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... Send *r. John a private message | | | *r. John's profile:I am a husband of 28 years with a 28 year old son and a 24 year old daughter. (And a pretty one at that.)
I live about 35 miles south of Tulsa, Oklahoma, USA.
Currently a mechanical engineer in a division of the company that makes Peterbuilt and Kenworth trucks and winches, but have recently earned my Phd. in Psychology.
Now all I have to do is pay off my tuition and I will have my diploma in my hot little hand.
I have lots of life experience as well and the desire to help all whom I can.
I am also have interests in physics, chemistry, genetics, astronomy and other areas of science. |
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My boyfriend has just "disappeared" after being with him for 6 months. Should I send him a birthday card?
Q. hello, my long distance boyfriend just disappeared after a 6 month relationship without giving me any explanations, and i knew he called his ex girlfriend.. his birthday is coming soon in few days, and im confused if i should send him a birthday ...
A. 13 October 2008: This could be a situation where anything could have happened.
The problem is that you are left hanging and not knowing what is going on one way or another.
I would say you should go ahead and send the card because, to me it seems that you are a ca... (read in full...)
Horrified that I kissed my good friend's husband, while I was drunk! I feel badly about this- am I obliged to tell her?
Q. I kissed my best friend's husband and I am feeling horrific On Friday night, my best friend, her husband and me got very drunk. We ended up skinnny dipping and when she went inside the house, her husband and I kissed. The problem is that I rememb...
A. 11 February 2007: I would not want to be in your shoes.
If nothing more than a kiss happened, in my opinion you need to examine your own self concience. This would be a terrible thing to lose a friend over, so you may need to examine all the angles.
What dam... (read in full...)
Could a relationship work if you have different beliefs on sex?
Q. I’m a guy who’s a 24 year old virgin. I intend on saving my virginity for the woman I love on our wedding night. But I’m curious to know if a relationship could work if we had different beliefs on sex? For example, like if she saw sex as not a big ...
A. 11 February 2007: I must say sir that I applaud you for your decision to remain chaste.
With things the way they are nowadays you are one in a million.
There are always a thousand concerns when scoping out a prospective marriage mate. However, in most cases th... (read in full...)
What excuse can I use to ask her out? I don't know HOW TO?
Q. how do i ask this girl to meet me? were 16. i really like this girl. we go different colleges so never see each other much. she asked me out on date to eat out. it went well and after she text me thanking me. now it's been 2weeks and we talk on msn ...
A. 11 February 2007: Too many times I have been told of guys who had wished they had asked this girl out or how they wished they had just taken the initiative and began talking to this girl.
Most of them end up beating themselves up over it later.
What is the w... (read in full...)
We're both kind of new to sex, any advice on how to do it properly?
Q. im a virgin, and my boyfriend and i just started having sex about 3wks ago, and i did orgasm for a little the first time but we have done it 3 times since then and i cant seem to do it. he isnt very big, not sure exactly but when its hard its about ...
A. 11 February 2007: I apologise, I told you I would supply links and completely forgot. Here they are.
http://mama.indstate.edu/users/nizrael/grafenberg.html
http://www.aboutmasturbation.com/Article14.phtml
These should give you an abundance of information... (read in full...)
I think I'm ready to lose my virginity but I'm scared...
Q. i think im ready to lose my virginity with my bf but im scared that it wont fit in beacuse i mite get stressed or something, is there anything i could do to help?...
A. 11 February 2007: Time and time again I hear women express their regrets at not having waited to have sex. Many have expressed regret at not having waited till they got married.
This is something you should first take a good hard look at. There is certainly noth... (read in full...)
I don't think my husband loves me anymore! He looks at porn and then lies to me about it, we are barely speaking. What shoul I do?
Q. I have been married for 3 years, however i feel my husband is not in love with me anymore, He hardly ever pays any attention to me and on the odd occasion he does want to have sex, i feel that that is all it is - that he just wants sex - not that ...
A. 11 February 2007: I am sorry to say pornography is a very powerful and devistating thing to have to deal with.
Don't count him short. He may well have intended to stop looking at it but it can have such a firm hold on someone that they would rather take the chan... (read in full...)
We're both kind of new to sex, any advice on how to do it properly?
Q. im a virgin, and my boyfriend and i just started having sex about 3wks ago, and i did orgasm for a little the first time but we have done it 3 times since then and i cant seem to do it. he isnt very big, not sure exactly but when its hard its about ...
A. 11 February 2007: Part of sex is the exploration of each others bodies. Take it slow and use gentle touches as you will discover that even just the nerve endings in the finger tips can be arousing with a slow "tickling" touch as your finger tips slowly brush over ... (read in full...)
My friend made an excuse that he couldn't meet me. Was he genuine or is he trying to let me down gently?
Q. About 4 weeks ago, my friend set me up on a blind date with a guy from her work who is 20 years old (i just turned 18). We went out on a 'date' as a group, with my friend, her bf, and another friend of ours and her bf too. It was kind of awkward ...
A. 11 February 2007: Could be that he has issues of his own as far as backing out of a relationship (for lack of a better word) and this is the only way he knows how to do it. However, don't give up before finding out if this is all legit. Maybe he really did have the... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as loving one another too much?
Q. Okay, this is probably going to sound like a ridiculous question but I just wanted to know what you think. Is loving somebody too much bad for a relationship? Me and my gorgeous guy are so in love it's unbelievable I know in myself th...
A. 10 February 2007: My dear, you are both in a heightened emotional state regarding each other so when there is a disagreement those heightened emotions carry over. You can never love someone too much in my opinion. Too many times we don't know just how much we love ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend never to look at attractive females, if he truly loved me he'd view me as the most beautiful woman around and look away if other attractive woman pass.
Q. My boyfriend told me that all men (and women) glance at other very attractive members of the opposite sex when they're alone. I don't believe him because my ex never looked at other females (he told me so.) Although I love him, I want a man that...
A. 10 February 2007: That will be a difficult thing for him. Maybe he buys a new car which he loves. That doesn't mean that he will never pass another car lot and look at all the newest cars. He doesn't necessarily have to act on what he sees. I have been happil... (read in full...)
I am going to be married but I have since found my boyfriend to be devious. Am I imagining it?
Q. Hi there, Am I wrong to have such uneasy feelings about the man who claims he wants to marry me. To make a long story short, we set a date, he told me to take care of all the arrangements, so I start to do so, even ordered my dress, there are...
A. 10 February 2007: Please! Please! Do not marry this guy until you are completely comfortable with him and the things he does. You should be able to trust him completly. If you cannot trust him now how will it be when he doesn't have to keep you impressed because ... (read in full...)
I am 13 and my girlfriend is a bit shy to go any further, what can I do?
Q. hi i am 13 and i think my girlfriend is a bit shy about doing anything physical she is ok with hugging and kissing at school discos but she wont go any further what can i do ??????...
A. 10 February 2007: Young fella, I am not going to tell you something you are going to like because experience has taught me a lot about this sort of thing and I didn't like the answers I found on my own. The interesting thing is that the answers I found, and will... (read in full...)
How can I help my mom? She keeps calling me crying all the time
Q. i dont know what to do. my dad has had 3 affairs.he has been begging mum to have him back for over a year now. she had him back just beafore christmas, then left again last week. she is totaly totally heartbroken AGAIN,, and keeps asking me why she ...
A. 10 February 2007: This is obviously a very distressing situation for you but one in which you may be able to do nothing about. It sounds like you have lots of loving concern for your mother and are undoubtedly frustrated with your father at the same time. The ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has just "disappeared" after being with him for 6 months. Should I send him a birthday card?
Q. hello, my long distance boyfriend just disappeared after a 6 month relationship without giving me any explanations, and i knew he called his ex girlfriend.. his birthday is coming soon in few days, and im confused if i should send him a birthday ...
A. 10 February 2007: I would not waste any further time on this trash. If he was a stand up guy and felt that your relationship with him would not work any further he should unconditionally let you know the 5Ws. (Who, What, When, Where, and Why) You sound like a... (read in full...)
What should I do about my ex-best friend?
Q. What should I do about my ex-bestfriend? I had a best friend for the last 12 years, we met at high school and have remained best friends since. She was even one of my three bridesmaids. She recently tried to ruin my wedding in various ways. Sh...
A. 10 February 2007: What about having a mature one on one discussion with her? The results could be eye opening and even cause a breakthrough for the two of you. Many times a person may be hurt by something you did which in fact you never realized you did. In turn ... (read in full...)
Friendship loyalties and trouble among friends!
Q. Me and this guy...We fancied each other for ages, about three months, but never went out. Suddenly he went out with one of my best friends. It's causing secrecy and lies in our friendship group, her and another friend feel they have to go off in ...
A. 10 February 2007: Sweetheart,
things like this hurt, and sometimes hurt badly. And it may seem like this situation will never improve. Let me assure you it will.
In my own experience I was hurt in a similar way and even though the injury has healed the scars ar... (read in full...)
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