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writes: My girlfriend loved me sooooooo much but after 6 months she suddenly said that she is not intrested in me and I really don't know why...? I didn't do anything bad... Reply to this Question
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (15 August 2007):
Wow that must be hard for you to deal with, not having a understanding for really why she ended it. Its hard to understand and even cope with, that if she loved you soooo much, how could she just lose interest so suddenly?
Personally I would suspect there is something more to the situation. She may not be being hoenst with why she is breaking it off. But then again, I guess sometimes peoples feelings just fade for someone. I know thats hard to accept, because you obviously still have deep feelings for her. Perhaps you could try talking to her again- not to change her mind but so you can get some closure. By having the true understanding of why she broke it off then you will be able to take steps to moving forward in life.
I think you deserve a better explanation then just 'ive lost interest in you'. So try talking to her about it. Ask specific questions, to get a more detailed answer. And remind her that you want a hoenest answer, even if ti hurts.
Breaking up is hard, espeically when one person was still fully engaged in the relationship, but perhaps it just wasnt meant to be! Some other lucky girl will find you, or you will find her one day.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (15 August 2007):
You also may have taken things too fast. You say she loved you soooooo much, and sometimes the relationships that start intensely and seem like they quickly get more intense fizzle out and fall apart as quickly as they begin.
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (15 August 2007):
 I think that she may need some space and give your self some time to breath and rebuild your heart.
you seem heart broken poor thing but the best thig to do is ot run after her but give her time and maybe talk and see whats up with you and her from there.
just always be careful and remember this saying
break my heart once shame on you break my heart twice shame on me.
if you choose to take her back that youll have to rebuilt the trust from her leaving you but if she does it again i think its better left alone and if she doesnt want a relationship than thats her call it takes two to make a relationship and only one to break one but also love isnt a oe way street when it comes to a relationship
stay safe and happy
lots of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): I'm sure you didn't do anything bad. Keep in mind that the purpose of dating is so you can both get to know one another, and, if interested in trying to form a long-term relationship, spending time together, alone, and/or with friends, maybe family, too; doing social activities you both like; discussing what your values and goals are, and what you want in a relationship, is all part of the discernment process.
As is seeing how you both are when one of you has had a bad or disappointing day/week, or difficulties he/she is trying to deal with. When the initial "glow" of infatuation has worn off a little, that's when you can begin to get a clearer view of the person you are involved with.
As you know, sometimes everything goes very well, and you find that while you are not "carbon copies" of one another who spend 24/7 together (neither of which would be good for a budding friendship anyway), but you ARE comfortable together; can talk openly (especially important when differences of opinion come up!); you enjoy being in each other's company and find one another attractive and are looking for the same basic things.
Other times you may find you are not too much "in sync" after all. Maybe one of you is going off to university, or overseas for a period of time. Maybe there are certain things about the other that annoys you. Maybe she finds qualities she doesn't like, but does not feel able to talk about it.
The point is, it takes several months to find out whether the two of you really are a good match after all.
Infatuation - or being "sooooo much in love with you" - is apt to blur the picture, as it were, and when infatuation wears off - as it always does, sooner or later - you may then "wake up" to realize that continuing to be involved with this particular man or woman, is not want you want after all.
From what you tell us, it sounds as though that could be what happened to your girlfriend.
Doesn't mean she's a bad person. Its just the way life is, sometimes, and for the one who gets left, as you have been, its a sad disappointment.
Daniel's advice is very good. I hope mine will be of some help.
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reader, girl with a point of view  +, writes (15 August 2007):
give her some space dont get into contact with her till she makes the effort to speak to u.. playing hard to get is sometimes good xx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 No person ever breaks up with someone else out of the blue. There is always some reason. Maybe you failed to see a problem in the relationship, but she obviously saw one.
The usual advice: don't push it. If she wants to break up, let her. You can't keep her against her will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): Aww, well people change and so do feelings. I know what you mean because my ex did the same to me. theres no answer to this apart from changing.
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