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What types of signals does a guy send when he likes you ?

Q.   i like this boy and i told him that i like him in person but it was really acward and he diden't say anything ometimes he sends signals that he likes me well it seams like it im rally confused . what tipes of ignals dose a guy send when he likes u ?...

A.   29 December 2010: If the guy has not told you that he likes you too then I am sorry but the likely hood of it is, is that he is not that interested. There is this book that I have read called 'he's just not that into you' and it is amazing I would say it is worth a ... (read in full...)

My parents seem to over do it with me, any suggestions to change this??

Q.   Im having this problem with my parennts and my family. They just alwayss look at what im doing on facebook everywear they always findout what im doing. I aint doing nothing wrong tho, They always take it too far by taking my phone of mee and ...

A.   29 June 2010: you are there little girl and presumely the oldest ? this was the same thing with my parent all i had to was ride with the wind and grind me teeth and my mum has only recnetly coming to terms and stop wrapping me in cotton wool. bear with it ... (read in full...)

Do other girls rub there smell on the lips for there b/f?

Q.   I been dating my g/f for 5 months and we been intimate. She said she is bi and I knew that when we met. She had a long time g/f then but just broke up. On Satuday my friend text me and said he saw my g/f with her ex going in her house. I met my ...

A.   14 June 2010: You need to sit her down and talk to her. Is this person you heard it off a trustworthy person or are they just trying to interfere with something that really doesn't need to be tampered with. Ask her straight it is the best way but be tactful about ... (read in full...)

When does sex feel good after losing your virginity??

Q.   When Does Sex Get Good? I Have Had Sex Several Times So Far But Still It Just Feels Weird Not Nasty Not Nice Just Boring... Is This Normal...

A.   14 June 2010: It depends how close you and your boyfriend are in the bedroom and also how experienced you both are under the duvet. Obviously if you have only just lost it then things are going to be harder in the bedroom then if you are more experienced but the ... (read in full...)

Is it a good idea to have sex with my boyfriend?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for one month now, he really turns me on. Is it right to point out to him that he didn't finger me right yesterday? I think i am the first girl he has ever attempted this with but I don't know how to as...

A.   14 June 2010: Dont do it I can tell just from reading that you are not ready to do it and it is just your hormones acting up. ... (read in full...)

How do I get him to take the next step and committ?

Q.   Hi everyone, I want to hear from anyone out there who has dated a commitment phobic. I've been with the same guy for many years now. I'm crazy about him and I have no doubt that he loves me too.. but nothing more has ever happened with us. ...

A.   14 June 2010: To be very honest with you I think you need to sit him down and make him talk about how he is feeling and also for you to tell him how you are feeling. The first thing guys cant do is read your mind and you never know your guy might just be really ... (read in full...)

Her protective mother made up break up. Should I have gone along with this?

Q.   I was in a long distance relationship with a girl I never physically met. We was going to meet but something always got in the way. Her mum is very protective of her because she got raped in the past and that's why we haven't met. Her mum says she ...

A.   25 March 2010: no you shouldnot have broken up with her. if this girl says she loves you then she means it. all girls do. we dont just say i love you for the hell of it. and mothers are always over protective but maybe you should go to her family home and meet... (read in full...)

Is there any way I can stop blushing. It makes me so self conscious.

Q.   im 18 years old, i like my life and am a happy girl most the time, have a good relationship with my boyfriend and family, there is just one thing that really gets me down i blush all the time over the most silly things, i literally go beetroot and i ...

A.   25 March 2010: there is nothing that you can do im afraid. blushing is caused by a rush of blood to the surface of the skin so unless you can stop yourself from being in akward positions then you wont be able to stop the blushing xx... (read in full...)

How can I make up for cheating on my boyfriend?

Q.   right i have a boyfriend who i have been with for over 10 months. i cheated on him just before christmas. he knows about this and i was completley honest but feel like i need to make it up to him, how do i do this?...

A.   25 March 2010: Make sure that you tell him that he is the one that you want to be with and tell him that you never wanted to cheat on him and tell him that you feel guilty about it. you just need to tell him how you feel. if you dont then the guilt will only turn ... (read in full...)

Could these negative pregnancy tests be wrong. I hope so!

Q.   Okay so my husband and i are trying to conceive, and my last period was in january, i completely skipped over feb and i took 2 tests but both came up neg. i felt pregnant, my boobs are bigger than what they were before, enough for my husband to even ...

A.   25 March 2010: this is a tricky as without actual proof from the doctor you are not going to know. the only way to be certain is to visit the doctor. i have heard of a case however that when somebody is trying to have a baby and they crave that thing then ... (read in full...)

I always thought Valentines day was about the guy treating the girl. Now my boyfriend thinks I don't care.

Q.   This Might Sound Bad But I had No Idea That I was Supposed to Buy Something for My Boyfriend For Valentines Day. We're Going on 4 years Now and Every Year he always Does something Extreme For me and I Love it! Though I have Never Bought Him Anything ...

A.   4 February 2010: yeah men love it as valentines day is a day for you both to feel special and enjoy a lovely day together. I think most men would just be happy with a card for the day as they dont want all the stuff that we want really. But then again it depends on ... (read in full...)

What happens with "the friend zone"?

Q.   um well this is not a question as such but is the "friend zone" a load of rubbish. I mean can any relationship last if it didnt start out with friends. and usually being friends gives a better understanding of some meaning you can form stronger ...

A.   4 February 2010: i think it depends on the people that are together. sure you have to have time too get too know this person before you can say you are in a relationship with them but it dosent mean that you have to be friends with them for ages as this could ... (read in full...)

I didn't get to say goodbye to my crush and now I think of him all the time

Q.   Hi Everyone I have a bit of a problem and I hope someone can help me with it every Answer I,ll be greatful For :)( It kinda rambles on but I want u 2 know the whole story ). About two years ago my friend Brought me to a Church youth group.The reason ...

A.   13 January 2010: try and find him.. you are obviously crushing on this guy big time so go for it.. see if the church has a number for and try to find him again its the only thing that you can do too let him know how you feel... However remember this guy may have... (read in full...)

Why doesn't she talk to me anymore?

Q.   There is this shy girl, who happens to be the sister of one of my best friends. I’ve known the two of them (off and on) for the past nine years. Back then she wasn’t so shy. She would talk to me all the time and play games with me and her brother. ...

A.   30 December 2009: it might be that she is just not happy with how you have come back into their lives. something may have been going on in their family before you came back and now it has all stopped or started again because you are back.. Dont take it personal... (read in full...)

Would it be stupid to start something with him?

Q.   Met this boy online. I'm falling for him but he lives about a hour away from me. Neither of us can drive and I haven't even met him yet. Would it be stupid to start something with him? Or can this actully be the start of something amazing?...

A.   30 December 2009: you need to be careful you dont no who this boy is properly he could be some sicko for all you know covering up to be a boy that you may be falling for.. for the reason that it is a internet meet up i would say that yes you would be a little sill... (read in full...)

She doesn't want to risk our friendship so how do I move on?

Q.   I have known a girl for about 6 years. I have always liked her. She tells me I am her best friend. Even though I have feelings for her we have both dated different people, but we're both currently single. She seems to date guys older than her. ...

A.   30 December 2009: this is obviously love for you aint it mate.. if there is nothing that you can do then that is mate she has obviously made her feelings quite clear and i think that she is right because how does she no how things are going to work out and you seem... (read in full...)

In love but the feeling isn't mutual, help!

Q.   I am in love with someone but she ignores me and I get the feeling that she just doesn't like me. What can i do, please help?...

A.   30 December 2009: There is nothing you can do im afraid mate.. if this girl dosent like you then there may not be a chance for you with the girl.. is she your friend or in your circle of friends?? if she is try just talking to her and she might like you for the real... (read in full...)

I'm having a confidence crisis, how can I overcome this?

Q.   Good morning, Just a confidence issue here. This is nothing major but I really want to get to the bottom of this. When I was younger my dad used to shout and yell at me which used to intimidate me a little. As I grew older the imti...

A.   14 October 2009: The only way you are going to over come this is by getting over it yourself.. these are the symptoms of low self esteem probably triggered by the fact that your dad used to shout at you and that you were bullied.. people say that if you experience ... (read in full...)

Do I take the chance or give up before anyone gets hurt?

Q.   Before the story my question is do I take the chance or give up before anyone gets hurt? The background is we met at work, he pursued me but I rejected him at first because I just don't want to be hurt again. Ended up giving him my number lik...

A.   14 October 2009: WOW.. this seems like a difficult relationship. This Guy sounds abit sleezy to be honest and i wouldnt trust him. To me it sounds like he is playing the field abit have you ever thought of the possibiblity that he has been on dates with other women ... (read in full...)

Issues with vaginal farting!

Q.   I have been having issues with vaginal farting. Every morning i seem to wake up and have queefing episodes regaurdless if i had any type of sexual activity the night before. If i wake up in the middle of the night it will happen then too. i dont ...

A.   1 September 2009: There is nothing you can do it is because air gets trapped during intercourse or to do with the muscles within your vagina aren't very loose.. Look up some pelvic floor excersices on the Internet and see if they help you at all!! :) ... (read in full...)

When I have sex with my b/f I often think of other guys!

Q.   im 24 year old and i m asian. ive dated my bf for 5 years and i was his first but he was not my first. i love him alot. he told me he had cheated on me before and that was a year ago. i forgave him. last weekend i went to vegas with my friends. we ...

A.   16 June 2009: You need to spice up your sex life somehow... Is there anyway that you and your boyfriend can try out new things this may then make it more intersting for you and you may not then need to think about other guys. With the guy you slept with you need... (read in full...)

I need contreception advice!

Q.   hi, me and my boyfriend have been together for about 6 months now and we have both decided that we are ready to have sex. we are both virgins so we are a bit unsure of where to get condoms. i would also like to go on the pill to make sure i dont get ...

A.   15 June 2009: condoms are one of the best things on the Market to use. They are 99.9% effective and protect against STD and things like that... The pill works as a way of tricking your body into thinking that you are pregnant but it's not and because it tric... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my anxiety?

Q.   I have a problem of experiencing anxiety when I don't hear from my girlfriend. She will tell me she will call and when she doesn't I start thinking about all kinds of things that just isn't true. It always turns out to be no big deal at all, it's ...

A.   15 June 2009: Trust her.. This is the only way to get over it maybe even try a little bit if councelling as this can help get over anxiety... If you want this relationship too work then you will do anything to help it too progress.. Good luck x... (read in full...)

Had a dream about a girl. Does this make me bi that I can't stop thinking about her?

Q.   iv thought i was bi for a while now last night i had a dream and me and the girl i know from athletics were kissing and like getting off with each other and iv been thinking about her i have done before i meanshes really pritty shes kinda boy ish ...

A.   15 June 2009: Your still young so this could just be your mind trying new tricks on you and your body wanting to explore a little bit more.. Ask her for her number and see what happens between you but the chances are that if she is in year eight then there is a... (read in full...)

I feel like a child compared to my friends because I'm not having sex, drinking and taking drugs!

Q.   Im 14 years old and all my friends are already having sex and giving guys BJs and drinking, drugs ect... i really don't fit in but for some reason im friends with them there nice people but i feel as if im werid cos i dont have a boyfriend and im q...

A.   15 June 2009: Don't feel like a child at all.. You not joining in with al these things then is showing that you are more of a grown up then all of your friends that are doing all the stuff already and the thing is when they get older and look back on what they ... (read in full...)

23 and a virgin. Boyfriend doesn't want to be the one I lose it too!

Q.   I'm 23 and still a virgin. It's not that I wanted to wait till marriage; I just wanted to wait for the right person and the right loving situation. I've been going out with this guy for over a month now, who was my friend for 3 years first, and ...

A.   15 June 2009: the thing is boys get funny over this sort of stuff and some boys get really nervous.. (take the first time I lost my virginity) he really struggled to get it up and blamed it on nerves... If you really want to loose it to him then you should talk... (read in full...)

Why do I get turned on so easily?

Q.   Why do I get horny so easily? I can just be hugging my girlfriend and i get turned on! Why is this?...

A.   15 June 2009: It's obvious that you are one horny boy.. Haha.. It just your body way telling you to have sex and you obviously just get easily aroused.. Why not trying masteaubating alot this might make you feel alot less horny!! Good luck x... (read in full...)

What is a climax?

Q.   wut does it mean when u climax?...

A.   15 June 2009: Climax in sexual terms is when you have come to the end of your pleasure and you come... The actuall dictionary definition of climax is when you reach the highest point of whatever I'd going on such as an artist career he knows when he finishs ... (read in full...)

Do you think he is playing hard to get or did I just really screw it up?

Q.   so this guy i know has always tried to get a hold of me. we go to different schools. and for the past year it just never really happened...us getting to hang out. but then last week he started texting me again..asking me to hang out. but i never ...

A.   15 June 2009: Yiu should phone him and see what is going on as this us the only way you are going to find out... I wouldn't thought that he would find you easy as I have been in the same situation and then they have just turneed around and said that they coul... (read in full...)

Is it normal to get itchy "down there'' after shaving?

Q.   Ok this isn't really a problem but I just wanted some advice from the gals out there. Is it normal to get really itchy after shaving 'down there' or is it just me? In which case should I use a hair removal cream instead? I could really do with some ...

A.   15 June 2009: yeah it's really normal I always get itchy and somepeople suffer from really bad in grown hairs which lucky for me I haven't... Just try some hair removal stuff and see if it makes it feel alot better but tbh it only itches because the hair is ... (read in full...)

Attracted to older men!

Q.   So I am 17 and my issue is that I am not into high school boys, I have never been with an older man but I am more attracted to the idea of being with someone older! Most men that i am attracted to are between the age of 25 and 27. Does that make me ...

A.   15 June 2009: This is perfectly normal and is nowhere near classed as looked down upon.. Most men at the age you like are really at the same maturity level you are and this is probably why you look down on your boyfriend as still being childish.. X... (read in full...)

Should I consider applying for schools out there in case there's a chance for us? Did I do the right thing?

Q.   Last summer, I met a guy through a friend and although I knew he was moving to California, I proceeded seeing him for the three weeks he was here because we were both into each other. When he left for California, I was completely devastated. (I am ...

A.   15 June 2009: I would say that it wouldn't hurt in applying for schools in calafornia also compare costs of what you would be able to afford and if you did move out there then how othen would you be able to return to Florida to see your family... If you real... (read in full...)

I am afraid that my husband will lose his control and perhaps do something beyond his control.

Q.   dear cupid, I've been married for 13 months. I am a christian catholic wife married to an Islam husband. Before we got married, he assured me that he will not prevent me from my catholic practices, however he asked me to study a little about Mu...

A.   15 June 2009: Just take your son this is the only you are going to get what you want... If he starts getting funny then you should take him too court and get everything sorted out legally and judjes always favourtise mothers over fathers it's worth a try.... (read in full...)

Mother & brother won't let me date this guy!

Q.   MOD NOTE: Poster is 13... Okay, this may seam as a typical relatoinship problem but for me it is much more. SO my older brother has a friend that is my age. we have been talking to each other over the phone and online. we are NOT DATING but we b...

A.   15 June 2009: When your 13 it is still abit young to be dating older guys... Your mum and brother are kinda right about that!! What you are feeling is probably not love either as you are still young and there is no way you can feel that just by talking over the ... (read in full...)

Myster gift of flowers..are they from my date?

Q.   Hi, im a seventeen year old girl and i have only ever had one boyfriend. we were together 11 months but then split for the best. ive been single now for 9 months, recently ive been speakin to this guy, ive known him about 3 years now, we speak every ...

A.   15 June 2009: These flowers are blantantly from him... If somebody was playing a joke it is a little mean.. This is the sort of thing seems only to happen on movies and this is so sweet for him to do!!!! Your mum probably just said that because she's jealous ... (read in full...)

I just am at a crossroads with my feelings - what do you advise?

Q.   2 months ago my huband went to afternoon shifts at work. He then began being gone all the time before and after work. He said that he was out drinking with the buddies. I was okay with that because I never wanted him to feel tha he had to be at home ...

A.   13 June 2009: This is hard. Advice for this can even be taken in the right way or the wrong way. Do you think that this relationship could go on and I know that you love him but is he worth even trying to rebuild a relationship. 16 years is a long time and you ... (read in full...)

Why is my gf acting so strange?

Q.   hello dear readers:) i'm at my first year at the university i was dating a girl for 4 months, we've been even leaving together for a month, because her parents took a long vacation.And some days ago , she practically doesn't talk to me, even ...

A.   13 June 2009: who knows what is a matter with this girl!! The best thing would to be just sit her down and talk to her about how you are feeling also then she will think you are sensetibe which is also a plus with us girls as we like a man that will shair his ... (read in full...)

It's been 2 years, yet everytime I see her picture I get upset. Please help!

Q.   It's been almost 2 years to the day that my first love broke things off with me. For the past couple of months I feel like I've been able to get on with things without too many problems. I had a bit of a wobble several weeks ago when I actually ...

A.   13 June 2009: I feel so sorry for you. You must if loved this girl so much to still be feeling these powerfull feelings for her. I'm afraid no1 can help you with what you are feeling and no matter what any one says to you it is obviously not going to make any ... (read in full...)

Missed the pill on weds, unprotected sex on fri, could I be pregnant?

Q.   im a bit worried, wonder if anyone can help - if you miss a pill (combined pill) on the wednesday, then have unprotected sex on the friday what are the chances of the pill failing to work?...

A.   13 June 2009: There could be quite a high chance that you are preganant. However if you were taking the pill for the other days then that could help your chances to not be. Take a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side. ... (read in full...)

I love her yet I hate her...

Q.   well now. here I am again. I have been on here a couple of times. it started wit a girl I fell in love with and we became a lot more than just friends. I've bent over backwards for this girl and then some. I want nothing more than to make her happy. ...

A.   13 June 2009: Cut off all communications with her she is using you and no one deserves to go through the pain of why she is putting you through. It sounds as if you are her sort of male booty call if you get what I mean? I would stop all contacts with her and ... (read in full...)

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