his email and found that he had been sending dirty pictures of himself to them. this is not the first time either and he promised he wouldn't do it again. he ...
A. 6 May 2009: Leave him and don't look back, he has obviously got no respect for you! He thinks that because you forgave him the first time he can do it over and over again, he is taking you for granted! You can find someone better so please do the right thing! X... (read in full...)
I can't forget him...
Q. GUYS... please i need help...im 15 years old ..and i was in an open relationship.. a guy with me at school .. i liked him so much and after that i loved him but he leaves me and he return to me again ..and he was saying that he loves me and everythn ...
A. 6 May 2009: Firstly, why were you in an open relationship when you are this young? Do you know all of the diseases and infections out there???? Its an excuse to be a bit of a slut really! Secondly, why don't you end your current relationship if you aren't ... (read in full...)
He can't get close to anyone... Does he do this because he is insecure about holding down a decent relationship?
Q. My boyfriend well lets just say has a very womanising past! He has slept wiv nearly 100 people. He was single for a long time and has only had one serious relationship of 5 years! He quite honestly says hes fucked up cos of something that happen in ...
A. 6 May 2009: I think he needs councelling with a professional, and I think you would benefit by going with him after he has had a few sessions alone! X... (read in full...)
He doesn't know that I know what he said?
Q. well okii well i met this guy online then we met and a couple of date after he ask me if i want it to do it and i said yes then we did it but then we turn to be someone to different then i thougth cuz after he told my sister i dont like her or will ...
A. 6 May 2009: I don't really understand your question, I'm guessing english isn't your first language. I'm just guessing, but my answer would be... Don't meet people online!!!!! Don't have sex with people you don't know...don't speak to him again....and anything ... (read in full...)
Love seems to be a mystery to me at the moment.
Q. Hiya I need help please! Love seems to be a mystery to me at the moment. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend of a year five months ago, and still mulling over why we actually parted ways. We are still fantastic friends but he wants me back- for good, ...
A. 6 May 2009: I didn't look at the photo, just before I answer the question I thought I had to tell you. ...so I think that you should be upfront with him and tell him exactly what you want, which sounds like an exclusive relationship but not with long term ... (read in full...)
Its scary to start a relationship after all this time!
Q. i have been single for 61/2 months. i was married for 22 yrs. to my first bf. one month ago i met this wonderful man, we get along really well he has already told me he love me and i feel the same way about him. do you think this is poss. it's scary ...
A. 6 May 2009: Anything is possible so enjoy each others company and just let the relationship flow naturally! Xx
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I'm having an affair with my sister's fiance..
Q. I thought this through over and over and just don't know what to do. Hopefully some of you may be able to help me. I'm sorry if this turns out to be a bit long but I just want people to see the whole picture. I've been with my boyfriend since ...
A. 6 May 2009: I don't blame you one bit! When I read the title of this question I was ready to lay into you preaching about how wrong it is, then I read the full story!! Your boyfriend does sound like an arse so first move is to dump him!!! Then your sisters ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I enjoyed his misfortune?
Q. I spoke to my ex last night and he started asking personal questions about my sexlife. so instead of continuing with the conversation as I used to I asked him straight "shouldn't you be asking these questions to your gf?" and he said " I dont want ...
A. 6 May 2009: No, not at all. Enjoy it!!! If he dumped you for someone else and now its not going well its normal for you to enjoy it, its like revenge! So enjoy it whilst you can!!!! X... (read in full...)
I think she's getting something on the side
Q. I am a male (47). My fiance is 43. We've been together for close on 10 years. We had a really amazing sex life up until 4 years ago, when it became less and less frequent and less and less adventurous. As I write this we haven't had sex in more ...
A. 6 May 2009: Just ask her, be very clear with the question. Or you could gather evidence, you could look through her phone, computer history, diary, draws, cupboards and wardrobes. Follow her wherever she goes and take pictures if you see anything. Record when ... (read in full...)
Getting back deleted history on the computer?
Q. Dont know if any of you out there can help but i have been wondering how can you get back things that have been deleted on the history on my computer?...
A. 6 May 2009: I don't think that you can do that. X... (read in full...)
She's like a roller coaster
Q. Alright, so I was with my ex girlfriend for around a year(my longest relationship) and all was perfect for the whole beginning. She always told me how much she loved me, how I was perfect, how she always wanted to be with me, etc. For a while I ...
A. 6 May 2009: Talk to her and tell her that you have noticed this. Structure each point into chunks by telling her -what you have noticed, what it makes you feel like, and how the two of you can work together to solve the problem. Then at the end of this ask her ... (read in full...)
Tell me if you think these are good!
Q. Tell me if you think this is a good poem - Dreams Do you ever dream of something you want but then you turn around and see what youve got theres nothing there but tears and hate you want love but its too late what you must do never hold insid...
A. 6 May 2009: Those are really sweet. I would like a poem, I've been trying to tell my boyfriend how much I love him so if you could do that for me (well not for me, but in the form of a poem) it would be amazing.x
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Please help!!
Q. i had my period 2 weeks ago and just got it again. ive had it for three days now.. and usually when i get my period it gets lighter on the 2nd or 3rd day but its still very strong, probably stronger than normal even. im a little freaked out so i ...
A. 6 May 2009: If you can handle it then just wait, record the dates you had a period, how heavy it was and how long it lasted. If you are sexually active then record times when you have had sex too. By keeping this information you will be assisting a doctor. If ... (read in full...)
How do we get the pill for my girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for just short of a year now. We are both sixteen and live in the US. We were both virgins before we started dating and just had our first time a while back. We had talked about it before and bought condoms and ...
A. 6 May 2009: Not sure how it works in america but she should be able to get it alone. Just telephone the clini you have found and ask them about it. Or telephone the doctors surgery and see what there procedures are. If she has to have an adult with her (which ... (read in full...)
I am trapped!
Q. I am trapped. I need help desperately. I formed a very close relationship with one of my school teachers and, well, we ended up kissing. Just once. But my ex saw. And now he's using what he saw as an excuse to blackmail into everything - from doi...
A. 5 May 2009: Tell the teacher what he is doing, then confirm that if your ex tells anyone you will both deny it ever happened!! Then tell your ex that you won't do anything for him anymore! If he tells people what happened then just deny it to the end!!!! And if ... (read in full...)
His ex still has control over him!
Q. I have been dating someone for 16 months. Relationship is wonderful except that his "ex" still has her control over him. He does not agree with this and it is a constant argument for us. He's out of the marriage because she cheated, lied and ...
A. 5 May 2009: No, you need to give him an ultimatum. His ex wife or you! He needs to change phone numbers and things like that! I wouldn't stand for this at all, if things don't chamge then find someone better!!! X... (read in full...)
Although I'm dating I always have to call and text to see him. Is he just not that into me?
Q. So my problem is a pretty minor one, but that's what this site's for, right? Phew. Ok. Basically, I am in a relationship with a guy I positively ADORE. I mean, I am head over heels in LOVE. I think. What's getting me down is the fact that he nev...
A. 5 May 2009: He's not that into you so just forget the whole idea now. If he was into you then he would be the oppposite of what you describe here! So wise up and realsie that you can do better! X... (read in full...)
Am I bi or just hormonal?
Q. I am 13 and i am wondering if im turning bi. i dont want to be but i get weak erections over boys sometimes but all the time and strong over girls. i look at girls as babes but look at boys as good mates. ive only had a little crusch on one boy but ...
A. 5 May 2009: This is a time for you to realise that not everyone has to be classed as straight bi or gay. You are an individual so don't worry about putting yourself in to a catagory, you are only 13 and I'm sure that this catagory will change a few times over ... (read in full...)
Do I have no chance with her?
Q. So I asked a girl out via texting and this is the reply I got. So is this saying theres no chance? Because I think she's scared. I've wrote and re-wrote about ten msgs. l I erm. Im terrified of sending the msg ive wrote because i know u and urg g...
A. 5 May 2009: You haven't got a chance, its a sort of polite way of telling you to back off because she isn't interested. Your best move would be yo msg back saying 'its great that you value our friendship so much, thanks. Hope we can still be good friends then? ... (read in full...)
Is it legal for my boyfriend to take me on holiday?
Q. After my GCSE my boyfriend said he would take me on holiday to his villa. My parents are fine with it as he is legally an adult and can take care of me. I'm just worried is it ileagal for him to take me away at 16? Sorry its a weird questio...
A. 5 May 2009: He would be classed as your guardian so its fine, as long as he is 18. Xxx
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How to make him last longer in bed or reassure him without being patronising?
Q. So I have been going out with my boyfriend for over 18 months now, and i absolutely adore him, trust him, love him and hes lovely. He is my first serious boyfriend, first love, first proper sexual relationship. However, even though sex isnt a domin...
A. 5 May 2009: Maybe take things really slow. Otherwise he could see a doctor.x ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends screaming, caused complaints in a hotel, I'm so embarrassed, please help.
Q. My new girlfriend makes a lot of noise during sex, she moans during and almost screams when she cums, i should be happy that i'm making her satisfied in bed but it's really embarassing and i'm worried the neighbours will hear us. My ex gf was very ...
A. 5 May 2009: Talk to her, but don't bring up your ex girlfriend,lol. X
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Is it legal for my boyfriend to take me on holiday?
Q. After my GCSE my boyfriend said he would take me on holiday to his villa. My parents are fine with it as he is legally an adult and can take care of me. I'm just worried is it ileagal for him to take me away at 16? Sorry its a weird questio...
A. 5 May 2009: Its legal, just check with whoever you are booking your holiday with but its definatly legal! Have a good holiday! X
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His mates girlfriends go out, but I don't get an invite! Why?
Q. Does this seem right to u. My boyfriend gos out on lads nite out. But then i find that some of his mates girlfriends go too! I dont live in the same town but only 30 mins away! Hes a manager of a footie team and they r having a big allday drinking ...
A. 5 May 2009: I would go mad if it was my boyfriend!!! Tell him how you feel and if nothing changes then dump him, he's obviously leading a single lifestyle!x
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Do guys date fat girls?
Q. would guys date fat girls. because i am short and fat and i just can,t get boyfriend they want thin,tall,cheeky girls not like me...
A. 5 May 2009: Of course, you just need to have confidence in the way you look as this shows to guys! And if you are unhappy with the way you look then only you has the power to change it! You could start eating healthily if you don't already, or create a more ... (read in full...)
What made her change her mind?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 14 years. For the first few years, she enjoyed receiving oral sex although she never had an orgasm through oral sex. Now, she doesn't even like it and only allows me to give it to her if I ask. I don't know ...
A. 5 May 2009: She may have just gone off it, she may have developed self confidence issues about the way her body looks, especially if her body has changed. Or it may be something as simple as she is concerned about shaving rash in that area and doesn't want you ... (read in full...)
Back out on the dating scene after years... so how can I tell if we are more than friends?
Q. I am single for the 1st time in 9 years and am not sure how to tell how a guy feels about me. I have been hanging out with a guy from work, going to the cinema, meeting up for drinks, watching DVDs at his house, and from my perspective, we're just ...
A. 5 May 2009: Go on google and type in flirt body language, or something similar, it should bring up loads of things. If he does like you as more than a friend then you just need to tell him that you are not looking for that at the minute and you thought you were ... (read in full...)
I get erections all the time but they aren't as hard as they used to be which is a bother, help?
Q. Hi Ive been with my partner about a year now, things are generally good, apart from in the bedroom. This weekend for the second time in a few months i wasnt able to get hard enough for sex with her on top, i do find her attractive but- when sh...
A. 5 May 2009: Go to see a doctor! X... (read in full...)
My fiance won't let me see his email! Is this childish?
Q. My fiance refuses to let me see his email. He signs on under his own account on my computer. He says it is something that is "just his" and won't give me the password. We are both in our 40's. I think this is childish...or he's hiding something. The ...
A. 5 May 2009: He is obviously hiding something! I would tell him to let you see it or else the relationship is over! By giving him and ultimatum he will have to let you see it! Don't give him any time inbetween saying this and seeing the email account, otherwise ... (read in full...)
Molested by my father: How do I explain to my mother that I can't let them have my kids at weekends?
Q. Ever since I was 4 years old I remember being molested by my father. Even he will admit that he would touch me and get turned on since I was a baby. When I turned 12 he started having sex with me. I didnt tell anyone because I believe in aweird ...
A. 5 May 2009: Tell her what happened! You know its the right thing to do. Why don't you go to a counselling session and tell the councellor that you need to tell your mum and he/she will guide you through it. X... (read in full...)
Friends... or is she ignoring me?
Q. Heya everyone, I've liked this girl, for about a year now (I think), I asked her out a while ago and she said yes but we didn't eventually. A couple of months ago she started getting close to one of my best friends (not bf and gf, just close mates...
A. 5 May 2009: Yes she's still giving you the cold shoulder. The best treatment for this is to ignore her, act as if she doesn't exist, soon enough she'll start talking to you again because she'll miss the attention and want your friendship! X
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I'm shy--how can I ask him to take our relationship to the next step?
Q. hello there i want to ask am in a relationship with this man and i am very shy becouse i am in love with him and and i dont know how to tell him and i want to move to the next step with him too and he never have the time for me at all but in the ...
A. 5 May 2009: Just tell him that your feelings are very strong for him and you would like to be more intimate in a physical way with him! X... (read in full...)
My g/f doesn't seem to love me even though she says so
Q. with my girlfriend, I love her alot but sometimes I dont know if she does. she says she loves me and seems like she cares about me and everything but sometimes she doesnt seem to act the way I think she is supposed to. she would sometimes say that ...
A. 5 May 2009: I agree with her, sooner or later you will breakup as you are very young! Why don't you break up with her if you don't like the sort of relationship that you are in? And if she is going to continue to act the way that she is acting then you really ... (read in full...)
Any advice, does he really want it over or am I just not accepting it?
Q. I broke up with my partner 4 weeks ago and I just can't get him out of my head. I finished it but I tried to change my mind and he just said fu*k it we're done. I went away for the weekend packed all his stuff, he came to collect it when I wasn't ...
A. 5 May 2009: Sounds like he wants it to be over so leave it at that. Don't contact him with any sloppy msgs, if you need to tell him something, such as he has post then msg him and keep it to the point. You have post here, I'll leave It on the doorstep! ....I ... (read in full...)
Weight issues...
Q. Hello, everybody, I know this question doesn't have a defined answer, but I was just looking for opinions: what is the ideal ratio of a guys' weight to a girls' weight in a relationship? Thanks...
A. 5 May 2009: There is no set ratio really. I would like my boyfriend to be abit heavier than me. I'm 8 stones and my boyfriend is 12 stones. I wouldn't go out with anyone who was skinnier than me, it would look weird! X... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's new female friends!
Q. BF and I have been going out 3 years and this year I've graduated and started working and he started another course in uni. He's always been very outgoing and had lots of friends, but mostly guys who I know quite well. But since starting his new ...
A. 5 May 2009: It just takes time. I'm the most insecure person ever! I was even insecure when my boyfriend first started the gym! You just need to concentrate on the fact that he wouldn't hurt you, and you need to put your full trust in him, as hard as it may be. ... (read in full...)
Am I sane and is it possible to change our relationship now to an open status?
Q. I am re-asking this question only because the first time, I failed to mention some important details that were covered in some answers I received. Then after I added the details, I stopped getting answers. So here's the question with all the ...
A. 4 May 2009: Your wife is messed up and you are messed up for willingly having group sex! You can get latex free condoms! Buy some and protect her! I don't have anything to say on this problem apart from what I have already said! The two of you need serious ... (read in full...)
Is this a case of practice makes perfect or not?
Q. Hello! I am female and 18 years old. So last night, me and my boyfriend lost our virginity to each other. Yes I am on the contraceptive pill and he used a condom, which as far as we are aware, did not break. Anyway, even though we both orgasm-ed, ...
A. 4 May 2009: Practice makes perfect, try different positions and I'm sure it will go deeper soon enough!x... (read in full...)
Should I buy his mom something for mothers day?
Q. Just curious.. Going on a 4 month relationship with this guy. His mom and I do small talk but that's it. The relationship is not a bad one. Anyways, I was thinking... Mother's Day is just around the corner. But she's not my Mother. So, am I ob...
A. 4 May 2009: I would give her flowers the day before! And don't buy her anything better than what your boyfriend is getting her. Alternativly why don't you chip in to whatever your boyfriend is buying and put your name on the card?x... (read in full...)
My g/f is 26 and still sleeps with her grandmother! Weird?
Q. Would love some advice as am confused about the below situation with my girlfriend: She has a large family and when younger use to share her bed with her grandmother. As she grew older and family member left the house (therefore more space) she ...
A. 4 May 2009: She may have just got used to it and ot want to hurt her grandmas feelings so give her a break and deal with it!... (read in full...)
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