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I have been there and I know what it's like to feel completely out of control of your life.
I am here to help you, I am here to listen and give friendly advice, whenever you need it, for whatever problem you have.
I managed to turn my life around and now I am in a beautiful relationship with a wonderful woman, now I want to do the same for you. All I have ever wanted is to help people.
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Can you get an STD if penis was only 1/2 covered by condom?
Q. I will like to know if having sex and you found out that the condom is half way on your penis, can u get infected with std,std like that ...
A. 31 July 2013: While the risk is reduced, yes it is still very possible to catch an STD with the condom applied this way.
Best thing to do next time is to occasionally check the condom to ensure that it is rolled all the way down to the base of your penis.
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What did her text mean? Was it good? Or not so good?
Q. Hello I,m a 52 year old man , and I,ve just been on a first date with a woman. we had lunch, and at the end of the date, I said can I text or call you and she said yes, but a few hours later, before I texted her to thank her ...
A. 31 July 2013: Her tone certainly does seem a tad dismissive to me, but there is only one sure way of knowing.
Wait a day or so and ask her out again, if she refuses or says she has other plans then I'd say leave it, she probably isn't interested.
All the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a squirting fixation and makes me feel inadequate because I can't do it.
Q. Sorry to be vulgar, but I am experiencing a bit of tension in my relationship because I am not meeting my partner's expectations. I am his first, and he has a "squirting" fixation... before we got together, he actually did not know it was poss...
A. 29 July 2013: He has totally unrealistic expectations of what women can and cannot do. Some can, some can't and it is not fair that he places this expectation on you.
It's high time he was brought back to reality and told to let this fantasy go. Tell him exac... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm bisexual, am I?
Q. My boyfriend today told me he thinks im bi-sexual, infact he says he knows im bi-sexual....am i? I do fantasize about lesbian sex, i fantasize about being with another woman alot. We watch porn and the lesbian stuff really gets me going. I had a t...
A. 24 May 2012: You are what ever you want to be, it is not up to your boyfriend or anyone else to classify you.
You can explore what ever you wish and define yourself however you wish. If you think you are bisexual then you are if you think you are bi-curio... (read in full...)
I want a girlfriend maybe but not kids. Does this mean there is something wrong with me?
Q. Is there anything wrong with wanting a girlfriend but NEVER wanting kids? Am I being too unflexible? Should I compromise my belief to some extent? How does this work?...
A. 20 May 2012: It is completely fine to want a girlfriend but not kids, lots of people feel the same way.
My sister in law has a boyfriend but is absolutely set on never having kids, and everyone is fine with it, her boyfriend has no preference to wanting ... (read in full...)
My hormones are raging like a wildfire!
Q. My hormones are raging like a wildfire!!!I'm only 15 and why am i feeling this way..I'm so horny all the time and can't even stop from being that way. I feel like i need sex every freaking day. Does that make me a sex addict?...
A. 18 May 2012: Dudet, this is normal teenage behavior. Everyone goes through it from both sexes.
You are not a sex addict you're coming into your own. I would recommend you start exploring things like masturbation if you haven't already or you will drive yo... (read in full...)
One time with oral sex and now he says we shouldn't do it again
Q. Hi, I have been having troubles with my relationship (if you can call it that). Lets call the person I dated Mark. Mark is 18, I am almost 17. Mark and I have known each other for about 3 years. We had become really good friends. About 4 months a...
A. 18 May 2012: First off, the age thing has nothing to do with it, you are both mature people and are over the consensual age limit so there should be no difficulty there. If he hasn't fully come out then that might be why he has gone off being with you. It was... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want sex most times we see each other?
Q. Hello, wondering whether I can get any good advice. I'm 37 and my girlfriend is 36. We've been together 8-months and we're definitely at the in love stage. I've just one little worry... Due to our work patterns we usually only get to see each othe...
A. 18 May 2012: A lot of men are afraid of making sex a priority in relationships because they are afraid they will be met with hostility from their partner over it. But you are right to give sex a high place in your relationship, it is one of the best bonding ... (read in full...)
In a great relationship for 3 years, but I feel I have missed out on playing the field! What should I do?
Q. soo i have a relationship with a beautiful woman and have been for three years...the thing is i like looking at other woman and have a huge interest in talking to other women but i havent cheated on her physically or even went through with talking ...
A. 17 May 2012: I am in the same position as you my friend, I too am in a long term committed relationship at the age of 19, and to be honest, I have never been happier.
Yes there are times when I think how fun it would be to play the field, but I then realize ... (read in full...)
I need the followup text to the girl I met! Help!
Q. Last night was my first time at a nightclub in LA and a girl came up to me within my first 5 minutes of being there and asked if I'd like to come dance with her friends (it was one of her friends bachelloretes party) I complied and she started ...
A. 7 May 2012: No reason to be nervous, you are just asking to see her again, its like asking an old friend if they want to see you again.
At the moment there is nothing between you two so there is nothing for you too mess up, just be cool and be yourself... (read in full...)
Is moaning during kissing normal?
Q. Just a simple question..... i was going out with this guy and well he took me to the movies and dinner but then when he drove me home we started kissing and well as were maaking out he was moaning i thought it was wierd. We had only been tpgether ...
A. 7 May 2012: Guys and girls moan during kissing, its perfectly normal.
Its simply a verbal sign of passion and enjoyment, really you know your a good kisser if they are moaning lol
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said "he's the boss of me, not me the boss of him!"
Q. Hello, I have a boyfriend we have been together for 2 and a half years hes and have recently hit some problems and we broke up for about a month, but after some talking we got back together. But yesterday he got annoyed at me for something ...
A. 7 May 2012: Domination and submission can be fun and indeed can form the bases of some relationships.
But to say that he is the boss of you, and can tell you what to do but you can't say anything to him? I'm not an expert but that sounds suppressive and to a... (read in full...)
I made a drunken mistake with my best friend. do I tell my new b/f before he hears it somewhere else?
Q. Last night I made a silly drunken mistake with a best friend meaning things could be over before they begun with the guy I've been seeing who has now made it official. Do I tell my new boyfriend about this? Or hope he won't find out? Okay, so...
A. 13 April 2012: Its a bad thing for anyone to hear, but it would be best coming from you.
P's friends will probably have seen what happened and they will tell him. There version could be much much worse.
If you tell him, you can tell him the absolute truth a... (read in full...)
Is it natural for a 17 yr old boy to find a girl's nurturing and mothering side attractive even if it's just the way she soothed her pet when it was scared?
Q. Is it natural for a 17 yr old boy to find a girl's nurturing and mothering side attractive even if it's just the way she soothed her pet when it was scared? I don't think I was thinking of her sexually in any way and I wasn't thinking about having ...
A. 13 April 2012: You take comfort from that, its fine to feel that way. It says you're sensitive and nice.
Don't worry about things like that.
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
I don't think my boyfriend is 'right' for me.
Q. I'm so confused! Okay, so I've dated my boyfriend for a couple months now, but we've known each other for about a year now. He dates one of my good friends right before him and I started dating. Well, they've been talking more and more and I've tol...
A. 13 April 2012: Its better to make one last attempt at your current relationship than just drop it.
Have a serious talk with your boyfriend, tell him of your fears and that you want him to be closer to you and talk to you more.
If things don't change, that's t... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I'm turned on by my girlfriend's sex toys?
Q. Hi everyone, I’m just wanting to get a bit of perspective on something, it's not an issue per say, I just wanna make sure I’m not weird in my behaviour. Ok so basically my girlfriend and me have just started living together and she has brought ...
A. 12 April 2012: You are aroused by the pleasure that they give your girl friend, how is that weird? That is brilliant and I'm sure your girlfriend loves that as well.
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
An old friend kissed me on the lips!
Q. I am in a commited relationship to my boyfriend of almost a year now. I would never even think or barely look at another man. I went to a party and an old friend of mine whom i hadnt seen in a few years, who was really drunk at the time i arrived, ...
A. 12 April 2012: You didn't do anything and clearly didn't want him to kiss you so it wasn't cheating.
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
Are we having to much telefonsex?
Q. Uhm ... Hello. This question is a bit embarassing for me but uhm ... yeah. My boyfriend and me are having a long-distance-relationship so we don't see each other very often but we are telephoning and chatting all the time. Two months ago we start...
A. 12 April 2012: As far as I can gather, you are only worrying because you think it might be abnormal. If you like doing it that often and want to do it that often then do it that often.
Your boyfriend has already said that he will stop doing it that often if... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 19, is it inappropriate for us to be together?
Q. Hi me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a month and a half, and it's going wonderfully, I think I am falling for him. The problem is, we get a lot of judgement due to our ages, he is 19 and I am 16. So he has got a job, and I am at ...
A. 12 April 2012: Its perfectly fine. If you are happy and he is happy then those who judge clearly don't know happiness when they see it.
I hope you guys are very happy.
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
Fooled around with my male friend, I don't know if he is straight, bi or gay! What should I say to him?
Q. Hey all. Il give a bit of background to the situation. I have this friend whos a lad, we relly close am gay and he doesn't know. I think he is gay but maybe bi. We're close hes the only male friend am really close to cus most of my mates are girls. ...
A. 12 April 2012: I don't think there is a stereotypical gay lad for him to look or act like. He could very well be gay or bi, you don't know.
Either way, you shouldn't let this come between you guys. You are obviously really close friends and you need to at least... (read in full...)
I love wearing briefs, am I the only one who does this?
Q. Hey all. Am nearly 15 and am gay. I love wearing briefs. But if anyone found out i wear them they would take the mick. So i wear boxers over them. What i want to know is am i the only one who does this or used to do this. Cheers. Xx =)...
A. 12 April 2012: Why would anyone take the mick at that? I wear briefs and boxers, nothing wrong with them at all.
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
Is it ok for 3rd cousins to date each other?
Q. ok so I am in love with this guy and he is in love with me, we talk about the future and what we want to see in it, well the other day he told me that he want's to get married to me and have children the thing is that we found out that he is my 3rd ...
A. 1 September 2011: As far as I know there are no legal issues with that, hell there aren't any issues with 1st cousins as far as I'm aware.
Genetic issues are also unlikely as you are very distantly related.
You can decide to go with or against what ever your c... (read in full...)
Would sending him texts at work put some spice back?
Q. Would like some ideas on how to put some spice back in the bed room we have been together 5yrs and got too small children so things have started getting a little boring was thinking about sending him texts at work or emails and see if that gets him ...
A. 1 September 2011: I think it's a brilliant idea, go for it.
There is nothing sexier than a steamy text telling you that your partner is thinking of you and can't wait to bed you or other things which I can write here.
Guys love that sort of thing, it would ... (read in full...)
My BF has asked me to use a strap-on for him. I don't want to!
Q. For background, my entire romantic life has been full of men who did not make me feel womanly. I happen to be a more forward/blunt person and that has resulted in me being the one who "wears the pants" in every relationship except my current one. I...
A. 22 August 2011: I've asked my partner if she could do the very same thing to me, and the look on her face was as if I'd asked her to meet the Queen in the nude, I'd never seen her so terrified lol.
She doesn't want to do it, she told me and I excepted that. Yo... (read in full...)
Are love spells considered to be 'witchcraft'?
Q. Are love spells considered a Witchcraft type of practice or anything of that sort that deals with the dark side?...
A. 22 August 2011: A love spell would only create a powerful infatuation or desire, true love is impossible to create artificially.
While it is not dark in nature is manipulates a person against their will which is a dark thing so is best avoided.
All the best,... (read in full...)
Do you have to be pretty to be loved?
Q. I'm only 16 but i've never had a boyfriend and i've only ever kissed guys that have been drunk at parties. Im really unconfident about myself, particuarly my appearance, and i just feel so unwanted. Do I have to be pretty to be loved?...
A. 22 August 2011: To speak on behalf of men before we get branded as pigs I would like to say that you do not have to be pretty to be loved.
Virtually all guys from 12 to 20 will judge you on looks above all else but I am here to tell you that there are those wh... (read in full...)
Why don't I feel anything during oral? And how can I tell my girlfriend without hurting her?
Q. Hay people, I need some help. Me and my girlfriend are great but there is something that bothers me. Its nothing bad but I would like to correct it. We have great sex and I love giving her oral and she loves giving it to me but I can never ...
A. 18 August 2011: I will try to reduce my masturbation and see what happens, thank you :)... (read in full...)
I never want to date a guy but the thought of oral turns me on. What does that make me?
Q. I find myself always very flirty with women and always easily turned on by them, however i've noticed that i always find the thought of naked men arousing as well, and also gay porn turns me on, but also lesbian porn turns me on, i'm confused, does ...
A. 18 August 2011: Its your orientation, you give it a name.
I find women sexually attractive and love sex with women. I also find men sexually attractive but only find some aspects of gay sex appealing. I call myself bi.
It really is up to you how you define y... (read in full...)
Could I have been writing my future on the wall?
Q. Well the thing is I have been obsesed with writing the letter D on walls with my finger for like a year when im nervous r anxious then it makes me feel relieved but last week i met this boy whos names tarts with 'D' and we clicked righ away , he ...
A. 18 August 2011: Its a lovely thought but I wouldn't base your entire future on this just because you can see a connection. Treat this like you had never been writing 'D's, would you have gotten on any worse with this guy? Would the writing have made any differe... (read in full...)
Her mom found me hiding in her closet and now the family doesn't like me! Help me make it right!
Q. my girlfriends parents, i WAS on good terms with her but with the past events with my gf, i think she really dislikes me. the reason: i went to my girlfriends house without her parents knowing,and i swear all we did was kiss on the lips and tal...
A. 18 August 2011: My friend you can fix this but it will take a lot of ass kissing.
Firstly you need to go to her parents house and apologise, and mean it. Until their daughter is 18 they are in charge and you have to respect that. Tell them you are sorry for disr... (read in full...)
Help ! My orgasms are not normal !! why do I release so much sperm ?!?!
Q. I am 22 yrs. bi male from Czech Republic living in Canada I don't know if I should call this a problem. but it's definitely causing some serious distraction lately I have these really intense orgasms. Most people can't wait to orgasm and reach...
A. 24 April 2011: I am jealous of you dude!
Its a rarity but some men do have elongated orgasms where they can cum a lot and it lasts for a long time, its perfectly normal and something to be cherished.
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me to want real cock
Q. I started out with my gf sticking her finger in my ass well she had a dildo and she said if I could take her dildo all the way in my ass I could fuck her in her ass(she said this jokingly) so I brought her the dildo and told her to do it. I took it ...
A. 17 April 2011: Normal, definitely. Pursue, no. Its all very well you being turned on by this, me and my girlfriend do the same thing and I sometimes have fantasies about the male genitalia when she isn't around. But unless you are single it would not be wise ... (read in full...)
Should I show my boobs to my online boyfriend?
Q. hi i am of 18old .i have a small doubt can i be romantic with my boyfriend? when we generally talk each other in video chat,at that time he asked me to show my boobs(chest without bra and anthing like that) i want to know can i show him what he h...
A. 17 April 2011: Depends on how well you know him and if you feel you can trust him. If you have known each other for a while now and you can say that you trust him then yes if you want to. But if not then don't do it, or ask him for something first to test th... (read in full...)
Advice on how to use sex toys
Q. advice on sex toys please/ never have used them but im a lesbian and my g.friend wants 2 use them on me. im a virgin but she dont know that and im scared if we have sex then she will find out so is this possible? also im scared 2have sex toys inside ...
A. 10 April 2011: Hang on a second, calm down. First off its best if you explain to your girl friend that you are a virgin, she will be more understanding of your anxiousness. There is no 'proper' way to my knowledge to use a sex toy, just do what feels right an... (read in full...)
I'm 14: Should I let this boy have sex with me?
Q. hi, i am asking for help. well i met this boy on facebook not too long ago, and im starting to like him. one day he said he wanted to meet me, and i asked what would he do. he said he would try to have sex with me in the family bathroom at the mall. ...
A. 5 April 2011: NO NO NO NO NO!!!!! I am going to repeat everything that everyone else has said for emphasis, DON'T DO IT!!!!! He is just looking for a quick shag and that is all you would ever be to him. Sex for the first time should be special, not done in a... (read in full...)
Should I tell him when he give me butterflies?
Q. I was just wondering, do guys want to know when they are turning you on? Only because my boyfriend sometimes does this thing when he starts drawing on the back of my hand with his finger and then he sometimes runs his hand gently down my arm and it ...
A. 5 April 2011: Guys tend to like to know if what they're doing is working but it puts up off if you come out and say 'wow that action is really turning me on'. We prefer more subtle signs, like a soft moan or two, or saying that your getting wet, or passiona... (read in full...)
At my age are there any legal or moral grounds where your parents can forbid you to date?
Q. Are there any justifiable legal or moral grounds on which your parents can forbid you to date at the age of 19? I mean, if you still live with them but never bring your boyfriend home (so nothing happens under their roof) and you're sensible ...
A. 5 April 2011: There are no laws that govern dating at any age in Britain, or indeed anywhere as far as I know. So long as you're sensible and don't bring any guys home then you should be fine, if not then remind them that you are an adult and can judge for yo... (read in full...)
I have loved my Science teacher for years. I need to find a way to tell him (discretely).
Q. just to give you a brief overview of the situation i was in year 8, young and naive, when i started to like my science teacher. he is rather attractive, i could go on for ages, but generally charming and funny. so naturally, i started to like ...
A. 4 April 2011: You want a plan of attack rather than retreat, ok I can do that.
Your idea about going back after you've left is good, its not too bad once your no longer his student but you may still face stigma.
If that is the case then you need to know if ... (read in full...)
I love my best cousin's wife and she loves me too. Please advise!
Q. Hi, I'm having a problem. I'm 18 years old. Me and my family traveled away to see my cousins that i haven't seen in a long time, My best cousin just got married with a girl. I was really excited about it, and happy for them, but when i saw her i fe...
A. 30 March 2011: OK, we have two opposing views here so let me try and balance it out. You love each other, that much is obvious, but you need to consider the people involved. First, your cousin. He and her are married so really this is a no go situation. Your ... (read in full...)
What do you find attractive? Opinions wanted please!
Q. Hello :) My question is personal opinion! Feel free to answer! I really have been curious about what everyone is attracted to in a woman physically. Full figure, small hands ext. This is not shallow, and I KNOW personality plays sometimes a bigg...
A. 30 March 2011: My girlfriend is short and plump. I have had girlfriends who were taller then me, skinny, big ass, small ass, big bust, small bust. If I'm honest most looks are filtered from my vision until I get to know someone. I have little preference on wh... (read in full...)
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