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I want to have sex at 13, what do you advise?

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Question - (26 February 2009) 17 Answers - (Newest, 28 February 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 18-21, anonymous writes:

im am 13 and i really want to have sex i just dont have anyone to do it with! who can i go to?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009):

no you stupid head what the heck are you thinking, although you have gone to majaration you are not ready!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009):

DONT DO IT

read what everyones said here and think about it.

OMG when i was 13 the kind of thing i ultimately desired was to have like an extreme dodgeball tournament or something...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009):

Dont just lose your virginity to anyone, seriously, bad bad bad idea, I lost mine when I was just 14, off my face on ecstasy and drunk as hell, I lost it to one random guy who I didn't even know, then I slept with another guy the same night, at the time I thought I was cool for doing it, now looking back im disgraced at myself, thinking about it actually makes me feel sick.

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A male reader, dddddddd Australia +, writes (27 February 2009):

Well as a teengaer that is perfectly normal, but to save yourself big problems it might be best to just tough it out and wait a few more years.

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A male reader, ArmyMedic United Kingdom +, writes (26 February 2009):

ArmyMedic agony auntGrow up!

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A female reader, kellyxxx United Kingdom +, writes (26 February 2009):

kellyxxx agony auntYou sound like a tramp! You are too young to make a name for yourself as a slut! Sex is illegal until you are 16 so until then you will have to satisfy your needs with yourself. Masturbate, but a vibrator but do not have sex!!! Think of the std's, what would you do if the condom split? Would you be able to look after a baby and support it finacially? You need a serious talking to if you are thinking of wanting sex with a random person! Sort your head out! X

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A female reader, Plutonious United States +, writes (26 February 2009):

I lost my virginity at 16 with a guy that I went out with for four years, he was my first of EVERYTHING. but unfortunately it didn't work out for infidelity on his part

Now that I am in a serious relationship with someone new I wished to have waited for my boyfriend now rather than losing it to someone you barely know.

Yes, you are at that age of curiousity, and adolesent years. and yes it is your choice to have sex or just wait for that right one. it's up to you but be sure of what you are doing...

Usually when you have sex with someone they are so called in love or really in love or just plain infatuation. So just be well aware of your surroundings of who you want to do it with is it to satisfy your needs, feelings, your relationship or is just a physical thing?

other's have different opinions. now a days sex is just NOTHING now.

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A female reader, Mymy Ireland +, writes (26 February 2009):

Mymy agony auntWow, when I was a child I was still playing video games...

To reiterate what everyone else has said, you ARE to young, even if you think you are mature enough! You have the rest of your young adult life to have sex, for now you should enjoy the simplicity and lesser responsibilities of being a (just turned) teenager. A lot of people want to grow up too fast and when they have, you can't turn back. At your age you can't possibly find something that could be considered a 'meaningful relationship' enough to sleep with that person. I'm going to take a guess and say that a lot of your friends have already have sex, and this has influenced your decision to want to do the same? If that is the case, wait, good things come to those who wait.

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A male reader, andrew loves hali United States +, writes (26 February 2009):

andrew loves hali agony auntyour way to young and you should wait till you find the right person or you can masterbate but you shouldnt be having sex at 13

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A male reader, saltwater United Kingdom +, writes (26 February 2009):

saltwater agony aunt"i just don't have anyone to do it with"

Well that's good news then.

Underage sex is a terrible idea, and is absolutely, 100% guaranteed not to be the experience you are probably expecting it to be.

I agree that you should perhaps masturbate more often. Masturbate while fantasizing about having sex maybe.

But having full on sex at 13 is disastrous idea, and you should wait until your late teens at the very earliest before you decide to embark upon a sex life as you will be more mature and more aware of your own decisions and there consequences.

Take care

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A male reader, nichiren United States +, writes (26 February 2009):

nichiren agony auntGo talk with your parents about your feelings.

Or a school guidance counselor or even your spiritual leader of whatever belief system you follow.

At then end of the day even though you are a young teen it will end up being your choice.

Hopefully talking to someone about it who is more responsible and cares for your welfare will discourage you.

However on the small chance that you still choose that path, hopefully you choose to stay a virgin, you will be well informed on all the aspects and possible hurt that can come from having sex.

And believe me, you can die, be financially burdened, or even suffer for a lifetime physically and mentally from irresponsible sex.

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A male reader, cupids_friend United States +, writes (26 February 2009):

I have to say wait I was 17 when I lost myn and it was to be best friend and we are still beat friends just wait its normal at your age to want that. I really hope this helps if not please Let me know

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A female reader, lotus mama808 United States +, writes (26 February 2009):

lotus mama808 agony auntMASTERBATE! I advise AGAINST having sex at such a age. PLEASE wait honey, your body is sacred, special. You only get one. Thats why it's important to share it with somone you have known for along time that loves you and that you love in return. Nothing good comes out of giving your body to some random person, ever.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009):

OMG you shouldnt even be thinking of sex that young.

You're still a child, live the rest of your childhood because theres no point in having sex right now, you'll get a bad name and boys'll think you're easy.

You'll probably only end up regretting it later in life.

Guys your age are only after one thing anyway, sex, wait for a few more years first.. and until you're 16, cos if anyone catches you, the boy could get done for rape. Even if you did consent to it.

Be careful please

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A male reader, urbanking99 United Kingdom +, writes (26 February 2009):

I advise that you wait until you are

1)Old enough.

2)Emotionally involved with someone who you care for and cares for you.

3)Know you own body better.

4)Are able to communicate effectively with someone of the opposite sex.

There is plenty of time for you to discover this pleasure and plenty of time for you to enjoy it.

You still have a lot of growing up to do.

You only have one chance to lose your virginity, lose it with someone special.

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A female reader, Confined United States +, writes (26 February 2009):

Well girl this is what you should do wait wait until your in love give yourself to the one you love this isn't what you want to hear but you know you are too young if you don't believe me ask your mom if you can have sex what would she say she'd probly faint and if you want to have sex so bad no ones stoping you just be in love first

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A male reader, mirrorimg361 United States +, writes (26 February 2009):

I advise against having it right now then. If you don't have someone to do it with, and because you are still young and have plenty of time for that type of thing. You should wait til you are in a relationship with someone and trust them before you do that. If you need help with anything else, message me and I'll write back quickly.

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