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writes:hiya.. ive been with this man for a few month and its been perfect.. just he rang me saying is this going to go further ? .. I havnt slept with him yet .. and im only 16 .. hes 20 .. im just scared incase he only wants me for one thing .. and i have only ever had sex once before .. i dont know why but im still nervous about it .. should i sleep with him so i dont lose him? .. i realy dont know what to do ? help please xx Reply to this Question
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Dont even think this if you tell him you dont want to sleep with him and he dumps you then its HIS loss not yours. Sex is a big step in a relationship and if he doesnt want to wait to get you into bed then get rid of him.
Dont do something you dont want to do in fear you will lose him, if he gets rid of you because you dont want sex then he has no respect for you and you deserve better
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): No No no!!! Do you realyl want a guy who will only stay with you if you sleep with him? Didn't think so, if he truly does like you let him wait until your ready. It's not the way to keep a guy with you,
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): You should sleep with him only if you want to sleep with him and not for any other reason.
If he tries to blackmail you by threatening to leave you if you don't give in, he's not worth bothering with and should be discarded sooner rather than later. If you think you can keep him by having sex with him you could be very much mistaken. There's a chance that once he's had it he'll be off like a shot looking for pastures new and another conquest.
Repeat paragraph 1.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): No, that wouldn't be a good reason to sleep with anybody. If he's going to leave you because you won't sleep with him then he isn't worth it, is he, sweetie? Are you sure that's what he meant, though? Has he said anything else? He could have just meant to ask if you were serious about the relationship ... but ohwell, you know him better than I do! Just don't feel pressured to do anything you aren't comfortable with!
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reader, kim 18 +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Hey u sholdnt sleep with him just to keep him. ur only 16 its normal to still feel nervous about sex. if u dont want to sleep with him yet dont it is up to u tell him ur not ready and ask him to wait if he says no then he dose only want u for sex and u dont need lads like that in ur life or in u bed i hope things work out for u gd luck
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