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anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for three and a half months and it was great at first, but these days things are just different. He can be moody and distant, and he now answers my texts with just a few words (no kisses), or not at all. When I try and make conversation when hes in a mood he'll barely answer me, and he seems to have started ignoring me at school.And theres this other guy whos made it quite clear he likes me...he even asked me if there would be a chance for him if i ever became single (I texted back and said yes, if became single). I met up with him at the weekend and although nothing happened beyond a long hug, he was really sweet and attentive and we talked for ages. He texts me all the time just to ask how I am and say he loves me.I havent done anything with this guy because I dont want to cheat, but i've realised I do like him. at the same time, i still really care about my boyfriend, and its all making me feel really confused. I feel guilty for texting this guy behind my boyfriends back, and guily that I might be leading this guy on. What should I do? please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2008): hmmm...u shouldnt be hugging him for that long a period of time (from what u said it was more than a friendly hug,sounded quite affectionate)most people dont know that affairs are not only physical,they can be mental as well. in this case your seeking comfort from someone besides your boyfriend in a manner thats likely to upset him. what im saying is if your gunna be doin that kinda thing,end it with your boyfriend first. though i think you should at least talk with your boyfriend letting him know how you feel about his moods.THEN...if he makes no effort to change it would be the best time to leave because it should be pretty clear that he wont make changes even for you,which is harsh...when im ever in dought about my actions i ask mt self this "if i told my partner about this...would she be ojay with it?" in your case ask your self if your bf would be okay with you texting behind his back. You know the answer...i suggest trying to sort things out with your boyfriend first. its the fair way to do it
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (8 September 2008):
 You need to sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him ask him whats wrong, it might just be that he needs his space relationships change with time.
As for the other guy just tell him how you feel tell him you dont want to lead him on but you are not single you have a boyfriend and he needs to calm down.
Just be honest with both of them and communicate how you feel dont worry yourself and keep it bottled up trust them to understand and just talk to them.
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