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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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Fancy dress ideas.
Q. Hi, I was just wondering if anyone had any fancy dress costume ideas, they're having a fancy dress day at college on Friday and I have no idea what to dress up as. All comments wellcome, thanx x...
A. 21 April 2009: What has this got to do with love or relationships?... (read in full...)
I don't know how to fix all the bad things I've said to him and now he's dying...
Q. This isn't really about relationship, dating, love, or sex but I need help anyways. Well, actually I guess it could count as a relationship because I have a daughter/dad relationship with my dad. Well I'm fifteen. My dad has been out of my life a...
A. 21 April 2009: Why should you make an effort when he hasn't been a good father? I wouldn't call being in prison and drug dealing being a good father!... (read in full...)
Should I trust that he was just curious or is it more than that?
Q. ok so i need help. I went through my husbands phone, i know it was wrong, but i looked in his history of his internet on there and found that he had an account with ashley madison ( for those of you who don't know what it is it is an online ...
A. 20 April 2009: Omg!!! He shouldn't be trusted at all! If I was you I would make that separation permenant! X... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had a contraceptive implant???
Q. I'm a 16 year old girl and ever since starting my period they've lasted about 8 or 9 days and have been very heavy and painful for the entirity. I made an appointment with my GP to talk about it, and she suggested 2 drugs, one was specifically ...
A. 20 April 2009: I had mine in for nearly two years. The first 4months were fine then the periods were really bad. I went to my doctor who prescribed me mercilon along side with the implant. The mercilon help calm the periods and make them regular instead of all ... (read in full...)
After 3 years together, do you think we are drifting apart?
Q. I can't help deciding what to do. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, and over the last 3 months, things with us have not been great. we don't argue, but we don't talk either. I can't help but feel that we are driting apart. I went out...
A. 20 April 2009: I can't believe you cheated on your girlfriend! You are a disgrace!
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What should I do to motivate a proposal?
Q. Hello I'm 29 years old and my partner is 50, we have been shacking up for 2.5 years outside of the few times I kicked him out. We are both attractive and it is not a sugar daddy realtionship I love him deeply and do not want another relationship. We ...
A. 20 April 2009: Are you sure you want to marry this man? You aren't exactly going to be spending the rest of your life with him. When he dies you'll be a widow and still young! Why don't you just ask him if that's what you really want? X... (read in full...)
Is she a total slut? Or just desperate for attention?
Q. So I've been seeing this girl recently who I really like and who really like me back. We are in a semi-serious relationship in which we are pretty devoted to eachother but not entirely yet. I'm finding out increasingly that we may not be the best ...
A. 20 April 2009: She is a total slut! Leave her now! Imagine what she's like in the club when you aren't there! No way can you trust her! X... (read in full...)
Why won't he sleep with me more often?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We have a 2 yr daughter together. After the first year, he and I gained some weight. As the weight started adding on, the sex became less and less. I love having sex, and he loves having ...
A. 20 April 2009: Why don't you both join a gym or start excersising at home? The weight will come off, you will bond over something new and your sex life should return! Alternativly buy a vibrator! X... (read in full...)
How do I know when he is ready to kiss?
Q. ive been seeing a guy for about 2 months now, he is 23 im 18 and he has recently came out of a long term relationship, we are both fully interested but how do i get about knowing if he is ready to kiss me?...
A. 20 April 2009: He is probably ready! Why don't you just say to him 'so when are you going to kiss me then' in a light hearted manner. If he isn't ready then you can pass it off as abit of a joke, b ut he will be ready! X... (read in full...)
I make him miserable and he says after 9 months he's sick of it!
Q. Someone please help me. I'm afraid of losing him. I love him more than anything in the world, but I make him miserable. He says he is getting tired of it after 9 months. Not me, but the way act sometimes. I flip out when he doesnt text bac...
A. 20 April 2009: Well, I am the same as you. I've learnt to think about what I do before I do it and control myself! I also find that speaking to my boyfriend helps, when we are having a conversation we use a technique which makes things easy- we say what the ... (read in full...)
What do you like best about oral sex?
Q. Woman please reply… What do you like best about oral sex? What are your favorite oral sex activities? In general, how much oral sex do you like before moving on to intercourse?...
A. 20 April 2009: Its different for everyone so instead of being on here why don't you ask your partner what what would like?? Duh! X... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he text me back straight away?
Q. Me and my friend who is a boy talk but when I text him and he texts me its only for a short while then he doesn't. I hate asking him questions and him not answering. People tell me that he's not right for me but I like him and have strong feelings...
A. 19 April 2009: Maybe he is just busy and doesn't have his phone with him at the time. Personally I would say he isn't right for you though, if he was really into you then he would make sure that he had his phone with him! X... (read in full...)
In Love with my Mum's Boyfriend's Son! What should I do?
Q. about a year ago my mum broke up with my step dad and got with someone else, he is really nice and i like him alot. i don't live with my mum and him but will be in the summer. but i met his son at christmas who doesn't live with them either and afte...
A. 19 April 2009: Tell him how you feel, you are not blood related so there is nothing wrong here! My boyfriends mum and step father are step brother and sister too! Explain how you feel yo your mum, she may be able to help. And even if your mum and his dad break up ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid or do you think something is wrong?
Q. Okay, so it's eatser break and my boyfriend is at his Dad's for 2 weeks. We were speaking online most of the time, we usually do anyway when we're not together. But gradually he's been speaking less and less. I was fine with it and first since he's ...
A. 19 April 2009: Send him a message saying that when he isn't busy you need to talk to him, if he doesn't reply for ages then when you finally do speak to him dump him! Life is too short to spend wondering what your other half is doing! X... (read in full...)
Boyfriend falling out of love
Q. I feel that my boyfriend is falling out of love . He tells me that he loves me and misses me but Im not sure. He calls others girls and he hardly calls me. We have been together for a year or so. How can I make him fall back in love with me. Sh...
A. 19 April 2009: Break up with him! Life is too short to spend it with someone who doesn't care for you as much as you care for them! X... (read in full...)
I found underwear that was not mine. Should I forgive him or forget him?
Q. My boyfriend (23) and I (20) have been together for three and a half years. We've lived together for six months of that. Well, last night I found underwear that was not mine and confronted my boyfriend about it. He ultimately didn't have an answer, ...
A. 19 April 2009: Leave him! He'll never change! In my experience a leopard never changes his spots! X... (read in full...)
Unleashing an animal
Q. Ok so the boy I'm in lust with right now has fairly animalistic tendencies when he is aroused and he's afraid that he'll hurt me. So he pulls away. And I need some help on tips to get him... fired up and riled up so that he won't worry so much abou...
A. 19 April 2009: Just have a conversation with him and tell him that you aren't flimsy and that you just want to have sex with him. Tell him that this characteristic doesn't put you off him! I'm not sure what you could do to get him horny, go on google and search ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my boyfriend's best friend!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost three years now, and I think I have been in love with his best friend for almost three years. It's so hard to explain, but I met his best friend a few months after my bf and I started dating and for some ...
A. 19 April 2009: Just try your best to avoid the situation! It won't work out with his friend so don't go there at all, there would be loads of problems with it! And you would be taking a big risk! X... (read in full...)
He said, "I want to make love to you"
Q. A few days ago, for the first time, I got naked with the guy who I was seeing. He got really horny and whispered, "I want to make love to you." I thought he was just horny so I didn't respond to it. 30 minutes later, he asked me if I wanted to make ...
A. 19 April 2009: This guy sounds a sif he really likes you so why are you teasing him by getting naked and not having sex? Either do it or don't! X
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How to flirt someone in person?
Q. Hi everyone I see a lot of Caucasian girls in Bangkok especially in the shopping mall. some of them look cute and I really want to start talking to them. But the problems are that someone comes with their parents and I'm afraid to talk to them beca...
A. 19 April 2009: If it was me you were approaching I would say no as people on holiday don't want that! And parents don't trust anyone abroad so there is no point in talking to them, not everyone is open minded. Sorry. X... (read in full...)
I can't bear to spend my life in USA. I know in my heart I don't belong...
Q. This question isn't exactly about a boy/girl relationship, but my heart IS breaking, and I really need answers, and as an aunt myself, I've given so much so please let this technicality slide. If there is someone out there who can help me, I'll ...
A. 18 April 2009: I live in england and i go on holidays to spain, its not that amazing! Its tacky to say the least. I would much rather live in america that spain! X... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting in my current (LDR) situation?
Q. Well my question is if im overreacting in my current situation? I'm in a long distance relationship and at first my girlfriend didn't trust me much. She finally started to trust me but know i have doubts about her being fateful. Recently my girl...
A. 18 April 2009: She sounds pre occupied and like she is bored! So if trying to have a conversation about this fails then take a hint and leave her to it! If she can't be bothered to talk to you then you deserve better! X... (read in full...)
I was sick, I said NO, and now I haven't heard from him for 4 days. Why do think that is?
Q. My boyfriend is not calling me... Why?? I guess it started with a few days ago. I know this may seem long but please read..it's actually a quick read and i really need to know why?? He came over even though I told him I was sick and that it...
A. 18 April 2009:
He sounds like a rapist in the making! Stay away from him! And if a guy doesn't call when he has had no sex it means he is using you for sex! This is a life lesson, learn it now and you will benefit! Stay away from him! X... (read in full...)
I have no idea what to do or say!!!
Q. Hi Im "S" and I am 13 years old! I have already talked to my mom about a vibrator. She said to be honest when you need a vibrator I will get you one. Well I want one but I don't know how to ask her. How should I ask?? :)...
A. 18 April 2009: Have you no shame? Why don't you just save up and buy your own? You're too young for a vibrator! You should still be playin with dolls! X
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I had sex while I'm off the pill. Could I get pregnant?
Q. Hi so i have only been on the pill for maybe a month now and i am usually pretty good about taking it regularly, plus i am not even really sexually active and up until last night i was a virgin. not considering the circumstances, i forgot my pill...
A. 18 April 2009: Of course you can still get pregnant! Don't be so stupid next time!
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How can I help my negative partner....
Q. I've been in a relationship with someone for two years and am seriously wondering how much longer I can continue or even if I should. The issue here is that my partner is VERY negative and judgmental of most things from sun-up to sun-down. If she i...
A. 17 April 2009: She sounds depressed, ask her to go to the doctors! If she isn't depressed and you can't handle this tell her that her negativity is going to push you away, tell her she needs to change. Give specific examples of what she does and then tell her how ... (read in full...)
Am I a trophy to my boyfriend?
Q. Well you know there are times when you want your boyfriend to like you for what you are and not for who you are.. the same with me I am 20 and my boyfriend is 21 and we were really attracted to each other from day 1 and we still are.. so basicall...
A. 17 April 2009: You're boyfriend sounds like he is very proud of what he has achieved (going out with you) he is flaunting you and if you don't like him you need to tell him. Why not try writing him a letter telling him what he does, give him examples of when he ... (read in full...)
I have my whole life ahead of me but don't know if I could kill my child... Help!
Q. Hello. My name is Anna and I am 17 years of age. I have just found out that I am pregnant after being fourced to sleep with my boyfriend. I have not told anyone as I know they will be judgemental. I am only 17 and have got my whole life ahead of me ...
A. 17 April 2009: I've helped a lot of my friends through this. If you would like to speak more privatly then msg me. X... (read in full...)
My scars look really ugly and I'm dreading the summer.
Q. I really just wanted a male perspective on scars, but girlies if you have any words of wisdom that would be fab too. I have an ongoing knee instability that has required quite a bit of surgery and has left me with lots of long ugly scars, I really ...
A. 17 April 2009: You can get special concealor to hide the scars from the doctor or pharmacy, there is one called dermablend. If you get the right colour and practise applying it correctly then you should be able to cover the scar. Alternativly you could wear linen ... (read in full...)
He keeps calling me his ex wife's name by mistake... and it hurts!
Q. My boyfriend and have been dating for 11 months now. He has been sweet and all those things good and bad, yet it's all good. A few times he has called me by his ex-wife's name. He done it once or twice... The problem came in when this afternoon we ...
A. 17 April 2009: Tell him what he said and when he said it. Tell him how it makes you feel! Even write him a letter explaining everything. He needs to know facts about when it happened.
If you specify things it makes them easier to talk about and if you bullet poin... (read in full...)
Is she just joking or are these strong hints from her?
Q. Agh, im so confused. basically, me and my best friend, who are both bi, have had feelings for each other for god knows how long. however, she is not out, and we are scare it will effect our friendship so we have decided not to do anything abou...
A. 17 April 2009: I think that you shouldn't get into a relationship with her, I know you are both close but you are stepping over a line! Soon you aren't going to be able to see where you friendship ends and romance begins! Move on!!! Its normal to be close with a ... (read in full...)
I think my sister is up to no good. Any advice?
Q. hey a quick question im 19 and my sister is 23 and never had a proper boyfriend, she's had internet r/ships but in a yr n a half she only seen him twice.. me and her dont get on! we haven't spoke in 5yrs (even tho we share a house) she used to beat...
A. 17 April 2009: Leave her to it! Its got nothing to do with you what she does in her private life, if you are concerned then tell your mum or dad but don't approach her, she won't listen to you as you don't even speak to each other! If she's big and doesn't shower ... (read in full...)
Are orgasms really like many describe or is it exaggeration?
Q. My question is about female orgasms. :p I've been masturbating since I was about 16, and it's always felt really good. But most women seen to describe it differently (on the net, in books/writing).. I simply don't feel the same way. They describ...
A. 17 April 2009: I'm sure everyone feels it differently, a lot of things are exagerated so as long as you feel good when you have an orgasm then you're probably doing it right! X... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom?
Q. i am 15, i leave school in 5 weeks, i do use tampons but i dont know how to tell my mum. helppp ?! what shall i say ? ...
A. 17 April 2009: Why do you need to tell her? If its because then she can buy them for you because you're emabarrassed then don't be embarrassed, I work in a chemist and see loads of people coming in for tampons, don't worry!! Nobody thinks anything of it. I don't ... (read in full...)
How to get her feet up again? I am at lost here.
Q. I have known her for more than a year. Three or four months ago she broke off with her bf and she felt very sad. Now she looks like back to normal self but she seemed change in her behaviour. Nowadays she often looks for new guys to go out and meet...
A. 17 April 2009: She sounds like she could be depressed so she needs to go and see a doctor or a councellor! Or she genuinly could be happy with the way she lives so if I was you I would leave her alone, let her know that if she needs anyone then you are there for ... (read in full...)
Rules seem to be different at my age and I don't know what to do
Q. I am 53 years old, very active and vibrant 53 year old, have been divorced for 4 years, have not had a sexual relationship since then. I have met a very nice man and we have only had one date. We hit it off so great! and we did kiss passionately. ...
A. 17 April 2009: You're probably just nervous and you seem to be thinking of it too much. When you get there just try to relax, if the evening is meant to be then it should just flow! I'm sure that you won't get stuck for conversation, if you do then you can just ... (read in full...)
His comment to the porn and DVDs I found: "My private life is my private life". Is there hope in this marriage?
Q. I'm 33, and my husband's 35. I was off work yesterday and cleaning the house to make it look nice, since we have guests coming over at the weekend. Our house looked sparkling, and still does now. I was shocked however to discover DVDs hidden ...
A. 17 April 2009: Well to be honest it doesn't seem as if there is hope for your marriage! Couples aren't supposed to have private lives! They are supposed to be each others private lives! X... (read in full...)
Guys and scars
Q. i'm pointing this question mostly at the guys (and ladies, if u had something similar going on).. i've been through a surgery in the past year, which left about 2cm scars all over my chest and back - i had to remove about 30-40 tiny skin tumors...
A. 17 April 2009: Guys don't mind scars! You'll be fine! They are a sign that you were brave! You can also conceal the ones which stick out a lot with derma blend concealor, ask your doctor to reccomend something and it will take practice to apply it correctly. X
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Caught my daughter using a vibrator.
Q. im a dad and i cauht my dauther using a vibrater in her room shes 12 and what should i do...
A. 17 April 2009: I bet she is really embarrassed! Don't try to talk to her about sex! I would write her a little note saying that you are sorry for entering her room without knocking, avoid the actual subject! If she wants to talk then she'll talk to you. Do you ... (read in full...)
Why does he staring at me and says he likes me only as a friend?
Q. Well I have this good acquaintance of mine that kept on staring at me. Rumor has it that he has a gf. If not a gf, a girl he's crushing on. I know for a fact that that girl isn't me. So one day, my best friend decided to take matters on her o...
A. 16 April 2009:
He sounds like he's trying to get you to think about him more. When people stare at you it is often because they want to spark off some chemistry if they want attention. I would just drop the whole thing, only treat this guy as a friend and move... (read in full...)
Lack of oral sex in a relationship...
Q. I've been dating a girl for 2 years now, and we never have oral sex. She doesn't want me to do it for her, but I do want her to do it to me. I'm not selfish though, I'd go down on her 7 days a week if she'd let me. I love giving oral to women. ...
A. 16 April 2009: She may just feel insecure about her vagina, and its appearance. And she may not want to take you in her mouth because she may not like the taste, smell, feel of it...not everyone loves oral sex. I'm sure if she wants to do it then she will do it. ... (read in full...)
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