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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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The worst haircut of my life! How do I tell her?
Q. my friend who is in beauty school (almost done) , cut my hair the other day. she did such a bad job, what makes it worse she loves it. my husband said it kind of looks like an 80s mullet, :/ my mom just said omg. i called my cousin who has been a ...
A. 27 May 2009: Just keep telling her that you have already said that someone else can do it. Get it done as soon as possible and then she won't be able to so it! X... (read in full...)
I was sweaty and smelly. Did this ruin my chances with her?
Q. Hey Everybody, Basically, I was at university playing some pickup soccer with some of my friends, but there was this new girl playing with us and she had to guard me, so i was taking it easy on her and everything right, but I noticed that she...
A. 23 May 2009: Its normal to smell and sweat during sports so if I found someone attractive and I was playinh sports with them then it wouldn't put me off. X
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I was sweaty and smelly. Did this ruin my chances with her?
Q. Hey Everybody, Basically, I was at university playing some pickup soccer with some of my friends, but there was this new girl playing with us and she had to guard me, so i was taking it easy on her and everything right, but I noticed that she...
A. 23 May 2009: Its normal to smell and sweat during sports so if I found someone attractive and I was playinh sports with them then it wouldn't put me off. X
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No protection, change of pregnancy?
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend yesterday but without protection.my periods date is coming nearer,one day after,ie tomorrow.Do i have chances to get pregnant by chance....
A. 23 May 2009: Yes, any unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy and sti's! X... (read in full...)
The worst haircut of my life! How do I tell her?
Q. my friend who is in beauty school (almost done) , cut my hair the other day. she did such a bad job, what makes it worse she loves it. my husband said it kind of looks like an 80s mullet, :/ my mom just said omg. i called my cousin who has been a ...
A. 23 May 2009: If you are getting it sorted out then there is no need to tell her. If she notices a change then you could say that she inspired you! X... (read in full...)
Bedroom troubles
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months and getting along great. In the bedroom seems to be a problem, keeping it up. Once in a while it works, other times he will be erect but go right back down, or never come up. I know he is very ...
A. 21 May 2009: He may have erectile dysfunction. Factors which contribute towards ED are-obesity, smoking, poor diet, not enough excersise, age.....he needs to go and see a doctor, its not your fault. X... (read in full...)
I'm being messed about by my Ex. What should I do?
Q. my ex broke up with me over a txt months ago, i think i still got feelings for him so when he emailed today i agreed to meet up with him but he keeps avoiding to come and meet me saying we shoud meet when your better to talk He's been begging me ...
A. 21 May 2009: If you feel as though you want to move on then MOVE ON! He sounds like he is messing you around! X... (read in full...)
How can I force my girlfriend into dropping some weight?
Q. Ive been dating my girlfriend off and on for two years. We are both in our 40's and she is a couple of years older than me and has two grown up kids. We get on really great and spend a lot of time together, although we don't live together. She is a...
A. 21 May 2009: You are being totally selfish, don't expect any help from this site. If anyone else reads this I'm sure they'll feel the same! Accept her as she is! 10lbs is nothing!!! ... (read in full...)
Messed up first time sex, now terrified of women!
Q. Can anyone help me please. I'm too embarrassed to talk about this to anyone even to a counsellor. The thing is, I know I should just go up to a woman ask her out and see what happens from there but its a lot harder for me now than when I first st...
A. 21 May 2009: You know what you need to do but if you feel as if you can't just get on with your life then you need a counsellor, don't be embarrassed, x... (read in full...)
How do deal with a drama-queen collegue?
Q. So this is not a love life question but a social challenge question. my co-worker is a complete drama queen! she and i work in the same office just a few feet a way from each other. she is so bossy and trys to belittle me every chance that she ...
A. 21 May 2009: Ignore her? Just don't take her on. On the other hand you could try to be her friend, ask her out for drinks and get to know her, start acting like her when you are aroung her, she may be nicer then. X... (read in full...)
"Dearest" in an email.... what does this mean?
Q. My Husband was exchanging some fishy emails with a female co worker a while ago, we sorted that out eventually and he promised he will stop that, just yesterday I found an email from her addressing him with "dearest", what's this, what does that ...
A. 21 May 2009: This Is not right, it is a term of endearment which means that they are closer than they should be! If my boyfriend received this I would be going mad! X... (read in full...)
If he wanted a fling you would think he would choose a girl he has less history with!
Q. *answers from guys REALLY appreciated* Hi, I'm female, 21yrs old. My best friend (male) has been confusing me. At my 21st bday he kissed me now he acts like it never happened. (I posted a different question about the same guy a while back http:...
A. 21 May 2009: Why don't you just ask him? We aren't mind readers. We can't give you an answer, you should speak to him. X... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend want us to get back together or is he just lonely?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend broke up with me a couple months ago because of growing tensions. We had been together over a year and talked marriage. A month into our breakup, he started traveling for work. He'll be traveling for a few months. At that same time ...
A. 21 May 2009: Sounds like you are developing a friendship, it may be because he is lonely. I don't think he wants to get back together becuae the conversations would be deeper. X... (read in full...)
How can I forgive myself for something that I have done?
Q. Hi i just have a short post. Can anyone help learn how to forgive myself for a wrong thing i have done, im living a nitemare, i need some help xxxxx...
A. 21 May 2009: Depends what you have done. There is not enough information here, you need to explain. X... (read in full...)
Part of me is craving being single, and the other part loves my perfect girlfriend!
Q. So, I've been going out with long-term girlfriends for the past five years, since I was 15. There's never been much of a gap between long-term relationships. The first turned out to be a compulsive liar and screwed with my head quite badly, the ...
A. 21 May 2009: People always think that 'the grass in greener on the other side' be content with what you have as the alternative isn't always as good as it seems. Respect your girlfriend and stop looking at other girls! X... (read in full...)
The great porn debate
Q. p /> Please check out this post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-could-he-hurt-me-by-watching-pornography.html I was trawling through the site the other day and found the question above. Everyone congratulated this girl jessica on ...
A. 21 May 2009: I understand what you are saying, I don't think my boyfriend watches porn (if he does he hides it very well) but its totally unacceptable to me! I stopped smoking for him, so I think he should Be able to give up things for me. If you can't give pron ... (read in full...)
She smokes! Why do I want her?
Q. i'm a freak right. The fact that some girl smokes turns me on and makes me want her, why am i weird like that? ...
A. 21 May 2009: Smoking causes hundreds of illnesses and diseases, cancer, tumors........ She'll probably die younger that the age she would have died if she didn't smoke so if you got married then you would be arranging her funeral. Smoking decreases fertility so ... (read in full...)
Any advice on allergies?
Q. This is a health question not a relationship question. I went to the doctor because I thought I had ear infections and tonsillitis, which I didn't I got diagnosed with hay fever or really really bad allergies that cause liquid behind my ears a...
A. 21 May 2009: Go back to the doctor and tell him, he may be able to give you something else! X... (read in full...)
He was naked, I had on jeans..wondering if I'm pregnant
Q. Hello, I'm a virgin and I haven't had intercourse. However, my boyfriend and I were doing sexual stuff like oral sex and such. The one thing that has me scared is that I was really wet, but I had my jeans on. They're not heavy denim jeans more like ...
A. 20 May 2009: Its unlikely you are pregnant if there was a barrier protecting you such as your jeans. If your period doesn't arrive then buy a pregnancy test as soon as possible. Don't worry for now though, it sounds like your mind Is playing tricks! X
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Is there a word for the male version of pretty?
Q. i have been dating this guy and hes so nice and when we're together he calls me pretty. the thing is i dont know how reciprocate to that. he is a very good looking guy and i want to say he is but i dont know how to say that. when he says you're ...
A. 20 May 2009: Handsome. X... (read in full...)
I feel trapped by my extremely controlling girlfriend, but I think I love her... what should I do?
Q. Alright, so I really need help here. I have been with this girl for almost 2 months now. Basically, I feel soooooo trapped. She seems so controlling, untrusting, etc. I need opinions on what to do. Basically, She wants my myspace passwor...
A. 20 May 2009: To anon answer poster- its stepford wives not 'stanford wives' ... (read in full...)
Took a test, negative, could I still be pregnant if I haven't gotten my period?
Q. I was on Birth Control for 2 years, went off of it, didnt get my period for 2 months. Then I had unprotected sex, missed my period (i figured it was probably going to be the same 2 month delay). Still havent gotten my period (3 weeks late). Had ...
A. 20 May 2009: If you have had unprotected sex then there is always a chance that you could be pregnant! ... (read in full...)
Does the amount of lovers you've had in the past matter?
Q. Hi, I'm 24 and just broken up with my boyfriend. He made me feel pretty bad a lot of the time and one of the things he said which upset me was that I've slept with loads of people and I'm a slag. He used to count on his fingers the people he kn...
A. 19 May 2009: It would matter a lot to me if it was my boyfriend who had a lot of sexual partners?! X... (read in full...)
I can't get a boyfriend
Q. 16 year old girl, at an all girls school, have a mixed group of friends that i go out with regularly and were even going on holiday together so i have guy-friends, its just guys never seem interested in me. its not that i want to go somewher...
A. 17 May 2009: Don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you. I had issues like this a few years ago! When you least expect it you will get into a relationship! I was single for ages and then I got happy with being single, I then met my current boyfriend and we have ... (read in full...)
Anyone have any information about cytomegalovirus?
Q. Hello!. well, I had a blood test just as my medical annual checking and i came positive for cytomegalovirus.. i have been reading some things and most are related to pregnancy.. so my question is, does anyone know what this is? cause i have ...
A. 17 May 2009: Best to just see your doctor, you're looking for advice in the wrong place. X
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What is wrong with sex between brothers and sisters?
Q. Ok I know sex between brothers and sisters is considered wrong by most people. Why? I mean if they love each other and make sure they don't have any children, what is wrong with sharing that love physically? ...
A. 17 May 2009: It is wrong because the brother and sister would have to be sick in the head to even contemplate it! Its discusting! ... (read in full...)
My voice hasn't broke yet
Q. hi. i am 14 and my voice hasn't broken. My friends said not all peoples voices break is this true and when will my voice break. Thanks...
A. 17 May 2009:
Not all boys notice when their voice breaks. It can happen very gradually. Don't worry about it! I'm sure there's nothing wrong! X... (read in full...)
He treats me well but I've caught him in lies
Q. okay right i've been with this guy for a year yesterday he treats me so much, like yesterday he took me shopping with £300 he spoils me so much. the last 2 months, we've been going down hill. he's lied to me over our relationship. At the begi...
A. 17 May 2009: Dump this liar!!!! I've been out with a guy like this and it ended up in tears! X... (read in full...)
She has been faking orgasms and I just now figured out it was all an act!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for a month and a half and within the first week of our relationship we began having sex. Every time we had intercourse she "acted" like she was orgasming and I didn't question her but I had my doubts. Well about a ...
A. 17 May 2009: She did it for a good readon, the best thing to do is to let it go. Forget this little lie! Xxx... (read in full...)
Should I give my union documentation that they should have on file already?
Q. Your union should work for you that is, your union works on your behalf. But if they breach the contract, allow employers to bypass union/company policies, and wrongfully terminate employees what should I do when they call asking for documentation ...
A. 16 May 2009: This is not a relationship issue
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Should I give my union documentation that they should have on file already?
Q. Your union should work for you that is, your union works on your behalf. But if they breach the contract, allow employers to bypass union/company policies, and wrongfully terminate employees what should I do when they call asking for documentation ...
A. 16 May 2009: This is not a relationship issue
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Should I give my union documentation that they should have on file already?
Q. Your union should work for you that is, your union works on your behalf. But if they breach the contract, allow employers to bypass union/company policies, and wrongfully terminate employees what should I do when they call asking for documentation ...
A. 16 May 2009: This is not a relationship issue
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Sex brings on terrible cramps & pain..does anyone know why?
Q. this is a serious question, its a bit crazy. i know you guus arent doctors or anything, i just want some advice so i dont feel so alone on this issue, i dont have insurance either, so if it is serious i cant really do anything about it. i am a ...
A. 16 May 2009: There is defo something wrong here, you need to go and see a doctor, you could have an ovarian cyst as this is one of the symptoms. But I'm not a doctor, go and see one! X... (read in full...)
She still has pictures of her ex's on her PC...
Q. Hi guys, I have been seeing a new girl for the past 2 months or so. We get on great, shes loveable, gorgeous, smart, everything I want her to be however, there is something that concerns me. She still has pictures of her and her exes (like 4 guys) ...
A. 15 May 2009: It is out of order, you need to tell her that having these pictures and talking about her ex's is un acceptable!! Its not normal at all! If I was you I would tell her they need to go asap! X... (read in full...)
Why don't I ever have long relationships???
Q. Hey! Every relationship i have never lasts more than a month and a half..( thats really lucky) and i have been in relationships in the past 8 months and all ove thought about is my ex now were back togeher nearly for a month i dont see any point in...
A. 15 May 2009: If your mums attitude continues to be nagative you need to tell her to stop it! Its not right for her to speak like that. And as for you, your age bracket says that you are 16-17? Is that correct? If so then its normal for relationship to not last ... (read in full...)
Is it realistic to expect a guy in his 20's to be content with taking things slow?
Q. I've been reading lots of questions and answers on here and there seems to be a general consensus that if a guy truly likes you as a person and is interested in pursuing a relationship with you he will wait for sex/intimacy, won't pressure you and ...
A. 15 May 2009: I truly believe that a guy is capablebof taking it slow! There's still hope out there, I'm sure you'll find someone who is right for you. I've been in similar situations as you but you can't let them contribute to forming sterotypes or negativity! X... (read in full...)
Do I deserve to get my love back?
Q. Its been six mths I have been in a relationship with my lovely gurlfriend.fews days ago she decided to break the relationship wid me bcoz I was at fault frm all ends I always tried new things to keep my relationship strong but I failed in every ...
A. 15 May 2009: Girls aren't possessions! Know this! If you have said or done something wrong then you don't deserve help... (read in full...)
How do I snog with tongues?
Q. My boyfriend wants to snog me at my birthday disco with tounges (tonight) and i don't have a clue how!!!...
A. 15 May 2009: Don't get nervous and don't worry about it. It will just come naturally. Nobody knows how to do it until they actually do it! All you have to do is just relax and things will fall into place!x ... (read in full...)
In love with my first cousin, should I pursue it or not?
Q. Im deeply inlove with my 16 yr. old first cousin. I had my first kiss from him, i dont know if he loves me too. I sometimes caught him staring at me, what does that mean? And I dont know why did he kissed me that time? I loved him since I was 6-7 ...
A. 15 May 2009: Its your family! You are sick in the head!... (read in full...)
Help! I miss my ex...
Q. I broke up with my ex, who i dated for 2 years in Jan. Recently, I started to miss him, especially when my current bf is not around. At night, I usually feel lonely and want to talk but I don't feel comfortable calling my bf. One night, I couldn't ...
A. 15 May 2009: Being in a crappy relationship can be more lonely than being on your own! If you love your ex then be with him! Follow your heart! X
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Are we a joke? Should we end it once and for all?
Q. Hey all Ok I hve been with my boyfriend for the past three years, we have been tru a hell of a lot together but the problem is we cant seem to really make a go off things!! We really love each other and when its good its brilliant but when thing...
A. 15 May 2009: Yes it is a joke, you can't have a relationship without trust! It would be like a mansion with no foundations! Let go of each other and then you can begin the process of getting over it, x... (read in full...)
Not sure how to act around him
Q. Hey!!! I am going to a dance this weekend and my crush will be there!!!! Anyways... I really like him and think hes extrememly hot but for some weird reason i dont want to dance with him ... Lol i know that sounds weird but i feel like i dont want ...
A. 15 May 2009: Being nervous about dancing infront of someone is normal. Just have a good time and forget that he's there, he may ask you to dance! If he doesn't ask then he may not be the dancing type so don't ask. X... (read in full...)
How can I stop this overwhelming feeling of grief and sadness, and hurt, and disbelief?
Q. hi I've been with a guy for 19 months - I did everything for him, he lived in my house, I fell truly madly deeply in love. Suddenly he texted me one day and said he wasnt coming back. I was left utterly heartbroken, depressed, the sadness when...
A. 15 May 2009: Well the key to stopping feeling this way is time! You need time to grieve before you can move on, feeling this way is a natural part of a breakup! Give it a few weeks and you'll start to notice that you don't feel as bad! It can take years to get ... (read in full...)
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