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I live about 35 miles south of Tulsa, Oklahoma, USA.
Currently a mechanical engineer in a division of the company that makes Peterbuilt and Kenworth trucks and winches, but have recently earned my Phd. in Psychology.
Now all I have to do is pay off my tuition and I will have my diploma in my hot little hand.
I have lots of life experience as well and the desire to help all whom I can.
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I like this guy, how do I know if he likes me too?
Q. dear cupid, there is this guy and i really like him but i dont know if he likes me what should i do ...
A. 7 April 2007: Sweetheart, just stay available to the guy. If you keep an eye on him and he does like you there will be signs you will pick up on. Most importantly, be yourself. Don't put on a mask, so to speak, to impress him. In most cases a person will begin to ... (read in full...)
His back problem stops him from orgasming!! How can I talk to him about it without him feeling less of a man ?
Q. I just came across this site today and the advice here is excellent! Maybe you'll offer some of your wisdom to me? 10 years ago I started dating a tall dark and handsome/type a/workaholic/ivy educated/executive type. He's also a really good person. ...
A. 4 April 2007: Nothing you can say to him will make him feel worse about it short of you belittling him for it which I am sure you will not do in the first place.
You can take a walk or sit quietly with him and talk to him about it as well as some possible solu... (read in full...)
My ex said he still likes me but tonight I saw him kissing someone else!!!
Q. I need advice and asap! normally I'm good at giving out advice but this time I'm stuck. My ex contacted me and said he still likes me but he had a girlfriend at the time, now they have broken up but i keep seeing them together and tonight I saw them ...
A. 4 April 2007: Sweetheart, you are still young. There may be several times you will think you have found the right guy only to realize later that mabe he wasn't the one after all.
This guy aparently isn't that worried about you or he would drop the other girl alto... (read in full...)
I feel my sex life is being ruined because of this.
Q. Hi, i have been sexualy active for less than a year now. And in the beginning i used to get too wet!- i mean i could barely feel anything, even with very little foreplay. NOW its the opposite, i don't get dry at all!! im 17 and a couple of months ...
A. 4 April 2007: There could be any number of causes for this including the chlamidia.
Sexual activity at your age is a bit premature anyway and there could be any number of problems come up for various reasons, as you have already found out.
In my opinion you shou... (read in full...)
Dating 5 months..is it ok to let him see my boobs?
Q. im 16 and ive been dating a guy for about 5 months. is it ok to let him see my boobs? and i know one thing may lead to another and not to let him pressure me....
A. 28 March 2007: Hon, this is not a wise thing to even consider. You already know how one thing leads to another and now is not the time in your life to start down that path. There is lots of time for that sort of thing and so many times I have heard women talk of ... (read in full...)
She thinks I like another girl...But I like her a lot! How do I ask her for a date?
Q. i'm startin to fancy this girl in my school. she's offered to teach me dance coz i wanted to learn it. she thinks i like another girl which i dont so how do i let her know? how can i date her? ...
A. 28 March 2007: Just come out and ask her if she would like to go together for coffee or something. If she is concerned about you liking someone else she will bring up the subject and you can tell her then. Otherwise don't worry about it. Doc.... (read in full...)
Why does it embarrass me that I lost my virginity at 20 years old?
Q. I feel like such a loser I was a late starter and lost my virginity at the age of 20. To my currant girlfriend. You hear about and read about sex all the time and are keyed into believing that its abnormal to wait that long. My girlfriend lost hers ...
A. 24 March 2007: Don't believe everything you read or hear. I lost my virginity to my wife at age 23. We have now been married 27 years as of this month. She however was not a virgin. I am proud to have waited. She, on the other hand, still regrets that she gave up ... (read in full...)
He lied..so how do we regain the trust we once had?
Q. Hello i was looking for advice on trust. recently my boyfriend lied to me and now the trust has gone out of our relationship. can anyone give us any ideas on how to rebuild this as we both want to continue the relationship please help ...
A. 24 March 2007: Trust is earned and just one lie can destroy it all.
I am reminded of a story I heard once that describes it so well.
There was a boy who had a habit of telling lies. One day his father became fed up with all his lies so he told him; Son, for each... (read in full...)
My ex is saying really bad and awful things to our children when he spends time with them should I stop him seeing them ?
Q. I seperated from my ex 2 years ago and he divorced me last year. Shortly after separating, I got together with a, then, friend of his and we are together and very strong. My ex and I have 3 children together, age 10, 7 and 6. He was seeing them ...
A. 21 March 2007: This is a touchy situation. You should probably get some legal help with this one whether it is an attorney or even asking a police officer for advice on which way to proceed. In this way you can at least get the children out of the hostile ... (read in full...)
I find it difficult that he cheated on me, even although I've taken him back again...
Q. I am a girl of 16 and have just found out my boyfriend cheated on me a week before christmas after a day of knowing the girl, my boyfriend has just turned 17 and shes 21. He textd me on christmas day dumping me then went away with her, but I didn't ...
A. 17 March 2007: Sweetheart, it sounds like you have enough to worry about without a guy that cannot even show a measure of loyalty to you.
I have given this advice to many others and I am going to give it to you now.
Every woman should be treated as a queen, a... (read in full...)
Should I text my ex to ask him how he is?
Q. Hi, This time last year I got together with my ex boyfriend. We split up last July, after quite a short relationship, but we had known each other for a year before that. When we split up in July, on my doing, I was very angry with him because ...
A. 17 March 2007: Just because you can't have a good one on one relationship with someone doesn't mean you cannot care about him.
That is just how friends are. To be a friend doesn't mean you need to be romantically involved. If that was the case my best friend migh... (read in full...)
I made out with him and he's been with his girlfriend for 4 years.
Q. Ok well I've been working with this guy for almost 3 years. We've become really good friends and talk about everything together. Everyone always thinks we're dating..but we're not. Now when I met him, he told me he had a girlfriend and that was ...
A. 17 March 2007: If he really cared about her or his relationship with her he certainly would not be looking to play with someone else.
With what little you have said about her it sounds like he is in a relationship that he isn't really happy with.
It matters ... (read in full...)
If I go to the doctor, will she keep this confidential?
Q. I'm 16 and I happened to get a cap stuck "up there" (vagina) and I want to go to the gynecologist to get it out, but i don't want my mom to know. If I go in alone, and ask her not to tell my mom. Is there a law that she has to follow to make it ...
A. 17 March 2007: How this might have happened I would not have a clue.
However, yes there is the law of doctor/patient confidentiality. Even law enforcemnt officers cannot come in and see your medical records or even ask about medical information on someone with... (read in full...)
Can you help give me some advice about sexual stuff?
Q. Hi everyone! I need some advice about sexual stuff! Basically im 18 and i lost my virginity to my boyfriend in april this year. He was alot more experienced than me. It really really really hurt the night i lost it! He couldnt get it in properly for ...
A. 16 March 2007: There could be many reasons for the difficulty. It does sound like a problem with dryness and the KY should help with that. Just so you know, KY puts out some pretty nifty products like personal lubricant that warms to the touch and different scents ... (read in full...)
He's going abroad to a stag do for 4 days, will he cheat on me? I'm sick to the stomach in case he does. Any guys viewpoint on this would be appreciated.
Q. I have a dilema... my bf recently announced hes going on a mates stag do, at first he said he didnt think he was gonna go and that it was for 2 days in germany and then next min he says hes going and its gonna be somewhere hot like slappers-ville in ...
A. 12 March 2007: Is he trustworthy? Has he ever cheated on you before? Why don't you try asking him?
I hate to say it but most men would only go to someplace like that for that kind of activity.
However, I have known guys that have gone to places like that just to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to want to know more and more about this girl and it's hurting me, should I tell him how I feel?
Q. okay my boyfriend is in the tennis team at his school. we dont go to the same school, so we only see each other a couple of times a week. sometimes just once a week. like just this very week we were supposed to see each other on friday, but he told ...
A. 12 March 2007: This can be such a painful time at your age. Guys seem to forget all sense of responsibility to one they are going with when they see someone else that tickles their fancy.
However, at this time in your life you are really too young to be look... (read in full...)
Should I take our daughter and leave my angry man with the short fuse?
Q. Please help! I am a my wits end. My fiance of 8 1/2 years seems so different now. He always seems to be angry and has a short fuse whenever our daughter or I make mistakes but he doesn't seem to be like that with his daughters who visit on weekends...
A. 10 March 2007: I used to have a short fuse and boy was I a powder keg. Even though I had warned my wife before we were married, she wanted a divorce the first time she saw me go off. (Though I had never touched her I got good at fixing walls.) When our son was ... (read in full...)
I don't care if he's the right guy, I want to have sex! Is this wrong?
Q. Hey the thing is, im 16 and ive been kissin n doin everyfink else wif this guy i know now for bout 6 months n wen wer together we get on really well but i know hes a player and when hes not with me he messes me about(not txtin bk n things) but im ...
A. 10 March 2007: If you do it you will regret it for the rest of your life. Your virginity is something that you can only give away once. I have spoken with many women and girls that regret not having waited for marriage to give up their virginity. On the other hand ... (read in full...)
I feel I owe it to her to tell her why her Dad abandoned her. SHould I or shouldn't I?
Q. Hi, I'll try to make this as short and painless as possible :) When I was 13, my stepfather (James) kissed me. He later apologized and said he was drunk, so I believed him. A few months later, he tried to have sex with me. That scared me, I tol...
A. 10 March 2007: Sugar, I agree with Jamitri on this. It was certainly not your fault. He knew what he was doing drunk or not. He deserved anything he got as a result of his indiscretions.
As for telling your stepsister, that is a tough one. If this is both... (read in full...)
We argue a lot and he doesnt seem to accept that my uni work is really important to me. What should I do?
Q. ok, i have a problem. Im totally in love with my boyfriend but i now live away from home (like an hour and a half drive). we were getting on really well but we keep arguing over nothing and he doesnt seem to accept that my uni work is really ...
A. 10 March 2007: Love will withstand the sands of time if only it is equal on both sides. When there is less love on one side as opposed to the other then there will be trouble.
That sounds to me like that is what is happening here. You love him loads but he mabe... (read in full...)
We date for awhile and then he ignores me! Is he interested ot should I just end this?
Q. I need help , I meet a guy a 3 months ago in a club he was a friend of a friend we had sex that night he took my number and called the next day there was lots of text messages phone calls etc and we meet for drinks a few days later and went back to ...
A. 10 March 2007: I hate to break it to you but I think he is just stringing you along because he likes you for the sex. When a guy tells you he likes you but he is not ready for a relationship it simply means that he wants the milk without owning the cow. I would ... (read in full...)
Any tips for me to help him cum?
Q. My boyfriend and have been together for a few months and he told me when we first started dating that a woman has never actually made him ejaculate...he says its different when he's on his own...but nothing a woman can do can send him over the ...
A. 9 March 2007: There are many things you could try but rather than trying to list them all here I have just supplied a website which should give you plenty of ideas. Hope it helps. Doc.
http://www.jackinworld.com/howto/ht3.html#anchor1910306... (read in full...)
Was he just trying to make me feel better say that he liked me?
Q. dear agony aunts, a few months ago i got with a guy i thought i really liked. a few of his bad habits annoyed me a lot. i felt smothered so in about a week i broke it off. the trouble had been i didnt know him well enough. i started dating another ...
A. 8 March 2007: At your age things can be so difficult. It is tough to know just which direction to go in.
I would say to just stay as close to him as you can for the moment and let things go the way they will. Eventually you will know his real intent and in the ... (read in full...)
Am I bleeding because of his intensive fingering or do I just have an irregular period?
Q. Okay this is not going to sound particularly nice, but I'm kinda worried.. Well i was fooling around with a guy the other night and he was fingering me but doing it really hard, I did tell him after a while but it was sore at the time Then the...
A. 7 March 2007: Pain or discomfort is usually due to some kind of injury. If he got too rough it is possible that he could have ruptured vessels in the vaginal wall. Also you don't say whether or not you are a virgin. If you are and this is the first time you have ... (read in full...)
It's hard to forgive him but I have to in order to move on with my life. What do I do?
Q. I texted my ex to give me a call back when he got the chance. He called me within 5 minutes. We conversated like nothing happened. I told him I still love him. I asked him if he still loves and have feelings for me. He said yes but for righ...
A. 7 March 2007: The reason it hurts so much is that you do love him but you hate the things he has done. That seems to compound the problem and make it weigh heavy on the emotions.
It would be good if you could forgive and forget. In other words forgive him but ... (read in full...)
I really like this girl so what can I do to get us together? Or to stay close?
Q. im 15 and this girl is great weve known each other for about 2 yrs now... last year in school we went out 3 times. this was my first time having a gf and well none of them worked out but between all the breakups and stuff we were still close an it ...
A. 7 March 2007: My advice to you is spend as much time as possible with her and don't focus on trying to get her to go out just yet. As time goes by you will grow to know each other better and better and then it will be a natural thing for her to want to go out ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my fiancee and can't get over my guilt.
Q. I cheated on my fiancee.. I cheated on my fiancee, the woman I love and have been with for four years, with a girl I didn't even know. I have no idea why I did it. I was at a party drinking heavily and met this girl who started flirting...
A. 5 March 2007: I can only imagine what you are going through.
The fact remains that you did something you knew you shouldn't and now you concience is gnawing at you.
Aparently you do have a concience, which most people nowadays lack.
The problem is that your... (read in full...)
I just want to have a good holiday with my family!!
Q. I'm going away with my family (2 elder sisters and my brother-in-law) for a few days. I'm excited but at the same time I am apprehensive because I haven't been spending time with them in the last year. The reasons are as the following: 1) Have b...
A. 5 March 2007: I have a younger brother who always has advice for me and will often give me his opinion on things or tell my 70 year old mother who in turn tells me about it.
If you can you may just need to learn to let it go in one ear and out the other. This... (read in full...)
For 3 years I have lied to him about my age and surname! Should I tell him the truth?
Q. can someone help me? Not only have i lied about my age, i lied about my name.. i'm so ashamed of this... so can someone please help me!? Well i met my boyfriend 3 years ago when i was 17 turning 18, he asked me how old i was and i told him that ...
A. 1 March 2007: If he cares anything about you, you should be able to explain this to him and he should be able to accept it without a problem. It isn't that big a deal now but if you let it go on it could get to be a bigger problem later. Doc.... (read in full...)
Should I confront my cheating girlfriend?
Q. I have been suspecting that my girl has been cheating but i didnt have proof. Two days ago I finally caught her with some guy, who was her ex boyfriend, leaving her apartment but she didnt see me. No wonder, the night before she did not pick up my ...
A. 1 March 2007: You can't carry on a relationship with someone that is cheating on you so yes confront her. But give her the chance to explain herself before deciding to give her the axe. Maybe, just maybe there is a valid explanation for what you saw. Hope it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been depressed for a while now and I don't know what else to do to help him?
Q. i dont know what ells to do! my boyfriend for the last year is going through a depressed point and is allways accusing me of hateing him and wanting to find someone ells to be with, i have done all i can to get past this object so far, i dont want ...
A. 27 February 2007: You may not have any recourse but to get him in to seek psychiatric help for him if it is indeed the depression that is causing the trouble. In a case like this it very well could be an imbalance in brain chemistry causing the problem. A ... (read in full...)
I can only orgasm with clitoral stimulation but what guy is going to sit there for ages doing that until I cum? I'm still a virgin!
Q. hi im a 16 yo virgin. im worried when i get round to having sex it will do nothing 4 me as when i pleasure myself in the place the penis would go it really doesnt feel all that good?! the only thing that gets me 2 orgasm is a lot of play on the ...
A. 24 February 2007: In most cases these problems work themselves out. However, there are the exceptions to the rule. In many cases all it takes is a little experimentation to find out what you have been missing out on.
I have supplied a website that hopefully will give... (read in full...)
Is it normal still to have feelings for your first love, even when you're married?
Q. I am 26 years old and have been married for 3 years. I love my husband very much and never want to be without him, but I am feeling very guilty and confused. I recently ran into my high school boyfriend/first love and found myself thinking about ...
A. 24 February 2007: It is not uncommon to have long lasting feelings for someone that you thought you experienced your first "true love" with but I am afraid I would have to agree with ask Eve on this subject. Don't put yourself in a situation where you can unlock ... (read in full...)
I want to put ON some weight! Anyone any suggestions?
Q. hi just after some advise on diets i don't want to lose weight i want to gain it im 18 run and out eat any fatty and have hovered around the same weight for about 2 years i am 6.2 foot and weigh 9.4 stone i just want to get up to about 10 maybe a ...
A. 24 February 2007: There are lots of body building suppliments you can get that will help put on weight. Perhaps you could try that since you need to bulk up to put on muscle. Those kinds of things are high calorie drinks and things like that and I know of several ... (read in full...)
Why did he make out with me then dump me? I feel so used!
Q. hey guys i got a question reguard that one question about josh thompson and me. Well here it is. I went to my school's dance on friday because it was a valentine's day dance and then Josh came so as you know I went out and greeted him and then we ...
A. 22 February 2007: Time to forget him. He wanted to be with the opposite sex for a bit but obviously didn't want to commit to a relationship and aparently had no other intention than to use you. Doc.... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my husband help for his allergies and panic attacks?
Q. My husband is having axiety attacks or something. Hes been breaking out in hives from head to to on and off for over 6 months. The doctor gave him some allegra and said he was alergic to something but we cant figure out what it could be. He ha...
A. 22 February 2007: If I were to take a guess I would say see a doctor to get medication for the anxiety first. Hives can be brought on by emotional stress and that may be where the problem is centered. It is not easy to diagnose a problem of this sort but since stress ... (read in full...)
My mother is making me choose between my BF and my family!
Q. My mother doesn't like my boyfriend and is making me choose between him and my family. I am 25 and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for 3 months and know that we have a future together. We love each other very much, but just because my ...
A. 19 February 2007: My father in-law didn't like me but my wife told him she was going to marry me anyway. We have been married for 27 years as of the 20th of next month.
Are you living in a land where your parents arrange your marriage mate or where you are allo... (read in full...)
I have an embarrassing question... is my penis normal?
Q. hi i have an embarrasing issue, recently i have been watching pornography and have seem that my penis is diffrent. the top of mine is like floopy skin but on the videos it is hard is this normal? ...
A. 18 February 2007: Fear not, I have answered several in the past on this subject but the quickest and easiest explanation is to have you check out the two websites I have supplied. They should answer everything.
And if you are uncircumcised count yourself among the ... (read in full...)
I get angry when my bf drops everything for his adult children and doesn't do the same for me! What can I do?
Q. i am dating an older man in his 60's. we have been dating 2years, 2 months. he is wonderful to me but he will not get engaged to me. however, if his two older children want him to do something or have a need, it only takes 1 minute for him to ...
A. 18 February 2007: I think you need to separate the offspring and your relationship with him.
His children may very well have always come first in his life but his relationship with you is a completely different entity.
You need to examine this situation a little c... (read in full...)
I see my bf just as a friend..should I break up with him?
Q. He obviously is in love me my bf. He is kind obsessed with me sometimes I feel. He is a flirt, and stuff and it doesnt bother me what so ever. I broke up with him after 2 month then after 3 got back together. When he hugs me and kisses e I am happy ...
A. 18 February 2007: At your age with all the emotions going in every direction it is not uncommon to have doubts about relationships.
You may go through another two or three or more b/f's before you find one that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
But, ... (read in full...)
So, girls--is anal sex pleasurable for the female? Is there a lot of pain?
Q. So, um, girls...is anal sex any fun? I am considering having anal sex with my boyfriend sometime in future, depending on whether or not he can get me drunk enough to do it. I'd like to know if the female experiences any pleasure - I've heard tha...
A. 18 February 2007: Ok, so I don't know how it feels first hand but from a doctor's point of view I just had to jump in here. The easiest way to give you the best amount of information on the subject is to have you check out the two websites I have supplied here.
T... (read in full...)
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