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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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Estranged from my child, how do I make it hurt less?
Q. I would like to address the painful side of Mothers Day! I know for a fact I am not the only one out there feeling sad this day! I am referring to Mothers who are astranged from their children. It hurts! We gave birth to these people! We did t...
A. 8 July 2009: That's amazing! I'm really glad for you and I hope everythig goes well. Xxx
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Fooling around...and now I cant pee!
Q. My boyfriend and I were messing around last week. Afterward, it hurt a little more than usual in the next couple of days, and a pain kept lingering. Yesterday, we got... um... naughty in a pool and now every time I use the bathroom I feel a searing...
A. 11 May 2009: You NEED to see a doctor and explain the situation! X... (read in full...)
I need help with my trust issues...any advice?
Q. help! im a 29yr old woman with a 10yr old daughter from a previous relationship. Ive been with my boyfriend (the 2nd one ive had since the split from my daughters dad when i was pregnant) for nearly two yrs...but i still dont entirely trust him and ...
A. 11 May 2009: I have been insecure in the past. I find that its important to boost your own self confidence, get a makeover and stuff like that so that you look great, this will make you feel better immediatly! A guy who wants to cheat will cheat so know matter ... (read in full...)
Was I sexually molested as a child?
Q. was i sexually molested as a child? my best friends dad stroked my breast once n my older cousin felt on my private parts when i was younger. if so, whom should i tell?...
A. 11 May 2009: You should tell the police because any other childre that they are near may be going through the same thing! X
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Do I trust logic? Or my intuition?
Q. So I have this moral dilemma. Basically my brain has more proof than it ever had before that things between me and my ex are through. She said to: "Leave me alone, and I will not read or listen to anything you have to say" That was about ...
A. 10 May 2009: Best thing to do it to change your phone number or ignore her! I have no idea what she is doing but she sounds like a weirdo! Leave her to her life, and you get on with yours! Only bad things will come from writing or speaking to her.x ... (read in full...)
Wife that cannot do without her parents...
Q. My wife can not leave without her parents they must be on the same roof and be together always,becuase that is the way they raised her up.We have two kids 7yrs and 4yrs old,they are been leaving with us for 7+yrs now anytime I ask her about when ...
A. 10 May 2009: I support her family orientated lifestyle, I think that it is a postive thing that she lives with her parents!
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Help with a seemingly impossible situation?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend now for nearly 2 and a half years. We've been having a lot of problems over say the last 6 months. I'm 19 as well as my girlfriend and I've been in a longish relationship before, whereas she hasn't. I'm feeling very ...
A. 10 May 2009: You both need to sit down and agree that lots of changes are needed and that you will discuss them with no arguments. Use a conversation structure when you say what you have noticed about what she does, how it makes you feel and how the two of you ... (read in full...)
Estranged from my child, how do I make it hurt less?
Q. I would like to address the painful side of Mothers Day! I know for a fact I am not the only one out there feeling sad this day! I am referring to Mothers who are astranged from their children. It hurts! We gave birth to these people! We did t...
A. 10 May 2009: You can't! Its something that you can't really change, the change has got to be made on her part. Sorry. Xxx... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I just can't do this anymore?
Q. I was in a relationship with this guy for three years. He was my first boyfriend and I was very much in love with him. However, when I left uni, we decided to end it as I was going off travelling. He came to visit a couple of times over that summer, ...
A. 10 May 2009: Just explain it to him. You have explained it clear enough to me so just tell him exactly how you feel. X
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Am I really that intolerant?
Q. I have been accused by a friend of being "fatphobic". This is something that's really been bothering me. I consider myself a really tolerant person, and usually dont arrive at an opinion unless I have thought it through very thoroughly, so this ...
A. 10 May 2009: I think the same! I don't see why they can't be more careful what goes into their mouths. They have no discepline! X... (read in full...)
Pains in chest when I breath
Q. Last Wednesdya I began getting pains in my chest when I breath. Its been almost a week of pain and my parents finally might take me to the doctors but they're afraid that I go and theres nothing wrong with me. Should I still go? The pain in my ribs ...
A. 10 May 2009: Pain is your bodys way of telling you that something is wrong! Go and see a doctor, your parents should have taken you right away as any pain in the chest is urgent!
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French kissing..how to react
Q. hi i am 13 and i have been going out with this boy for about 3 months and we really want to kiss he said he will kiss me the next time he gets me alone but i know boys put their tongue in your mouth and i don't know what to do or how to react if he ...
A. 10 May 2009: It will just flow naturally. You just open your mouth slightly and you can put your tongue in his mouth too, move it slowly and just copy whatever he does. Don't worry about it!! I didn't have a clue what to do when I first kissed a boy but it just ... (read in full...)
How effective is the morning after pill?
Q. THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT. Last night my boyfriend was at a party and got drunk. I was in my house with my friend. [i live with my boyfriend.] My friend and I had some alcohol too, so i was drunk. My friend left when my boyfriend got home. W...
A. 10 May 2009: The morning after pill is very effective and it can be effective up to 72 hours after. You can take a pregnancy test if you miss a period! X
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Why is she going around kissing all men?
Q. Hey I really need someones advice, my so called "best mate" used to come round my house after school occasionally, then she told me that she fancied both my brothers, one being 17 and one being 19 nearly 20, after she told me this she started to ...
A. 9 May 2009: She was using you for your brothers, you were right to fall out with her and you should not be her friend! She is a slut! X
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I'm looking for a nice job for my mother who doesn't have a GRE, any ideas?
Q. Hi everyone, my mom is 48 years old, and works as a home attendant. She hates her job with a passion, and wants to leave but does not know where to go. My father and I are of no help. The problem is she does not have a high school diploma, she ...
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Big fight over b/f's computer...was I wrong?
Q. I spent the night at my boyfriend's place last night. I was laid off 3 months ago, so I didn't really have anywhere important to go the next day. Well, my bf left for work at 7:15am this morning, and I woke up at 9:30am. I called my bf, as I ...
A. 8 May 2009: Your boyfriend is a major arse!
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Can you help me with some sex education about contraception?
Q. hey, i have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and i love him loads, we have had sex without condoms and also with them. we started having sex 2 months into the relationship and have used a condom like 10 times, we seen to have sex after i have ...
A. 8 May 2009: Sex is illegal in britain under the age of 16! Your boyfriend is officially a peadophile and could be ordered to sign the sex offenders register! This could prevent him from getting a job, being trusted, being near children.....you need to think how ... (read in full...)
Do I disappear until after the court case is handled?
Q. I have a problem with the man that I am dating now...the issue that we have come across is that the man that i am dating is going through a nasty custody battle and recently divorced. I have been dating him for about four months now and he has been ...
A. 8 May 2009: He has got a lot on his plate so you need to be patient. Him giving his mums number to you is a big thing! He wants you around long term!! Just be patient! Call him, but not too often, he needs space at the minute and he can't afford to mess up ... (read in full...)
Why does he say he has no money when I'm about?
Q. Right, first things first i love my boyfriend very very much and were about to celebrate our 2 yr anniversary however.. He is so selfish and whenever i bring this up he loses it and has a go at me making me feel small and in the wrong. For insta...
A. 8 May 2009: He sounds like he is sponging off you! You need to tell him to step up and be a man! He needs to be a gentleman and take care of you! Tell him that it would be a nice change if he took you somewhere once in a while. If he doesn't change then don't ... (read in full...)
How do you cope if they don't return your love?
Q. i am deeply in love with someone who doesn't feel the same way. All i want is him. He will make my life complete. He is the only person i have ever loved. i dont know what to do: im feeling sad depressed lonely and desperate. I don't k...
A. 8 May 2009: Most people would have felt this way at some pointn, unrequited love is a fact of life! And the only way to get over it is to keep busy, stay around friends and family! You'll get over it soon!x ... (read in full...)
Single mum can't cope with-out abusive boyfriend!
Q. hi all i have made a real mess of things so far, I have been in a relationship for 11 years and it was really bad he was very controlling and had no interest in the relationship. i have been told it was mentally abusive it feels like it was, but im ...
A. 8 May 2009: Well firstly, if you were my mum I would prefer to have nothing in the way of the best clothes and toys etc if it meant that you were out of the way of a cruel man! If you don't respect yourself enough to stay away from him then do it for your ... (read in full...)
He does everything for her and I always come last
Q. So I've been dating this guy for a year. When I met him he swore he was separated from his wife of ten years, mother of four children. When she found out about me she put a restraining order against him and me and him went through hell to try to get ...
A. 8 May 2009: If a man cannot support you then he is no good! You need to escape this situation now before he takes you for another ride! Shame on him for doing it once but sahme on you if he gets to do it for a second time. Dump him and leave! X... (read in full...)
Guys: What does it mean to you if she wants to swallow?
Q. Question for the guys. If a girl wants to swallow your cum, what does it mean to you? Is is special in an emotional way or purely sexual? ...
A. 8 May 2009: I'm sure lots of people view it as different things. ... (read in full...)
Have I fallen out of love?
Q. Dear readers, i have a dilemma and i dont know how to deal with it. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year and everything seems to be ok. But lately i have lost all feelings of love and affection for him. I dont know if its ...
A. 8 May 2009: I've felt like this before. I've been in my current relationship for nearly three years and there has been a phase where I have though 'what's the point?' But if you care for him then that's enough to get past the phase and hopefully you'll find ... (read in full...)
Will my lack of confidence with chatting on the phone affect a future relationship with this man?
Q. I have recently begun dating a lovely man, who I really like, and get along with well. We have only be on two dates, which were fantastic, and have plans for more. My question is about communication - we text/email and IM every day, but...
A. 8 May 2009: When I first started going out with my boyfriend he would phone me and as soon as I saw his name on the screen my mouth would become dry, my heart would beat really fast, my stomach would churn because of the butterflies and I would get really ... (read in full...)
What can I do to last longer in bed?
Q. What can I do to last longer in bed if it wasn't for the forplay I'd be done in minutes. I'm not selfish I always please her a few times orally first but when we make love and I'm looking at her bam I'm done.my wife is so hot I just can't control ...
A. 8 May 2009: That's really sweet and your wife must be flattered! You could try having a shower first and masturbating there? Then an hour later you could have sex with your wife? This usually helps most men! X... (read in full...)
I need to find an excuse to go up and talk to her... any ideas?
Q. Hi There's a girl I really fancy who goes to the same gym as I do and I have no idea how I can make contact with her. I see her there every friday and she seems really nice. I liked her from the first moment I saw her(over a year ago now)and ...
A. 8 May 2009: She could have a boyfriend, the way she acts sounds as if she does! I wouldn't try to talk to her, the gym is not a place to hook-up! X
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I'm over him... so why does my heart still race when I talk to him? I can't understand it!
Q. I'm 14 nearly 15 and for about 2 years I really liked this guy but a lot happened, we never went out and we stopped talking. I got over him and started going out with someone else. We dated for 3 months and have recently broke up. Me and the fir...
A. 8 May 2009: Its just because you're not over him fully! You need a little longer to distance your emotions from him! X... (read in full...)
How can I cheer myself up?
Q. I am really upset about leaving school although I am going to sixth form I will miss loads and loads of people and its really sad, I feel really depressed not seeing people I have known for most of life. How can I cheer myself up!!!...
A. 8 May 2009: Its normal to feel this way but its not as bad as you think it will be, there are plenty of ways of keeping in touch! I'm 19, I've been finished with school for 3 years and I still see my friends! And I have loads of new friends too, its part of ... (read in full...)
Why does my step-dad treat me so badly?
Q. I feel as if my stepdad hates me. He married my mum when i was about 16-17. And i had a crazy stepdad before that. But i have always got on with him, it has been my brother that has challenged him and they fought like cat and dog. Now all my stepd...
A. 8 May 2009: Maybe he just doesn't like you, we don't have to get on with everybody that we see. He may just favour your brother. If I was you I wouldn't get involved in any argument that he starts, if he starts yelling then simply don't talk to him, and don't ... (read in full...)
We aren't together but he sure shows signs that he likes me
Q. Ok lets say i a guy showed he liked you, used to stare at you loads and just really showed it and you coul sense there was something there. Then someone got jealous and so turned people against me which made people think i wasnt a nice ...
A. 8 May 2009: There is a chance that he likes you, but he is feeling peer pressure and he doesn't want to say. If I was you I would focus on someone else because I wouldn't want a boyfriend who won't stick up for me! If he's just worried what other people will ... (read in full...)
Co-worker friend bi-sexual and making comments
Q. so i recently began a new job at a grocery store. I have became friends with some people that i work with which is natural. I have been working here for about a month and i discovered my friend "michelle" is bi. She recently told me that "you can't ...
A. 8 May 2009: Just because she's slightly flirty with you doesn't mean she fancies you! Its like if a guy said that you probably wouldn't think anything of it, you would just pass it off as a man thing! So just ignore any comments that she makes of this nature, ... (read in full...)
Should I try to fix things with him?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend last week because i found out about another girl. mybest friend told me after all the trouble i've been through with him i should try to move on andtalk to someone new.so thats what i did..moved realllyyy fast and rushed ...
A. 8 May 2009: If your old boyfriend has been causing you a lot of heartache then its best not to go down that route! Don't try to fix things!! And make sure you don't get a name for yourself, people who move from one person to the next quickly get known as sluts! ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him and he wants me to meet his new girlfriend
Q. I have fallen in love with a friend of mine. I have never told him how I feel, although he must know that I am attracted to him as we have slept together in the past. This only made our friendship stronger. Nothing romantically came from it, in part ...
A. 8 May 2009: Ending the friendship would be a very selfish act on your part! He doesn't know that you like him, some people need things spelt out for them, so its your fault that he Is oblivious. Focus your attention on something else and keep yourself busy, ... (read in full...)
Can we rekindle what we had?
Q. Hello, me and my girlfriend just broke up, for reasons ill go into now She signed upto a dating site and i kind of found out, but she said she was just looking for friends, sempt abit odd but nevertheless she carried on chatting to a guy. Thi...
A. 8 May 2009: She shouldn't have signed up to a dating site so no wonder you were angry! You had a right to act like you did, its perfectly normal to react that way! If my boyfriend did that I would end it with him! She's being a bitch at the minute, meeting a ... (read in full...)
Is he just saying this to get me off his back?
Q. can someone please help me with this problem? so me and my boyfriend broke up after 9 months and i really love him and it was my fault so i'm begging him to come back. i treated him badly and he told menot to push things and i said if i stop pus...
A. 8 May 2009: He means that if you stop being pushy and needy then he may take you back? He means what he says... (read in full...)
Scared to tell the guy I like my true feelings!
Q. im 15 and im gay and i really like this guy and weve spent a lot of time together and hes really friendly towards me im not sure if hes gay im a bit nervous to tell him about my feelings im a bit worried about it getting out that im gay i really ...
A. 8 May 2009: Why don't you just ask him if he is gay first? Then you don't have to tell him that you are! If he says yes then I would say that its ok to tell him how you feel, but if he denies it then I would just focus on getting over him! X... (read in full...)
Is this guy into me?
Q. there was this guy in my class last year i've talked to him and flirted but i guess it wasnt that much of flirting cuz he couldnt see the board and he was a skater boy so he didnt want to wear glasses..so i would always help him out and tell him wat ...
A. 8 May 2009: If a guy doesn't write back to a message he wants you to take the hint that he's not into you. Focus your attention on someone else because there's no chance with this guy! X... (read in full...)
Balance between friends and the relationship - has he gone too far?
Q. I’m having a rather annoying problem with my boyfriend. We had been best friends before getting together, and during the time where we became good friends he began to ignore his male friends. For the past few months, 2 or 3, he has been spending a ...
A. 8 May 2009: You are right to feel this way, sorry to break the news but he must not feel the same about you anymore. He sounds as if he has gone off you. Try talking to him again and explain your situation in the same way as you have wrote this question, if ... (read in full...)
Madly in love with a man who is engaged!
Q. hi am in the same situation as all of u, i am involved with a man for the past 3 yrs and he is already engaged i am madly in love with him bt he is still with his fiancee most of th e time he spent with me infact when i say i'll leave he come to ...
A. 8 May 2009: End any relationship that you have with him and focus on getting over him! You are being disrespectful to his fiance! And you have no dignity or pride by doing this! Have some self respect and get over him! X... (read in full...)
He won't let me swallow his semen
Q. My partner wont let me swallow his semen? How do I persuade him. I have had it only once and loved it as I accept it as part of him. Any suggestions....
A. 8 May 2009: Semen tastes horrible! How can you like it? Ewwww! He probably thinks it tastes aweful too and he doesn't want to make you go through that! Could he have a std of anything like that? He could be thinking that it can't be passed on if you don't ... (read in full...)
I rushed into marriage and now have serious regrets
Q. I met a man 6 weeks ago, and fell head over heels, but I need to mention I just came from a divorce at the end of january. I agreed in a week to marry him, I was stupid. I realize now I made a mistake, this man is very insecure, accusing me ...
A. 8 May 2009: Leave him, he's not stable enough to deal with a marriage! X... (read in full...)
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