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anonymous
writes:HiI have been together with my husband for 14 years; been married for 10.I'm confused. I think he may be a little gay. He goes on about a lad at work all the time and he also is really homophobic. Not sure if that is a good enough reason to think that he is gay but he doesnt show me much affection. We have sex maybe 4 times a week and it's great but there is something in my mind all the time and it drives me mad, but I can't get it out of my head.Thanks for reading this be grateful for any comments you can offer x.
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reader, sxybaby1 +, writes (26 November 2007):
this question and the peoples answers to it av made me think alot about my own life my bf has had oral sex wiv men doesnt now but did once and our sex life is amazin he comes on 2 me does oral everytime we have sex i only have to tickle him an he wants 2 rip my clothes off he doesnt go on the internet anymore since i found out he spends all his time wiv me unless hes at work he says he wants to spend his life makin it up 2 me ( the fact he lied 2 me) is he gay?????? i dont know either but i do no i love him an as long as he is giving me everything i need love romance so on an so on i will luv him and hope 2 trust again..........
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): I have far more reason to think that my husband is gay. We've had sex in the pst 8 years maybe four times... you're complaining about four times a week!!! I'm ready to leave my hsuband because I believe he's gay and he's in denial of it. He hates touching me, he's okay with hugging, a great friend, but not in anyway my lover - I do not feel any pain for you. Maybe you should get your husband to go to therapy to see if he's ready to come out of his shell. My husband I believe in the past year as he sees the therapist more and more, he becomes more obvious to me. I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop, and/or finish school. I tell you this, I think ALL men are gay now. So hold onto your wonderful husband and talk to him about your concern. Let him talk, duct tape your mouth if you have to do that... I did. Unfortunately, I don't believe I love him anymore, we sleep in seperate rooms, and he's not seen me naked for nearly 5 years now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): my husband is gay and i have now left him. we rarely had sex, he would go to sleep on the floor if i just hugged him. we never kissed, he never touched me, and he told me he was gay.....if u have a healthy sexual relationship, there shouldnt be a real problem....but hey, u know him best...good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): I'll trade with you my non gay husband who wants sex once a month for your gay husband who wants sex 4 times a week.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (18 October 2007):
 There isn't a lot of information to go on - so all these are guesses. Someone does not have to be all out gay - they can be bi-sexual. And they can be be bi-curious. There's clearly something causing you to think here....I'm not saying he is ....just a possibility...... but might he be admiring someone at work as a possible bed partner/ threesome involving you in some way. Don't rip into him if I'm wrong ...just trying to help with your question. Let us know the outcome.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (18 October 2007):
 I think the likellhood that your husband is gay is somewhat slim going by what you have mentioned. He has only spoken about this guy, and you also have sex four times a week.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks very much for taking the time to read my silly question, i think its the fact that he is so homophobic that makes matters worse i have read in loads of places that is 1 of the tell tale signs of someone being gay i think maybe i'm just overreacting, but you do hear loads of gay men start life off married to a woman!
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Your having sex 4 times a week and you think your husband gay? My brother is gay and finds the thought of having sex with a woman repulsive so do his gay friends just because he goes on about a guy from work doesnt make him gay just means he likes this guy, when the sex stops and lame excuses are told to you about why he isnt in the mood then get suspicious but i think you have nothing to worry about.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 October 2007):
 With the information you give, I wouldn't think he is gay.
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