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hi, i'm kelly.

i live in England.

i love helping people with problems,i am good at it as i am a rational person.

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Life is too short for...

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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...

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Boyfriend's mother driving me insane!

Q.   My boyfriends mum is driving me insane. I am pregnant and this is her first grandchild so I understand that she is super excited. But she's being so controlling, it's unreal. She treats my boyfriend like he is a child (he's 23), she speaks to...

A.   14 June 2009: Omg anon!!! Can't believe how old fashioned your response is!! People have babies before they are married all of the time for many reasons! Many people want to save the money they would spend on a ceremony and spend it on their child instead! ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's mother driving me insane!

Q.   My boyfriends mum is driving me insane. I am pregnant and this is her first grandchild so I understand that she is super excited. But she's being so controlling, it's unreal. She treats my boyfriend like he is a child (he's 23), she speaks to...

A.   14 June 2009: Have you spoken to your boyfriend? You need to see how he feels about this. If you both feel the same then sit down with her and talk about what is acceptable and what is not. X... (read in full...)

I'm doing something I think is important, but my g/f is afraid for me

Q.   I'm 18 almost 19 and I'm signing up for the Army, I believe there is a great career in the Army and I think it will be rewarding to do, helping people all over the world. But my girlfriend is very worried and at one point she cried. I really want to ...

A.   13 June 2009: If my boyfriend did this I would leave him! This is a dick move! X ... (read in full...)

I want to have sex and yet am repulsed by it

Q.   I've never heard of anybody who has this problem. I am a man in my late 20's, who like most other men is desperate to have sex, yet at the same time I'm repulsed by it. The reason why is because I despise the human race, I view all emotions as ...

A.   12 June 2009: You need to see a psychologist. ... (read in full...)

13 and I think I'm pregnant! Help

Q.   help me please im 13 and me and boyfriend have had sex lots of times but once we had sex without a condom and he pulled out before he came but i found out that that doesnt work and im really scared im pregnat... please help me... i dont know wat to ...

A.   12 June 2009: You need to do a pregnancy test! Duh! ... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend, but have butterflies over another boy

Q.   Heyy aunt's and uncles. I feel so bad, and i havent even done anything. I need major advice. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. Im only 16, and hes 17, but where in the same year in school, as ill be 17 in july! He arranged a sup...

A.   12 June 2009: Boonridge- they have been going out for a while so there must be some trust there and he took her passport as the holiday was a suprise! He may have wanted to keep it with his in preparation for the holiday to make sure that she wouldn't have ... (read in full...)

He wants to go away for six months

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. i am 20 and he is 22. we have a very good relationship, we enjoy each others company and make each other very happy. however there is one problem... at the end of this year he is thinking ...

A.   12 June 2009: You've already posted this once, why do it again? ... (read in full...)

Period problems....

Q.   Hi!!! Im having some period problem. I used to have normal period before but it have been few month Im feeling some problem on it, I feel some blood on my penty and it stops for 2 to 3 days and then normal bleeding starts and it last for 4 days. Im ...

A.   12 June 2009: Go to a doctor, we can't advise on medical issues! ... (read in full...)

Compulsive liar? Or am I just paranoid?

Q.   I've been seeing this guy for like over a month, we're 23/24 and met over the net. Lately I've noticed little things like, inconsistency in the things he says. Like, I'll ask which days he has off work, he'll say Tues and Weds. Then later I asked,...

A.   12 June 2009: Sounds like something isn't right, bring this up in conversation! Ask him why he never has a straight story! X ... (read in full...)

I keep getting dumped!

Q.   Please help, I am going out tonight, but I know that the guy I've been seeing is going to end things with me tonight, as he's been withdrawn lately. What really gets me is that it always happens to me, around about a few months into things, every ...

A.   12 June 2009: Maybe you are doing something subconsciously as you have got into the habit of being dumped. X ... (read in full...)

Did I cheat on my girlfriend?

Q.   Hey, me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 months and a half now and i love being with her and always look forward to speaking to her everynight and we are constantly speaking and she makes me so happy. I love my life at the moment. Howe...

A.   12 June 2009: If it was forced upon you then its not cheating. Its not worth mentioning to your girlfriend, she may get upset about it and not see it from a balanced point of view.x ... (read in full...)

I don't want to be faking it!

Q.   I lost my virginity a few weeks ago to my boyfriend, and it was painful and there was blood. We've been continuing to have sex since, I have the conctraceptive implant (Implanon) so we have stopped using condoms in order to feel eachother properly. ...

A.   12 June 2009: Yes you may be covered for pregnancy but implanon doesn't stop STI and STD! Have you both been checked? If not then don't you think its stupid to stop using a condom? ... (read in full...)

Break up because of no sex?

Q.   If your girlfriend doesn't have sex with you is it a valid reason to break up with her after you have tried communication?...

A.   11 June 2009: No! ... (read in full...)

What approach should we use in talking to our daughter about dating/sex?

Q.   We need advice about our 15 yo daughter, sex, and questions she's asking us. Our daughter is 15 1/2 and we told her she could start dating this summer as long as her grades her good. She is a really good kid, and always has almost all 'A's and maybe ...

A.   11 June 2009: Just explain to her that its ok to date and the first person she dates may not be the person she marries. Tell her that she should only have sex when she's ready, and she should only do other stuff when she's ready. There's not much you can say ... (read in full...)

I love him so much but there are bedroom problems!

Q.   I love my boyfriend so much, but we're having a bit of problem in the bedroom. We, or rather I, am having two issues, our sex life has become monotonous and it's not great anyway. Firstly, he's so vanilla with regards to sex I'm not sure what to ...

A.   11 June 2009: Have you tried out durex perform condoms? They contain a cream inside which numbs the penis slightly so he won't have to concentrate on lasting longer! This will give you more time to do different things and he will have lots of confidence in what ... (read in full...)

I'm so scared about my skin cancer!

Q.   hey .. im a 15 year old girl and i need sum advice .. i am a carer of my mum who has skin cancer and i found out i do to .. and she is always in hospital .. and wen she 1st started gettin it she had a lump (sist) on the inside of her mouth ... an...

A.   9 June 2009: You need to go to the doctor, and tell your mum. Personal message me if you need any other advise. X... (read in full...)

He wants me to give my virginity to him to show my love

Q.   Hey frnds plz............ help me to come out of the complicated situation. For the last 4 years i am in relationship with a married man. Though he never forced me for anything, i was equally involved. we both r Indians and in India this type of ...

A.   9 June 2009: Don't give him your viginity! X... (read in full...)

Can anyone tell me about England?

Q.   can anyone here who lives in England tell me how great a place it is to be in? ever since i met this girl from England over the internet 5 months ago, i have become fascinated over England and English girls and their accents, etc. now i find myself ...

A.   9 June 2009: Hello, I'm from england. You could personal message me if you would like? X ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid to give him a hand job as I don't know how!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating since October of 2008 and I love him to pieces. In March, I lost my virginity to him and I don't regret it at all. When it comes to sexual things, he's fingered me, we've had sex(regular and doggy style), he's ...

A.   9 June 2009: You just move your hand up and down! Its easy! You could even ask him to show you, then you will know exactly what to do! Then you just have to work on how tight to grip it, he can alson show you this by gripping your finger, you just have to ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid to give him a hand job as I don't know how!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating since October of 2008 and I love him to pieces. In March, I lost my virginity to him and I don't regret it at all. When it comes to sexual things, he's fingered me, we've had sex(regular and doggy style), he's ...

A.   9 June 2009: You just move your hand up and down! Its easy! You could even ask him to show you, then you will know exactly what to do! Then you just have to work on how tight to grip it, he can alson show you this by gripping your finger, you just have to ... (read in full...)

Sex life totally sucks

Q.   My husband(28) and I(27) have been together for 3 years in the beging we had GREAT sex all the time. Then i got pregnant 4 months into our relashiop and we couldnt have sex due to complactions in the pregnancy. Once i had the baby and we were ...

A.   8 June 2009: Masturbate to relieve some of your urges, then when you feel ready sex will be easier for both of you as you'll feel more relaxed. Don't forget that sex isn't just about the orgasm, its about the closeness. Tell your pertner how you feel. X ... (read in full...)

How to tell my mother that I'm an atheist?

Q.   It's no so much of a question that requires an answer, more of a comment with follow-ups I'm an atheist the reason i don't believe in god is because the world is jacked up. I really don't believe in religion because of what it has done for the wor...

A.   8 June 2009: Why do you have to tell anyone? ... (read in full...)

Just a quick question on premature ejaculation.

Q.   Hi there I just wondered has anyone cured their premature ejaculation? I've been having sex for over 2 years now and cannot last any more than 10 seconds. Thanks everyone...

A.   7 June 2009: See a doctor! Don't be embarrassed! X ... (read in full...)

He Cheated on me for months & lied about it: Do I end it?

Q.   My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me and I cannot continue to be with him. Am I doing the right thing by ending it? We fell in love and lived together for several months, but he had to move for job reasons. Ever since that time, we have been lon...

A.   7 June 2009: Don't give cheaters a second chance! Stay away from him, you'll be doing the right thing! X... (read in full...)

Would I meet girls in bars and night clubs?

Q.   I am a fat, balding, bespectacled, virgin, 25 year old guy who is studying and working in a small town in the US. I do think girls sometimes give me looks, and maybe I'm not as ugly as I think myself to be. I honestly don't know. I'm too shy to...

A.   7 June 2009: You sound like you have a ngeative opinion of yourself and most girls are attracted to confidence! You need to be confident and you should attract more girls, regardless of location. Also, maybe losing abit of weight would improve the situation ... (read in full...)

Friends don't go out anymore, I feel so trapped!

Q.   Hi I am 21 years old and thinking about moving away. most of my friends here dont really go out anymore and I have never felt so alone. The only thing is I live with my grandparents and mum so I would feel awful just leaving them but I am really u...

A.   7 June 2009: Do you work? If so do you never go out with work collegues? Everywhere you go there will be people who don't want to go out so if you don't want to move away why don't you try to meet new people closer to home? Join a club to do with something ... (read in full...)

How can I hide birth control from my mom?

Q.   MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post. Okay here's a classic: How can I hide birth control from my mom? I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide t...

A.   7 June 2009: You could just put one letter, or a scramble of letters because then it looks like you have just left your phone unlocked and have set a reminder by accident. Can you set it to vibrate too, then it won't be as obvious it could just look like you ... (read in full...)

I feel like I"m never good enough

Q.   i have never been the center of attention. im always feeling like im never pretty enough, smart enough, nice enough etc. i hate this feeling and im always envious of my friends. im especially jealous of an ex friend of mine, who despite her ...

A.   6 June 2009: Just because you don't stand out doesn't mean you're a waste of space! There are plenty of people who feel like they don't stand out! And the people who do stand out often do this for the wrong reasons! Chill out, be yourself, and take a compliment ... (read in full...)

Going back and forth between 2 brothers, cheating, rape

Q.   hi i realy need help on this i had a baby a few months ago and i got postnatel depression and i started to hang about wid a friend and my boyfriends brother and my boyfriend was never supportive when my depression got worse so i turned to his ...

A.   6 June 2009: It was rape! Don't stay with him! And don't go with his brother! Get yourself out of this triangle and be alone for a while! ... (read in full...)

Any good positions you recommend for sex with new partner?

Q.   I turn 18 tomorrow and have been seeing a 37 yr old man for exactly one month today. We're planning on having sex tomorrow because neither of us want him to get into any legal trouble. Does anyone know of any good positions that we could try out? ...

A.   6 June 2009: Ewwww, it would be like having sex with someone who is old enough to be your dad! Becareful not to wear him out, go on top so he won't have to do any work! ... (read in full...)

My wife has doubled in size, I've lost interest in sex..do I leave her to get her to get in shape?

Q.   When I proposed to my wife she was 5' and a perfect size zero. She had lovely long hair and walked like a graceful lady. Exactly my type. Now after 15 yrs of marriage she's a size 14-16 w/ short hair and walks like a chimp. Doubling her weight ...

A.   6 June 2009: She is your wife, you should love her unconditionally! You make me sick, if you were my husband I would leave you because you sound like a slime ball! ... (read in full...)

How should I ask him if he wants to meet?

Q.   I am going to see a show in a theatre soon.I sort of know one of the actors in it.We have never met in person, we have just spoke online a little bit.He is on a social networking site.I was wondering whether to ask him if he'd like to meet at the ...

A.   6 June 2009: Have you spoken to him before? Sounds like you're a crazy fan so I wouldn't try to meet up with him! X... (read in full...)

Is it safe to do this with a prostitute?

Q.   MOD NOTE: Two questions from this person have been put into one post, as they are of a similar subject. I am wanting to experience a golden shower with a prostitute. Is this safe enough. Could I catch any diseases? Is oral sex safe with a prostit...

A.   6 June 2009: Its not safe in any way! Prostitutes are diseases on legs! X... (read in full...)

I feel like other's have forgotten me

Q.   i feel like im a very forgettable person. my close group of friends are always getting invited to parties and so is my boyfriend, who is known around school as the cool funny guy. everyone knows me and they see me as a friendly nice girl but it ...

A.   6 June 2009: Have you actually tried to leave an impression with people? You need to be very outgoing!! Or have you ever thought that maybe people don't like you as much as you think they do? X... (read in full...)

The pain from my past has numbed me

Q.   so thru my life I have endured quite a bit of pain. my first love was killed when I was only 16. my next girlfriend at 17 left me to go live in another state and before she left she told me I was nothing and broke me. after a month or so I found ...

A.   6 June 2009: You have had it tough! Please don't give up trying to feel things for people! Have you had counselling? You sound as if you would benefit from it, I would enquire about it. If you need anyone to speak to then personal message me, I haven't had as ... (read in full...)

I daydream about others, sex and negative nasty thoughts

Q.   im 15 and i have negative nasty thoughts going threw my head like sex and other thoughts and when i do day dream its about mostly other people even some i don't know having sex and doing other things and i hate that all i think about is other people ...

A.   6 June 2009: Its normal to think about other people, have you had sex yourself yet? Its normal to be curious, its probably just a phase. Don't come down on yourself hard for it, you aren't doing anything wrong. X ... (read in full...)

Are older men quick to say I love you? Are looks more important?

Q.   I was wondering do men in 25 and above are easily admit or telling the girls they like or love that they love them even if their feeling toward the girl isn't that strong? and I want to know why most of men looking for beauty and caring about it...

A.   6 June 2009: Each man is different so you can't put them into a group like this. It totally depends on personality and their feelings. ... (read in full...)

Why won't my boyfriend forgive my cheating?

Q.   i ve cheated on my boyfriend and asked for forgivenness but he hardens up whereas he has cheated too although not caught redhanded but he still makes life difficult for me....

A.   6 June 2009: The bottom line is that everyone is different about how they handle things, I couldn't forgive someone who cheated on me so I'm with your boyfriend on this. I know he's cheated on you too and you have forgave him but that's you! You shoudlnt have ... (read in full...)

What should I expect for my first time?? how can we make it "easier" on me?

Q.   i'm almost 18 and i'm still a virgin... not that i'm upset or ashamed about it, i'm actually quite proud. Me and my bf have been dating for 5mths, and i think i'm finally ready to have sex. I love my bf, and completely trust him... but i'm stil...

A.   6 June 2009: I don't think he will expect it all of the time, you just need to communicate afterwards properly. My first time didn't hurt at all and there was no blood but there are a few people who say it hurt them. It won't hurt that much if it does hurt so ... (read in full...)

How can I hide birth control from my mom?

Q.   MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post. Okay here's a classic: How can I hide birth control from my mom? I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide t...

A.   6 June 2009: Have you got a calender on your phone? You could set a reminder on there for the same time evryday to take it. Or pick a show on tv which is on everyday and watch it then tale your pill after it. There's not really a way of remembering where the ... (read in full...)

Sex with my ex but he has a pregnant girlfriend, I feel I'm going mad!

Q.   Help me please im really messed up i split with my guy last year but im still in love with him we where only together for 8 months, The thing is he now has a gf and sees pregnent and i wish it was me that was having this baby, and the other day i ac...

A.   5 June 2009: I agree totally with anonomous, he's a sleaze for doing that to the mother of his child! You should feel ashamed to! You should know better! X... (read in full...)

How can I hide birth control from my mom?

Q.   MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post. Okay here's a classic: How can I hide birth control from my mom? I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide t...

A.   5 June 2009: The rug sounds good becasue then she won't stand on them, does she hoover your room though? And does she lift the rug? If she hoovers then offer to start doing chores and just say you'd like to take some of the load. That way she won't have to ... (read in full...)

How can I hide birth control from my mom?

Q.   MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post. Okay here's a classic: How can I hide birth control from my mom? I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide t...

A.   5 June 2009: How often do you see your boyfriend? If you see him everyday you could ask him to keep hold of them? You could put each of the tablet packets under a rug if you have one (needs to be quite thick though) its just a matter of looking around your room ... (read in full...)

How can I hide birth control from my mom?

Q.   MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post. Okay here's a classic: How can I hide birth control from my mom? I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide t...

A.   5 June 2009: Keep in in a handbag at all times, put it inside a sock in a drawer of socks, hide the pill packets inside a dvd case and put the dvd somewhere she won't think of going, put the pill packets inside a boot and put the boots at the bottom of a ... (read in full...)

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