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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:my divorce from my ex who was angry and abusive most of the time is nearly through. it has been an awful 2o years of a relationship. i last saw him in dec when i finally reported him to the police for damaging my car. i had never done this kind of thing to him before but i had enough of his abuse. he recieved a fine and the police gave him a verbal warning him not to contact me. i also was pushed that far that i dished out some dirt about him to some aquaintances of his who think he is so nice. what i mean by that is that they recieved a copy of a report in a paper which reported my ex getting done for child abuse. i had never done anything like this before to him in all the 20 years. then i filed for divorce. he sent the papers back to the courts saying not at this address, but the judge still went ahead with the divorce. now out of the blue i have been recieving some bills for my ex. im not sure if this is his way of wanting me to get in touch with him as the police told him not to contact me, as in the past i would have probably contacted him and said you have got some mail. this time i have ignored him and not done anything. i feel i would just go back to the same old routine if i did, always being worried around him. i feel very upset alot of the time. i have our 17 year old son with me who he never contacts. and we are hoping to move in the next few months. will i ever get over him and why do i feel down alot of the time. i know i am doing the right thing to stay away. will my ex be regretting what he has done to us.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (24 July 2008):
 First of all congratulations on getting out of this relationship alot of people dont leave abuse relationships for fear.
I know you hurt at the moment but it will get better i wont lie and say it will be soon but in time you will feel better about the situation and yourself, remeber some women die from abuse and thankfully you are out of that now.
You are divorced you are moving you are going to start a brand new life without him and you will find someone who will treat you like the princess you are but you have to leave your ex in the past do not waste another moment thinking about him or whether he regrets what he has done, it doesnt matter anymore he is out of your life never for a minute let your mind think whatif?
Start a new life with your son new job new friends new start do not live in the past things get better one day you will wake up and not miss him and not think of him, focus on yourself and what you want everything else will fall into place.
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