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writes:Is it a good idea to bring something for the family: the mom? I'm meeting my boyfriend's parents this weekend but he just said we'll go out for dinner at a restaurant. It was going to be at his house but he changed his mind and wants to take us out. Should I still bring something like flowers for the mom..or I shouldn't bother? Does it matter?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): Go for it...it won't do any harm at all to give her a small gesture - especially if you feel that this relationhip is definitely going somewhere. Just think of how you would like to be treated by a prospective girlfriend of your own son (if you were in her place). Equally, flowers are a really warm way of being open and inviting to a new person and it's very thoughtful. (I'd see if I could sneakily find out what her favourite colours/blooms are and go from there). The extra effort will impress her. For my mother-in-law's 60th birthday, I bought lots of different flowers she liked from different stores instead of just ordering a bouquet and then I arranged them myself to present to her when we got to their house even though we were taking her out for a meal too. The personal touch is always appreciated. In your situation, I agree, something small but something memorable - she will know you're nervous and will hopefully put you at ease anyway. When I met my in laws for the first time (when my other half and I were only girlfriend/boyfriend), his mum bought be a pot of cyclamens which were lovely. See what your boyfriend thinks too - he'll feel more confident about the get together knowing that you're showing interest in his family and that you want to make a good impression. Good luck!! It will be fine...
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (26 February 2009):
 If the dinner was still at their home, then yes, I would bring a small arrangement of something simple, like tulips or lilies. Since you're going out to dinner though, I don't think you have to. You are obviously a nice enough gal that I'm sure your smile (and the smile you put on his face) will win over his parents :-) Good luck!
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (26 February 2009):
 Flowers are a lovely gesture!! I wasn't that thoughtful when I met my boyfriends mum! Wow, I'm impressed. I would take a small arrangement then she won't be overwhelmed, and in a restaurant she will be able to store them more easily. I don't think it matters that much to be honest, she will appreciate the gesture but I'm sure she's much more interested in meeting you! If it was me and I was going to a restaurant I would give the flowers a miss, she may not like the fuss. Just wow her with your personalilty instead! Keep me updated, good luck with the parents! Don't forget to take a lip balm, all of that polite smiling that you have to do will take its toll and you will be left with really dry lips! X
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