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writes:My mother doesn't like my boyfriend and is making me choose between him and my family. I am 25 and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for 3 months and know that we have a future together. We love each other very much, but just because my mother doesn't think he's the one for me, she's saying I have to break up with him or I will lose the love and support of my family...what should I do? I don't want to lose my family or my boyfriend! Reply to this Question
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reader, charlie174  +, writes (19 February 2007):
 Its quite a normal problem, my mother hated my ex while i was with him too and when we broke up i realised why. He had a lot of faults that i didn't see because i was so involved with him and so busy trying to prove my mother wronge. Think about it, is there something about him that you can't see at the present?
But if your sure he's the one for you then stick with it. talk to your family and try to make them understand. if they still don't then they're in the wronge, family should be there for you and support you nomatter what.
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (19 February 2007):
 My father in-law didn't like me but my wife told him she was going to marry me anyway. We have been married for 27 years as of the 20th of next month.
Are you living in a land where your parents arrange your marriage mate or where you are allowed to select your own.
If your family doesn't like him for whatever reason that is their problem not yours.
My daughter is going with someone we don't like but have all agreed that if she ultimately does end up marrying him we will have to deal with it. The choice is hers not ours. And any mistakes she makes is going to be hers to make although we have made it known to her that we are very concerned about her choices.
Hopefully you can sit down with your family and reason with them on the subject. If it is a mistake you are going to have to deal with it not them. Hope this helps. Doc.
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