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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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Family drama....
Q. My mother in-law wants to move in should i let her it not just her its her grandaughter to because my boyfriends brother is in the army and his mother is watching his child until next year when he comes home we already have 2 kids and 1 on the way ...
A. 2 July 2009: Don't let her move in, things would get too complicated and you should be enjoying time with your family(kids and partner) not her too. Sure, visits and stayovers are fine but she is a mother herself and in most households there is only room for one ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty I lied to him but I'm probably never going to see him again...
Q. I have a bit of a problem... last year me and my friend were 15 and we went on holiday to spain, in the resort the drinking age was 16. We met some lads who said they would take us out drinking. After they asked our age my friend said 16, so we just ...
A. 1 July 2009: You have started a lie so you may aswell just go along with it, its not a big deal. X... (read in full...)
Homosexuality versus Christianity
Q. So i wanted to know. Like eversince 15yrs i started finding women attractive and for some reason at age 5 me and my best friend had some lesbo interaction. I dont know what it is but some women just have an affect on me and i end up liking them. Now ...
A. 1 July 2009: I'm sure that if there is a god out there then he will be happy as long as you are happy. Just do whatever you feel is right for you! X... (read in full...)
Family drama....
Q. My mother in-law wants to move in should i let her it not just her its her grandaughter to because my boyfriends brother is in the army and his mother is watching his child until next year when he comes home we already have 2 kids and 1 on the way ...
A. 1 July 2009: Then just have a chat with her or your partner and explain that its not what you want. Just explain that you already have kids and you don't want the pressure of another one too. What does your partner want? I doubt that when your mother in law is ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how to make sex more special?
Q. Hello. I'm actually into the 6th month of my relationship with a guy and we're in love. and we've experienced a lot together. physically, we've covered all the bases but i think that there's still a lot we have to learn because we are just in our ...
A. 1 July 2009: Firstly!!!!! ALWAYS USE PROTECTION! Secondly, sex should be special with your partner whatever way you do it! If it doesn't feel special anymore then maybe you're not with the right person. Why don't you look up some sex postitions on the internet, ... (read in full...)
I went online pretending to be another woman and my boyfriend fell for her!!!
Q. I used this fake account and added my boyfriend on it. I started talking to him as her, and he started to flirt with her. He said he would kiss her and most probably have sex with her! I kept asking him about me his girlfriend and he was acting like ...
A. 30 June 2009: You could keep talking to him and print off a conversation, then when you dump him just put the conversation in an envelope and give it to him. Just walk up to him, hand him the envelope and say 'it was me who you were talking too all along!' Then ... (read in full...)
I'm so scared of giving a blow job!
Q. I'm 20 and I've NEVER given a blow job! I don'tknow how to, I was always scared of doign it wrong. All my life I've been scared of almost EVERYTHING. I was 17 when I had my FIRST boyfriend after bing scared of relationships. And 19 when I FIRST ha...
A. 30 June 2009: Just watch some porn scenes! X... (read in full...)
What the most embarrasing makeout or intercourse session you have ever had?
Q. Have you ever done something embarrasing during a makeout session or during intercourse (sex)? ok this is suppose to be fun so share with other people the most embarrasing or funny thing that happened ill go first and feel free to add your stories. ...
A. 30 June 2009: This is a site for people with relationship problems! ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I think about her when I masterbate?
Q. ok well i don't know how to say this but my gf just resently asked if i masterbated and i said yes and i have been wanting to tell her that when i masterbat i think of her but idk how to tell her i mean i want to tell her bcuz we tell each other ...
A. 30 June 2009: Trust me, you don't have to tell her this! X ... (read in full...)
What is this weird pulsating behind my eye?
Q. Ok i know this isn't a relationship question, but i've gotten a lot of health help from this sight. My question is that there's this weird pulsing behind one of my eyelids. Could it be something serious? Some people said it could be allergies but i ...
A. 30 June 2009: Go to see a doctor, we haven't got the knowledge which a doctor would have. X... (read in full...)
Texting his co-worker 30-40 times a day but says nothing is going on
Q. My husband has been texting a female co-worker at work. Sometimes a multiple of 30 times a day.She is a lot younger than he is. I found out. He swears nothing is going on. Do I believe him, or am I being stupid to think that nothing is going...
A. 30 June 2009: You can't trust him! I would not believe a word either of them say! Do what's best for you and get out of the relationship before he makes you look more of a fool! X... (read in full...)
During sex, he says the names of my friends who he'd like to have watch us! Normal or not?
Q. hi , i 've been married for 6 months, last night my husband told me about his dream , he was making sex with me and one of my friend.. and everytime we do love he keeps repeating my friends names that he would like if they will watch us making ...
A. 29 June 2009: Omg! I would kill my boyfriend if he did this! How do you feel about it? You need to talk to him and tell him to stop because its not normal. X... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to orgasm but not ejaculate?
Q. My boyfriend and I see each other about 1-2 times a week. We've been dating since October 2008 and it's been nothing but wonderful. Well, we haven't had sex since early May because I haven't been "in the mood" since I started taking birth control ...
A. 29 June 2009: No, its not normal. He has to come to orgasm. If its his 2nd or 3rd time there may only be a little bit but the first time he should come. X... (read in full...)
I faint during sex! What can we do?
Q. hi, I really need help have ever this happened to you before every time I have sex I feel hot I sweat a lot and my heart beats so fast and I end faint. what can I do I saw a doctor he has no idea why this happened he said that I'm fine I know ...
A. 26 June 2009: Are you eating enough and getting enough fluids? I would suggest that you take it very slowly, there's less chance of raising your heartbeat and sweating then. X... (read in full...)
When things don't fit her, what do I do?
Q. Ok well now i have a new question . My wife has taken a turn in our relationship. First of all she is a bit overweight.(AND THAT DONT BOTHER ME) So yesterday she calls me from work and tells me that she is at this department store. And im im like ...
A. 26 June 2009: Just talk to her and tell her what you have told us, be very straight forward with her. Yes, it may hurt her feelings but she will appreciate your honesty and it may encourage her to lose weight. X... (read in full...)
Parents will not accept the man I'm dating because of race
Q. i am 25 years old white girl,and just graduated my master. during my studies i met and felt in love with a black man. our chemistry and our relationship is amazing and we even talking about our future plans and that one day we want to get married ...
A. 26 June 2009: Just tell your parents how you feel and if they can't accept it then leave and start a life of your own! If they love you then they'll grow to be more relaxed about it! X
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How do I forget this girl he cheated with?
Q. i have been with my bf for 2 years.6months back he cheated on me with this girl i would like to call "k".the minute i found out about them my bf told me he cant dump "k" because he loves her like he loves me,and the sad part is that he compared me ...
A. 26 June 2009: Personally I wouldn't go anywhere near him again after he did and said that! Its only time that will get you over an event like this, you just have to make an effort to block her out of your head! Things that could help are 1)your boyfriend giving ... (read in full...)
Life is too short for...
Q. I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
A. 26 June 2009: Thanks for the comments! Xxx... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant or is my cycle irregular?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been having unprotected sex anf I was supposed to start my cycle on the 19th. I still haven't started, but took a pregnancy test on the 24th it came back negative. On the 25th I started spotting but never actually started. ...
A. 26 June 2009:
Take more pregnancy tests, sounds like you could be. X... (read in full...)
I thought he had changed but he's doing it again! Am I a fool to think he'll change?
Q. Advice needed please (would be interested to hear a male perspective too) - my bf and I have been together 8 years. Last year, I found out he was posting on adult dating sites, sending/receiving explicit texts (including photos!) to adult text ...
A. 25 June 2009: Don't trust him! End it before you get hurt (again) x... (read in full...)
Can laxatives help me lose weight quickly?
Q. Can laxatives help me lose weight quickly? All my friends are so skinny and size 6 and 8... I dont want to lose a great amount of weight, just enough to look like them and one of them said laxatives helped them. thanks...
A. 24 June 2009: Laxative can make you loose weight but there are lots of consequences of using them 1) you have to go to the toilet ALL of the time! 2) your bowels become reliant upon laxatives and they stop functioning normally, this can lead to prolapse of the ... (read in full...)
Why do I hate that he loves drugs so much? I feel this might be a burden on our relationship.
Q. Hi I am struggling with an issue with my boyfriend and I don't know what to do anymore. I am 23 and my boyfriend is 24 my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2yrs. My boyfriend likes to smoke weed, but until now only did so very seldom (like ...
A. 24 June 2009: If I was you I would dump this idiot! Why do you want to stay with a druggie? X... (read in full...)
Is masturbating with a condom a good sign for intercourse?
Q. My g/friend says she's now ready for full sex so before we start I've decided to get used to wearing a condom by wearing one in bed when masturbating. They feel ok-plenty sensation and a decent orgasm without semen all on the bedding.Is this a g...
A. 24 June 2009: You'll have to wait and see! X... (read in full...)
Do I have OCD? Am I gay?
Q. I am a teenage male, and I have had homosexual thoughts for the past four years. I do masturbate to gay porn, but I also masturbate to lesbian porn too. Its all confusing for me because it takes me longer to get sexualy aroused over women than it ...
A. 24 June 2009: Who says that everyone has to define their sexuality, just experiment and enjoy yourself, you'll find out what to class yourself as later on in life. X
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Long story....can I get him back? Is there hope?
Q. Hi I am in need of help. My husband of 9 yrs was on meds from the Dr for pain the whole marriage. He is very laid back to begin with and does not show emotion and he is not very compassionate. I thought it was the drugs the whole marriage. We had ...
A. 24 June 2009: Why the hell do you want this idiot back? Trust me, life is too short so get divorced and find someone to treat you right! And anxiety is not a reason not to go to work, you can get a precription for meds which deal with this (which are ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I smothered her and have lost what we had
Q. i am 45 and after almost 20years of marriage my ex decided to leave me coz i never paid interest in the family, we have 2 boys aged 14 and 11. She was right, work has always been my focus, i loved her, tried what i thought was best and always done ...
A. 24 June 2009: So you're feeling that she doesn't really have time for you? Like your ex wife probably felt during your marriage! What goes around comes around. Just stop contacting her, she needs to live her life as she has lots of things to do at the minute! ... (read in full...)
How can I trust her with her ex still in the picture?
Q. I met a girl about 9 months ago she had a boyfriend for about 7 years and she said that he was her first and only boyfriend. Anyway as time moved on she told me that she love me and that made me feel good because I had no one in my life, but she ...
A. 24 June 2009: Dump her! End this relationship as she will never be fully commited to you! X... (read in full...)
I don't want sex, it hurts. Should I give it to him?
Q. i don't want to have sex with my boyfriend because i'm not yet ready but everytime he touched me in areas gives me tickles and make me want to do it and i cant think well during that state. then everytime he tries to stick his thing in I cry and he ...
A. 24 June 2009: It could be because you aren't relaxed (perhaps because he is just the wrong person for you) when we are stressed and not relax our vaginal muscles tighten up, if this happens often the anxiety of it happening again can make it happen again this is ... (read in full...)
I'm too you for sex but he says no-one will know. What to do?
Q. hi guys i'm menna,14 years old i like a guy,even some times i feel that i love him ,he's about 19 year bt the problem is he wanna us to have sex he tells me that he likes me bt i feel that he says it to make me have sex with him i never felt that he ...
A. 24 June 2009: Don't have sex with him! He sounds like he is just saying things to make you have sex with him, don't contact him because you will find someone who will respect you eventually! X... (read in full...)
How can I find out what's bothering him and try to fix it?
Q. Can someone pz help me with this question? My boyfriend has been on the fritz lately and i dont know why. He has been being so mean and i am getting tired of it. He acts so mean towards the kids. He hasnt been to work in the past three days and i ...
A. 24 June 2009: He sounds depressed, he would need to see a doctor. X... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that it's over, or am I making a big deal over nothing?
Q. Hello all, hopefully someone will help me. I have been dating this girl for about 2 months now. At first we stayed talking on the phone for like 5 hours a night, and now it is 15 minutes here 45 there. She never wants to talk on the phone to me ...
A. 24 June 2009: Talk to her about how you're feeling or else you will never know where you stand, the key to a successful relationship is communication! X... (read in full...)
Would this be classified as rape or no?
Q. I basically wanna know if this classes as rape and if the guy still has an interest in me or not. Well about four months ago i went to meet a guy off the internet. He wasnt the first person id met off the internet and i always have an incling ...
A. 24 June 2009: Its rape if his penis penetrated you, is sexual abuse what he did to you! Could he have drugged your drink? Normally I wiuld have sympathy for rape victims however in this situation you brought it on yourslef by meeting someone you didn't know, ... (read in full...)
I am unsure what I want with her...
Q. Another follow up to http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-kind-of-gift-would-be-fun-and.html OK, my situation is that I am unsure about what I want with her, and I think she is the same with me. I do want a friendship, but I want more (rom...
A. 24 June 2009: You should have attached this as a follow up to the actual question, not as a separate question. ... (read in full...)
Is sex important in a relationship?
Q. Okay let me just start this out as...I am 21 and still a virgin and would like to stay that way until I'm ready to get married. I have always promised myself I would and I'd rather do so, sex just doesn't seem important to me...I've never even ...
A. 24 June 2009: Sex is a bonus in a relationship, it creates vital intimacy and a bond of trust. I agree with you wanting to stay a virgin, and guys who can't handle that are jerks. Having a no sex before marriage policy seperates the men from the jerks, if a guy ... (read in full...)
How does one live happily with a perfectionist?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been fighting alot lately, we have been together for almost 2 years, i was married when i met him, we seen each other for 6 months before i divorced, i had been married for 20 years, 2 kids 18 and 15, we moved in together ...
A. 24 June 2009: Book a few counselling sessions, having another person to observe and advise is great as you get a balanced opinion. It will be worth it when you see the results! X... (read in full...)
BF slept with his ex after finallly seeing me, which he desired so much
Q. Recently my ex and I got back together. We broke up basically we argued too much, not because of diminished love. After the breakup both of us had such a difficult time - I've heard from his friends that he stopped functioning. During our bre...
A. 24 June 2009: It probably had nothing to do with you, it was probably just a sex thing. It really doesn't have anything to do with you as you weren't a couple so you should stop dwelling on it and questioning his actions. X... (read in full...)
I've found a lump. Can girls get breast cancer at 16?
Q. Hi! I found this lump inside my right breast and its realy sore. i just got a new bra the other day, so i guess you could say it's the bra, making me sore, but only one breast is sore and i can feel this lump inside my breast. when i touch it,...
A. 24 June 2009: Yes, girls can get breat cancer at 16, however there are a lot of other things that it could be so try not to stress out. Go to see a doctor asap, and tell your mum or someone else in your family. There are many possibilies but its best to get it ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps calling me and I'm starting to feel scared
Q. so my ex left me for my friend and i dont talk to neither of them but my ex is veru confusing, he disses me then is nice to me. he tells everyone he hates me. i dont have any form of feelings for him. hes constantly dissing me! on myspa...
A. 24 June 2009: There's nothing that you can do apart from ignore him if you don't want to tell your mum or the police! I think you are totally stupid if you don't tell your mum or the police!... (read in full...)
How can I stop my ex from haunting me?
Q. I separated from my (now) ex-H over a year ago. A few months later I decided the relationship was way beyond saving, so I told him to sign the D papers in September 2008. The papers were legal just this March, but things were over far before then. ...
A. 24 June 2009: Firstly, ignore him! Secondly record all the times and dates and methods of how he tries to make contact, keep it all together in a diary. Save conversations, print off pages off the internet and save this with the diary. When you have built up a ... (read in full...)
I really want it to work this time... any advice?
Q. I have been dating a girl since last November. Only ever met her once and haven't seen her since dating in November. Been on and off to say the least, meeting for the first time this weekend. We're going to cinema to basically make out lmao. I ...
A. 24 June 2009: Need help on what? ... (read in full...)
Why am I jealous of my sister?
Q. I have recently felt concerned about my relationship with my sister. She is younger than me (2 years), a doctor, and engaged to a good looking man who adores her. I am a real estage agent, really enjoy my job etc, and very happy with my life in ...
A. 24 June 2009: Just take the plunge and invite her out for lunch! Its not helping you get closer to her by just sitting back and dwelling on these feelings that you have. X... (read in full...)
I've asked him to stop but he won't - what can I do?
Q. My husband is flirting over the internet. He goes into instant messenger and flirts with women all over the world. When I confront him, he says its just a joke, nothing serious, it just a hobby. One of these ladies told him she would be visiting ...
A. 24 June 2009: Threaten him with divorce! He sounds like a total idiot! Or you could guess his password and disable his account, if you do guess his password then you have to change his security question too so that he won't be able to get on his account again! ... (read in full...)
Texting his co-worker 30-40 times a day but says nothing is going on
Q. My husband has been texting a female co-worker at work. Sometimes a multiple of 30 times a day.She is a lot younger than he is. I found out. He swears nothing is going on. Do I believe him, or am I being stupid to think that nothing is going...
A. 27 May 2009: Sorry to be blunt but there is something going on here! My guess is he's having an affair! Don't believe a word that he says! X
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Life is too short for...
Q. I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
A. 13 March 2009: Thanks vamp gal! A cool summary!x... (read in full...)
Life is too short for...
Q. I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
A. 12 March 2009: Glad you're in with a good crowd now, school can be so hard! Its a lot easier with good people around you! X... (read in full...)
Life is too short for...
Q. I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
A. 10 March 2009: True artian! Life is too short to worry about things, this is something I'm trying to drill into my younger brothers head! He has just started high school and he worries so much about little things! X... (read in full...)
Life is too short for...
Q. I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
A. 9 March 2009: Its not late at all, I'm 19, I think people start to learn about life at this age because you have gone through high school and realised that all of your problems were petty. Then you think, 'I've realised that my issues in high school weren't worth ... (read in full...)
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