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writes:I have a dilema... my bf recently announced hes going on a mates stag do, at first he said he didnt think he was gonna go and that it was for 2 days in germany and then next min he says hes going and its gonna be somewhere hot like slappers-ville in spain and its for 4 days!!! will he cheat on me?? cos i recently asked a couple of my best male friends who said he definately would, thats why men go and because he knows there is no way i could find out about it, the thought of it is making me sick to the stomach and i might just pack up and leave him whilst hes gone to save me getting heartbroken..... any male views on stag-dos very greatly appreciated....... x x x x
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reader, Bella55  +, writes (12 March 2007):
I dont think that he is necessarily going there to cheat on you. A lot of guys CAN stay faithful to women. I beleve you get two type of guys. You get the faithful type, that you can trust on an island for days with another women, the guys that believe cheating is just wrong. Then you get the cheating type, the man that hasnt grown up and likes to play the game, you can try to tame this guy but whats the chances?? You should know what kind of man yours is.
Out of all the men I have been with, They have all been the cheating type, except for the one I have now. And I can see the difference in quality theses men have.
Before he goes you have to express your insecurities to him, let him know that you are worried about his intentions, and that it makes you feel sick in the stomach if you imagine him cheating on you. Just be honest, it doesnt show weakness, it shows the strength of your feelings for him.
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (12 March 2007):
 Is he trustworthy? Has he ever cheated on you before? Why don't you try asking him?
I hate to say it but most men would only go to someplace like that for that kind of activity.
However, I have known guys that have gone to places like that just to be with friends. My dad used to go to topless bars and never even give the girls a glance (I got that from reliable sources) when he and my mom were newly married. He would go with friends because that was where they wanted to go and he would drink because he liked to drink. He gave up drinking about 1968 except for an occasional beer, and my mom and dad were happily married until he died in 2002.
So, talk to him about it, tell him how you feel about it and if ultimately he still goes ask him some pointed questions about it when he gets back and watch his reaction. If he gives you reason to doubt, well, then you may have some other decisions to make.
I hope for your sake his intentions are honorable ones but if I were him I wouldn't go because of the situation it would place me in. Hope it all turs out well. Doc.
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