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8 March 2009: I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
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He's so friendly with this other girl and I'm so jealous about it...
Q. I don't know how to stop being jealous? My boyfriend who I've been with for a year now keeps flirting with other girls especially this one girl who says that her and him are best friends and tell each other everything and that she knows him more ...
A. 26 February 2009: If he's not willing to stop this then you need to get rid of him. He sounds selfish!!! And saying 'I loveyou' to another girl is out of order!! Joking or not this shouldn't be allowed and they are both making you look like a fool! X... (read in full...)
He says he only wants to be friends, but I want to make our relationship work...
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up after 4 yrs dating and 1 1/2 yrs living together. I had to move in with my parents. We had been having money problems and so our sex life suffered. He says that he doesn't want a relationship but he's ok with being ...
A. 25 February 2009: You have to talk to him and tell him what you want. Ask him how he feels as he could feel the same. Sounds like you could make it work again. Keep me updated! X... (read in full...)
She talksto me but won't go out with me
Q. What do I do? Ok it's a long story but bear with me... There's this girl I like. I've liked her for well over half a year now. We go to the same school and I'm in one of her classes. We are friends and we talk just like good friends do. The thi...
A. 25 February 2009: Just leave her and move on, plenty more fish in the sea. She could have felt sorry for you and said yes to please you and felt under pressure. She may not like you as anything more than a friend. Be friends with her but don't try to get her to go ... (read in full...)
Shouting out during sex
Q. Can anyone offer any advice here. I have just split with my partner over the following. We have been together nearly 3 years and I loved him like no one else, but felt he showed his true colours the other evening. We had made love and in the heat ...
A. 25 February 2009: I think he was looking for an excuse to leave because this sounds like such a stupid reason. Trust me, there are plenty more fish in the sea, this one seems like a dick who you could do better without. I know its hard but you need to move on. X... (read in full...)
Am I too young to give him a handjob?
Q. So I am 13 and I have a boyfriend who I absolutely adore and I really want to take it to the next level with him. Am I too young to give him a handjob? And if not how do I do so?...
A. 25 February 2009: Do you want to get the reputation of a slut? A skank? Whatever you call it. You are way too young! You shouldn't even have a serious boyfriend right now! Save yourself for the right guy! And at the moment you are too young to know who the right guy ... (read in full...)
I've always had the hots for girls... but I'm female!
Q. So here I am, I always had the hots for girls. Never tough like it would be something serious...... but now I get a little bit more serious about it....... I get turned on by girls I think that are cute........ I am wondering is it because I have ...
A. 25 February 2009: Its normal to feel closer to females after abuse, you aren't alone in this. You may be a lesbian, you may be bi sexual. Everyones different! Embrace the fact that you celebrate women! If you are scared of what people will say then don't tell them ... (read in full...)
I revealed a secret she told me and now she won't speak to me anymore
Q. Hello everyone, im a 15 year old male, who recently had my best friendship with my 15 year old female best friend Jeanny complete fall apart (it actually happened 4 months ago). However, i used to like her (i still do), and basically what happened ...
A. 25 February 2009: If she told you something and trusted you with the information and then you went and told people you are an idiot for thinking she would want to go out with you. You need a reality check! This girl may have liked you, or may even still like you but ... (read in full...)
How do you know you aren't in love...
Q. ...or is it something else? I'm in a relationship with a really great guy - treats me like gold. Recently, we've been having more downs than ups (all because of my reactions to things I've learned about him that aren't horrible by any stretch o...
A. 24 February 2009: I would give it time if you still feel like this in a month or so then its time to end it. If you truly are in love then you wouldn't be questioning yourself! X... (read in full...)
He's so friendly with this other girl and I'm so jealous about it...
Q. I don't know how to stop being jealous? My boyfriend who I've been with for a year now keeps flirting with other girls especially this one girl who says that her and him are best friends and tell each other everything and that she knows him more ...
A. 24 February 2009: You should be the most important girl in his life and if I was you I would be jealous to! I would feel horrible about my boyfriend having a girl best friend! You need to set up guide lines, think about what is acceptable to you and what is not ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend USED to dance, how do I not let it bother me?
Q. I am dating a girl I've known for close to 8 years. We have now been dating for about 4 months. I found out years ago that she danced, not stripped but danced. Very provocative clothing, g-string, bra type of stuff but never took anything off. B...
A. 24 February 2009: I can understand what you are feeling as I dwell on things my boyfriend has done in the past. Ultimatly the past is the past! You will learn to deal with it in your own way nobody can tell you how to, it just takes time. I'm sure she wouldn't have ... (read in full...)
I know its going to happen but I'm so scared of losing this person!
Q. i'm only 13 but i have a really close friend who is 17 and will be leaving school soon. she's the best thing that ever happened to me and has completely changed my life. she's the person i can always trust, and she always helps me when i'm have ...
A. 24 February 2009: It sounds like you may need counselling, to help you with this as its affecting you more than it should be. Why don't you talk to your doctor and they should be able to refer you to a counsellor. X
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For those with experience in relationships... how can I make this last?
Q. Hey well cutting it short. This guy asked me out. He's 19 and lives in london. I'm 18 live in Wolverhampton. He will be my first boyfriend - I have "seen" guys before but they were always short things because they wasn't really worth it. But he is ...
A. 24 February 2009: If it is meant to last then it will, if its not then it won't! It will feel natural if it is meant to last and if you can confide in each other then this is a good sign. The most important thing is communication, never stop talking to each other! ... (read in full...)
I know its going to happen but I'm so scared of losing this person!
Q. i'm only 13 but i have a really close friend who is 17 and will be leaving school soon. she's the best thing that ever happened to me and has completely changed my life. she's the person i can always trust, and she always helps me when i'm have ...
A. 24 February 2009: I went through something similar, you will adjust to it sooner or later and evrything will be fine. You can still stay in touch, tell her how you feel, she'll understand! Talk it through with her and you'll feel a lot better! X... (read in full...)
What sexual position do women enjoy the most?
Q. Simple one really...what are a woman's favourite sex positions that satisfy her the most? I think my girlfriend is getting bored of missionary... ...
A. 24 February 2009: Talk to her and ask her what she would like o do, or take a position and customise it to make it suitable for each of you. X
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What exactly IS flirting and is it okay to flirt when you're in a relationship?
Q. What exactly is flirting? How would you define it? And do you believe it is ok to flirt with anyone when you are in a relationship? Why/why not? Yes, a very broad, general question I know, I'm just looking for peoples opinions, so I can see h...
A. 24 February 2009: Flirting is any action that you do in order to gain attention from a person you desire (my own definition) this is not ok to do in a relationship, how would you feel if your partner was trying to attract someone else? It is cruel and a form of ... (read in full...)
I can't trust her though I know she loves me
Q. hi as i have send a question on 15 feb and i have followed it and again she is back i thank u all. But now the problem is that i am not able to trust her what to do. I know that she loves me but as previous i am not able to trust her. I am worried ...
A. 24 February 2009: I didn't read your previous question but if you love someone you have to put your trust into them! You need to trust them to have a healthy relationship! X... (read in full...)
What is this discharge in my underwear? I'm worried guys will be put off by it.
Q. I always have a white creamy discharge in my underwear and i don't know what it means... and it happens most of the time i'm worried when i go to have sex with guys they will see and be put off. I'm not entirely sure what it is so i'm not sure how ...
A. 23 February 2009: Its perfectly normal, if the discharge becomes green or brown then you need to see a doctor. If it has a strong odor then you need to see a doctor! Discharge is different around different times of the month, when you are most fertile it becomes ... (read in full...)
My man has a history of cheating on me and dating teenage girls. Now another one says he's with her, but he denies it. Am I wasting my time on a man that'll never change?
Q. Hi everyone, I would like to make it clear that i love my man 101% before i go any further! I'm not sure how to put this but I've been with my man about a year and a half and all is good but in the early day's he did cheat on me with someone but...
A. 23 February 2009: A leopard never changes its spots! This relationship sounds like its uneven, he thinks he can treat you like dirt knowing there's a strong chance that you will forgive. I don't want to offend you but you're being a mug here! Get out before you look ... (read in full...)
My best guy friends suggested to break up with my b/f and move in with him, what do you think?
Q. Ok so I am 17 and my boyfriend is 21 and he has started pulling away. I have been cheated on before, and i knew that it was going on but he didnt act any different, so now i have some serious trust issues with guys. My boyfriend now of just over 7 ...
A. 23 February 2009: Your boyfriend sounds like an arse to be honest and blunt, no offence intended! Move in with the best friend!!!! You will be much happier and you are right to have trust issues with this guy, sounds like he would hurt you! You need to move on from ... (read in full...)
Where do I draw the line with her new friendship with this guy?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for almost 5 years, and everything is going well. We are practically open with each other, and basically "loyal" to each other. We are open in meeting ex's, old crushes as long as we tell each other, just to ...
A. 23 February 2009:
I would bring it up in conversation, with the openess in your relationship it shouldn't be a problem! I'm sure she will understand your concerns and you have a point to make. I would be wondering what was going on, better to clear your mind than... (read in full...)
Sex is getting boring, how can I improve it?
Q. Hello Im Taken09!!!! Me and my boyfriend has been together for 3 years and the sex is gettin boring.i dont want to lose my man so really what is there for me to do??????...
A. 23 February 2009: Depends what you are into, some people watch porn together. You could try new positions and places! Try going without sex for a few weeks until you both can't hold off any longer. The question is quite vague. If you tell me the reason it has become ... (read in full...)
A sharp pain in my butt as he fingered me
Q. okay so here's my question. I'll start off by saying that me and my boyfriend are both virgins. we do everything from fingering to oral, but like i said, we've never had intercourse. My boyfriend is really good at fingering me, and he knows where my ...
A. 23 February 2009:
Hope this sorts itself out!
He could have been doing it differently. You may not have been ready for it. If you are concerned then you need to see a doctor, sounds to me like his finger was in a weird position... (read in full...)
Why does he keep putting his hands on my bottom?
Q. I met my friends friend a while back and we drank together and ended up kissing. He wanted to have sex but I said no and I found out he was a major player. We partied again some time later and he kept putting his hand on my butt, but I kept taking ...
A. 23 February 2009: He may just be really persistant! Is he drinking when he does it because this can affect his judgement. Get him when he is sober and tell him to stop! If all else fails don't stand with him! This is an invasion of personal space and is sexual ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep putting his hands on my bottom?
Q. I met my friends friend a while back and we drank together and ended up kissing. He wanted to have sex but I said no and I found out he was a major player. We partied again some time later and he kept putting his hand on my butt, but I kept taking ...
A. 23 February 2009: He may just be really persistant! Is he drinking when he does it because this can affect his judgement. Get him when he is sober and tell him to stop! If all else fails don't stand with him! This is an invasion of personal space and is sexual ... (read in full...)
Have I totally scared her off by taking drugs that made me paranoid and needy?
Q. This is the first time I've ever posted on any site like this but I really don't know what to do and need some advice from impartial observers! This story revolves around a girl I met at university 4 years ago. We were in a few of the same clas...
A. 23 February 2009: That's great! Hope things go ok! X... (read in full...)
Have I totally scared her off by taking drugs that made me paranoid and needy?
Q. This is the first time I've ever posted on any site like this but I really don't know what to do and need some advice from impartial observers! This story revolves around a girl I met at university 4 years ago. We were in a few of the same clas...
A. 22 February 2009: Her feelings won't have just disappeared, its just that she may be concerned about you and may be trying to teach you a lesson of not to do it again! Leave her for a few days, keep occupied and then call her, if she doesn't answer then email her ... (read in full...)
I need to talk through this break-up with my boyfriend with someone, can you help me please?
Q. I know that everyone goes through a break up and I am now currently going through one as well. We were on and off a lot and it was officially over yesterday. I am falling apart. I have talked to him and he is hanging out with his friends and he is ...
A. 22 February 2009: Hey, I'll talk it through with you. I know how hard it is breaking up with someone. I also wouldn't go out and do things on my own so I know how hard it is to keep busy and keep your mind off things. Msg me and let me know why you broke up. X... (read in full...)
No matter what I do I just can't seem to make him cum! Help!!!!
Q. My boyfriend is 18 and experienced and I'm 15 and still a virgin, but we've touched and I had oral for the first time with him and our sex life seems great but he can get hard, but cum with me. I mean I can get him hard in less than 2 minutes but no ...
A. 22 February 2009: You need to talk to him about why this is happening because what you are doing is fine! He is turned on by you, this shows as he gets hard. Keep going with what you are doing! X... (read in full...)
I am attracted to another female, but I don't know what to do now, any ideas?
Q. I am female and attracted to a female coworker. I am straight, and I believe she is too (she recently broke up with a boyfriend), and she has a son from her ex-husband. We seem to have a mutual attraction, but not enough for me to figure this out. ...
A. 18 February 2009: You may just feel the need for closeness to another female or experimentation, you may be a bi sexual if you have been atracted to men before. First of all just think about what you are trying to gain by flirting with her, would you want a ... (read in full...)
Why do some women hate their men watching porn?
Q. why do some women have a problem when they find out their man enjoys a little porn? i don't get it. we all know men need something visual to get them excited, so what is the difference between a woman reading an erotic novel or having a fantasy...
A. 18 February 2009: Everyone has different views, some women may feel threatened, as porn can become an obsession. Some women may feel insecure and think that their men are fantasising of porn stars when they are having sex. Other women may feel that the concepts used ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I squirted or if it was urine. Or did I squirt? And is it normal for female ejaculation to be as thin as urine?
Q. I've only been having orgasms for the last 4 years, and when I first started, I would sometimes pee b/c I didn't know how to control my pelvic muscles. In any case, since then I think I have realized that I can have squirting orgasms. However...
A. 17 February 2009: this doesnt sound like pee so i think u were just having a rally good time. its normal and natural, count yourself lucky, it doesnt happen to most women. xx... (read in full...)
Shall I wait for another week and take a test, or just brush it off as nothing?
Q. Hi, I have a horrible feeling I could be pregnant. My last period was around the start of January, and I know for a fact that I should come on by now. I've also been feeling sick in the morning, starting to get aches in my body and I *think* my...
A. 17 February 2009: take a test asap! if the test is positive you need to see a doctor. if the test is negative then u still need to see a doctor to see whats going on with your body
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Question on marriage.
Q. Is there a relation between how long it takes a couple to get married and how happy/unhappy they are afer they get married or how long that marriage lasts? I don't want to get married or anything, but I've noticed a strange pattern and want...
A. 17 February 2009: no... theres no relation. a marriage works if the people in it are suited to each other. x... (read in full...)
How do I make my man really hard?
Q. I want him to become very hard and so he could be the happiest.. Any tips or ideas? I'm willing to do anything and i'm always in for something new! Cheers...
A. 17 February 2009: start by rubbing, maybe kiss his penis, but make sure you kiss it so he can feel a slight pressure, really press your lips down. lick from the balls to the tip, and keep lots of eye contact...its all about confidence! x... (read in full...)
When I ejaculate the fluid is very thin?!
Q. My fluid when i ejaculate is very thin and there isnt much compared to what you see in most porn films. Does this mean there is something wrong and if not then how do I help it?...
A. 17 February 2009: there is nothing wrong with you! ignore porn films...everyone is different. my boyfriend is the same. xx... (read in full...)
He never wants to spend quality time with me and I'm beginning to distrust him.
Q. I am a 25 year old black girl dating a 50 year old white guy, we've been dating for a year now. He told me that he separated with his wife but my corncern is he only sees me during weekends and he told me that he will make love to me if only I get ...
A. 16 February 2009: i cant believe he told you to get tested! i'm sure if you had something then you would tell him and he should trust you to do this. this relationship sounds like it could be trouble, i would give it up now and leave each other alone...if he cant ... (read in full...)
Should I try to pursue this? Will it work out?
Q. I partied with my friend and his buddies a while back. I was drunk and actually kissed one of them two nights in a row but he wanted to do more. I didnt let him do anything and left. I found out that he was a major player so I guess I should stay ...
A. 16 February 2009: i would ask him out, if he doesnt want to then thats fair enough but if you dont ask you wont get! x... (read in full...)
I'm in a great relationship, but I have gone out with friends and ended up kissing a random guy! How do I stop myself?
Q. Hi- So my boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 3 years now and we have an amazing relationship. We get along great, we live together, we dont fight and he is everything I want in a man. However, two times during our relationship I have ...
A. 16 February 2009: dont go out or take him with you, to be honest this is a disgrace! i dont have the perfect relationship but i would never do this, you dont even deserve a guy if you are gonna treat him like this. you need to get your act together! i'm glad you feel ... (read in full...)
How do I give her the space she needs now if she talks to me every day?
Q. She wants space and idk what to do about it help me ( Long 10 point answer).? So basically theres this girl i like very much , even love and right now she says she likes me but doesnt like me like that because right now she cant like anyone like tha...
A. 16 February 2009: you need to set ground rules here coz she sounds like she's messing you around. sit down and talk to her about what you want and about what to do if you cant get that. she needs to know that certain things arent acceptable unless she is willing to ... (read in full...)
My ex now has a new lady friend and it hurts so much to see him with her.
Q. We split up 6 months ago after years of arguing and near break ups, 3 kids and awful arguments. I was happy and we seemed to get on much better but now he has met a new 'lady' and everything has changed. I don't want him back but it hurts so much. ...
A. 16 February 2009: i'm sure that he wont speak about you to her, think about it...if you got with a new guy he wouldnt be very happy if you were talking about your husband (good or bad) this is just one of those things that will take time, you may evenget to like her ... (read in full...)
Welcoming, inviting and including
Q. Regarding including others, isn't it possible that people who are used to having their own group that has gotten together for years, are so comfortable with their group that they do not want to have to invite new people and make them feel welcome? ...
A. 16 February 2009: if you dont click with someone and there is not a spark then dont waste time inviting them into you're life...if its that hard then dont bother.x... (read in full...)
How do I let go of resentments toward boyfriend and feel closer?
Q. How do I let go of resentments toward boyfriend and feel closer? I have been dating a great guy for several months who treats me very well. Everything had been going well until I started focusing more on our incompatibilities instead of the good thi...
A. 16 February 2009: firstly- que sara sara whatever will be will be! if you dont like this guy for who he is then let go. start talking to him about how you feel and let him help! this will bring you closer, you have an emotional wall inbetween you that he is trying to ... (read in full...)
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